name-dropping during appointments

[VedaSloan 119179]

I'm going to go on a bit of a rant today. I'm not trying to offend anyone, but I think something needs to be said.

 

Lately I have had a number of clients who have name-dropped other providers they have been with and then proceeded to try to discuss personal details about their time, OR who have asked me questions about what other escorts are like--but not in a professional, because I might be interested in seeing her kind of way, but in a I want to get dirt on this woman kind of way. Personal type questions. It's not cool to ask me if so-and-so has kids and or if so-and-so does drugs.

 

It is completely tacky to talk about other SP's and it certainly doesn't turn me on to hear your feelings about other SP's. It is none of my business and if you expect me to gossip about my colleagues, it won't happen.

 

While I hate to paint it so bluntly, our relationships with clients are still business relationships and it shows a complete lack of discretion to try to discuss other providers you have spent time with.

[Cleo Catra 178382]

Totally agreed!!!!!

[PistolPete 61421]

Hey Erin, I know what you are saying. How about the shoe is on the other foot, I've seen some providers in the past where some guys were asking weird questions about me!:shock:

Like- whats he like? what kind of vehicle does he drive? how can he afford seeing ladies all the time? what does he look like? where does he work?

 

Hello seriously???? WTF is up with that shit? I have heard everything in the past years, but seriously?

 

As the providers had said "guess the guys are jealous" and nothing was revealed to them.

 

I guess it must human nature to be nosy,and gossip about other people. Why can't men just go to an appointment and have some fun and talk about something like...........SEX

[CasinoMing 1967]

Totally agreed.. talking about other providers.. very disrespectful and yes, tacky.

[Cowboy kenny 50799]

Yes this can be an issue and it does come up often. Some times providers will ask me about other providers I've recommended or written about and I too have experienced the same situation as Pete were clients have asked proviers questions about me, things like my job, income etc. Odd that someone would pay to be in the company of a beautiful woman and want to talk about me, LOL I'll take it as a compliment. Thankfully and respectfully the ladies are always discrete.

 

So just in case anyone wants to know, it's true yes, the boots and the hat stay on the whole time. LOL

[capitalman 3861]

Ignorance is bliss. I mean, I've heard all this crap too and probably asked crap too....and then when I hear things (whether it be true or lies or who knows what) I find myself wishing I didn't know! I'm better off in my own little bubble, enjoying my own little world of ladies and cultivating the fantasy that they are there just for me, all for me and nobody else, and that they are clean and classy and never do anything wrong except see me! :)

 

I'm also old enough and experienced in life enough to know that even the most righteous people can gossip or say bad things and it doesn't always mean they (we?) are bad people or trying to be hurtful. Everyone does things for a reason......there's always a reason behind it, and usually it's out of fear, pride or jealousy.....common human conditions present in all of us.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

Then there's the other-other foot, where the lady, unprompted, starts gossiping about her other clients and peers. Beam me up Scottie! I try to politely steer the conversation quickly in another direction and make a permanent note of the LOUD alarm bells clanging inside my head. If the lady shows no discretion in dishing dirt about her other clients to me, obviously she can be expected to be just as free in dishing dope on me to her other clients. Shields? Up!! Repeat? Not!!

 

I understand it's human nature, though. We are social animals, and wherever there is a community (like Cerb, or a workplace, school, church, etc.etc.) there will inevitably be mutual curiosity and the temptation to gossip.

[VedaSloan 119179]

Ignorance is bliss. I mean, I've heard all this crap too and probably asked crap too....and then when I hear things (whether it be true or lies or who knows what) I find myself wishing I didn't know! I'm better off in my own little bubble, enjoying my own little world of ladies and cultivating the fantasy that they are there just for me, all for me and nobody else, and that they are clean and classy and never do anything wrong except see me! :)

 

I'm also old enough and experienced in life enough to know that even the most righteous people can gossip or say bad things and it doesn't always mean they (we?) are bad people or trying to be hurtful. Everyone does things for a reason......there's always a reason behind it, and usually it's out of fear, pride or jealousy.....common human conditions present in all of us.

 

 

Ahhhh Cappy, maybe I'm just more paranoid and cynical. I feel like if you're asking personal questions, if you're fishing for info, you've got some sort of an agenda.

 

On the other hand, talking about your time with other escorts comes off as insecure.

 

I'm not saying these people are bad people, I'm just saying, this is tacky behaviour and you shouldn't do it.

[Cleo Catra 178382]

I guess it must human nature to be nosy,and gossip about other people. Why can't men just go to an appointment and have some fun and talk about something like...........SEX

 

EXACTLY! I mean, we're not in high school, we're here for some adult fun!!!

[Lexy Grace 103697]

This is totally rotten and a total invasion of privacy. I know it has happened to me and have been told so but what can you do, no matter what profession you are in there will always be jealous haters trying to replace you or think you are trying to replace them or ruin your reputation. Regardless if you are the SP or Hobbyist.

 

In my opinion if you want to know something about me ask. Sometimes people lie thinking you may not see them again or think what does he have that I don't or vice versa. It is very High School but on the other hand it is human nature to become jealous at some point in your life.

 

I do see this one gentleman often and he is amazing we always have a glass of wine and ask how each others week was and I must of had this big smile on my face because he was like what???

I said well "I had a fantasy of mine finally come true, I got banged :bddog:by a hot chick with my strap on" and that was that, he said "sorry that was one I as a man can't do". We laughed and had fun. No details of who she is was ever discussed. That is private information and will remain that way forever.

 

We enjoy talking about our fantasies and try to make as many as possible come true, that one he just couldn't do and it finally happened.

 

You never tell anyone anything personal about a person that someone may be asking about. The nerve of them to even ask. WOW!

 

It hasn't happened to me during a meeting yet but if it does, I will tell them to email them and ask them yourself.