What do you think of picture requests

[Goombata72 1556]

I have talked to a few ladies who use BP and are not on any boards. I have heard these ladies say that guys want pictures before they book. The ladies say that they won't send them. I am okay with that. It is up to them and I understand the reason why the don't want to send a picture.

 

Myself unless I know her from one of the boards or can verify the lady I am more reluctant to go see her because it is taking a chance for a bait and switch or to have something bad happen.

 

I ask her first if she is on a board like Cerb, Terb, Merb or Perb. If not I ask the lady I wish to see that night if she can send a picture of what she is wearing or will be wearing before I visit and book my time. The ladies I have done this with seem to be okay with it. I never ask for pictures of risqué poses just what ever she is wearing before I show up. I think this a good for us people because the picture is of right now not something taken 1 2 or even 6 months ago and gives off a great safety for us.

 

If the lady chooses to no to the picture and I can't find her on a board I just don't go.

 

Is this a good idea or a bad idea? I know if they ask me for information I tell them because safety is always first.

[Amanda-Lee 11094]

It depends on what type of photo is requested. For myself this happens where they want to see my face, I understand the whole safety thing, last thing I will send is what I look like (without the blurred face), I don't know where that photo will end up nor want it all over the internet.

Being an SP and I'm sure other SP's feel the same way, I take my privacy seriously and whoever walks into my home.

 

One idea that is good is that you ask the lady if she has some free time for a coffee/tea that you will grab for her, either at a restaurant or bring it to her at her place and meet. This helps clear the air. A small meeting. I've done this before, meetings ranging from 5 minutes up to an hour. You meet the SP in person, you can discuss more details then, you feel more comfortable, have an idea who she is- she will have a better idea of who you are as well. (some ladies don't prefer this and that is there own choice, for me a meeting is just fine)

 

Taking photos can be hard, do we pay someone to take them, ask a friend, ask a client, get professional photos done, etc., it's hard to come by. I see a lot of selfies and I've taken them before and it's challenging.

 

You can always ask them kindly if they're planning on taking more photos or you can always offer to take a photo or two for her.

 

Wanted to give my perspective because I get asked this question a lot.

[Ice4fun 78407]

From my perspective everyone, both ladies and clients, have to set their own parameters for how they participate in this industry ....

 

Some ladies have regular professional photo shoots and some stick to selfies... some ladies have chosen to show their face in their posted pictures... some never show their face... some only show face pictures in members only sections on their websites and I am betting in all of these situations the lady has given significant thought to the potential ramifications of having their picture out there because once it is out there it is out there forever... they lose control.

 

Unfortunately this industry has significant negative stereotypes attached to it and for many being publicly associated with the industry can have huge impacts both on the lady and on their family and friends.. from my perspective that is unfortunate but is a reality.

 

Because of this reality I think it is extremely important that as a client that I do not either directly or indirectly put additional pressure on any lady to share more then she is comfortable in sharing... I will normally make the assumption that the lady has already shared what she is comfortable in sharing and would not ask for additional pictures and would never leave the impression that unless I see a current pictures or a face picture that I will not complete a booking... for me that is not in any way appropriate. To put the shoe on the other foot what if the lady asks me for a picture of me for her personal safety would I be ok with that if it was someone I did not know... do I want my picture and texts out there for everyone to see.

 

This hobby comes with some inherent risks for both escorts and clients ... for clients it often is the risk of being caught by our significant other or that our activities become public... There is of course the risk to our personal safety or a financial risks associated with a bait and switch or a robbery but frankly in the 20+ years I have been in this hobby I have always found ways to mitigate these risks through good research and thinking safety first.

 

For escorts the risks are so much greater ... they put themselves out there on a daily basis.. unlike us guys who play occasionally... they are constantly in an environment where society and the government has forced them to operate under less than ideal circumstances .. in this environment wonderful ladies have put in place the booking and safety protocols that are right for them including how they handle the desire for clients like me to have more info and more pictures... from my perspective the right thing for me to do is accept the business practice the lady has put in place and not pressure her.

 

Just my Opinion

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

There are some advertisements on BP that do not include pictures and the lady does not have a website, board affiliations like this one or a presence anywhere else. I think in these situations it is prudent for the gentleman to ask for a regular picture, nothing risque or exposing, for his own safety and peace of mind. I know years ago, most booked sight unseen but that was before the internet made it so easy for everyone to participate even those with shady intentions. Best to have an idea what you're walking into before booking. This saves a lot of frustration and upset at the time if things are not as expected.

 

If there are a bunch of pictures in the ad, a website or board affiliation with pictures, it is inappropriate to ask for more or different especially before even meeting or establishing some sort of rapport.

[Guest S****r]

 

Just because she says it is a picture of right now does not mean that it is. The photo can certainly still be from 1, 2, or even 6 months ago. It only means that she SENT it now, not that she TOOK it now.

[Dori 759]

Is this a good idea or a bad idea? I know if they ask me for information I tell them because safety is always first.

 

Its a good idea.

 

In the past year or so there has been an increase in junkies in Kingston. So a lot of "users" will attempt to put up fake pics or just vague body shots. But once you get there you see why no face pics were used.

 

Bait and switchers are climbing. It wasnt this bad before but its definitely a bigger issue now.

 

In the last year or so I've left many times when I showed up and I saw what answered the door. Either because they completely lied in the ad in one way or another, or because they were obvious junkies.

 

If the person you're contacting starts giving you a hard time or making up endless excuses why they cant give you a photo, just drop them. Its totally not worth the hassle to get there and having to walk away.

 

Real providers dont give you the run around, and they dont waste your time either. They have nothing to hide. So the moment you run into someone with something to hide ..... run.

[Goombata72 1556]

Thank you for all the replies.

 

if a sp is on a board or has a web site or both then requesting another picture really is not needed. If the lady does not have a web site or not even on a board then requesting 1 picture that is up dated (does not need to be face picture) should be okay.

 

TwlightBaby

 

People asking for a face picture.

 

I understand where you are coming from. If i seen your ad on BP I may ask you for a right now picture of what you are wearing.(Non Risqué and no Face Picture unless they want to) If you told me that you have a handle on cerb. I could go log in and see your reviews and that also can help putting someone mind at ease.

[Rumor0429 370]

For my self I find it rather annoying when asked for additional photos as I have so many posted on my page. Although if a client were to explain the reasoning I'd have no issue sending an additional photo. ;)

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31728]

I can understand if the lady has no photos posted of course you would like to know what she looks like before agreeing to meet her and yes her being on a site such as Lyla you can see that she is reputable and legit...but if the lady has several photos posted in her ad to ask for a photo only means one thing to me (pic collector)

....Not saying you are or that is your intention

 

I post several pics in my ads on BP and for some strange reason I still get asked for a pic because they want to be sure it's me lol not sure I understand how that would clarify it's me since I never post a face pic for privacy reasons

[Goombata72 1556]

For my self I find it rather annoying when asked for additional photos as I have so many posted on my page. Although if a client were to explain the reasoning I'd have no issue sending an additional photo. ;)

 

Rumor0429 with you I have seen you on boards. If I asked you for a pitcher and you told me you where on these boards/group I would look. At that point I wouldn't need a picture.

 

At the same time if the lady tells the person about the boards/groups and they don't know about it maybe it's a better way to have the guys sign up and get checked. I guess what I am saying is basically if the ladies are only on BP and no where else. I guess if you're unsure then don't go. Just like a lady saying no to seeing someone. Safety is what its all about.

 

Just on a side note I would like to see Verified Person for the guys on here. I am sure there are ladies that Verified Independent would like to see this to if the guy says he's on a board/group.

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

being requested for additional pictures is a pain.

Even though I have several pics on my ads that are elsewhere and references to boards, I still get requests like this.

 

Not only do I consider them really rude sometimes, especially from consistent pic collectors that never book, but the fact remains that I have zero idea of what the guys look like that are booking.

 

Someone said its safety first for them to ask for pics of the girls, and I can see that to avoid bait and switch situations, but what about my safety?

I still have no idea of what you look like or who you are when you are coming into my home.

 

This is specifically prevalent when someone trying to book doesn't even adhere to my booking procedures.

 

I have that in place for my safety, but apparently my safety doesn't matter, as I still don't know who you are or what you look like.

 

On our profiles here, the girls state they are female, where we are located, we have pics and stats, and a little about us.

Most of the guys have just the fact they are male, and perhaps what region you are in.

Other that that, there is generally nothing about you.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

If someone is responding to a backpage ad I always refer them to lyla. I refuse to send pics as that practice is usually in support of a "pic rip". And said "pic rips" somehow are unable to figure out how to navigate the site.

 

Furthermore, I get peeved when someone requests a face pic before booking. If I wanted that out there, don't you think I would add them in my ads? and, seriously, do I really want to meet you if the criteria includes my head shot?

 

Sorry if I sound a bit bitchy but lately the requests have been numerous and sometimes quite outrageous!

 

Ps....dick pics not required nor desired!

[roamingguy 300292]

Just my take on it. The photos a lady provides on her website, profile, ad etc should be enough. I'm guessing in some cases (not all) guys who are requesting pictures have no intention of booking a date, they just want pictures.

I also find an irony here. When someone says he needs a photo to decide whether to see a lady or not, then it seems logical that the picture has to include her face? So a lady has to reveal herself in a photo, and as a consequence give up her privacy. But the irony? Likely a lot of the guys requesting those photos (which requires the lady as consequence giving up her privacy) are the same guys who refuse to get verified/screened, because they are concerned about "protecting" their privacy.

The lady has to consider one other thing. Once something is put on the internet, it never goes away. So she may be keeping that in mind when she decides to post or not post pics and that too has to be respected

Anyhow, the photos a lady provides on her website, profile, ad is what I'll go by. And going by that my experience in this lifestyle has been a positive one

A rambling

 

RG

[Goombata72 1556]

All I know is if asked I will reply and tell her my user name on here. It's only fair. If they are on a board and I can be verified then that should be good for both people involved.

 

They have Verified Independent why not Verified Person. IDK how it works for the ladies on here but for then men should be able to be verified on here also.