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It's that time of week again! This time I had the pleasure of interviewing intelligent and compelling @EmilyRushton on a topic that I think anyone in this industry needs to be aware of: the importance of screening. Please have a read and remember to like and comment with your thoughts. ❤️ Q: Hey Emily. Thank you for being our next interviewee! This is an important topic and I’m glad we’ve got the opportunity to cover it with you. Before we dive in, can you tell me a bit about yourself and your career so far? A: Happy to contribute on such a great topic. I’m a 40 something redhead residing in Atlantic Canada and tour Canada full time (except now, COVID has restricted travel so I’m not venturing too far). I’ve worked for agencies, owned an agency, written ad copy, adult marketing and been independent so I’ve covered all the bases in my time in this business (15 years). Q: Wow, you've done a lot in that space of time - impressive! So, screening. What are your screening methods and why did you choose them? A: For any new guest I require the basic: (name, age, occupation, where you saw my ad, cell phone (I wont accept text apps) and the name and website of a reputable independent companion whom they have previously met that can be their reference. Depending on the city I may take work info in lieu of a reference from another lady, but rarely. I do understand some people are unable to provide a reference so I do have other options for them that I won’t share publicly. Q: How many Clients refuse to screen? A: When I started screening a lot refused, however now its maybe 20% refuse and they almost always come back and fill out my booking form after they’ve experienced what non screening can get you (robbed, scammed, fake photos, etc.). Q: What are their most common reasons? A: “I am a well known person in society” or my all time favourite “I share an email with my wife”. I decline them and move on, its not worth trying to reason with someone who thinks they are above screening. Q: So I know a lot of Clients are worried because law in Canada currently criminalises them. What would your response be to someone concerned about that? A: You face just as much risk booking an unknown who asks no questions from being robbed to a possible police sting. Do your research on the lady you wish to visit with, reputable ladies may ask some screening questions but they wish no harm on anyone. Q: Are there any tell tale signs of a Client that won’t screen? A: They make the booking process difficult when its easy. As in not putting their name, trying to contact us on an app or lying about a reference. Q: What are the biggest reasons that you screen? A: For my safety (even though screening is not 100%) I feel safe knowing who I am allowing in my personal space. I have never had a bad date, been attacked or robbed. I base this on the fact I attract the clientele I wish to spend time with and they value the fact I screen. Q: Do you find it frustrating having to explain to Clients that you’re doing this for your own safety? Generally, how do they respond? A: No because I just decline them and move on. I have found the entitled arrogant ones are the main group that question why we screen and its not worth another breath. It's common sense why we screen, if I have to explain it we are not a good fit. I don’t mesh well with stupid. Q: Have you got any experience working for an agency? Do you know if their screening processes are generally different to your own? A: I’ve worked for 2 and owned 1. To the best of my knowledge and experience agencies have their own basic way of screening but not to the extent that I would screen for myself. When I owned my agency, this business was very different and I feel much safer than it is now. The way I would book for my girls is very different than how I would now. Q: We have had a number of people suggest a Verified Clients badge on Lyla where other Providers give them the “okay”. We’ve decided not to go down this road as safety is our number one concern, but what do you think of the idea? A: Personally, I think that’s a bad idea. I won’t accept a reference from a lady who doesn’t screen, so I have a hard time accepting an ok from someone who books on text apps or doesn’t screen. Plus some men guilt/threaten women into vouching like on P411 years back. Just because I’ve met someone and provided an ok doesn’t qualify as a reference check and if you want to stay safe you have to do the work. Q: Thanks for your input on that, I have similar reservations. What advice would you give to a Client who is nervous about screening? A: Take your time and find a lady you connect with, who will guide you through the screening process. Real, reputable companions invest in themselves and will have multiple web presence (as in exist in more than one place online), photos and social media as well as possibly interact on boards. Q: What advice would you give to Providers who might be tempted to skip the process? A: It is your life and taking an extra 10 minutes to screen someone could save your life. People looking to harm you won’t answer questions. Q: Thanks so much for your time, Emily. It’s been a pleasure. Is there anything else you would like to add? Thank you for having me and stay safe, one screened date at a time.

I have always been extremely passionate about sexual health. When I was 15 a friend of mine was bullied for having herpes - which she contracted when she was sexually assaulted by a 19 y/o. I bore witness to the cruelty of others, the stigma around sexual health & was also victim of both. People whispered that I had herpes because we had sleepovers - they knew nothing about transmission, treatment, etc Then in my first year in the industry, I started to do porn as well as strip. Two strippers started up a lovely little rumour that I had HIV from doing porn - these two individuals were offering extras, going home with clients & couldn’t tell me the last time they were tested - they also thought you could contract HIV from sharing a joint. Another example of peoples lack of understanding of sexual health. When I was 17/18 and in first year uni, I contracted Chalmydia 2x. First Sem from a man who went home on winter break and fucked his ex without protection & came back and fucked me. He had symptoms - I did not. The next semester I had unprotected sex with a lover who said he had been tested the week before - he got a call the next day from the clinic. Both times I was given 4x pills of Azithromycin and was good to go after a week. With a reccomendation to retest after 4weeks At that point in my life I had had sex with at least 50 people - mostly unprotected because I was young, naive, foolish and on birth control. I am now 25, I have been in the industry since I was 19, I have had sex with hundreds of men, women and GNC folks at this point in my life. Last year I was dx with “Stage 0” cervical cancer - which means that the cervical biopsy I had indicated the abnormal cell growth was high grade and 50% likely to become cancerous. This was most likely cause from exposure to HPV from unprotected sex with one of my colleagues in the industry , one of my lovers or one of the clients who has jumped through the hoops & paid for the privilege to film with me in that capacity. Most clinics won’t test for HPV and it’s so common the WHO reccomendation is that everyone receives the updated vaccine - Gardisil9 I has received Gardisil when I was 12 & This last year received the 3 doses of Gardisil9. The updated version covers 5 strains of cervical cancer causing HPV and 4 strains of oral-pharangeal causing HPV. in the last few years the window for detection of HIV has gone down from 6 months to 3. And at the same time the leading result of HPV exposure is of oral-pharangeal cancer - this is a result of unsafe oral & a lack of education around how STIs can be transmitted. We all have seen how limited the gen publics understanding of transmission of disease is with the last few years of covid. sexual health is no different. and as the world evolves , so must we - if we want to continue to be kinky slutty ppl. With that being said: I had my first ever personal experience with an STI as a SWer. I tested Jan 10- results received Jan 16. blood, urine, throat/rectal swab, all neg Jan 31 - results for blood Feb 2 neg Feb 03 urine/rectal positive for chlamydia , Feb 07 throat swab pos for chlamydia. I was treated Feb 03 with the classic 4x Azithromycin and give. The clear to be sexually actively again after Feb 10. i contacted my clients and collegues for the last several weeks including from before Jan 10 and informed everyone of my positive test. I cancelled all of my apts , posted to Twitter and IG and have been informing new inquiries of this experience. I know this will deter some because of deeply rooted ignorance around sex, sexual health and SW. But I am grateful I am able to do my part to combat stigma. I despise language such as “clean” or “d/d free” - stigma literally kills. if you know anything about the HIV/AIDS crisis you know it was called GRID initially aka Gay Related Immuno Deficiency- and until it started affecting cis women we just let the gays die. We lost an entire generation of queer people to what is now a disease that’s easier to live with than cancer - yet still is highly stigmatized because of its association with sex & gay sex specifically. also to be clear - I should not have to be - I am not HIV +. My panels continue to be neg. One thing I did learn today though after a call with the health unit is that if you retest before 4 weeks it’s possible you will trigger a false positive test because the tests detect dead cells as well. My next test date is Feb 13. the. Feb 28 & first week of March. So let’s talk about sexual health! Let’s talk about BV, Yeast infections(esp after antibiotics) , UTIs, interstitial cystitis, urine tests, throat rectal and vaginal swabs etcetceetc let’s have some honest conversations and dispel some of the stigma & fear. sti’s are a part of the risk of being sexually active - we have to take our health and our responsibility to ourselves and others sexual health seriously! A huge shift for me since receiving this news is going to be requiring clients to provide me test results for BBJ or paying a premium rate for the risk I am taking. Hopefully this encourages clients to get tested more often as well - I know far too many who have expressed that they don’t go because they know the providers they see do. Do yourself a favour and go get tested! I know many of my colleagues who only go 1x a month due to accessibility/time/etc. We can all be supporting one another in being safe and slutty

Would love more awareness and conversation about screening clients, Deposits -do you ask one? asking for ID? Reference checks? how can we keep each other safe? check in? call or text another provider share location Safety for women in the industry and how we can support each other. Red Dress movement hang more dresses on the Hwy similar to the N/A program I would live to start a SW/A support group.

This has definitely been posted before but I wanted to address it again. Many clients get so standoff-ish and totally flip a switch when you ask them to screen- even when it’s in your ad. I don’t think they read the whole ad to be honest and that’s fine, but are Ottawa men not used to being screened? I think it’s so insane not to screen. Here’s my process, I ask them if they’ve seen my ad, to which 99% say yes. If they say no, I send it to them. Then we talk rates and dates/ times. Then, to lock it in, I ask for my screening criteria. The shock I get is nothing far from funny and frustrating. I go down a level to a less ‘intrusive’ form of screening, they’re still rattled. Some suggest a FaceTime session to get to know each other first. I don’t know about you but to me- that’s not screening. I still don’t know who you are, if you’re a safe, if you are who you say you are, you could be putting on a front and I could end up in a million little pieces later that night. I don’t know about anyone else but screening is mandatory for me. Has anyone else in Ottawa had this issue to this extent? How do you go about it besides just saying ‘byeee’ next? I have my script about how us sw have to be safe blah blah blah but that’s just not cutting it Love, Candy

END OF THE MONTH TRIP TO SYDNEY < APRIL 29- MAY 1 > AFTERNOON THE 29 to LATE MORNING THE 1st OF MAY! Prebooking is encouraged for my out of town trips xo Hey Gents & Couples, Outcall always available and incall is hosted this week & weekend as listed above! OUTCALLS AVAIL HRM & BEYOND **deposit varies by distance** Open to travel to other areas with prebooking (please contact me directly) Elevate your frequency, put your stress behind you & unwind with one of the finest, genuine providers around! GOOD VIBRATIONS & SWEET SENSATIONS LETS KEEP IT FUN & PROFESSIONAL BABY ✨ DRAMA FREE, INDEPENDENT & ALWAYS DISCRETE QUALITY COMPANION 😘 Good Energy, Great Conversation & Impeccable Services! SAFE & PROFESSIONAL SERVICE (not negotiable) TALL & NATURAL SOFT, TANNED SKIN MASSAGE HEELS & LINGERIE MANI + PEDI CLEAN & FRESH ALWAYS - Health & Hygiene ** (required to be maintained by all clients as well) A strong reminder *** SAFE ONLY!! * No exceptions * 613-917-2552 Call or text ( NO BLOCKED CALLS WILL BE ANSWERED ) Time is precious 🕰 💛 Treat me Good & I'll Treat You even Better xo 𝓚𝓲𝓶𝓶𝔂 💋

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Hey Everyone! Hope you’re all enjoying a sunny and/or snowy day:) I’m new to the biz and just wanted to extend my gratitude for this network!... The positivity that is expressed and knowledge that’s available with regards to safety and services across the country is amazing! Sending love to all of you this holiday season! 🖤ZoeDior

I recently received a request for a threesome with 2 fine gentlemen and since I have never done this, I was wondering what you guys think about meeting 2 men? I am used to meeting with couples and offering duos... This new thing sounds interesting and I love trying new stuff but better be cautious... So guys, how "freaky" are you? Have you ever done this? If not, are you open to that type of experience? What would you require for such an encounter ? I'd love to hear from both providers and hobbyists.: ) Tell me about your experience and your view on this topic.

Hi everyone, I am building a free app for escorts/sex workers, and I would love to hear about what you would want to use! Some features we are thinking of building include: Mobile app and website Manage all bookings: We'd give you one easy-peasy line of code for your website, and all bookings via website forms & emails would be managed through the app Calendar integration Clients automatically checked against a database of bad clients when they book: No searching required! Consolidated blacklists (have one big one vs. multiple smaller ones) Can report clients if they are unsafe, aggressive, or no-shows Schedule safety check-ins: Enter a password after meetings, or we'll give you a call. We want to get as many escorts and sex workers involved in the development of this app. We would love to bring some onto the founding team! What do you guys think? Any other features that would make your lives easier?