TorontoMelanieJolliet

lol The next time someone says that to me I think I'm going to ask do they think he will want to join in? Then I will say No, you're not his type. LOL

I have stayed at hotels where there was no 'do not disturb' sign available to me. And at another, even with the 'do not disturb' sign hanging on the door have had housekeeping bang on door, saying 'i know it says do not disturb but did you need any service'. lol At another place someone stole my 'do not disturb' sign. Sigh. So yes there is no guarantee that housekeeping can be timed properly with an appt. No matter how hard you try, stuff still happens!

I second this! I have to hear the person I am talking to. There are many good reasons for that. I don't accept clients who call from apps either. Too anonymous. Emails, same thing, I have no idea who they are, or if they are even in the same country as me. No matter what, I must hear a voice before I will see someone and I need to see a legit number. Payphones also are unacceptable. Landlines, same thing. I will give the last minute information on arrival so without a cell, the process cannot be completed. This is my screening process. This one I find to work for me. There are others who are comfortable with different methods. I make no apologies when I cannot accommodate someone without a cell (or who call under Private Caller, as seeing a number is another requirement). So finding someone who is content to see you with your limitations is the best way to go. Additional Comments: I have to disagree with this. PM and email allow people to remain anonymous. If you are not familiar with the alias' on a board, that doesn't make you an illegitimate companion. And 'true professionals' have had time to hone their methods and learn the ins and outs. Everybody has to start somewhere. Also efficiency doesn't trump safety. I couldn't imagine booking and seeing someone for the first time when I have only communicated with them through email or PM. I would still have to talk to them. I have learned my instincts are to be trusted. And I will not nix the phone call in order to be perceived as 'legitimate' just because there are many ways to communicate available. All that is fine if you are selling car parts, or organizing meetings with catering, but I am dealing with a very personal aspect of interpersonal relationships. One where I get to see what a lot of people don't. Not their mothers, co-workers, neighbours etc. So I think that my choice of communication should be respected, without my appearing to be illegitimate because of it.

I have kept my stripper name and it serves me well. Also it gives me a background and people know me, so I am not 'new' in any parts... just different now lol

I understand having that feeling. It's almost like it is a challenge for them to get through your screening process and they want to accept and defeat that challenge. I have had that happen too. So I know what you mean. It leaves you feeling unsafe and wondering to what extent they will take this, or was it just a challenge and they are content and walk away. Those guys are always sketchy, and act all nervous, when they are full of it. So I see where you are coming from. Don't worry about it any more. Could be someone who will report to friends on his conquest.. but do be aware that his friends may play that game too for awhile. So of course, be vigilant so as not to allow it to happen again. And find a way to put your foot down if you see it might be happening again to prevent further incidents like this. Good luck!

With 11-11pm schedule you don't need to sleep before midnight. People are awake, what, 16 hours a day? Sleep 8. You need to be up about 9am (?) depending on how long it takes you to get ready. So go to sleep at 1 or 2 am. You are a night owl. If you are planning on doing this for now, then you can choose to stay a night owl. Why fight it? :) Artificial means to stay awake are fake! If you went to the gym every day you would find more energy to do all that you need to do in your day, until bedtime. And eat good food. Don't order in crap. Eat your fruit/veg and protein but go easy on the carbs, they can be what tires you out at inopportune times. But don't deny yourself sleep. There are processes that take place during sleep that you will be missing. Like a renewal of a hormone (?) that controls your appetite. (starts with an 'L') You miss out on that renewal too much and you can find yourself getting fat.

When I first started doing this, I would get the question 'are you open-minded?'. I would say yes (for all the reasons the ladies here said) and I even started putting it in ad because I was asked so often. After a while, when they asked that question, I would say 'i'm doing this aren't I'. And the response would be 'that's not what I mean'. Later still, I learned that open-minded means something totally different. So now I just say 'no' and skip all the hassle. It IS code for something! Now it seems to mean some unsafe offerings so 'no' just about covers it. But when a girl offers it in ad, she may just be doing what i initially did and respond to the many requests. Until she realizes that it is code for something else, she could just be innocent of the actual meaning.

I thought I read about it somewhere but now I cannot find it. Are we allowed to post our number on our profile page? Or is that just for information only?

I see and understand your frustration with all this. Been there lol. But just leaving a number may be interesting, to see who will text, who will call. I have done experiments like that. It never seems to make any real difference. Good people will still find you! Meantime you have to weed through the others. Every day I get up and say 'don't get impatient.. and remember to be extra kind to the people who actually do contact me in my preferred way, even if they are not potential clients. At least they read my ad !! :) That has to mean something.... Somebody (he was a saleperson at one time) said you have to shake 10 hands to make one deal. (or something like that) PS - It's hard answering inquiries and not get paid for it. And I have not perfected my method yet, I still lose my patience. But I guess like anything, it takes practice and a good mantra :)

And thank you for that.... (PS - I love RISK) But I have realized that people who consider themselves hobbyists have created a niche for themselves. They are the ones who give the 'new' girl all her business, just enough for her to think, yes I can live off this. They are the ones who introduce the girl to the business by setting the standards. And letting her know what will be expected of her. They are the ones who can make or break a girl, so they are very important. They are the ones who can determine where she takes her business. So all those measures and rating are important for a girl's business, and leads to where she advertises and what she offers. It's just too bad she doesn't know that, or if she is lucky, she learns early and can use that to her advantage. If not, she will be stuck in a limbo, with no opportunity for growth or expansion as the hobbyist is the only way to make an actual business out of this, or suffer the consequences of just getting by. I bet you didn't know the extent of the hobbyist, the far reach and influence they have. There is a big learning curve to this and you can't be a success (by that I mean plan to get out of it) without the hobbyist doing his thing. A rose by any other name is still a rose

And have you noticed that is you visit that site you are invited to give them info to take your name and number off there? There is another one too, that says something about cops so instead of visiting the girls we have listed (the ones we stole their info from bp) come see OUR girls because they are guaranteed safe! lol. Another scam. And they have 'porn stars' that want to be with you. lol Yes people have been asking about that website too and it is getting annoying. Although most guys know it is a scamming site because every bp girl is on there, it is still an annoyance talking about it. It even gives you (the girl they have listed) the option to have your info taken down by contacting them. So I don't know what they would do with the info other than to post it someplace else to scam again. Sigh

commenting on a forum for escorts and clients only to be harassed and ridiculed by people who have nothing better to do. I am surprised any girls comment at all

I once read something about our brains not processing negatives (like don't, can't etc) Also the last word you say is more likely to be remembered and processed (that is why people like to have the last word). Example: 'Don't forget to pick up milk'. The brain processes 'forget' and ignores the don't. If you say 'Remember to pick up milk', the person is more likely to do that as there are no negatives in the sentence. When ketchup lady says 'no ketchup' the listeners brain is receiving only 'ketchup', quickly processes that and she gets ketchup. What people have to do is say something like 'without ketchup' (although that is hit or miss as I tried this myself) or 'can you leave the ketchup off the burger'. The listener would hear 'off the burger' and if they forget what to leave off, they at least know there has to be follow-up as they know SOMETHING has to be left off the burger. It's not about the minimum wage earners being stupid or whatever, it's about how the mind processes and takes in information. But ketchup lady is still a short-fused biotch.

After reading this (from thread "how do you ask for...") : ..and my experience today (realizing that if someone reads my website then discussion is not necessary, for the most part) make me appreciate the guys who read through my site. I never realized how much easier things could be when people read my website! And boy, do I appreciate it. I want to thank all the guys (although they may not be here) who take the time to read my site, and I have to say that I respect that they are, for their own sake, cautious and also picky (? not sure if that is the word I mean, but it will do). I am just so happy meeting them. They are men who know what they want! It really makes me respect them. And I feel they are more comfortable meeting with me as I have put so much of myself into the words, I believe it makes them feel somewhat familiar with me. And I appreciate that too. So thank you!

I never did this when I was younger so I can't speak on that. But I know there was a lot I didn't know about my body and myself that I do now. I know I gained a lot of interpersonal skills in my years as a dancer. But that also came from watching other (older, more experienced) girls, to see how they interacted etc. I couldn't imagine doing this cold and alone, with no one to emulate. You can't get the feedback (which could be immediate) that you can in a club as a dancer, so trial and error would be a long and grueling process, i would think. Also, it took those years to develop the confidence I have now. There are so many stages to being a woman and those years of learning and growing are necessary. And don't forget: young women are used to dealing with young men. Do you remember what you were like when you were young? The girls are a reflection of that. So if things are fast ... well ... you can figure out why. lol Been there, done that... burned the T-shirt !!! :icon_cool: But I think that everyone is special and deserves to be looked at as such

....I want to have another flying dream

oh I like that better :)

I don't do 'NOW'. If they can't wait (like you said for the drive there lol) then they are not going to show up. It's obviously spur of the moment, and just as spur of the moment, they can get distracted on the way there... and FORGET to show up LOL It's like a dog who sees a squirrel lol .... easily distracted by something else. Oh my!

Hello :) Just for your opinion, if you wanted to contact lady to let her know you would like to see her later but are not sure exactly what time, would you set a time for her to expect a phone call (as I only book by phone call) or would a general timeframe be expected to be reasonable? I would think a general timeframe to expect a phone call is reasonable. That is how and why I experience this misunderstanding. But for my business it makes sense to do it that way as I can't always answer my phone, and people know that, but seem to want to touch base so I can know they want to see me. (I hope that is not too confusing) This doesn't usually happen after I have already met a person as I will accept texts at that point. But I just found it funny that we all see these 'labels' to mean something so different from one another.

Maggie will be fine. She is resilient. She's also pregnant! Judith lost her mother in childbirth so they will have to be more creative, and I'm sure they will want the birth of another baby so they can show how life wins out over death.

I find when someone can't commit to a time yet, they will say they will call 'afternoon' to make a late afternoon appt. Then call at 1pm and say sorry for calling late. They want appt in half hour. Lol. I was expecting them to call around 2 or 3pm for 4 or 5 pm appt. So if they are busy I don't want to force them to call to make appt at a certain time, but when they have time. That's why I don't ask for a time when they are not sure themselves. Only for actual appts do I want a committed time. Maybe if they refer to time of day I will start asking what does that (morning,afternoon, evening) mean to you? lol

Sooo glad Glenn is still alive !!

It seems all of us do not have the same understanding when it comes to describing the different times of the day. Like morning... afternoon .. evening etc. Morning to me lasts until noon. When talking to some who want a 'morning' appt, I am expecting anything past 10 am. Imagine my surprise when they mean 7 am!! (that would never happen by the way). And late afternoon to me means 4, 5 pm. But some people consider 1 pm to be late afternoon. Example would be to expect a phone call late afternoon, only to find that phone call comes shortly after lunch? How do we get on the same page when everyone has a different understanding on the same word? What are your understandings of those commonly references to the time of day?

I laughed when I read this .... Good for you standing up for things you believe in ... and thank goodness you got back on the voters list LOL

I do know that is question they ask everybody. They ask the taxi driver when they get in a cab... they ask the waitress at the bar ... etc They ask everybody .. but maybe it's time that question was replaced by a more interesting, less loaded and less nosy question. (Asking someone about their level of business that day is kinda sketchy and for the sake of safety, and to prevent being robbed, they should think before they ask that question. And like you said, for escorts/companions they don't need to put her on the spot and possibly affecting her business.)