Having a seriously rough time mentally at the moment...

[shortandsweetxo 1348]

I am getting really really fed up with the cancellations and the stress surrounding this town. Honestly, outside of a few great regulars, most of the people here treat sex workers like crap.

 

Do you ladies have any suggestions for mentally de-escalating yourself? I'm about to snap on the next guy who cancels. Or asks for a discount. Or just generally makes me want to whip my phone.

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

I so sorry you are having a rough time. This is a lonely profession and if you have no one to vent to it can be even more stressful.

 

First of all, you set the rules. Don't let others make you think otherwise. Plan you day and do things you enjoy. Nothing worse then planning on doing something you enjoy, someone books you, then you put your plans on hold and then they cancel. So, I fit their bookings around my plans and not the other way around. My regulars are my main source of pleasure and income, so they know when they need to contact me to set up an encounter.

 

I never sit around waiting for an encounter. I go about my day, do what I want to do, and if I can see someone great. However, if I don't see someone, I still had a great day.

 

Don't know if this helps, but don't let the few bad apples ruin it for you. Make sure you are screening properly to weed out those that habitually cancel.

 

Feel free to pm me if you have any specific questions.

 

Good luck.

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

Life is tough enough without adding idiots to the mix. Sometimes visualizing a worse situation works for me when I get down. It's not easy though. Hang in there! You're never alone.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Yes there is an answer and that is applying the law of attraction to your business.

 

We've all been there in those rough moments and what vibe you put out, you are attracting right back to you. I'm not perfect. There are some days where I'd like to take a strip off of someone but feeling that emotion will bring more of it directed at me. Notice how you will get one WOT calling or texting, you get furious and it happens again and again and again in the same day? That my friend is the law of attraction.

 

When you are saying what you DON'T want, that's all the universe hears and will give you more of it.

 

In my ads, I say "Rates are FIRM". Why? Again when you say the word DON'T, that's all the WOTS tend to hear and will circle around you like a bunch of sharks. Stop saying in ads "I don't do this or that as much as you can. Instead of saying "No blocked calls", you say "Blocked calls will be ignored." I only have callers now who are willing to follow my protocol. Notice how I said in the previous sentence, I ONLY instead of "Don't?".

 

So set your intention of what you DO want and focus on that but not efforting on it either even in a good way wanting it to happen. Just expect it. Don't ask or try to think about how it will happen. Just know good clients will come your way. You have to believe that.

 

Stress, worry and anger all cause resistance to what you really want. Imagine your good intentions ( i.e. having good clients) was a rocket being launched out into the universe. You want to have good clients. The universe HAS to provide you with what you want. This is the law of attraction.

 

However because you may still have wots on the brain and you feel a need to be in control of the situation then a WOT calls, followed by your own personal frustration and then there are more wots. This is called resistance. You need to let go and trust the universe.

 

You have to wake up everyday and tell yourself you will be seeing nice clients and they will all follow your protocol. Any fear or worry will cause the rocket to go the other way to Wotville.

 

My business has changed as a result with the above info and I have helped a few other friends of mine in the business with learning about the law of attraction and how to apply it in all areas of their life. I'd love to teach a crash course on this for other ladies because it really has changed a lot of things for me in a positive way.

 

Also gratitude meditation works wonders for me in my business because it allows me to appreciate what I already have instead of focusing on what I don't have. See the difference there? When you appreciate, the universe will give you more. Never insult the universe by not appreciating. You need to buy the book "Ask and it is Given" by Esther and Jerry Hicks. This will change anything and everything about you will react to life's situations whether they are major or minor.

 

I still gets the WOTS here and there but you have to respond favorably to YOURSELF instead of reacting to them. I still have my moments but they are few and far between as opposed to wanting to tell them to literally go eff themselves which I would never do because I'm a professional but that's my inner voice coming out right now. lol. I'm sure many have seen me bitch or be rather upfront on certain threads on this site but then I let it go. I have 68 seconds before it becomes a manifestation in my life. I'm able to get out of a mood quicker than I was before because I know what's coming for me if I don't! Once again, I'm not perfect but I'm aware of the tools needed to be used to change my attitude and I do it.

 

There are the secrets that wealthy millionaires use all the time!

 

Notice how the book "The Secret" had so much hype surrounding it 7 or 8 years ago? Why did people give up on it and claim it didn't work? Because they wanted their manifestations or their wants and needs immediately. They wanted it and kept saying "Where is it?" which is resistance so they never received it. It doesn't work like that. And as for winning the lottery, the words "winning" and "lottery" are a large feat and uphill battle words to being with. They are resistance words because they are based on odds which is something else that also has to do with resistance.

 

Set out the intention like mailing a letter, forget about it and it will come back to you. Trust me! I do it everyday. I have small manifestations happening for me. I tend to manifest good things. I can think about a client I haven't seen in a while, set the intention that they will call, forget about them and a few days later they call! Sometimes I have even managed to do this in a matter of a couple of hours and one time in 15 minutes while I was out the Home Depot. lol. I have a list of regulars I do this with in my mind and do it at the beginning of each week. One time 2 out of the 5 called and the other 3 the following 2 weeks after that. This is not luck. It's the universe responding and giving me the manifestations I requested.

 

I also see triple numbers on license plates, on the internet and everywhere I go up to 20 times a day. This means I'm in alignment with the universe when I see this. It's being in sync. But that's a whole other subject which has to do with spiritual awakening and being conscious.

 

I am appreciative of everything and everyone in my life. :)

 

PM me and we can talk.

[shortandsweetxo 1348]

A little positivity goes a long way... Finally things are going better! One good client makes a world of difference! Thank you so much for all the positive comments everyone :)

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

A little positivity goes a long way... Finally things are going better! One good client makes a world of difference! Thank you so much for all the positive comments everyone <img src="http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Smile" smilieid="1" class="inlineimg" />

 

That's great to hear! Now if you wish for any type of abundance or prosperity in your life, here are a few short meditations that work for me in my business.

 

 

 

 

These will all help you manifest good clients!

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

Yes there is an answer and that is applying the law of attraction to your business.

 

We've all been there in those rough moments and what vibe you put out, you are attracting right back to you. I'm not perfect. There are some days where I'd like to take a strip off of someone but feeling that emotion will bring more of it directed at me. Notice how you will get one WOT calling or texting, you get furious and it happens again and again and again in the same day? That my friend is the law of attraction.

 

When you are saying what you DON'T want, that's all the universe hears and will give you more of it.

 

In my ads, I say "Rates are FIRM". Why? Again when you say the word DON'T, that's all the WOTS tend to hear and will circle around you like a bunch of sharks. Stop saying in ads "I don't do this or that as much as you can. Instead of saying "No blocked calls", you say "Blocked calls will be ignored." I only have callers now who are willing to follow my protocol. Notice how I said in the previous sentence, I ONLY instead of "Don't?".

 

So set your intention of what you DO want and focus on that but not efforting on it either even in a good way wanting it to happen. Just expect it. Don't ask or try to think about how it will happen. Just know good clients will come your way. You have to believe that.

 

Stress, worry and anger all cause resistance to what you really want. Imagine your good intentions ( i.e. having good clients) was a rocket being launched out into the universe. You want to have good clients. The universe HAS to provide you with what you want. This is the law of attraction.

 

However because you may still have wots on the brain and you feel a need to be in control of the situation then a WOT calls, followed by your own personal frustration and then there are more wots. This is called resistance. You need to let go and trust the universe.

 

You have to wake up everyday and tell yourself you will be seeing nice clients and they will all follow your protocol. Any fear or worry will cause the rocket to go the other way to Wotville.

 

My business has changed as a result with the above info and I have helped a few other friends of mine in the business with learning about the law of attraction and how to apply it in all areas of their life. I'd love to teach a crash course on this for other ladies because it really has changed a lot of things for me in a positive way.

 

Also gratitude meditation works wonders for me in my business because it allows me to appreciate what I already have instead of focusing on what I don't have. See the difference there? When you appreciate, the universe will give you more. Never insult the universe by not appreciating. You need to buy the book "Ask and it is Given" by Esther and Jerry Hicks. This will change anything and everything about you will react to life's situations whether they are major or minor.

 

I still gets the WOTS here and there but you have to respond favorably to YOURSELF instead of reacting to them. I still have my moments but they are few and far between as opposed to wanting to tell them to literally go eff themselves which I would never do because I'm a professional but that's my inner voice coming out right now. lol. I'm sure many have seen me bitch or be rather upfront on certain threads on this site but then I let it go. I have 68 seconds before it becomes a manifestation in my life. I'm able to get out of a mood quicker than I was before because I know what's coming for me if I don't! Once again, I'm not perfect but I'm aware of the tools needed to be used to change my attitude and I do it.

 

There are the secrets that wealthy millionaires use all the time!

 

Notice how the book "The Secret" had so much hype surrounding it 7 or 8 years ago? Why did people give up on it and claim it didn't work? Because they wanted their manifestations or their wants and needs immediately. They wanted it and kept saying "Where is it?" which is resistance so they never received it. It doesn't work like that. And as for winning the lottery, the words "winning" and "lottery" are a large feat and uphill battle words to being with. They are resistance words because they are based on odds which is something else that also has to do with resistance.

 

Set out the intention like mailing a letter, forget about it and it will come back to you. Trust me! I do it everyday. I have small manifestations happening for me. I tend to manifest good things. I can think about a client I haven't seen in a while, set the intention that they will call, forget about them and a few days later they call! Sometimes I have even managed to do this in a matter of a couple of hours and one time in 15 minutes while I was out the Home Depot. lol. I have a list of regulars I do this with in my mind and do it at the beginning of each week. One time 2 out of the 5 called and the other 3 the following 2 weeks after that. This is not luck. It's the universe responding and giving me the manifestations I requested.

 

I also see triple numbers on license plates, on the internet and everywhere I go up to 20 times a day. This means I'm in alignment with the universe when I see this. It's being in sync. But that's a whole other subject which has to do with spiritual awakening and being conscious.

 

I am appreciative of everything and everyone in my life. :)

 

PM me and we can talk.

 

Interesting post, Nicollette. In some martial arts they also practice Zen. It's more of an attitude than a belief and it's all about letting go of materialistic distractions and internal conflicts and maintaining a positive or optimistic outlook on life. The practice is it's own reward but if good things come your way as a result of staying positive... win, win!

 

I recall a coach saying "you don't have to win but remember, you also don't have to lose". That is strangely similar to your approach in that the focus isn't on the result but on the journey and on staying positive and not letting negativity take hold of your thoughts and defeat you before you've even begun.

 

I hope I'm making sense. It's not easy to explain. :)

[crankF 12893]

A little positivity goes a long way... Finally things are going better! One good client makes a world of difference! Thank you so much for all the positive comments everyone :)

 

Please consider a couple of sessions with experienced Reiki master/energy therapist. I didn't believe in chakras or clearing of negative energy until I experienced myself. It isn't terribly costly, at least not the lady I see. :)

[shortandsweetxo 1348]

Apparently the universe decided today was my day! I lost my wallet over a year ago and before I moved to my new place. I thought it was long gone! Called the Inn in Kingston to book a room for my visit... Turns out they have held onto it for over a year because they couldn't get in touch with me!

 

My head is spinning and I think my face might break if I smile anymore! This is way better than I ever thought possible...

[Helena D'Orville 33237]

That's wonderful news! Some magic does happen in life sometimes!

 

I hope to have the chance to meet with you tomorrow for a coffee. If not, this means you will be very busy, which will be good ;-)

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Apparently the universe decided today was my day! I lost my wallet over a year ago and before I moved to my new place. I thought it was long gone! Called the Peachtree Inn in Kingston to book a room for my visit... Turns out they have held onto it for over a year because they couldn't get in touch with me!

 

My head is spinning and I think my face might break if I smile anymore! This is way better than I ever thought possible...

 

That is wonderful news! Because you were in a positive frame of mind by having a visit with a good client, this brought you more abundance and what I would call a small miracle.

 

The following video fits your situation very nicely!

 

 

 

A manifestation I had been waiting for a long time came to me today. It is not a material item but rather someone I would consider very special. Today was a beautiful day!

 

The universe is now in alignment with you and the smile on your face means you are in the vortex! The vortex is where all good things happen!

[shortandsweetxo 1348]

That's wonderful news! Some magic does happen in life sometimes!

 

I hope to have the chance to meet with you tomorrow for a coffee. If not, this means you will be very busy, which will be good ;-)

 

I hope we get time for coffee for sure! I will be finding out tomorrow if they can get me in for an early check in, if not I may come in an hour early and do coffee if you can help me figure out the buses in that town for afterwards! haha..

[backrubman 64800]

Life sometimes throws us a curve ball and we have to cancel but there are some real gentlemen here who realize the work you go though to get ready to spend your time with us and how you can't immediately book someone else to take our place, so if we have to cancel we still donate in full, at least I do (and I know there are others that feel the same way) on those very rare occasions.

 

We also greatly respect what you do for us and treat you with the respect and admiration you deserve.

 

Very sorry to hear you have encountered a few men that are still boys and haven't grown up yet. Hopefully as time goes on you will find regular clients who are more worthy of your time.

[Taylor, Olivia Devine 16934]

I enjoy taking my frustration out at the gym, put some music on in my headphones and feel the beats, have a hard workout :)

[shortandsweetxo 1348]

Can I just say how wonderful this is... The level of support in this forum makes me feel so much stronger. Just knowing I'm not alone and I can sign in any time and there are people who have shared my experiences and care about my venting... It's uplifting.

 

Thanks to all of you! Many virtual hugs are being sent your way :)

[TorontoMelanieJolliet 4458]

I will have to go back through this thread and re-read. It contains good advice and suggestions that are a new way of seeing things, that I also, could use right now.

 

Thank you everyone

[Sasha Stone 521]

Whenever I get frustrated with the type of contact I'm receiving I take a breath and tell myself to have gratitude. It sounds kind of silly but it's difficult to carry gratitude all day, every day and it helps for me to remind myself of it. I find that once I say thank you for the ability to do this job, the awesome people I do get to meet and the wonderful opportunities it's opened up for me in my life I come down in stress. I know that it's tough sometimes, I think we all get to the point where we've had enough and just want to throw our phones out the window. If it's stress that continues for more than a couple days I simply take a step back, have a bit of time off and come back when I'm refreshed.

[Brody Boivin 8445]

Hi there Kate!

 

Everyone has those days, where you want to call it quits or throw a nail file at someone. Just breathe. Go do something during these moments, for yourself that is positive reinforcement, so you don't feel down on yourself.

 

Some people cancel, or don't show up, that's with every profession. I myself have had days like that. When I need a breather I leave my phone on to know if I am wanted and give myself, me time to calm myself. Being alone after a while, along with the typical stresses of socializing with the time wasters and such can make one lose it a little sometimes. I have had moments where I had a lot on my plate personally, to go along with no shows etc, and have taken entire days off, to just get a hold of myself. There's nothing wrong with stepping back and focusing on you.

 

Allow yourself to take control of your needs and simply remind yourself that it will get better. You are bright and fruitful, and you will make it. Bad days happen and there will always be idiots contacting you looking to play games or score unrealistic specials or simply not show up.

 

Just love yourself, in simple terms. Let the BS roll off and move forward.

 

Hope that helped, Kitten xo