Is kissing allowed?

[someguy 67067]

Most of the time I have read reviews and the reviewer had mentioned that the woman was a great kisser. Usually when I go see a new woman I would have communicated with her thru PM or email or twitter. I usually ask if they allow kissing or not. Many women don't kiss and some just love kissing. It is a personal thing with them. It all depends on your hygiene also and chemistry.

Many times upon being brought into the room. the woman would usually hug and give a little kiss. A few times the kisses are very passionate. A couple of times, they just brought me to the couch and we would kiss passionately for a few minutes. These are signs that I am going to enjoy myself.

But a few times I have dropped in on women that I had no previous contact with and they don't know who I am. I find these sessions sometimes awkward as I am shy and don't like to make the first move. A good sign that they don't kiss is if you try and they turn away or let you kiss their cheek. Several times I've had no kissing during the session, but at the end I asked if they kissed, and they all said that they did, but that they were waiting for me to make the first move. Then they would give me some nice kisses at the end before we left. Several of these girls I have returned for many visits and had great kissing and cuddle sessions with them.

 

So question to you woman?

How do you let the man know that you allow or do not allow kissing?

Would you perfer not to kiss during the session but will if asked?

Or only kiss if you feel some chemistry.

Or never kiss at all?

 

Should they guy ask if he can kiss you, or should he pucker his lips and hope you kiss him? lol

 

Guy's

Have you gone thru this awkward experience, do you make the first move?

or are you too shy to?

[Guest S****r]

I can't imagine being intimate without kissing!

I absolutely love kissing!

Nice, long, soft wet kisses really turn me on.

Sometimes I just can't get enough.

I truly think I could actually ummmm...climax from just good kissing alone!

[NotchJohnson 214129]

I'm a bit shy about asking or to pucker up and approach a kiss in the event of a refusal, it's a tough turn down to accept and I don't like the rejection. I always appreciate the lady to do the first move or I will only do it if I have read in her review that she loved kissing.

[Amanda-Lee 11094]

I enjoy kissing provided that the client has good mouth hygiene. I really dislike kissing someone after they have smoked and attempted to use gum before the meeting... Those clients, I really can't go through with the kissing.

 

If they haven't asked when they booked an appointment about kissing I usually ask them when they arrive, "do you enjoy/like kissing?" usually they all say yes. I don't ask them if I know they're mouth hygiene is bad.

 

I've told blank to someone after they wanted me to kiss them and I bluntly said, "Sorry, you have bad breath." This was near the end of the session.

 

I like when clients tell me the details before a meeting of what they would like me to do or want. I've done this with role playing and it goes smoothly because I know what will be happening and there isn't this long discussion before we begin.

 

I also enjoy the spontaneous times, not knowing about the client, I like the mystery.

 

I've had experiences where they've booked and they just wanted the talk and kissing, so they directed me to kiss them after they said something or if I enjoyed what they talked about. I enjoy listening and talking.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I am upfront on my website about what I offer and do not offer, and I remind my guests during our first session together. If at any point a gentleman is unclear about something, I find it very respectful when he asks me. I dislike the "I'll just go for it and see if she stops me" approach. Please, just ask. Communication is key to a wonderful experience together!

[Grass_Hopper 18263]

I won't kiss a man who has a rough beard, bad breath, or lesions in the buccal area. Or bad hygiene in general, which is not your case.

 

As stated in your comment, chemistry plays a big part, and interpretation of the act is also a factor (one may kiss you on the couch for 10 mins before entering the main course, as another will kiss you all action long.

 

There's also the whole BS bullshit.

 

But all and all, don not take everything you read for granted. You may be mislead.

[SexxxyRebecca 57989]

Can't really add more! I also LOVE kissing as part of the building up but.. Bad breathe is a killing for me. Especialy smokers one... Please rinse your mouth and dont smoke right before appointment! I dont smoke so I dont have pleasure kissing a ashtray.. Lol

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

i find kissing is very much a part of the 'date' experience.

But there are limitations as listed in other responses.

 

Bad breathe, any indications of cold sores, etc, are a definite put off for me.

 

 

[Ice4fun 78407]

Kissing is important to me and if its not par par par engagement I will be disappointed but certainly respect the ladies right to choose about this just like anything else that might happen in the session.

 

As has been said by many of the ladies previous responses communications is always important if your not sure about the boundaries then it's always better to ask either in the communications before the meeting or during it. I have found that if you are seeing established reputable ladies and you have done your homework... read their ads and website and reviews you should have a pretty good comfort level with what to expect.... but when in doubt ask.

 

In specific in regards to kissing if it has not been discussed I will normally assume it is ok and will take the first step when I meet the lady my embracing her and lean in for a kiss... while I would of course love her to reciprocate if she deflects by having me kiss her cheek or says sorry i don't kiss that's fine.

 

I have to say that in my experience over the years there have not been many instances where kissing was not allowed and I guess that reflects my ensuring my hygiene is appropriate and that my research has ensured I am with a lady who is a good match.

 

Did I mention Kissing is important lololol

[someguy 67067]

Still haven't really heard from the ladies, what the proper way to see if kissing is allowed if the lady doesn't kiss first? Should you just ask or just try to kiss her?

[CMJ 14869]

I want to thank you right away for broaching this subject. Kissing, like many other activities that happen within session, is best to ask for consent before taking action. If a MA is respectfully asked before actions are taken, everyone will have a good time. If she feels like she is control and can opt in or out, rather than being pounced at, she will get more into the situation. If you are concerned this is "not sexy" there is always the option of intro sessions. For a small investment you can meet the girl and discuss what her limitations are so you can make a decision if whether the full package (personality, looks, limitations) is what you are interested in.

[GentMada 2181]

For me, passionate kissing is very important... it's a huge turn on and makes our time together more genuine and unforgettable.

I have met ladies who are not into kissing, they prefer light kissing which is fine but will make me think twice before rebooking.

I totally agree with the ladies and gents who replied above, communication is key and it's better to ask before making the move :)

[Taylor, Olivia Devine 16934]

Ask before trying anything with the other person. I think the other person would truly value that about yourself and it would show great respect :)

[blue_eyes56 2010]

I agree with OP sentiments and think they're most applicable in massage because there's such a wide range of experiences provided in these sessions (and where y.m.m.v. seems to play a big part). For me, I love kissing and it really makes (or breaks) a massage session.

 

I've done a number of CMJ intro sessions - they're fun and a great way to see if you want to book regular sessions with a hostess. Most of my conversations have been pretty casual, though, as I never thought to ask more direct questions ("do you like to kiss?", "would you rather spank or be spanked?", "so other than gay rape porn, is there anything else that turns you on?"). Now that I know better, next time I'll be more playful. :)

[jackiegilcrest 5152]

Always ask! Agree 100% with the poster who said to avoid the "try it and see" approach... If someone has not given clear consent, then it comes a little too close to sexual assault. Maybe a little too extreme of an argument, but I don't think that's too far off.

 

And definitely, agree with Raven... Brush your teeth, and chew a stick of gum, or have a mint on your way over. If a client has awful breath, DFK is off the menu.

[cometman 35115]

I'll do my best to be crisp and clean in the dental hygiene area, but if kissing is off the menu from the get go, then likely so am I. Mutual respect is key, but a good part of the girl friend aspect is the fantasy that this is not just a "wham, bam, thank you, ma'am". As a lady here once told me, "I love you as much as I can". To me, that's just about the best confirmation of mutual respect and comfort that one could offer or receive.

[maleguy2015 513]

The best thing to do is ask. If she says no don't take it personally just make sure you arrive with good hygiene. Some girls do and some don't....some might not the first session but could down the road. There are too many factors to take it personally.

 

When in doubt ask whether it be kissing or something else. Worst case she can say no and best case you likely will end up having more fun than you would have had otherwise.

[Butterman 194]

At the start of a session, I always ask upfront about likes and dislikes. That includes kissing. Most seem to appreciate that we set the ground rules upfront, and I always respect her boundaries. Throughout the session I'll ask her if there area places she likes or doesn't like being touched. Everyone woman is different, so I would rather ask than have a awkward moment of "sorry I thought you would like a finger in the stink?" Ask always.

[GoddessHRC 8411]

I personally tend to leave kissing up to my comfort with the gentleman. I generally greet new friends with either the double kiss (which immediately shows me if they're uncomfortable with kissing) or a light nibble on the neck. After we've gotten settled, I've had time to analyze whether kissing is a good fit for us both and will initiate light kising, with heavier, passionate kissing depending on their cues. The first meeting is always a bit awkward anyway. I just try to make light of that fact and do my best to make my gentlemen feel more comfortable.

 

Great post btw!!!

 

***Quick edit***

 

Just realized, that was more for the ladies. My advice to you is once you've gotten settled in with her, pull her close, slowly brush past her face with your cheek, and whisper in her ear "May I kiss you?" To me, that would not only take off the pressure e of figuring out your comfort, but also, its such a sexy gesture that id be instantly turned on.

[slappyhappy 130]

I'm not sure that I could manage any intimacy without kissing. I mean I can understand why some might not be ok with it, but for me it's almost a must.

 

Question: I keep seeing different acronyms and I'm slowly learning them (very new), but MA has me stumped. I'm guessing Massage _______?

[waterat 20911]

MA = massage attendant

 

There is a thread somewhere on here that translates many common acronyms but I couldn't find it. Google is your friend.

[Luckyme 41401]

I'm not sure that I could manage any intimacy without kissing. I mean I can understand why some might not be ok with it, but for me it's almost a must.

 

Question: I keep seeing different acronyms and I'm slowly learning them (very new), but MA has me stumped. I'm guessing Massage _______?

 

See post nos. 118 and 119.

 

http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=1311&page=12

[masterj669 250]

A bit late chiming but I just saw this thread. For me the most important part of the session the feeling of intimacy and for me this requires kissing. However if I want to book a session with someone and I ask before I book if the MPA I am booking with offers kissing as a regular part of their service (acknowledging ����), I rarely if ever get an answer. Suggestions on how to ask the booking person over the phone if a specific MPA offers kissing?

[Guest pagypie]

i think that's the million dollar question right; it's such a private/case by case basis type of activity that i can understand them not commenting in advance in case it's a no...will only lead to you feeling disappointed or maybe even take it personally.

[Phaedrus 209521]

Suggestions on how to ask the booking person over the phone if a specific MPA offers kissing?

 

They probably can't commit to something like that on behalf of someone else, given the number of variables in play.

 

But many of the MAs at spas have accounts here...