how to ask a stripper...

[AdultDiapers 100]

What is the easiest way to ask a stripper if she does outcalls? What is your best guess for the % of strippers that do this?

[Guest gagagaga]

I just ask if they do private shows. some do, some don't. probably 50/50

[gqstyle 643]

There are ways to pickup strippers without having to pay them.

[2tontony 657]

Like joeblow says enquire if they do private shows.

[castle 38816]

I was going to add to this query by asking what was a good way of asking a dancer if she does outcalls as a SP and not just as a dancer, but I guess the above answers work for that too. Just ask her if she does private shows. If the answer is yes, I'm assuming she'll tell you upfront if this is strictly dancing or not and what to expect.

[Royalfun 55449]

My approach is to be honest and respectful, and ask if she does private shows. Dancers are in the business and they should not feel offended if the question is asked.

In my experience though, I find that kind of services very costly. I prefer to go directly to a SP or to a dancer that announces that she works also as a SP.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

I agree with all of the above posts, but if time is on your side and you can afford to make multiple visits, you might get a more honest answer if she is familiar with you as a customer and isn't worried that you are LE and/or that she might get in trouble at the club. In other words, wait a few visits.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Yes I agree with kubrickfan. Earn the dancer's trust over time and prove to her that you are a classy safe gentleman (and likely well off too). I must say that (unlike escorts) it is not an easy task. I have had a number of dancers at my place (in the past) a number of times however only after spending hundreds possibly thousands on her at the strip bars to earn her friendship and trust (and sometimes no matter what you do or how much you spend on her, some will never accept outcalls) and no, never had sex with them just private dances at home which included lots of huggings and kissings and sometimes (not always) daty too. To answer your question I would say a small percentage of dancers would do outcalls.

[kilby 100]

I met a dancer once at the playmate in Ottawa and she was tall and beautiful with hazel eyes and long blonde hair and i waited at least four hours before i even asked her for a dance and when i did it was the best ever, I treated her with the utmost respect, now I did hint that i would very much enjoy having her as a fantasy girlfriend and telling her that i'd be dreaming of her all night and waking up beside her in the morning and boom the dances ended.

 

but a half hour later she wondered around and stopped and asked me if i would like to hang around and take her home.

 

she was my fantasy girl come true and she made an impression on me like no one else did, waking up with her in the moring was the best feeling i ever had

 

I miss you very much A

 

So i say treat & respect them as you would treat any other girl and you may find one that will return the emotional connection and respect that you have extended cause in the end we're all human.

 

damn i'm getting sappy in my old age, lol

[Isabella Gia (Banned) 53881]

GQstyle ... is this

So i say treat & respect them as you would treat any other girl and you may find one that will return the emotional connection and respect that you have extended cause in the end we're all human.

what you meant to say when you posted this?

There are ways to pickup strippers without having to pay them.

 

It would probably be good if you could elaborate your comment a little more to avoid any confusion? I don't know how the ladies here who are dancers feel about this, it would be interesting to read their point of view.

 

I must say that (unlike escorts) it is not an easy task.

SA perhaps this is because for some reason they chose to be dancers and not escorts? It will of course be an easier task with an escort as she is advertising for that.

 

 

Dancers are in the business and they should not feel offended if the question is asked.

 

Superlift I do not think them 'being in the business' is why they should not be offended but more like the way the client interested approaches them.

 

Also ... as you mention here I think for both parts the ideal would be if you want something more than activities allowed in a strip-club and do not want to offend anyone, either book some time with the dancer if she is also an SP (following the procedure suggested in her ads) or go visit an escort.

 

In my experience though, I find that kind of services very costly. I prefer to go directly to a SP or to a dancer that announces that she works also as a SP.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I must say that (unlike escorts) it is not an easy task. always) .

 

SA perhaps this is because for some reason they chose to be dancers and not escorts? It will of course be an easier task with an escort as she is advertising for that.

 

 

 

Oh, I certainly did not mean to offend anyone Isabella. Justing stating the facts as I view it iin my experience.

 

I meant to say with escorts it usually takes a call and once they agree to show up FS is usually part of the service. Not so with dancers though. With dancers usually you have to earn their trust. Know them and they know you. Invest some time and money on them and even then once they agree to come and see you FS may not be part on the menu (not that I expected or even on those few occasions that was offered, I refused).

 

In my experience dancers who agree to come and see you, are looking for long term relationship (more like the ones you pick up at dance bars) than providing temporary girl friend experience to earn some cash, though earning some cash on the side is their goal too. Yes I agree. Likely that is why they have chosen to be dancers.

[damiandb 100]

What is the easiest way to ask a stripper if she does outcalls? What is your best guess for the % of strippers that do this?

I would say being honest and letting them know your intentions would be the best. By doing so, no one is offended. If she likes you she will probably say yes, if she does not, then all you get is a no - which should be fine as well.

But remember folks, most of the time this can get very expensive i.e you will end up paying more than you will pay for a high class escort just for some little fun :butt:

 

Enjoy xoxo

[gqstyle 643]

GQstyle ... is this

what you meant to say when you posted this?

 

It would probably be good if you could elaborate your comment a little more to avoid any confusion? I don't know how the ladies here who are dancers feel about this, it would be interesting to read their point of view.

 

 

SA perhaps this is because for some reason they chose to be dancers and not escorts? It will of course be an easier task with an escort as she is advertising for that.

 

 

 

 

Superlift I do not think them 'being in the business' is why they should not be offended but more like the way the client interested approaches them.

 

Also ... as you mention here I think for both parts the ideal would be if you want something more than activities allowed in a strip-club and do not want to offend anyone, either book some time with the dancer if she is also an SP (following the procedure suggested in her ads) or go visit an escort.

 

 

 

Yeah thats what i meant...strippers don't hookup with customers so the way to do it is to not get lapdances, approach them and talk to them normally like you would any other girl, treat them with respect.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

Yeah thats what i meant...strippers don't hookup with customers so the way to do it is to not get lapdances, approach them and talk to them normally like you would any other girl, treat them with respect.

This is what men's magazines say, but I don't believe it. The only customers I ever "hooked up" with were ones who bought many, many lapdances from me.

 

You say you need to treat the girls with respect, but also not buy lapdances. To try and take up a woman's time when she's there to WORK and MAKE MONEY is disrespectful. If you don't want a lapdance, that's fine, but don't waste her precious time.

[blog10 283]

If I feel I have a connection and possibly mutual interest with a dancer I may ask if she is available outside the club or if she works outside the club. Most understand what I’m asking. Some hesitate then answer with a maybe, yes or no and some answer immediately with the same preceding responses. I usually don’t ask until we’ve had a chance to spend some time getting to know one another first. I believe there has to be some mutual attraction and trust between you and the dancer because I suspect that the dancer can make just as much if not more dancing in a safe and secure workplace than meeting somewhere outside the club for a brief rendez-vous. Also, the situation suddenly gets a little more complicated i.e. expectations, rates, gifts, scheduling, etc.

 

I guess at the end of the day you have nothing to loose by asking. If she says “no” then you move on. If she says “yes” then things get exciting and interesting. If she says “maybe” then there’s still hope but you need to buy more lap dances, more drinks, or continue to make her laugh to get the “yes”.

[E.D. man 691]

i would say about 25% of the dancers escort. I always let the lady ask me if she does. the last 2 out of 5 dancers have asked me. I accepted one she was average price the other i couldn't afford.

[ontariobob 103]

This is what men's magazines say' date=' but I don't believe it. The only customers I ever "hooked up" with were ones who bought many, many lapdances from me.

 

You say you need to treat the girls with respect, but also not buy lapdances. To try and take up a woman's time when she's there to WORK and MAKE MONEY is disrespectful. If you don't want a lapdance, that's fine, but don't waste her precious time.[/quote']

 

 

I have to agree with Megan. The dancers are there to make the rent payment. Playing "hard to get" will get you nowhere in this situation ... if you aren't generous in the club, she can safely assume you wont be generous outside it!

 

I've had a wide variety of private experiences with dancers over the years, most have resulted from gradual and expensive getting to know you build up. FS isn't always the result, but can be.

 

Biggest benefit of the clubs is the ability to pass time seeing and touching a lot of nice women, in a club environment, with music and alcohol. Sometimes the chatting is good too. Fun to do with discreet friends, especially if there's a pool table.

 

But if you are intent on anything more, just cut to the chase and call up one of the many fine ladies on CERB. Costs less too, if you are inclined towards private club dances. Biggest downside of that is the hour is up quick. Many a time I have dropped in at a club for a few hours of warm up, then met up with an SP lady later. Don't show up drunk though!

[c****s m********a 123]

Why ask a stripper if she turn tricks , there are lots of SP here that look amazing . If you are looking for FS dont go to a strip joint where u have to pay 7$ for a beer and spend 100$ on lap dance. You just get a SP out for diner and get back to her room .You will have a good nite you will not get drunk you will not loose your licence and you will have money the next day. The difference betwen dancer and SP is that you know how mutch its gona cost you with the SP

[Mister T 45020]

Why ask a stripper if she turn tricks , there are lots of SP here that look amazing . If you are looking for FS dont go to a strip joint where u have to pay 7$ for a beer and spend 100$ on lap dance. You just get a SP out for diner and get back to her room .You will have a good nite you will not get drunk you will not loose your licence and you will have money the next day. The difference betwen dancer and SP is that you know how mutch its gona cost you with the SP

 

Voila! Let's all keep in mind that SC's have their purpose, and SP's as well (no offence meant to anyone). SC's are not dating agencies either. There is an example that made the news recently on a related topic as well.... http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=36214

 

Many dancers are asked if they "work" outside the club. While it's part of the line of work, they are there to work within certain parameters. Many that i have talked to are "used" to being asked about it, but they all have their limits. How many times in a row can you be asked about it while maintaining your cool....

 

If you want a date, there are other places to do so. If a dancers offers services, they'll likely tell you quietly about it or point you in the right direction, CERB being such a place.

[Guest Ni**t*****t]

I agree with Mistert to a certain extent. I have asked girls if they would do something (details were provided between the girl and me) outside the club and to my surprise, quite a few said yes. The following events were exactly according to what I queried the girl about (PM me for details). I agree that this is not routine but if you don't ask, you will never know. Worse case scenario for me was that the girls kindly said she does not do work outside the club and a customer must respect that.

[whiteman 14028]

This is what men's magazines say' date=' but I don't believe it. The only customers I ever "hooked up" with were ones who bought many, many lapdances from me.[/quote']

I used to hang out with a guy who used to take lapdances like eating chocolate bars. Needless to say he was very popular with the dancers, and he used to be able to meet them in private. Got to ride along and meet their friends, without having to buy any dances from them. So the solution is hang around guys with bigger wallets than self-control. :pimp:

[curious2 323]

So the solution is hang around guys with bigger wallets than self-control. :pimp:

 

 

Self-control's over-rated anyway! :grin:

[whiteman 14028]

Self-control's over-rated anyway! :grin:

It's kind of like the strategy for outrunning a bear: you only have to be faster than the slowest guy. You only have to have more self-control then the guy with the least self-control.:handjob: