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This has definitely been posted before but I wanted to address it again. Many clients get so standoff-ish and totally flip a switch when you ask them to screen- even when it’s in your ad. I don’t think they read the whole ad to be honest and that’s fine, but are Ottawa men not used to being screened? I think it’s so insane not to screen. Here’s my process, I ask them if they’ve seen my ad, to which 99% say yes. If they say no, I send it to them. Then we talk rates and dates/ times. Then, to lock it in, I ask for my screening criteria. The shock I get is nothing far from funny and frustrating. I go down a level to a less ‘intrusive’ form of screening, they’re still rattled. Some suggest a FaceTime session to get to know each other first. I don’t know about you but to me- that’s not screening. I still don’t know who you are, if you’re a safe, if you are who you say you are, you could be putting on a front and I could end up in a million little pieces later that night. I don’t know about anyone else but screening is mandatory for me. Has anyone else in Ottawa had this issue to this extent? How do you go about it besides just saying ‘byeee’ next? I have my script about how us sw have to be safe blah blah blah but that’s just not cutting it Love, Candy

When it comes to setting up an appointment, one of the thing that is important for most people is: DISCRETION. Ladies/gentlemen, I'd like to know how do you view discretion? Is it important to you? What do you consider as discrete and not ? : - Before the appointment ? - After the appointment ? - If a lady/gent is not discrete what do you do ? I am very curious to know what you guys think about it. That's said, I'll leave the rest to your discretion ;)

Being disabled and a client of sex workers over the years means, for me, a conscious effort to avoid using labels and stereotypes in order to keep the issue focused on people's humanity, and indeed the right to great sex for everyone regardless of their standing in society. In other words all people are human beings first and foremost and all are entitled to full expression and experience in carrying on their lives. For me a date with someone who has made sex and eroticism their profession, is in many ways far more meaningful than just the physical aspects. There is a large emotional very personal aspect. As you might have guessed I am a romantic, and wouldn't have it any other way :). I have spent time with true masters of their field. Indeed "artisans" in the highest sense in the work. But that too is just another form of label. One which is meant to infer high praise in this context. Initially, and with the urging of a few wise friends, I went on my first eight as a form of rebellion against the not-so-subtle forms of marginalization the health-care system implies. It very quickly evolved into "Wow, this is what I've been missing!" It quickly evolved into something which is very integral to my life. Earlier today I noticed the terms "hobby" and "hobbyist" which denote for me a much more casual [perhaps less important] perspective. Which got me thinking: Where does the sex worker/date experienced fit for you? From both the client and worker perspective. So let the discussion commence. From casual, hobby, art form, or is it a "a life's calling" as one person referred to it years ago, how far-reaching is the spectrum? PatrickGC

I was surprised recently when a potential client wrote that he didn't want to ask his regular paid companion to write him a reference. He said he didn't want her thinking that he was seeing other escorts. The girl in question I know to be very reference-friendly, but he said he didn't want any drama. I am horrified. If I knew my clients were telling other escorts that I would cause drama and be hurt and upset that he was seeing other girls, I would be furious. That is NOT an image I want projected to the CERB community, particularly as it does NOT represent me fairly. That kind of image does an escort a huge disservice, and hurts her business and reputation. It also creates conflict amongst the girls. If other escorts thought I was a jealous drama queen, I would be mortified. By claiming to protect her 'feelings', this client is being extremely condescending and insulting. These kinds of assumptions about possessiveness and territory are damaging to the SP, and reinforce the stereotype that escorts are emotionally unstable. If you like us (and we're glad that you do!) please HELP us create a great reputation. There is nothing worse than having bad word of mouth, especially initiated by clients who are our fans. The idea that we are romantically or emotionally attached to our clients is generally false. The idea that we don't want clients seeing other girls is false (and kind of funny). We work so hard to make CERB and the escorting community a positive, honest environment. I would hate to think that these assumptions are reversing our progress. Your SP doesn't mind that you see other girls. What she does mind is the damage to her reputation inflicted by this kind of client.

Hello everyone, Some of you members of CERB saw an ad warning about a dangerous encounter I had today on CL and asked if I would post it here. Here is my post on CL regarding a nightmare client I had at noon hour. Ladies BE AWARE - w4m (OTTAWA) Date: 2010-06-20, 1:05PM EDT Reply To This Post Hello ladies, I'm Tulsa, a provider in Ottawa and I just had a horrible experience and need to share this nightmare client experience. This client, first off complained I was too far out of town. He then asked for 15 minute service. I gave him my price and we agreed. He said he would be at my place in 10 minutes. When he showed up is when the nightmare started: I ask for payment upfront, he refused at first wanting the service first. . I finally convinced him to give me the payment. He attempted to walk around my place like he own the place and when I tried to restrict him to 1 area he kept pushing me around When I attempted to put a condom on, he refused, when forced he tried to take it off just before entering me When his time was up, he refused to leave and threatened me, saying he would ruin my name. I finally got him to leave, called my fiancee which got his license plate number and make of vehicle. If you are interested in that information and are a service provider, please reply to this post Tulsa Location: OTTAWA it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests PostingID: 1801580810 ________________________________________________________________ A few of the members on CERB asked me to put this ad on the OTTAWA WARNINGS page for all of you to see. If you would like more information on this particular individual please feel free to contact me. I surely hope that we can avoid this kind of nightmare. The worst part of this ordeal and maybe something those of you who have someone around as security should maybe implement is this: A 9-1-1 word or distress code. My fiancee called, at the 15 minute mark, to make sure I was ok and to tell me that the 15 minutes was up. This is a system we have so that he knows I am safe. We thought it worked very well until the first bad situation arose. When I picked up the phone, i didn't want to tip off the client that I had someone near by, just in case that would make him turn more violent so I just said thanks for telling the time's up, i'll see you soon. He thought, since this is my somewhat usual response that everything was ok even though my voice seem strained and nervous. I am often like that when, like today, I am very tired. So he hung up and waited till I called him with the "all clear" signal. When I called him back, I gave him all but the all clear signal. I told him briefly what this guy did. Being the quick thinker that he is, he went after the vehicle in question and got the license plate number, make, model and color of the vehicle. I can give this information to you, service providers, if you would like. Just simply PM me or send email I will be more than happy to give you the info. Thank you for publishing me, and to all of you thank you for reading me. P.S. If someone feels the need to post this message in the SP ONLY area. Please send me a message saying you would like to do so and I will gladly authorize or send you a more copy/paste friendly version, if needed. I do not have the privilege required to access the SP only area as I haven't had anyone recommend me yet or have not reached the minimum requirements for the other two entry requirements. Therefore, if this is permitted on CERB, I will allow someone to copy and paste, as long as they quote that it is me who originally posted this. Then the SP wanting more info can PM me like everyone else I guess. Thank you again for posting/reading my thread