LadyMichelle 730 Report post Posted May 18, 2015 I am just wondering as a SP and with all the stigmas attached to this industry how and if your family knows. Where they supportive or not? How did you explain it to them or do you live a sperate life sort of speak? Also what would you do if someone in your family contacted you to try and book you? Refer them to a reputable lady? 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted May 18, 2015 This is always a worthwhile discussion. One thread that has dicussed some of this is at http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=131965&highlight=double+life Personally, I have told my children, since they see me coming and going a lot and I hate to lie, but I have not told any other family members. Fortunately, none of them live in the same city as me. I guess I reveal it only on a need-to-know basis. I do hate that the stigma prevents us from being able to be totally honest with everyone, and the current government is determined to keep it that way. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LadyMichelle 730 Report post Posted May 18, 2015 My kids do not know. I plan to be honest one day when the are a bit older. My family dose not know. I have friend that are like family that know. Last night I had a family member contact me to try and book so not sure if I should responded and recomened someone else or just ignore it. Not complietly sure if they know it's me but pretty sure they would... Thanks for the link :) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted May 18, 2015 I haven't had family contact me, but I have had neighbours contact me, and I do what you suggested--I recommend another reputable SP to them. Just don't let on to them that the reason you are doing so is because you are a relative. Use another reason, such as you sense you are not a good fit, you are not in their area, etc. Just a suggestion. Good luck. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LadyMichelle 730 Report post Posted May 18, 2015 Thanks, I am deffinitly not a good fit lol. Thanks again great advice. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amelia Fox 9064 Report post Posted May 20, 2015 I live a double life.. I keep this so discrete no one in my family would ever in a million years, believe I'm an escort! I recently this year told some good friends of mine, what I do when I'm not working my other job and thankfully no one really cares. I'm the same girl they always knew, just now have people to talk to that have my best interests at heart. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amber Rose 19012 Report post Posted May 20, 2015 I've been lucky with the family that I have, and my immediate family all know, though some other members do too(step-mom, cousin, etc.). While they weren't all understanding or accepting of it at first, we've all gotten to a much better place over time. I told my mom the first day I started, which I realize now was probably a mistake since it was pretty much on Mother's day, and that was a shitty gift to give her :P I don't like having any secrets from my family, and I know they would question where my money was coming from. My brother was ultra-supportive from the beginning, and he helped me discuss it with my mom and dad to give them a better understanding of the work I was doing, since they only knew it from the roles you would see in the TV or movies. It took them a good while, which I expected, but finally they came around and my mom eventually said that while she may never fully get what I'm doing, she wants me to be happy and she can see it's improving my life and she loves me, so if this makes me happy, then she'll stand behind it. However, the rest of my family might not be quite so understanding, and I know that my parents would prefer them not knowing, so I keep that info to myself during family gatherings. Like Summer said, I do it on a "need to know" basis, I try to judge how the person will react, and if they seem accepting and non-judgemental, then I will discuss it if the timing is right. I do find it annoying sometimes that I can't go into detail about my job when people ask what I'm up to these days, though imagining their look of shock on their face if I did is always an amusing past-time! Posted via Mobile Device 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Isabella Gia (Banned) 53881 Report post Posted May 20, 2015 I'm on the same boat as Lily is, I do know my family would not understand so my current occupation is not something I'll share with them.I'm not sure about my friends so I prefer not to find out, Is not that I'm ashamed of it because I'm not but is not easy for people who have never been part of this to understand how it really is, I've actually have had people that I've met through my job tell me that they would never be friends or anything else with an escort because of their job like if being on the other side makes it any different so if some who are involved in this don't get that what we do for living doesn't define the kind of people we are then there's no much hope that others will (in my case at least.) I'm the kind of person that don't really need to know about what the people I'm friends or somehow connected with do and I never ask people personal questions, I am ok with only knowing what they want me to know as it's the vibe I get from them, the connection we have and who they are as human beings that I care about so being like that makes deciding not to share certain things a bit easier :) 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted May 21, 2015 I'm out to everyone. I mean, it was on my CV when I applied to graduate school. Even my own students know (I am a TA for a first year course). Mom said, "I'm shocked but impressed that you have the courage to take advantage of such a goldmine." My dad was in the navy and saw a few "ladies of the night" in his day and was unperturbed. My sister was not impressed. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest **cely***r***ne Report post Posted May 21, 2015 When I started everyone knew. It was ever where. .not that I wanted it to be but I'm from a small hick town and people like to talk. My mom and dad found out and stopped speaking to me. When I came back most recently (last year) the only person who knows is my mom. I'm back to being daddy's little princess and I like it that way. Mom doesn't care anymore because I'm going to do what I want and she says "it's good for you". Love her! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Helena D'Orville 33237 Report post Posted May 21, 2015 I have told all my friends when I started to work as a private companion. As I have amazing friends, it did not change anything at all between us. And they saw how it improved my life and my health, so they are happy for me. My family members don't know, and they all live far away so chances that they would discover it are quite low. So I do not bother telling them. I am not sure all of them would accept/understand it. And as much as I would like to disclose easily what I do when I am in social events, meeting new people, etc... I know well enough that some people can be extremely narrow minded, stupid, mean, or even dangerous in the way they could talk or act, therefore I only say what I do when I feel confident that it is safe for me to disclose this information. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LadyMichelle 730 Report post Posted May 23, 2015 Thank you for all the replies. I ended up calling him and telling him because we have always been close. He took it great it turned into a lot of laughs and I passed on some helpful info his way of course recommending lyla. Also ended up being a great support to me. All of my close friends know it's more my family that doesn't because they are not all supportive and can be judgmental. I keep it on a need to know basis for the most part but am not ashamed. Thank you all :) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
