What brings you here?

[Ann Gallerie 7910]

Greetings, sisters and brothers,

 

I would like to suggest a forum for how you came to be involved in the business. I trust I'm not repeating anything, but I have found that many of the people on Lyla/CERB are very interesting.

 

I would love to hear your story.

 

That includes the clients, too. I am sure that they have a story to tell.

 

My story begins when I was a child. I was born in England. My mother always told us to respect working women, because they provided a valuable service. That attitude has prevailed my entire life.

 

That life has been rich, fulfilling, and successful in the real world. As an older woman, I found myself becoming a counterpart to mature, successful men. A connection of mutual choice on an intellectual, sexual and even spiritual level, without the dross of expectation. Simply put, I love men. Compensation is the boundary.

 

What is your story? What brings you here; motivates and stimulates you? Why do you love what you do? I'd love to hear your story.

 

Cheers,

 

Ann XXX

[Ice4fun 78407]

I have been a client in this industry for well over 20 years... I started primarily as a bit of fun when I traveled for work... many of my coworkers would hit the bars when we were on the road drinking and hoping to pick up someone for the night... I was married and this never really appealed to me so I would often head off to the casino or the strip clubs (ok ok more often the strip club) I considered this harmless fun and frankly got to meet some amazing ladies this I think naturally transitioned into seeing escorts which has in my opinion been great fun.

 

I am older now and approaching retirement in the last 10 years our family has experienced some significant challenges which undoubtedly has impacted the relationship between my wife and I. I love her as must as I ever did and will never leave her... she will always be the one true love of my life but our situation has changed and the companionship that once was there is not any longer so I have sought it more frequently with wonderful companions in this industry. I have met so many wonderful ladies some of which I can honestly say have made a dramatic impact on my life... this industry with all its negative images and stereotypes has so many amazing.... giving... caring participants... so many other sectors of our community could learn a thing or two about life from the ladies of Lyla.

 

As I do head into retirement I hope i have many more years of meeting people in this industry.

 

Just my opinion.

[Bianca Jaguar 39183]

In my case...life through a few curve balls at me.. I had a great job for years but wasn't happy so I quit and opened my own business but after 5 yrs it didn't work out anymore so I started doing webcam.

 

In 2011 my photographer showed me a website of a lady stating that she had taken her pictures...I was in Ahhhh!!! At that moment, I knew I was gonna be a provider one day...VJ was my inspiration :)

 

Almost a year after I started webcam...I met Carrie Moon...and here I am today...Thanks to you Carrie xxx

 

I worked with people all my life interacting with the public...I was once called Miss PR (public relation) lol...

 

This work brings out the best in me!

 

That's my story...

Bianca

[johnybird 4391]

I was with my wife for 24 years, happily married for 17 of those. I truly believed that we would grow old together, but unfortunately life has a way of throwing a monkey wrench in your plans.

 

She past away almost exactly a year ago from a rare form of cancer. She was diagnosed 6 years ago, even though they said it hadn't spread and they were confident everything was out, it came back 3 years later...& it came back with a vengeance.

 

Our marriage wasn't perfect but like every relationship there are ups & downs, I had always remained faithful to her and never had a sliver of doubt during those bad times that I still wouldn't spend the rest of my life with her. She was the Yin to my Yang, we couldn't be more opposite lol! but I truly & deeply loved her, even after 24 years together she was still able to give me butterflies whenever I would glance over and look at her or especially during our intimate times together ;)

 

The last year of her illness we couldn't be intimate with each other (cancer was in her bones) which I was fine with especially considering everything she was going through.

 

A few months after she passed I started going through what I call "Affection Withdrawal", I'm a touchy feel person by nature, love hugging, kissing, holding, etc.. all the good stuff :). I really didn't want to start the dating scene just yet or even go to bars or clubs to pick up women either (not really my thing anyway), so I looked into the Escorting world.

 

Now I'm not going to lie and say it wasn't for the sex but it wasn't 100% for the sex, I was just missing holding & caressing someone. I was fortunate enough to have a very sweet Escort as my first encounter, which made me see this lifestyle in a completely different light. I was also very quick to realize that 1 hour dates were way to short :)

 

Like I've mentioned on other threads, seeing Escorts has helped me and brought me back to happy :D I have been getting the itch to get into another relationship lately though. I am far from being needy but I just miss having that connection with someone and it would be nice to have someone around without having to book an appointment to see them :icon_razz:

 

When I do find that special someone it will be really difficult to lose touch with some of the wonderful women that I see somewhat regularly in this business. I have gotten to know some of them really well.

[Ann Gallerie 7910]

Thanks, Johnnybird. It`s good to know that our gals made a difference! ;)

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

I'm married. We met in our early 20's. I never considered straying until our sex life dropped off a cliff around 40. The reasons are private but one day my wife said she would understand if I fooled around. Her only request was that I only have one night stands. She didn't want me getting attached to another woman. I told her not to worry, I was happy in our marriage. Eventually, I discreetly looked into professional and high end escorts and ended up here. I plan to remain discreet for as long as I'm doing this. If I get caught, we'll work it out. I would never consider leaving her as we both love each other too much to be apart. We all have our reasons for being on here. I'm comfortable with mine.

[NotchJohnson 214129]

Like many of the married man here I am happy in my marriage but lack the intimacy with my wife. I don't want the wham bam thank you mam' kind of sex, I look for finer things that a lady can bring me. I love kissing and holding a lady close to me and to be appreciated for being me. I'm a bit eccentric but isn't that a quality?

I have been a member here since 2008 because the girls I have seen from other site where just that "girls".

 

NJ

[itsnotme09 360]

I first joined here when things weren't great at home. ...lacking affection, mostly. I kinda just lurk, but really enjoy reading people's posts here. I love the openness of such a usually taboo subject. I'm a man of very few words usually so I don't post much at all.

 

I've never booked anyone's services yet for a few reasons. First, I'm very very picky because I don't plan to make it a hobby. So if there is one that might be it. I might try to fit a few outstanding bucket list items so I need to pick wisely...

 

But things are getting better at home now so who knows... I'll play that by ear I guess. I still find the discussions interesting so I might stick around a while.

[AUTUMN RAINE 15548]

Being the East Coast .. I was born out of wedlock and legally adopted by my grandparents in NL .. life with them was perfect .. i had and did everything a child would want but they never told me that they were sick .. I was 15 when I said good-bye to both of them .. Yes .. 6 weeks apart .. Cancer is cruel .. well I was soo scared that welfare would take me and put me in a foster home .. I hitch-hiked of the island to Halifax .. 15, scared, broke, and ALONE .. well .. i went the catholic church on Spring Garden Road ( I was raised in a strict Catholic Home ) to ask for help .. within a day I had a job 11 - 7 at Tim Horton's by the base and went to high school by day and struggled to pay for food and a rooming house in MusGrave Park .. Well, I graduated high school and joined the military to have stability but lack friends and adult guidance .. i met 2 lovely ladies in my apt bldg who danced and we became friends, they knew i wanted a 2nd job so they invited me down to the local strip bar to apply as a waitress LOL .. well the regular patrons put money down to see me naked .. haha .. boy it was scarey yet exciting and for the first time since my parents died .. I FELT IN CONTROL .. POWERFUL ..

That power has taken me across Canada and USA as a feature Attraction dancer, of course .. it never was enough .. so magazine shoots, soft porn, voyaguer cam shows, Seeking Arrangements, to the " Escort High Life " lol ..

The people whom I have met during my 30 years in the sex industry has been from all walks of life and each and everyone of them has taught me something and has touched my life ..

I hope that i will continue this road for a few years still and meet many of you fine people of LylaLand ..

Thanks for listening xo

[kmwq 5477]

Very similar to most here, I love my wife and we are still very much in love but we were never very compatible when it came to bedroom matters. Mostly it seemed she participated to please me and probably she wanted to start a family. Once we had the family, our bedroom activities disappeared. It slowly dropped off over a 10 or so year period and then I realized that I was constantly needing it and pleasuring myself to keep the desire at bay. I was becoming bitter and miserable and thought long and hard about asking for a divorce but could not see myself happy without her in my life.

 

I went through some serious meditation and soul searching and realized that having an affairs was out of the question. In the end, I decided to get a non-RMT massage because it did not involve any "participation" on my part and that was how I rationalized it to myself that I was not cheating. I was travelling for business a fair bit in Europe and Australia which gave the opportunity as there were many legal establishments to choose from. That lead to meeting some amazing ladies who provided the release and over time, I participating by touching them back and then the reverse massage and then seeking out the full encounter. My frequent business travels to Europe and Australia ended about 8 years ago but I was still travelling within Canada and that is when I found this website. I learned the norms of how to behave and to participate safely here in Canada, so I owe this site a debt. I try to contribute where I can even though I haven't been able to participate much since the stupid new law came into effect. I'm currently back to self pleasuring again but hope to re-enter the hobby soon.

 

One final note, my relationship with my wife over this time has improved dramatically. I'm no longer resentful of her for not wanting to be active in the bedroom. We enjoy each other's company, we attend the theatre, concerts, museums and galleries, we started hiking again and travelling for pleasure and have rediscover the activities that brought us together in the first place. This is the life that we had wanted with each other.

[Guest S****r]

I am often asked by clients how I happened to enter the field at this stage of life. (40+) So here is the story:

 

I am a single parent of three kids. One of them developed some very special needs a few years ago which require a lot of intense, roller-coaster emotional involvement. After some time, their dad decided (after 20 years of marriage) that he couldn't cope with it all, and left. I don't blame him. It has indeed proven to be a very difficult road. However, when he left, he cut off all contact with the entire family, including, of course, finances. I struggled desperately in poverty for those years while I tried to get myself and the family on solid ground. I finally re-established my career in education and was able to start looking outward a bit. As I started dating again, and realized how much I had missed sex in the interim, it crossed my mind upon occasion that perhaps the combining of my love of sex and my need for money could resolve some problems. But, having only seen the sex industry's portrayal in movies and on tv, I thought it was something to stay away from. Until...one day I heard an interview on CBC radio by a woman who was an escort who described a life totally different from the one portrayed in movies.

 

It set me thinking, and so I decided to track this woman down. I managed to do so, and she graciously communicated with me a couple times, along with another escort friend of hers, and I began to see new possibilities. I talked the idea over with one good friend, who advised me to proceed with caution, knowing that I could always get out of it if it didn't work out. So, I decided to take the plunge.

 

I will never forget the nervousness before my first few clients, along with a brief burst of fear just before I opened the door, wondering who would be standing on the other side. Fortunately, not only my first few, but almost every single client that I have ever met with, have proven to be very decent human beings with whom I have been able to truly relax and have genuine fun with. A couple have even turned into very good friends.

 

So that is what brought me here. How will it all end? Who can say? I have lived long enough to know that life hands out surprises that you never foresee coming, so I would never be so naive as to make any prediction. For now, all is well, and I am fully enjoying this side "job," some days even more than my chosen career!Thank you to those who have come to see me. I sincerely mean it when I say that I have enjoyed our time together!

 

With warm kisses,

Summer

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

I came into being in this from curiosity.

 

I saw other girls at college having a lifestyle that was way outside their known income.

Living off campus, lavish apartments, fabulous clothes, how the hell were they doing it?

Curiosity got to me.

Now, being in college, I think we all know what happens.

Frat parties, dorm parties the whole ball of wax.

Hooking up with someone at these events is practically considered normal.

A few drinks, all of a sudden you're in bed with someone.

 

I did eventually talk to one of the girls, as we were in a couple of classes together, and she told me. I was invited to her place for study and was completely astounded at it.

Here I was, living in a shared dorm room and not loving it, but it was all I could afford, and she had this absolutely fabulous place.

 

After talking to the girl with the great apartment, and having a tremendous argument with my roomie, I decided why the hell not get paid for it?

 

If I'm going to have one-night stands, they may as well be enjoyable and with someone that wants to be with me, rather than someone that just figures I'm an easy lay! lol

 

The next term I moved out of the dorms into my own apartment and have never looked back since :-)

 

I enjoy the passion and the touch that I receive from gentlemen, and the thought of giving them what they need out of this, without a long term commitment, is very appealing to me.

 

This life has had its ups and downs, it hasn't always been wine and roses, but there have been more good experiences than bad ones.

 

Encounters that are several hours in length, where you can talk, touch, get together and cuddle afterwards, is a life that I can't imagine being without now.

It gives me great joy when someone becomes a regular, and little gifts for me of appreciation. They have no idea what that means to me :-)

 

For those that are married, if what I do with them gives them more intimacy in their marriage, then I feel that I do a great service.

[travelfreak 600]

I have been in and out over the last 15 years and I tried to quit, many times without success. With a relationship going cold I still didn't want to break if off, happened anyway eventually. It all started when traveling for weeks and not wanting to go to bars to try to hook up with a random lady, I decided to go this way instead. My first experience was in Edmonton and I still remember the feeling when I left, it was like a drug. Someone that would be so pleasant and so focused on making me feel like a king was such a rush I had never felt before.

 

During the many years I have met a number of amazing people and even have made some friends that I still meet on a friends basis. I never regret getting involved in this business as it has always filled a void and the people I met have been just amazing. I have attended socials in Montreal and Ottawa and met all you amazing people of this community.

 

I respect the work you do and your decisions in life and I wish all of us would do that so you can feel safe during any encounter. Too bad there are always the select few that can make a mess and cause harm to people.

 

Stay safe and have fun!!

[Wolf Knight 29667]

I had a very active sex life with my wife and she expressed the desire to enjoy another woman. Well we discussed it and I indicated that I wanted to watch and perhaps play with both of them if the vibe was right. We didn't want the potential hassle and drama of looking for a participant in our home town for discretion reasons so we decided that a professional companion would be best.

 

We both searched and she chose an amazingly beautiful companion and I contacted her. This particular companion had the preference of meeting us individually first to develop a rapport before having a MFF date. I met with the lady first and had my date and discovered that I really enjoy the tingle and excitement of meeting and exploring different ladies. The rest as they say is history and I've been super fortunate to have enjoyed the company of many wonderful ladies across this country.

 

Although, initially I enjoyed the diversity, life circumstances evolve and I've found myself drawn toward finding one select lady that I can connect with on a deeper more intimate level. I've been lucky enough to have found two ladies at two different times who I chose to see exclusively and the last one I grew particularly close with before she decided to leave the scene. The loss of her as a genuine friend, confidante and lover hit me a little hard so I took an extended hiatus after that.

 

Lately, I've been feeling the need to find another muse.

 

Cheers

[Guest st*****ens**ors]

My wife lost interest in the physical part of our relationship shortly after our marriage. She is the love of my life, and I have no intention of doing anything to hurt her, much less ending the relationship, but for years I have grappled with the loneliness of my new and unwanted celibacy.

 

An affair isn't something I could contemplate. However, this past summer I visited a couple of spas and was really grateful for the kindness and human touch of MAs. I visited my first SP this autumn, mainly because I wanted to be able to simply hold someone for a while without the trappings of therapy. I requested an R rated date, rather than X and it was pretty amazing, enough that I repeated in a couple of days. The second time, I was offered more contact than I had set as my limit during the encounter, and in the heat of the moment I accepted. It was... fairly mind blowing, but I confess I've been beating myself up about it ever since. It feels like I've crossed a line I can't come back from that changes how I have to feel about myself as a man and a husband. I know the distinction is in many ways an arbitrary one, but it had meant something to me; a way of keeping my commitment while still being allowed to have a bit of intimacy and affection in my life again.

 

I don't plan to cross that line again. As wonderful as it was at the moment, it hasn't been worth the sleepless nights since. I feel nothing but gratitude to the SP involved... she was very generous and kind to me.

 

Can one still think of himself as a faithful husband and have intimacy of any sort outside of his marriage? I haven't worked it through yet.

 

Wishing all of you well.

 

Edited to say: Apologies if that was a little angsty. I've been grateful to this community over the last few weeks for their thoughtful and thought-provoking posts, and for the reassurance that my situation is far from unique.

[mrrnice2 157005]

Wow I can't believe that I missed this thread. There are some really interesting stories here and for me the post by johnybird on page 1 was powerful and resonated so very much with me. He and I have some similarities and also significant differences.

 

My wife and I had been together for 40 years and unlike his wife, her death came suddenly and totally unexpectedly. It was something that I had virtually never considered as a possibility because unlike me she was the poster girl for healthy living. It should not have happened that way and it was wrong. After five years I still do not understand the why of it.

 

I found that I missed companionship and yes, the touch of a woman. Little did I know that the experience would evolve into ever so much more - very frequently there was I believe the reality of each of us caring about the other as people. Not always, but more often than not.

 

After several years I left this site, what at that time was called Cerb, the main reason being confusion over what was real and what was not. Gotta say I was pretty confused.

 

A year later I came back with perhaps more of a sense of reality of what this is. Right or wrong I have tried to be more distant and I don't like that part.

 

I am pretty well resigned that I shall be alone 99% of the time and barring the miracle of happening upon a second true love that is what shall be. Most people don't have it the first time as I did for so long. For that I am grateful and for some of the women that I have met here I am equally grateful.

[Jessikitten 349]

I have only been an escort for 3 months.

I started when I separated from my husband of 8 years. We have two young children together who we each have 50% of the time. I have a "real" career that I love and am passionate about. Before my separation I was hired for a position that I had only dreamed of doing. Unfortunately, I took a cut in hours for this new job. It was doable because my husband was working and we were receiving a lot of help from his wealthy family. When we separated this financial support came to an end quite abruptly.

I found myself alone and struggling financially. I decided that I had to do something quickly or I would end up homeless. I searched the Internet for local escorts and contacted one who was kind enough to give me a lot of advice and encouragement. I placed an add and to my pleasure I received a lot of responses. I carefully chose my first client and he was a dream client.

Now I am starting to establish myself as a trusted and appreciated provider. I have some wonderful regulars and rarely need to see new clients at all. I feel empowered knowing that I can take care of myself and my children while continuing to excel in my career. Not only that but I am able to enjoy intimacy at a point in my life when I have absolutely no desire for a traditional relationship.

Thank you all for being such a supportive and lovely group! You make this new adventure of mine so much less lonely.

[nscanguy 150]

What a thoughtful thread with so many touching circumstances.

 

I want my kids to grow up with both parents in their home. There's distance when it comes to intimacy. Often it's like the obligations of running a household together just kill the mood. In some bizarre way I feel like I'm a more accepting and even supportive husband now that there is another outlet for some of my wants.

 

It is an amazing feeling to spend time with someone who is so into the chosen activities.

 

I'm quick to admit this is 110% selfish on my part and hope to keep it compartmentalized.

 

I do drift between the SP and sugar baby worlds as I enjoy longer visits.

[Bully 383]

Grew up old school, intimacy wasn't there. Did right by my family, children fulfilling their dreams and healthy. Family will be taken care of. Still searching for intimacy, friends splitting up, family members passing on. Old conventions and institutions to count on ,not anymore, failing expectations. Fought the reaper beat him this time, he'll be back. Deadlines , emergency calls 3 o'clock in am, intimacy, soft touch not found,still looking, a passionate kiss maybe. Did everything was supposed to.Put in 60 -70 hour weeks. A softer age, would've been nice 40 years ago. Calloused hands, knees are going can see less years ahead than behind. Same wieghts at the gym getting heavier.Still don't drink, drugs, no gambling . The one true joy for me even for a short time and find myself again, touch of a sensuous women. Thanks Ladies , your beautiful.

Add on: A special young lady asked me to elaborate on something I said during our encounter, as a rule our time is ours alone. It was this, if you read this, thanks little one.

[SweetGirlEmma1 100]

:) *no words*