BossMan44

And Bridgette!

You definitely should... she's quite something.

For MAs, Daisy at Angel's Touch and Rose and Tessa at Brass are all natural redheads. Hope at Brass has nice auburn hair as well. We're really quite blessed by so many great redheads.

April is half Asian. That's the only one I think right now. (Unless your definition of Asian extends to India.)

This situation is awful; I'm sorry you're having to go through this. You're going to need to talk to a lawyer about the house to sort it out. Provided that he didn't contribute any funds to the mortgage, regardless of what is on title there are ways to ensure that he has no claim to the house. But you're going to have to get independent legal advice. A lawyer should be able to write him a letter to help scare him off about the blackmail threats as well.

Brass is definitely a good place, but OP appears to be looking for something that is not offered at Brass (judging from his comment in post #3). Going there looking for this is likely to both disappoint and make the ladies feel uncomfortable.

I had no idea that back-to-back bookings wasn't a somewhat normal thing at the higher volume spas... I've never complained about being led out 5-10 min early, but it sounds like this may definitely affect some people's likelihood of repeating. One related thing that I don't like though is being told to shower alone at the beginning of a session because the woman just came out of a shower with someone else. I enjoy showering together!

I guess part of the question is what is considered a 1 hour appointment, for example? Some women try to structure the session so that you're out the door at the 50 minute mark, which is understandable I guess because they want some time to be ready for the next person. Is that the standard, or is the standard that 60 minutes is supposed to be 60 minutes? If the standard is closer to 50 minutes, then I can see it kind of sliding to 45 minutes in some cases. 40 minutes seems very low though.

That is too tempting, thanks! I may treat myself when my birthday rolls around :)

That is one of my fantasies (to be on the receiving end of, anyway). I'd love to book an MA's whole shift one night and then just be teased slowly for hours until I just can't bear it. At the end we'd break open a bottle of wine and order in food and just relax until her shift was really over.

It's not illegal to possess and use poppers in Canada. You just can't sell them ever since Health Canada cracked down on them a couple of years ago. There are a bunch of online stores overseas that ship to Canada (though it's probably illegal to import them, I doubt it's a big law enforcement priority). There are usually people who sell them on Craigslist too.

It's a small thing (and quite a bit less substantial than some of the other comments above), but I just wanted to say how important it is to be given a hug at the end of a session. Even if just light and distant. It just feels like an acknowledgment of you as a person (rather than a wallet or a piece of meat). It can feel a little crushing not to get that. I'd rather have no HE and a hug or other gentle act of kindness than the opposite.

You're making me want to take a therapeutic massage class, Someguy. Wish I had those same skills... I am very much a giver too and do like to offer a massage in return, but I'm afraid I'm nowhere even remotely that good. (That being said, it's probably worth saying that it takes a certain amount of trust to let oneself be massaged, and some women may not be comfortable in a first session.)

Thanks for taking the time to do this and post your results. This is really interesting and I was under the impression that polyurethane was more safe with oil than it appears to be. That being said, I would caution against anyone generalizing to different types of oils, because the size of the hydrocarbons may make a big difference. A common demonstration at university health presentations is to b1ow up a latex condom and then rub mineral oil on it with your fingertips... tends to cause breakage very quickly. Coconut oil may be more gentle. One experiment I might suggest is adding a defined amount of water to each one to create a consistent internal pressure, tying them off, and then applying vigorous rubbing with oil and measuring time until breakage. I know you mentioned that you gave up on a friction test, but unless I'm missing something (I may have just missed it) you didn't mention exactly how the friction test was being done.

Some of us have spouses that are okay with what we're doing (for me, massage-wise anyway, provided certain limits aren't crossed), provided we let them know in advance. It's probably hard for you to understand this kind of thing at 23, unless you're on the kinkier side, but in some ways it's helpful to the overall relationship. And sometimes we do couples' massage together. I will say this though, if you're not honest with what you're doing, the likelihood that something will go wrong and she'll find out is almost a certitude in the long run. It can get addictive and there are too many things to cover up, bank withdrawls, massage oil residue/smells, missed phone calls, unexplained absences, and the risk of certain STIs even if you're playing safe or intend to play safe.

In any service-oriented business, reviews/referrals do make a major difference. I really love seeing ladies who I've had a great time with getting positive reviews from others. They pour so much physical generosity into their work that it deserves to be recognized and shared with others. And although every interaction is subjective and personal, there really is such a variation between experiences on offer, ranging from the uncomfortable and unfortunate to the mechanical to experiences that leave you with a glow for days afterwards that it's worth sharing those blissful experiences so that others may experience them too.

I caught the tail end of the concert last night on the radio while watching the fireworks in Ottawa. I agree -- it was pretty magical all the way through. The standout for me was the second encore... that sequence of "Nautical Disaster", "Scared", and "Grace, Too" had me absolutely rapt. I do feel that the overt politics near the end kind of undermined the eloquence of the performance though. Whatever you feel about Gord's political endorsements, music and especially one's last concert should be about getting lost in the music. Bruce Springsteen does it right; when he has a message he embeds it in a song, like this intense performance:

It is just so nice to decompress with a warm shower with an MA after a session, when your head is still spinning and you're trying to process everything that just happened. But it isn't necessary... the smaller spa that got me into this doesn't even have showers I don't think, and it's not something that makes or breaks my personal connection with the MA for the most part.

I recently spent a delightful and intense 30 min massage/60 min nuru combo session with Tessa, and I definitely agree with the previous reviews. Tessa comes across as classy, intelligent, and sweet, like a young woman you'd meet at a sophisticated cocktail party, but once those clothes come off and you're admiring her beautiful classic redhead body, you discover she also has an oh so naughty side. Everyone seems to have a different understanding about what "girlfriend experience" means, especially in the massage context, but I can honestly say that there were certain times in the session with Tessa where I almost forgot that I was in a session at a club, which is pretty much the crux of "girlfriend experience" for me. It was also very, very interactive, and she was good at responding to what felt good for me. Tessa is new to the scene, so her therapeutic massage skills maybe stand to develop a little more, but she is definitely a natural to sensual massage. Would definitely recommend spending time with her.

I think it's just a sign of the culture of the younger generation these days. In Toronto there are places where you can't walk a couple blocks without encountering a dispensary. And heck the Prime Minister admits to using, so I'm not going to judge on that basis. I wouldn't go for it, but a few puffs before a session probably would make the sensations that much more intense.

Being in a time-oriented sales profession myself, I understand the frustrations around cancellations. But also sometimes life happens and I will always try to make it up to the provider with a larger tip next time if I do have to cancel at the last minute. Last night I had to cancel 30 min before a session because my flight from Toronto to Ottawa was delayed nearly 3 hours (we were on the ground and the pilot kept saying we'll be at the gate in 10 min... we'll be at the gate in 15 min... -- seriously, I could have driven up from Toronto in almost the same amount of time), so frustrating.

I've never been to CMJ, but Brass has a little bar area with stools where you can chat with the girls when they're not working, and they have both a liquor license and a food license (sandwiches, charcuterie). Some of the girls (Stacy ;) ) really appreciate it if you buy them drinks. The only issue is that they also try to structure things so that clients never encounter or view each other for privacy reasons, so if someone is in the bar area I think they try to steer other clients away from the bar area. If you want to chat with the girls I'd try to go during a time when they're not busy.

If you're into toes, Rose at Brass has the cutest, petite toes, like little exotic berries. (That probably sounds like a strange description, but you get the idea... petite, dainty, and soft.)

A lot of times the girl will ask whether you've been to any other spas as part of a bit of icebreaking conversation. If not, you'll find it easy to mention that it's your first time... the girls at the spas are all very friendly and easy to talk to. And if you're ever unsure of anything you'd like to do (if you're unsure about if something's within a girl's comfort zone/boundaries or not), just ask. Don't be shy -- you're both there to have a good time with each other, and as long as you're respectful, life will be good. I think you'll find it's actually much more of a comfortable environment than you'd expect.

I think you can tell from the girls' Twitter feeds too that they're definitely having fun together. If it's your first time and you can swing it, I'd try the 90 minute massage/nuru mixer. That might well b1ow your mind into a million pieces. :)