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Hi, I am a healthy, slim and fun/funny man in my late 40s looking for some sensual pleasure from a young (under 30 ideally) lady who is safe, discreet, independent and open to non-penetrative alternatives like lapdances, shared showers, mutual touch. I dont want someone who does any unsafe (w/o condom) practices since I really dont want to run any risk of passing on an STI (I am clean). Does anyone out there have recommendations. Many thanks, Dan

Hi Everybody! I don't know if I'm too much of a newbie to start a thread, especially one on such a strong subject but it's one that I feel very strongly about: BBFS in the Hobby, I don't get how anyone can justify it. Browsing other boards that are, lets say, less politically correct than this one I see an increasing amount of talk around either more and more SPs offering BBFS ... one post even had a link to a BP ad near TO where the SP has it listed in her extras!! ... or johns asking for it, sometimes very aggressively according to some ladies. It seems prevalent enough that they even started a board dedicated to the pursuit of this dangerous activity!! (I won't promote it here) Unless I'm really behind the times and some new miracle cure as been invented for all STDs isn't this pretty much the most dangerous activity to experiment in? Also, being a DATY lover this "trend" is scaring the living crap out of me. Aside from the very obvious heath risks involved (HIV being at the top of the list), the thought of ... squeamish people turn away now! ... licking up someones sloppy seconds is totally disgusting!! ... call me a prude but I won't even snowball my own stuff! lol Levity aside I don't want to die, or be incapacitated, from this hobby because a few morons (male and female alike) want to play russian roulette with their sex lives. Now a few posters, again on other boards, have suggested starting screening new SPs when booking by asking if they provide the service as if you want it, the logic being they will then expose themselves more freely. Really not sure about this one, First I would need to play the creep (not my style), and second using this method might put me on the blacklist with the careful, reputable ones and ruin my rep. I mainly repeat with 2 lovely ladies I'm very comfortable with but I like to "explore new territory" once in a while so a screening method would help ease my mind. Any comment on the subject ... from both Service Providers and fellow hobbyists ... would be appreciated. Also, I'm very curious as to what the general consensus on the subject is? Am I overreacting here or is it as dangerous as I feel it is? Is it something that's more prevalent in other market/cities where competition is more fierce?

Does anyone know if extra large condoms exist? I know of the magnum ones, but I am wondering if there are ones larger as I am tired of having to constantly worry about the condom coming off when I am with a SP (and no I am not trying to brag on how big I am as this is a legitimate concern for me!). Any help would be appreciated. Thanks

This may not be the same but when I was on a certain type of antidepressant my sex drive and erection were all the same but had extreme difficulty achieving orgasm. I was like the energizer bunny kept going and going. I tried different lubes some that xy his and hers helped a bit. Different toys we vibe was nice I found that the cheaper condoms worked best. But ultimately sex is as much emotional as it is physical and because I like to please a woman the more she enjoyed it the easier it was for me. Although this was for me may not be the same for other and like I said it was caused by the medication and not Ed.