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I've been asked by several guys (oddly) about squirting and felt this would be a great place for a discussion! Just a little disclaimer right off the bat: I'm speaking from my experience. To the lovely ladies who do AND don't squirt: please feel free to chime in! Constructive additions to encourage men and ESPECIALLY women to try, would be great. There's obviously TONS of resources online so I'm going to try to not repeat what you can just Google yourself. I will include some links that I do think are good. Squirters: please share some as well!.. There's a lot of crap sites out there to sift through! My Background with Squirting: I was different when it came to watching porn in my late teens. I always felt focused on whether or not the girl was actually enjoying herself. The majority of porn is simply male gratification. To me this is BORING. Nothing gets me harder than a girl turned on. So one day, about 9 yrs ago while still in Uni, I came across squirting porn... It was a clip from what turned out to be an "educational porn" video. You could clearly tell the girl was involuntarily convulsing and in heaven! I was in a relationship with a french girl (swoon @ french girls) at the time and we were very open about sex and communication. We experimented and it wasn't long until our sex was so wild and so wet that, when we recently reminisced, we agreed that during our 3 years together, sex was NEVER routine. From the end of that relationship forward, I would try my best to teach (as best I could as a guy) my girlfriends about the joys of squirting. What Should be Obvious: Foreplay It's different from a clitoral orgasm BUT still requires build-up! Ie- FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY. Perhaps this is one of the reasons why I only, just the other day, tried an SP for the first time... I'll be broke by the time I even get my pants off! lol. Anyway, my ex's and I would spend absurd amounts of time with foreplay... Yes, we still had quickies, but foreplay was a game to make sex mind-blowing. Getting the gspot flowing is no different. One of my ex's would always want to have a clitoral orgasm before gspot orgasms. The rest would feel like the gspot was "easier" to get to quickly. It really depends on girl. Communication = success! Stimulating The G Spot It's just inside the vagina and feels like a wall with ridges on it (uretheral sponge)... Mmmm... Some people may say "whats the big deal" but it has become such a beacon of pleasure in my mind! Stroking and pressing just the right way can completely destroy the concentration of your partner. So. Much. Fun. I'm a big advocate of the "come here" motion from your fingers. Especially if the girl you're doing it with hasn't squirted before. Many videos show a more aggressive upward thrusting with fingers. I have a friend who's boyfriend used that technique their first time and she was a bit sore afterwards. lol. My stance is this: if she's a squirter, go for it but it doesn't hurt to start more gently and work your way up to a more agressive thrusting... You know, just like proper sex! For example, this story I posted. I started gentle but toward the end it was VERY aggressive. It's all about using your (hopefully good) judgement and communicating with your partner/sp. Another technique that kind of "trained" the gspot and myself was this: I would stimulate the gspot with my fingers to the point where it was hard as a rock. At that point I would switch and use my penis to thrust which would make her squirt. Important note: Your lady WILL have to communicate to you when to "pull out" so that she can release! Generally, if you're thrusting with your cock or have your fingers inside her- you're blocking her from being able to squirt. Squirting: for the Ladies Who Don't & Men who want a clue This is where I hope some of the ladies can really chime in!! I hope to share with guys what I've learned from my experiences though. I've asked all of my girlfriends how to explain the sensation of squirting. They all had pretty similar answers. During stimulation, it feels GREAT. Eventually that turns into a sensation of "feeling like you have to pee." But rather than pee, if they "let go," they squirt. There is so much confusing information on this but I do believe nearly EVERY girl can squirt. From my experience, one of the biggest obstacles of squirting is the girl being "okay" with "letting go" and trusting that you're not going to pee all over the place. lol. This is of course assuming you're with someone you can trust/be in comfort. I do have a friend couple who have tried so many times and "nothing." The truth is the girl admits that the stimulation feels good but she doesn't feel comfortable going that next step. Now, she has personal reasons that she believes mentally block her from getting there. No need to get into that but perhaps some of the squirting woman can shed some light on this? Inspire some women who may be holding back? Let's Get Practical & Nerdy about Squirting This is easily one of the best pieces of exercise equipment for men. lol. It's true though. You want your hands to be able to hold out longer than she can. :) This could be useful for the ladies and guys... I can't remember where I heard this but a GREAT way to keep things from getting too messy is a towel and a garbage bag. Doesn't sound very romanic, right? Hold your judgement! 1. Take a garbage bag and split it into two pieces. 2. Roll out a towel. 3. Place one of the garbage bag pieces over the towel so that it covers it. 4. Then attach them together using bobby-pins. 5. Roll it up and place it under your bed or a place close to where the action happens! 6. Repeat. Now you have perfect way to not break the mood and to keep your mattress from becoming a squirt-bed. lol. The garbage bag prevents the squirt from soaking right through the towel! Another tip, two of my girlfriends said helped was how well hydrated they were. One would drink a TON of water all day knowing that we'd be fucking at night. LOL. But because I'm a guy, I can't really comment much more on this. My girlfriends never had any Gspot toys (aside from my penis and hands ;) ) so maybe some of the girls could suggest some great toys for the ladies who want to try experimenting themselves! To The Non-Squirting Ladies If you're afraid of bodily fluids, sure, squirting might not be for you! ;) I think the "peeing" sensation for women is very similar to what guys experience with one KEY difference: men are conditioned from a young age to know that "liquid" leaves their penis when they orgasm... and that it's not pee! Once women realize their squirt is the same (it's NOT urine): I think because squirting is very slowly becoming more mainstream that it will eventually be a common part of the female sexual experience. Through the ages women have been constrained in so many ways. Their sexuality has obviously been a huge part of this. I know I'm just a random guy but to the ladies who haven't tried squirting, I promise you, you're missing out. My girlfriends would tease me that they could ejaculate (they'd call them "G Spot Orgasms") throughout our sex and then STILL have a clitoral orgasm... They'd be like "you must be jealous." Of course they were teasing and I wasn't jealous... It was just a turn on for me. When we became so in-sync with each other that after a clitoral orgasm, I'd go back to stimulate one more gspot orgasm, I would cum on her as she squirted one last time. Fun stuff! :D To the Squirters: How did you learn about squirting? What was your first experience like? (who were you with, etc?) What would be the one thing you could say to encourage women to try it? Guys Educate yourselves. Then educate yourselves more. Be patient. And even if you're nervous, your lady will hopefully . The G Spot is not a faucet and I would NEVER go into an encounter with any lady "expecting" squirting. Would totally ruin the mood. Finally, I do think you have to be the right personality type to want/enjoy this. I have a friend (we're about to hit 30), good looking smart guy, who doesn't believe in G Spot orgasms/squirting and calls it "pee." Yes, this is even AFTER hearing my stories from me AND my GF's over the years. My only reply to him is a half-jokingly/serious "I feel bad for Sarah" (his fiance). He's not even into going down on her... :icon_neutral: If you've read this far I imagine you find that as lame as I do! So there it is. LINKS LINKS LINKS Wikipediaaaa Not the most useful but safe place to start. Diagram G Spot Site If you want to see a REAL squirter porn star, the best would be "Cytheria." There's a lot of fake "squirting" porn out there. To me, it's hard to describe other than saying the way the squirting happens is nothing like the real squirters I've experienced in life. In fact, Cytheria reminds me the most of how my first long-term girlfriend was when squirting. Anyway, rather epic post. Hope this helps anyone! If anyone has questions, please don't PM me. Open discussion! Helpful to all! :D