Wolf Knight

It's 5:45am I get out of the shower, dry off and return to the bedroom to pass a grumbling wife who slams the bathroom door. It's now 5:46 and I notice a red envelope on my pillow. It appears I missed the boat this morning and wasn't a quick enough draw with the customary, "Happy Valentines". Fuck that! Next year I'm going to wake her from her sleep at 12:01 and say it.

Lol.....no prob on the hijack.....I love to laugh. cheers

Again, great insight from different perspectives. As I anticipated there's lots of different views and positions on this and I'm glad I put it out there for discussion. Although there can be mutual positives from this scenario, the last thing I would want is to be thought of as haggling. Definitely need to tread softly around this one. Thanks everyone.

Good luck, man. I know the cash does flow in Yellowknife, too bad there's not more action.

Lol.....I give him a scrub then he likes to splash around for a while. I have some time to kill while I wait;)

Giving my 3 year old his bath.

Thanks everyone for your contribution to the thread. Although this is something that I personally have a vested interest in I think that it's also something that has crossed the minds of other on occasion so the sharing of opinions is important. As harsh as it may seem an aspect that many of us clients prefer to forget is that at its essence we are engaged in a "business" relationship with "professional" companion. As a business relationship this type of thing should be quite simple to sort out, however as we all know when sex and intimacy enter into the equation, emotion also becomes a factor and the waters get muddied. To make this arrangement a "mutually beneficial" one, both sides would need to receive "benefit". The lady receives the convenience and peace of mind of knowing that a portion of her income for the month is guaranteed by a good client. To make the arrangement beneficial to the client obviously he would have to also receive something beyond the normal arrangements for everyone else. As Frank7 pointed out many (not all) companions do offer a reduced hourly rate as the number of hours of an appointment increase so the concept that more "guaranteed" paid hours has a strong value for a companion is not a foreign one. Definitely, provides some interesting thoughts. Again thanks for the contributions.

"Grooming" as in proper cleanliness and hygiene is an absolute must IMO. So a shower/bath before a session is a must. Not just smell fresh and clean, be fresh and clean. Grooming will also encompass just being well put together in whatever "outfit" the lady chooses. This means, (please excuse my crudeness) not meeting me with a wet spot on you outfit from where you just washed the cum off it from the last guy to visit you (this actually happened and the lady was upfront about why the wet spot was there, points for honesty I suppose). For some grooming will also entail "touching up" your hairstyle down below to avoid excessive stubble. A point of note, as I'm a lover of a furry kitty this doesn't apply to me :)

Finally getting a message from your regular and finding out that that the reason she's been MIA is because she broke her Coccyx in a fall. Poor lady!

I'm looking for some genuine opinions from gents and ladies as to the best way to approach and ask a lady if she'd be willing to to agree to a "retainer". So we all know that negotiating rates is VERY bad. However, I have a bit of a quandary. I don't want to be seen as negotiating or haggling but I've been thinking that perhaps I might want to approach a lady about placing her on a retainer. I've met her many times, I like her, I trust her, and I want to continue seeing her for the foreseeable future on a regular basis. So here's where my thoughts are; In essence it would be that I would pay the lady upfront at the beginning of the month a predetermined fixed amount representing compensation for one date per week (four dates per month) at a pre-scheduled date and time. (It's easier for me to schedule my life rather than just fly by the seat of my pants, the rest of my life is scheduled a month in advance plus I always like to play from 12 to 2 in the day). Because I am willing to pay upfront for all dates for the month I'm thinking that it would be nice if I could receive some additional benefit like receiving 1.5 hours for the same rate as 1 hour. Now as you can see in this scenario lies the risk that I might be seen as trying to negotiate rather than develop a mutually beneficial arrangement. I'd like to explore this, but if the risk is that the lady takes offense to this proposition and blacklists me I don't want to bring it up. So I'd appreciate some honest opinions from those who might have some experience in this area and if your honest opinion is that I'm "out to lunch" then I want to hear that too. Bottom line I don't want to mess up a good thing, just maybe make it better. Thanks

West jet Skis or snowboard Fyi....this post was just made to push me to the 500 mark...lol

See this is the beautiful part about board participation. By Miss Davis sharing a little tid bit about her life I personally find her more endearing and "real". Because being able to connect with a lady on a level beyond the physical is important to me I now realize that if Miss Davis and I were to meet we'd be able to "connect" over baby stories. So without realizing it Miss Davis just gained a potential client when I'm in her neck of the woods again.

Not being able to get in touch with your regular for two weeks.

We all have those weeks every now and then. I had one the week before last. Hey if you ever want to grab a beer and lick our wounds feel free to message me.

Plain old grey boxers. Not playing today so I can keep my "nice" ones for another day.

Do your research is the best I can tell you. Adequate research usually addresses that issue most of the time. If she's blatantly misrepresented herself as in a B&S scenario then it would be appropriate to (in a very polite way) inform her that based on her pics and ad she appears to have misrepresented herself and you won't be proceeding with the date then leave. However, if she's a legitimate provider and never actually pulled a B&S (she did use her own pics) and you just decided that she's not what you wanted when you arrived the gentlemanly thing to do is, be as tactful as you can and advise her that you won't be able to go through with the date ( for whatever reason including being too nervous). There maybe those that will disagree with me but you booked an hour of her time and never gave her any notice or ability to schedule another client for that time so you offer to pay her the full donation. Chalk it up to a learning experience and do better research next time. Now for me personally? It has happened and I've decided, "ok I can pay her the donation and leave with nothing or I can pay her the donation and give her the opportunity to change my impression of her". Some occasions I have been blown away and even done a repeat. That's my thoughts.

Hey, it makes sense to me. I want to meet ladies to play with (actually, I want to meet specific ladies to play with) best case scenario I want for them to want to meet with me too for reasons beyond my $. If I post and contribute true to my personality then maybe that might just happen. Good chemistry makes for great encounters so for me its a no brainer. Just as an example, I personally enjoy Cristy's contributions to cerb and thought personality wise I'd like to spend some time with her. So when I was headed to Hali I messaged her for a date. She knew me from cerb and I assume felt more comfortable meeting me (she accepted the date request). As it happens personality wise we did enjoy each other and got so engrossed in chatting that we "almost" let the whole date pass with just chatting without even realizing it. It was great companionship beyond the physical, that's what I look for in a lady. Notice I said we "almost" let the date pass, the physical was great too! Yummy!

Always perfect hindsight

A lunch date with VJ.

Just cleaning up my office and killing time on cerb waiting for the day to end. After working 160 hours in the past 2 weeks I'm starting to feel a little burnt.

Yeah, it's more of an issue outside of cerb and you're right there is a general acceptance that what you see is likely fake. My personal experience has been that photos used on cerb by Asian ladies were in fact the ladies when the door was opened, albeit the pics were photo shopped quite a bit . Outside of cerb I've booked with the expectation of a B&S and discovered that my expectations were right. Not to condone this but I think that they get a little more leeway dfrom guys as you mentioned because it's somewhat of a niche area. If a guy has a particular attraction to Asian ladies and supply is limited then he might find himself in a "take what you can get" type of position. Outside of certain urban centers with larger Asian populations "take what you can get" is certainly an issue for guys that find their tastes drawn to the Asian variety.

Cleaning up (lol) after some awesome cam fun with a hot lady.

Well usually what is defined as cheating is determined by the person who is being cheated on. Different people have different levels of what they'll accept. In this case, it's probably not as much "cheating" (because you're not in a defined relationship) it's more an issue of loyalty that's being presented. Even in these paid scenarios that we engage in there are legitimate bonds that do develop between providers and clients. It happens. When the client decides for whatever reason to enjoy the company of another provider sometimes human emotion enters into the NSA realm and a provider can be left with the feeling of being jilted. She invested a lot of time and energy into developing a good or even great rapport with you only to see you see others. (She might be a professional but she's human and feelings do impact even pro's) It might be callous, but at it's essence this is a business and as but one of her many paying clients you do have the right to explore elsewhere just as she has the right to see other clients. So....no cheating.

Lol........If you're at your office then perhaps the flu has taken a lot out of you.

I discovered that I can get turned on just by looking at nice eyes and eyebrows pictures. I don't know if it's a fetish or not but I find it interesting. That's all