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Look, I made sure I broke the cycle of abuse women in my family have suffered by choosing to either be alone or with men that respected me. So when my business partner became abusive, like this person, it did not register at first. Manipulation is progressive. You must not blame yourself for believing his no strings attached help claims. They get us when we are in need. It took me twice to let go because I had been working on our B&B 15/h a day for 30 months while he was touring some clients or busy trying to look like he was doing something. He isolated me from my friends creating friction with my best friend hubby so they would not come to the Villa. I would not be able to build relationship outside of my business (jailed in a resort villa!) so at one point I caved and had sex with him. I felt grossed and cried afterward. I did not like driving in the heat in the city; he took that as an opening to chauffeur me around up to a point that I could not go anywhere without him forcing himself to drive me. There are countless little things that became a way to control me. I did not want to loose my "baby". But one day, psychologically burnt down I crashed on my bed crying and realized I was like an abused woman staying because of the kids. The business was not as important as me. I sold my share for a tenth it was worth and used the money to buy debts i was liable to. My mom paid a flight ticket. I had moved my belonging but could not afford bringing them back. I lost everything, and a little of myself as it took a decade to find the serenity and peace I had before that person imposed himself in my life. My point is: you owe him nothing. He took all he could. He forced himself on you. Verbal agreements are enforceable. You mentionned that he was well thought off in his social circles. You may be hesitating to tarnish his reputation. Understand that HE tarnished his reputation by being a jerk. He did not help you. All these years he helped himself. He is apealing to your loyalty and the fact that you don't want to betray your word and promise to him. He counts on that. He knows that. and he plays that card. You need to find yourself a counselor. Recuperating from the last 4 years of your life requires a lot of strenght and you have done really well by you and by your children. However, he has damaged your self worth and self confidence. By making increasing demands, waiting until you adjust to them and then asking for more, alway on the same promise you made, he has undermined your boundaries and confused your notion of what was fair. Think back. If you look at the scenario that occured. If you were back at day one and someone told you this is going to be what it will take: would you have made that choice? Most probably not. The fact that you are doubting yourself to want him out "after all he's done for you" is the best indicator how deep he got into your inner references. You need to get them back, unnumbed. And you do not want to teach your kids that its ok to let someone abuse us after they have done something good for us. As I said. He never did it for you. He needed you more than you did. And he is unable to have mature relationships therefore he chooses to manipulate and control. Lawyer, counselor, and police. Remember you are not doing anything to him: he did this to himself by behaving shamefully. Why should you spare him the shame; especially suffering while he has his way? I'm not saying to go put dirt on him but set the boundaries. And frankly "abandon" him. He is not a friend he is a leech.

First a big cyber hug! Then I second taking a lawyer, preferably a hobby positive one. I wonder if someone here would be able to recommand one. And, that goes without saying, pay the lawyer by check from a bank account. Keep hobbying, that "friend" is trying to isolate you and reduce your means to keep you dependant. How long have you been in the house. Prepare your bank statements proving that you paid the mortgage and taxes. In which name the title of the property is. I'm sure he would not like to have extortion accusation on him... Be safe. xox

Yes! I relate to all of them! Coconuts reminds of sunblock and sunblock reminds of a lot of pleasant sexy sights ;-)

Maybe if you looked for women you'd revised that opinion;-p

Are there things that you find sexy without apparent reason? A sound, an object? I'm not talking about the common fetishes out there and it does not have to be something that gets you aroused or else. More just little almost undiscernable things that just feel sexy and pleasant throughout the normal unravelling of a day. I'll get started: The sound of packing tape pulled from its wheel! Sliding between fresh clean linen sheets..

To join the challenge. If you are looking to improve your health and get rid of some weight and have fun along the way!

That's the most problematic I think but now that I think about it, I might just go and subscribed to all of them so at least i'd get a daily email letting me know which were updated...

Gosh I love feet jewelry! Anklets, rings, etc. I have to go get a pedi now!

For me, when I put 18:00 to 22:00, I expect the last apt to finish at or about 22:00. So yest, 20:30 would be the latest I would start a session. However, in some circumstances, I may be able to accomodate: ask away is the best policy. Note: No phone calls or text messages past 21:00 or before 6:00 am! I am very low volume provider, by choice. So I can be a bit more flexible with people being a tad late. However, I dislike when people arrive 10 or more minutes before. I have my prep routine and I simply do not want to be rushed. For everyone's enjoyment must I say! The very fact that you read it through speaks millions :-) I still do not get that using soap, grooming and trimming are things we need to repeat. But we do. Some people don't care about milage I guess.

Sociopath as well! And a narcissist ahol

I do not know if this project will affect negatively my business... we all know no one is perfect but seeing the blunt truth isn't something everyone can stomach. Especially in a business that runs on Fantasy, dream, aestethic... I am still taking the step forward. There is only so much time in a day and if I spend time here, I do not have time to develop rich and supporting connections elsewhere. So I rather make this place home and find a group of people who share the same goal: getting back into shape (fit and weight). As a MA, I get away with it because I still have a cute face, a refreshing personality, I am kind and my hands and technique are magic. However, I care about my health and yes, I miss being able to jump in a luv's arms for a passionate crazy fun. I will create a new private social group for this purpose. Just pm me to be added. Those who want to participate, there will be support conversations, weekly weight in, a mid race winner for Christmas and the ultimate looser will be declared winner for Valentine's day. The starting weigh in will be Sunday October 23 but register before as there will be information shared, accounting partners matches, etc. Who can participate: Gents and ladies that want to get rid of at least 20lbs. Pitch in: 100$ at time of initial weigh in. We will discuss in the group how we will put this money in safe keeping until the time to reward the winners. Additional Comments: https://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/group.php?groupid=218

Awsome, you just gave me an idea! Organic chicken roasted and red and white baby potatoes cooked in gravy with fresh sage and tarragon from my planter :-)

Happy birthday

I like things to be progressive so my preference is to help a gent scrub off the oil at the end rather than starting with a shower for two. The only reason why I would forfeit my preference for mystery and progression would be to insure that the gent is really squeaky clean. But then, i'm no one's mother so if people don't bother scrubbing nuggets off the curlies and the creases, they should not be frustrated if they get low milage for their buck. JS

I have a lot of catching up to do on a Database solution I'm creating. I hope a gent will rescue me from too much brain work at some point and we can have fun, much needed! I read that long fun is good for conceptual work and quick bursts of fun for detail work. Or was it the other way around? Gotta check but any fun is good in my book :-)

Seems to me that they owe you time. I can understand wanting to finish at the set time as to not throw the entire day off however, the lady should ask if it is ok and adjust donation or promise to give that time back at another appointment (and honour that). Usually if you are late you loose that time. But what you are describing is them overbooking clients back to back and taking the 15-30 min buffer needed to reset the room (and the lady!) off of your appointment. Not good. And exhausting for the MAs...

Time to make this dream come true! If you bring the wine (must be organic) I will take care of the foodies!