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unhappy tummy today.... whole grain toast/butter... farm fresh eggs, soft-boiled with butter, salt and cracked pepper.....

bad/no birth control between cousins might also ;)

and King Kong <grin>

raucous, rampant *rrrrawring* reprieves... restful reeling.. relaxation ;)

perrrrving lyla, addressing emails.. mentally making sure I have my proverrrrbial sh1t together for my trip <grin> working on changes to the den ;)

I am truly.sorry you had an experience.that has left you this distraught. You are most certainly correct in that it is the submissive in the scenario that holds the *actual* power, and that is a position that deserves the utmost respect and attention at all times. I have seen a few people in my time (both as a sub and as a domme), who consider themselves 'dominant...but their actions/attitude shows they don't understand the difference between being dominant and being an @sshole ;) Unfortunately they run rampant :( I had mentioned in a previous thread I believe, that I have a wonderful reputation in my cities kink community...and as much as I enjoy that, it mystified me that nobody else (or very few anyway) look at a D/s scenario the way I do. I've been asked.to speak at an engagement on my ideals...haha which again, I find funny...but I digress.... Whether or not a person is paying for an experience, and it is one where safe words...do's/don't things. ...dis/likes have been laid out...there is *absolutely* no excuse.for not abiding by those guidelines.....and whoever the individual is who did this to you, purrrhaps should.look up the definition of both dominant....and...regrettably, @sshole. ;) Nobody should be made.to feel insecure/uncomfortable about anything they seek s3xually/sensually and I find it deplorable that despite *several* attempts at clarifying from you, they not only kept.your money but continued with this behavior! I had put a bit of a writing piece up on a site I'm a member on and I think it gives an amazing 'explanation' of how *i* look at this sort of relationship: A person buys a puppy, mostly because it's cute and the person wants something to play with; ) The *instant* they take that puppy home...they become 100% responsible for every...single...thing that puppy needs...fresh water, food, clean dishes, toys, blankies, chew toys. ...*all of which are immediate needs....with noooo expectation of anything in return.. The personal also needs to learn how the puppy likes to be touched, stroked, scratched....*where* it likes/doesn't. ...what time it sleeps...when it likes to play...as well as a whole host of other things. .. And these things. ..every one of them....are done *well before* the 'master' can make any demands/expectations on the puppy. But....because the 'master' has gone to such extents...to learn about their pup...to make it soooo happy that...in turn, it *wants* to be the best puppy for its master...and responds well to the 'masters' needs/training ;) ....and it is never the dog that picks up...or puts up...with the 'masters' shit ;) I truly hope you find a proper person to show you the bliss that is to be found at either end.of this sort.of thing :)

Harem - Belly dance - Darbuka ;)

...being so physically tired, and no matter what I tried... was not able to sleep... at all... aaaaall night! <grrrrrr!> makes for a tired kitty the next day.... (purrrhaps someone should come and help keep me focused on my day) ;)

whole-heartedly agree... definitely fun/interesting to hear of fond memories.. but firmly believe their current whereabouts/job/perrrsonal lives should not enter into the conversation... they retire for a number of reasons.... and should be 'left in peace' so to speak ;)

enjoyed super spicy hawt jumbo prawns seared to purrrrfection (done in thai chillies, louisanna hawt sauce.. cilantro) with pasta/butter.. glass of white for a change ;)

..that's already happened <smirk>.. lookit the zombies everywhere ;)

- perrrrusing lyla - addressing emails/requests <grin> - uploading photos to a 'rare and lovely' album near you ;) - trying to wind down enough to sleep *hard to do after the rush of being continually tied for a few hours <grin>

having an amaaaaazing time at a rope workshop.. getting totally tied/wrapped up (for a change hehe (normally *I* am doing most of the typing) but coming down off that lovely *high*.. and shoulder where I am cut is stiiiinging... :( didn't even notice during the workshop...('sub-space' is a purrrrrfectly lovely place to be in hehe).... completely noooot cool.... :(

munchies/drinks for at shibari workshop ;)

didn't get the chance to pick up ingredients previously mentioned, so.. hehe that'll be tomorrrows purrrrchase ;) of course, alongside my staple... coffee at stellas ;)

- learned some new ties/binds at a shibari workshop... woo-hoo! (pics being moderated) - learned how to tie/wrap a corset (double woo-hoo! hehe) - spent a wonderfully fun, informative few hours with some awesome people/willing guinea pigs who let me tie them ;) - and *I* got tied up... wrapped up... twisted and contorted up six ways from sunday!!! *rawrrrr!*

En route to another Shibari workshop....this time *I* get to be the one tied up! ;)

perrrrhaps, while engaging in fun activities like...

ingredients for dishes I am to make for my trip to whiteshell and more shisha (in case I decide to bring my new pipe with me ;)

hookah pipe, blackberry shisha... fruit/cheese, wine for a relaxing night ;)

being a non-tech-savvy cat...<grin> I am still trying to figure out twitter.. but feel free to add me @CCCcherishme CCCcougar ;)

my landlady knows I see clients in my apartment.. and has advised me that although she doesn't care... that if another tenant in the building had issue.. and reported it to the management company.. then I would.. in short.. be out on my @ss and she herself *may* get flack for not reporting me (if management figured out she knew ahead of the complaint) I am ridiculously discrete though.. especially about the prrrrivate den.... for mostly that reason... and if you were a licensed independent 'agency'... does that mean you would have others working for you? *that* would draw attention I would think...

Here's one I learned a long time ago, while doing research for a paper... friggatriskaidekaphobia ...a fear (no kidding here folks, it's a real one).. of Friday the 13th! ;)

Some purrrfectly lovely additions/changes to the website... prrrrivate den activity and lists coming in the next few days! *with seasonal donation changes alongside them.... Lock in your preferrrred experience with me now to avoid some of those changes gents ;) Prrrrivate message, email ([email protected]) or visit the site to book cccden.weebly.com Definitely looking forward to getting my claws into you again soon! ;) incalls preferrrred.. but can be convinced to visit you on your territory <grin>