why aren't doctors supporting sex workers

[CristyCurves 169032]

It has been clearly shown that a healthy sexual appetite and sex life lead to over all better health. In studies with men it's been shown that having sex at least once a week leads to less heart related incidents, better over all immunology, better physiological health and better coping skills, as it alleviates stress .

So with all this being true why aren't doctors supporting sex workers? Many of their patients are single, some are attached with spouses unable to give their partners sex, others for various reasons aren't getting it at home. So where do they expect these people to go to get their healthy weekly interactions? The bar, a dating site, the grocery store? Many don't want a relationship, many just need the occasional boost with a trusted, clean individual, which in my mind is a respected sex worker, right?

What hypocrisy for our government as well to take a stand against them. If they want their citizens to be healthy, well rounded individuals. Sex is a needed function of our bodies, we are meant to have it. Isn't it time many started thinking more openly and realistically about how and where one gets it.

Realistically sex workers are healers in many cases, not only for the physical benefits offered but by some but also the mental benefits. Many sex workers are unbiased easy to talk to understanding people that can be confided in, much like other professionals. So if we are all to be healthy then sex workers need to be added to the list of health professionals, that's how I see it:)

[johnybird 4391]

I agree with you, sex workers should be added to the list of health professionals, they sure have helped me in more ways than one. I'm happier & definitely feel better, made going through the rough patches a lot easier :) I don't know why the government doesn't just make it legal and regulate it like any other business, This world would be a much happier place.

 

I still don't understand why sex is so evil. Why is it ok for me to watch someone graphically get shot in the head or see a graphic dismembered or burnt body on primetime tv, but god forbid if there's a "wardrobe malfunction" (I hate that word) and you catch a glimpse of an exposed breast with a covered nipple, or even worse, see someone walking around in their birthday suit.

 

Doesn't make sense.

[misterdiscretion2014 2032]

I think Doctors are living in the same dream world as almost everyone else in this country. I can't decide if the establishment is trying to preserve antiquated christian sexual ideas or is just hellbent on making sure an industry dominated by women isn't allowed to prosper to its fullest economic extent.

[Boomer 33202]

I don't doubt that my doctor would agree that a good sex life is a tonic that leads to a better and healthy life. He knows that as a widower, I use professional women and has never negatively commented on it. As I'm now in my late sixties, he is quite happy to facilitate my needs and provide me with the medication needed as I am getting older.

 

On the other hand I don't think as a family physician I would would expect him to take a public stand, as he has a diverse cohort of patients, from infants to geriatrics like me. It's also not an insurable treatment that he can issue me a Rx lol.

[toklat77 4616]

I would certainly welcome sex workers being added to our health professional culture! I mean we have lots of professionals who help us with our emotions and other conditions, so why not sex? I know ever since I discovered sex that I am happy for it. Sex, after all releases endorphin's which are like candy for the brain! So, sex is good for the body and the mind. It is just our prudish society that frowns upon people actually being able to enjoy themselves!

[oldblueeyez 15475]

Well said. So which one of us is going to take our human right to a healthy sex life to the Supreme Court? :P

[CristyCurves 169032]

Well said. So which one of us is going to take our human right to a healthy sex life to the Supreme Court? :P

 

I was hoping we could go together;)

[oldblueeyez 15475]

I was hoping we could go together;)

 

After my mother's funeral. lol

[VedaSloan 119179]

Because doctors hold the same prejudices about s ex work as anyone else.

[CristyCurves 169032]

Because doctors hold the same prejudices about s ex work as anyone else.

 

Sad but true. Especially when it is in their knowledge that benefits can be had by using the services of. Doctors you would think would have their patients best interests at heart not just their own reputations or be afraid of their morals being judged. changes can only be made when stands are taken and sometimes one has to sacrifice for betterment of all.

[Liv Waters 52360]

Because doctors hold the same prejudices about s ex work as anyone else.

Yes, thank you Berlin!

 

Historically, the medical profession has made an industry of producing expert knowledge based on ideas of sickliness and deviance and suffering, and sex workers, who have struggled for voice in having their experiences accounted for and counter narratives respected, have been a key group to be made subject to this paternalism. A reality that is very hard to change without destabilizing the basis of expert power accorded to medicine.

[Fresh start 17467]

I can't speak for doctors and my opinion based on personal experience with the medical system isn't the greatest. To often treated like just a number and a guinea pig.

 

However, I can say sex workers and even MA's have changed my life. They do what medication could not for me, without harming side effects. Not once have I left a session feeling worse then I did prior like some psychologists sessions. There's nothing wrong with pills or psychologist or other methods but for me the most effective and least harmful has been with sex workers or MA's. I will forever be greatful to the wonderful women I've meet and helped me. I believe the power of touch can be healing in many ways. I sometimes wish some people could live in my shoes and then they would see sex workers the way I do.

[Athos 108589]

I also suspect that sexual health and well-being is something many doctors know very little about. As others have said, most doctors, especially family doctors, likely have all the same hang-ups and misconceptions about sex work as the general public.

[johnybird 4391]

Sometimes you just have to find the right Doctor, I have met a couple of Doctors who were very open to alternative types of medicine. That being said I don't think a Dr. will specifically say that you should have sex with a sex worker but can suggest to have more sex.

 

It's like them saying that you have to lose weight or get more exercise and not go into specifics on what to eat or what form of exercise to get.

 

Whenever my Dr. told me I needed to get more exercise in my daily routine, somehow sex would be one of the first things that came to mind to add in my 'getting fit' repertoire :)

 

What's the alternative? Walking on the treadmill for an hour or 2....or 3..... 4?

 

Not as much fun.

 

*sigh* getting myself worked up again... I need some exercise ;)

[CristyCurves 169032]

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/847470.Health_Care_Without_Shame

 

Here is a link I was given to a book that has good information concerning the subject at hand

[mrgreen760 37785]

Never is a long time......but it'll never happen in my time.

 

Peace

MG

[fr33yay0 1172]

If you give the doctors kickback, they'll recommend it :) just the way life works.

[VedaSloan 119179]

I also suspect that sexual health and well-being is something many doctors know very little about. As others have said, most doctors, especially family doctors, likely have all the same hang-ups and misconceptions about sex work as the general public.

 

The last time I outed myself to a doctor he asked me how I protect myself from sexually transmitted infections. I was shocked.

 

Hurr durr, I dunno, the same as any other sexually active member of society?

 

You're the doctor here, shouldn't you know the answer?

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

When I had my breasts done I was trying to find a polite way to ask the doctor how long before returning to work without actually telling him I was a sex worker. In the end I had to just come out and say it.

 

He looked at me a minute and I could see the thoughts going through his head. He just came out and said , "where would a man find a woman like you ?" It was really funny and although this guy was pretty conservative the thought clearly interested him.

 

There is hope all around.

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

My dr looked at me and said "what's a sex worker?" So I said "I'm an escort". She said "I don't understand". I laughed and said don't worry about it - we'll talk about it another day. And we moved on with my appointment LOL!!

[CristyCurves 169032]

My dr looked at me and said "what's a sex worker?" So I said "I'm an escort". She said "I don't understand". I laughed and said don't worry about it - we'll talk about it another day. And we moved on with my appointment LOL!!

 

The exact reason I don't believe a diploma nor letters after a name indicate intelligence or ability. Sad when those who are supposed to be caring for our health need to educated by their own patients.

[loopie 15358]

I'd love to see the look on a woman's face when a man says "I only cheated on you because my doctor told me to."

 

Somehow, I doubt the expert medical opinion would carry much weight with her in this situation.

[CristyCurves 169032]

I'd love to see the look on a woman's face when a man says "I only cheated on you because my doctor told me to."

 

Somehow, I doubt the expert medical opinion would carry much weight with her in this situation.

 

I would hope an informed and concerned doctor wouldn't tell a patient it's okay to cheat, nor would a rational patient use that as an excuse. Good for a laugh I suppose. In all seriousness my point of the thread was to discuss the need for Doctors understanding the connection between a healthy sex life and mental and physical health. Knowing this should give them cause to support men and women who provide sexual services in a healthy and professional fashion. Many patients I'm sure could use a healthier sex life to improve their overall health and that sometimes means a third party, or for one to step outside the relationship, but in a way that won't hurt either side. Informed people know that sex is an important function for the body, some need more, others less, either way it's natural and shouldn't be thought a shameful or embarrassing subject.