Question about age

[Guest *ha***op]

Hey all,

 

Still pretty new to the site and hobbying in general. Something is really getting to me though. I am 28 years old...MANY (perhaps even most) providers will simply say they do not see men under 30. Obviously their perogative but why is this? I could pass for 30 but not willing to lie about my age.

 

I have an engineering degree, and my related career is very important to me. I am certainly not what I would call wealthy, but definitely successful.

 

Are the issues with clients under 30 more related to finance or behavioural things? Its getting to the point where I almost want to ask if anyone sees clients under 30 haha. Sorry if this had an angry tone, its just getting frustrating!

[marriedbutnotdead 3844]

not sure where you are looking but I have never been asked my age, if the provider you are looking at has an age limit, I am guessing it is more behavioral and not financial. Good luck

[Guest *ha***op]

However in an initial message I always state only my age and race (caucasian), as I have seen providers say they will not see certain ages or races. Also just as a sort of courtesy. Sometimes even when there is nothing about age in their ad they will respond saying they do not see men under 30. Should I just stop disclosing my age?

[Guest *ha***op]

Why oh why do I like mature women so much :(

[NotchJohnson 214123]

Why oh why do I like mature women so much :(

I can answer that one for you sharkpop, they are way more confident in themselves and they know how to please a man. This is in general, I have seen younger woman that can please very well also.

[fr33yay0 1172]

I had to lie once.... now I am 30, but when I started I wasn't. To be honest I think its the default category of our race group that screws things up! lol

[Ice4fun 78407]

I have been active in this industry as a client for well over 20 years and have seen lots of posts by ladies saying they restrict their client to over 30 or 40... interestingly while I have never been turned down for a booking because I was to young I was recently turned down by a lady who told me she does not see anyone over 50.

 

Getting turned down for a booking is never fun especially when you have already developed an interest in a particular lady but let's be honest while we might sit back and say hey why does she not see anyone under 30 Like somehow it's not right we never stop to think we do the exact same thing... we might not right it in an ad... but we read ads and skip over ladies who don't meet the selection criteria we have in our mind... so really what the difference.

 

Just my Opinion

[asuran 1138]

True, we pick and choose who we see as well by looking at the ads and checking their stats. They absolutely have the right to choose who they see or don't see.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I have an age restriction of 30+. I am older and I find it's a generation gap for me. Most guys I've met under 30 and even those in their early 30s just want to get banged and it's always scripted on their part. There is no ease and flow and often times I felt like I was in a really bad amateur porn movie.

 

I like romance, sensuality and most younger guys just make me feel like a piece of meat. I'm sure there are exceptions out there and I have experienced them but it's always "What's the best you can do? I dont have enough money, how many times in a half hour?" I'm not a drive thru menu so dont treat me like one.

 

If more younger men took the time to approach women differently instead of a text with simply a $$$$ sign and not even a "Hello, how are you?", perhaps I would consider it. If you want the truth, they get too caught up in what can they get for this and that which some can't afford and frankly i offer an experience as opposed to these young guys put a large emphasis on the dollar amount being equivalent to something particular to the point where it broken down into a menu. That's where it is really off putting.

 

To answer your question...for the most part, it's behavioral and financial. Today's generation of younger people do not have tge same etiquette like previous generations of younger people and i would say it's because of technology. Like I said, there are exceptions and if a younger guy actually took the time to approach me the proper way, I would consider it. I go with my intuition and always reading people through what they say through text message or on the phone. The questions they ask etc data its all and is enough for me to accept or decline.

[Guest S****r]

I do see younger guys, myself, but I must admit that, as the other ladies have already stated, most no-shows or last minute cancellations are the younger guys. They do not seem to understand that they affect our income when they do that. I know at least one girl who now requires a deposit from anyone under 30 in order to book them because of all the no-shows.

 

Some I have met have been as Nicolette said--all about what am I going to do for or to them, rather than enjoying a full sensual experience. Probably all of my requests for short sessions have been from young guys, too. I don't play that way. For me it is all about taking the time to savour each touch, each stroke, each taste and experience full mutual pleasure.

 

But on the other hand, lots of others have been lots of fun, too.

 

So most, if not all, ladies who have a 30+ only policy have instituted that because of bad prior experience.

 

Still.....there are some of us who do still see younger guys. :-)

So don't give up!

[Guest *ha***op]

With respect, "todays generation" is such an indelibly sweeping generalization. This is a group of millions of people.

 

If I said "todays SP's are *negative adjective*" I'm sure a lot of you would have something to say, and rightly so. I understand what you ladies are saying though, and I cant argue against personal experience.

 

So to all the men my age(ish), don't speak like a caveman and show up.

 

Thanks for the insight and discussion everyone.

[Sweet Emily J 172062]

I'm only 30 myself, but I enjoy the company of men of all ages, including the younguns'! As long as he is a legal adult, I'm game! Fresh meat can be a lot of FUN! Can't go wrong with a little youthful enthusiasm. ;)

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

This is strictly based on many, many personal experiences. The etiquette is not what I'm used to.. I don't respond to "Hey". I'm not an animal or someone to shout at. As soon as I see that, I know it's a younger person.

 

I have younger generation in my family and with texting, there is a different etiquette with short cut acronyms to save time. This is a fact and that's fine for the world we live in. However, when you're dealing with a business that is offering something intimate in nature, a little effort in an introduction goes a long way and perhaps typing a few more characters. Maybe it's just me but I'm old fashioned that way.

 

This isn't directed at you as a person. Everyone is different and I'm sure you're a fine person.

 

And as for SPs, we hear those sweeping generalizations from clients and society in general every single day as well as on discussion forums. I know who I am and I don't take it personally. Neither should you.

 

There are many ladies who would be happy to see you.

 

 

 

With respect, "todays generation" is such an indelibly sweeping generalization. This is a group of millions of people.

 

If I said "todays SP's are *negative adjective*" I'm sure a lot of you would have something to say, and rightly so. I understand what you ladies are saying though, and I cant argue against personal experience.

 

So to all the men my age(ish), don't speak like a caveman and show up.

 

Thanks for the insight and discussion everyone.

[asuran 1138]

As we are all creatures of emotion, I'd rather a provider not to see anyone they are personally not comfortable with.

 

It's all about comfort level. There are people/providers that are comfortable with everyone then there are those more discerning.

 

For us guys, if we're not comfortable with a lady, we'd have trouble getting it up, so to speak. I think ladies have something similar, we guys don't understand.

[JoyfulC 132299]

I find myself a bit uncomfortable with much younger guys. I ask you guys to accept that it's me, not you. In order to deliver a great experience, I have to feel comfortable. And I just don't with guys under 30. I can try. And sometimes it clicks. But it is harder.

[Bianca Jaguar 39183]

I do see youngers guys but I so agree with other Ladies...and 90% is not exaggerated...fortunately there is always that 10% of really awesome young guys...so I keep hoping ;)

 

Like Summer said...there are some of us that will still see younger guys :)..keep searching :)

 

Bianca

[Goombata72 1556]

IMHO

 

When I am asked my age race weight I tell them this

Age- Over 29 and Under 129

Race- I am very untanned

Weight- I was born at 8pound 7ounce and have put on a lot of weight since then. I stand at 5.11-6.1 depending on my shoes I am wearing at the time.

 

At this point they send me 1 of 2 types of texts messages

 

1- if you don't want to tell me then you can go beep yourself

 

2- lol okay thats pretty funny looking forward to meeting you. I'm at blank text when you arrive :-)

 

The reason I do it this way is because it's the truth. If I get there and at that point they can say to me I don't want to see you. Just like I have that choice at that same point.I can say You're not what I was looking for. Every person has the right to this choice and no person should force someone to do something they don't want to do. My number 1 rule when going to meet the person is what they decide to do or say is there choice and I will respect that. We as people need to respect the choices sp make. If its age weight race it is that sp choice to see that person. Just think how you would feel if someone came to you and made you do something you didn't want to do. Age is only a number.

[Guest s******ecan****]

I have always been completely honest in regards to any question an SP has asked during pre-booking. I can't imagine playing games or doing it any other way. I also expect an SP to be upfront and honest in answering my questions.

 

I don't think the age restriction is any different than any other restriction an SP may have in place (no blocked numbers, certain restrictions on services offered, attempts to negotiate, etc).

 

One of the great things about being self employed is that you get to choose your clients.

 

I see no problem with an age restrictions.

[Eva Laperle 7898]

Hi sharkpop,

 

To answer your question: Are the issues with clients under 30 more related to finance or behavioral things?

I think that most of time answer is yes! As many stated here, it is indeed related to behavior, respect of etiquette and sometimes maturity too.

 

For those reasons, some ladies may feel more comfortable with older gent. It's simply a matter of personal choice & comfort.

 

But don't worry too much. If you're a nice guy with respectful manners, I'm sure lots of ladies would accept to meet you (provided you respect their etiquette). Tip: You can also ask a lady you met before to vouch for you... it always help.

 

At the end of the day, most ladies want to verify that you're a safe and recommended date. :) Be a real gent and you will be fine!

Cheers,

Eva