I prefer to discuss prior to beginning the session or otherwise during the shower together. If a client has no particular preferences, then he'll get the standard Sugar treatment, which is never a bad thing, hehehe
I loved reading all the wonderful stories here! As for why some ladies do not allow reverse massage I have an understanding of where they are coming from as some people unfortunately take it as an opportunity to cross the line or push the boundaries.
Personally, I love being massaged and will always smile at the offer of a reverse massage. Especially in a steamy longer session, it makes a great interlude.