How do you know?

[Guest j**tg***x]

Hi there, I was curious to know something. While I am typically not shy, I feel somewhat uncomfortable asking a dancer or MA if she would provide any additional services. I don't want to offend anyone, but if you don't ask how will you know? Does anyone know if there is creative way to ask without offending anyone?

 

Thanks

[TorontoMelanieJolliet 4458]

I was a dancer for 15+ years. If a dancer doesn't come out and offer extras to you, don't ask! It's demeaning, and irritating. And will put you on the blacklist for the rest of the night as the 'clean' dancers will talk and stay away because you are obviously not interested in buying any dances and they will be uninterested in entertaining you for free when there are other people in the club who will buy dances... the whole reason they are there is to earn a living... from dances!

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Personally, go with those that are escorts. It's so much easier and much more ... Shall we say ... Satisfying?

 

In reality, if you go with a possible, but not really sure, you might just ... I don't know... Go home?

[cinelli 22184]

As Melanie said, if extras are available she will let you know.

After all, it's her business.

She may also choose not to offer extras, and that is her right. She doesn't have to justify herself.

[in2funtimes 483]

Maybe go see the dancer to get turn on then head straight to an escort where you know you what is on offer.

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

I've been in Montreal strip bars and the girls act like you're so smoking hot they can't keep their hands off you. In that context I can see how someone a tad naïve may wonder about extras since she seems so into you. Just be polite if you decide to ask about possible extras, accept her response and you'll be fine. Be upfront and say "Do you offer any extras?". Confidence, not cockiness, can be a turn on and remember, you miss all the shots you don't take!

 

If you know from the start you want more than a dance, skip the dancers and go straight to the source.. an escort.

[Guest *t**e**x]

A dancer's additional services are bound to be priced exhorbitantly, so as others have said here, why not just see an escort? Also as has been said, dancers who offer extras will let you know.

 

But "extras" are not the usual practice for either MAs or dancers so you're more likely to offend if you ask.

[tabernakkk 140]

How to go about it would depend on the situation...

I'll start by saying your better off to do a bit of homework and find out indirectly if that is even an option.

even if she did she would certainly not be forward about it with a stranger. Keep in mind that her job is at stake and has no reason to put herself at risq.

If it's someone you have no history at all with and she doesn't know you, I'd say start off with a conversation and offer a drink, go for a short dance and state ahead of time how many your buying..by then if she has extra options that would be the time she would present them (keep in mind she is doing this for $, and if she can make the same amount without extras, why would she risk it)

If you want to be more direct and stay polite at the same time, during a conversation, ask if she is opposed to seeing clients outside of her workplace...that should give you an idea of what you want to know...if she is on the fence about the issue and you want to increase your chances, tell her your reasons for preffering to meet elsewhere then in the CR.