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I have always been extremely passionate about sexual health. When I was 15 a friend of mine was bullied for having herpes - which she contracted when she was sexually assaulted by a 19 y/o. I bore witness to the cruelty of others, the stigma around sexual health & was also victim of both. People whispered that I had herpes because we had sleepovers - they knew nothing about transmission, treatment, etc Then in my first year in the industry, I started to do porn as well as strip. Two strippers started up a lovely little rumour that I had HIV from doing porn - these two individuals were offering extras, going home with clients & couldn’t tell me the last time they were tested - they also thought you could contract HIV from sharing a joint. Another example of peoples lack of understanding of sexual health. When I was 17/18 and in first year uni, I contracted Chalmydia 2x. First Sem from a man who went home on winter break and fucked his ex without protection & came back and fucked me. He had symptoms - I did not. The next semester I had unprotected sex with a lover who said he had been tested the week before - he got a call the next day from the clinic. Both times I was given 4x pills of Azithromycin and was good to go after a week. With a reccomendation to retest after 4weeks At that point in my life I had had sex with at least 50 people - mostly unprotected because I was young, naive, foolish and on birth control. I am now 25, I have been in the industry since I was 19, I have had sex with hundreds of men, women and GNC folks at this point in my life. Last year I was dx with “Stage 0” cervical cancer - which means that the cervical biopsy I had indicated the abnormal cell growth was high grade and 50% likely to become cancerous. This was most likely cause from exposure to HPV from unprotected sex with one of my colleagues in the industry , one of my lovers or one of the clients who has jumped through the hoops & paid for the privilege to film with me in that capacity. Most clinics won’t test for HPV and it’s so common the WHO reccomendation is that everyone receives the updated vaccine - Gardisil9 I has received Gardisil when I was 12 & This last year received the 3 doses of Gardisil9. The updated version covers 5 strains of cervical cancer causing HPV and 4 strains of oral-pharangeal causing HPV. in the last few years the window for detection of HIV has gone down from 6 months to 3. And at the same time the leading result of HPV exposure is of oral-pharangeal cancer - this is a result of unsafe oral & a lack of education around how STIs can be transmitted. We all have seen how limited the gen publics understanding of transmission of disease is with the last few years of covid. sexual health is no different. and as the world evolves , so must we - if we want to continue to be kinky slutty ppl. With that being said: I had my first ever personal experience with an STI as a SWer. I tested Jan 10- results received Jan 16. blood, urine, throat/rectal swab, all neg Jan 31 - results for blood Feb 2 neg Feb 03 urine/rectal positive for chlamydia , Feb 07 throat swab pos for chlamydia. I was treated Feb 03 with the classic 4x Azithromycin and give. The clear to be sexually actively again after Feb 10. i contacted my clients and collegues for the last several weeks including from before Jan 10 and informed everyone of my positive test. I cancelled all of my apts , posted to Twitter and IG and have been informing new inquiries of this experience. I know this will deter some because of deeply rooted ignorance around sex, sexual health and SW. But I am grateful I am able to do my part to combat stigma. I despise language such as “clean” or “d/d free” - stigma literally kills. if you know anything about the HIV/AIDS crisis you know it was called GRID initially aka Gay Related Immuno Deficiency- and until it started affecting cis women we just let the gays die. We lost an entire generation of queer people to what is now a disease that’s easier to live with than cancer - yet still is highly stigmatized because of its association with sex & gay sex specifically. also to be clear - I should not have to be - I am not HIV +. My panels continue to be neg. One thing I did learn today though after a call with the health unit is that if you retest before 4 weeks it’s possible you will trigger a false positive test because the tests detect dead cells as well. My next test date is Feb 13. the. Feb 28 & first week of March. So let’s talk about sexual health! Let’s talk about BV, Yeast infections(esp after antibiotics) , UTIs, interstitial cystitis, urine tests, throat rectal and vaginal swabs etcetceetc let’s have some honest conversations and dispel some of the stigma & fear. sti’s are a part of the risk of being sexually active - we have to take our health and our responsibility to ourselves and others sexual health seriously! A huge shift for me since receiving this news is going to be requiring clients to provide me test results for BBJ or paying a premium rate for the risk I am taking. Hopefully this encourages clients to get tested more often as well - I know far too many who have expressed that they don’t go because they know the providers they see do. Do yourself a favour and go get tested! I know many of my colleagues who only go 1x a month due to accessibility/time/etc. We can all be supporting one another in being safe and slutty

Just curious about the HPV Vaccine. Is it common among SP's? :? I am really curious about the HVP Vaccine and its real effects. A few weeks ago, I came across an article from a respected source, that in my opinion over exaggerates the effects of HVP on someone's health, and the fact that they also describe the vaccine as an elixir that can prevent all that harm. Is this really true? Or is it just a pharmaceutical strategy? Specially, because the vaccine is not cheap at all, and most health plans do not cover it. What do you think? Is the vaccine really worth it? By the way, I am a man, so "No", I have not gotten the vaccine. Thanks for your responses!

This may not be the same but when I was on a certain type of antidepressant my sex drive and erection were all the same but had extreme difficulty achieving orgasm. I was like the energizer bunny kept going and going. I tried different lubes some that xy his and hers helped a bit. Different toys we vibe was nice I found that the cheaper condoms worked best. But ultimately sex is as much emotional as it is physical and because I like to please a woman the more she enjoyed it the easier it was for me. Although this was for me may not be the same for other and like I said it was caused by the medication and not Ed.