My first time With an SP was last night.

[Guest G***f******]

I had been thinking of calling an escort for a few months now. I had even made initial contact with a lady through CERB to try and set something up for a business trip I had planned. We had a done a fair amount of e-mailing. I wanted to know as much about he likes and dislikes as I could, so that I could make our time together as enjoyable for her as possible. Kinda backwards as to how hiring someone to make YOU feel good is supposed to go, but it was important to me.

 

The business trip kept getting postponed, so I was never able to set a firm date with the lady I had been communicating with. But that might be for the best.

 

I'm not good with women. I mean, I don't read the signs of interest well, I can't tell if someone is into me or not. If feelings I have for her are reciprocal or not. Throughout most of my life I've been someone who has had a lot of female friends, but they never saw me as more than that, or if they did, I was completely oblivious to it.

 

I've been with only 1 woman prior to last night, and didn't lose my virginity until I was 26.

 

I wanted to make up for all the lost opportunities, and start making some memories.

 

I figured an escort would be the best idea. They would be a professional, no strings attached, no games, no guessing. A great way to build my confidence and spend some time with a woman I would never have the courage to even talk to under other circumstances.

 

Flash forward to yesterday. I'm on another business trip, different province from where the lady I had been previously in touch with lives, and I'm browsing the CERB forum for the city where I am. I see some agency ads and follow some links, and I find the page for this woman who just jumps out of the screen at me. I do a little searching, and she has very positive reviews. I can't stop myself, I call the agency and see if she is still available that night. I make an appointment.

 

When she arrives, I'm so nervous my hands shake. I don't know what to say, how to sit, what to do.

 

She is wonderful. She is kind, patient, understanding, makes me feel much more relaxed very quickly. We talk, and I find we share are lot more interests than I would have thought possible. We talk so much that at one point she just leans in and starts to kiss me, because she can tell I'm not capable of making the first move, and we are running out of time.

 

Of the 2 hours I had booked, we spent about an hour and a half just talking, fully dressed.

 

When our time was up, and she left, almost immediately I started to get depressed. Here was a woman, who surpassed even my dreams of what I was looking for, and I would probably never see her again.

 

I don't know if it was a fluke, of just having accidentally picked someone I could easily fall in love with, or if it is me. If maybe I'm incapable of just a casual no strings sex.

 

I was thinking I should maybe try again with someone who I wouldn't normally think of as my type, and see if I have the same reaction, but I'm having a hard time not just calling to see if Caitlyn is available again before I leave for home, to see if maybe talking to her about it might help, but then, it might just make me feel worse when she leaves again.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

Thank you for posting about your experiences.

[fortunateone 156618]

You had a good experience, and it may be natural for you to want to read more into it than is really there. Sps are really regular people, you may have been thrown off a bit by the fact that in real life they are regular people (more than just their individual parts, that is).

 

Alot of clients repeat regularly with one sp, they connect well, they enjoy their time, the services and rates work well for them, the location, style and attractive factors all work for them. It would not be unusual if the 2nd visit goes very much like the first one, and you will enjoy your time just as much. However, you wlll have gotten over your nervousness or uncertainty, have a pretty good idea of what to do and expect, and be ready to do more or start sooner, and so on.

 

Just don't make the fatal mistake some new guys and some inexperienced guys make, and try to turn it into a porn movie and the sp into a sex doll. This is an opportunity to learn finesse, skills, and techniques without judgment. Take advantage, take time, take the chance to learn things most young men find out thru trial and error lol.

[lloyd21 100]

Congratulations on your first experience. Hopefully there are many more for you. Just remember the nervousness and excitement are all part of the experience and in my opinion when I stop being excited and nevous about each new encounter is the day I will likely quit.

[Guest s******ecan****]

Glad you had a great time!

[sexnonstop724 1727]

I found most encounters I have really enjoyed is 90% conversational and 10% action. If you found one whom you connect well with for a first encounter, wait until you repeat for a second and third time. Usually they are even better. Both physically and intellectually. But do keep your emotions in check, our lady friends could be here today and gone tomorrow. Move to another city, retire or found the line of work not for them after all. Enjoy the moment and cherish the memories!!

 

SNS724

 

I had been thinking of calling an escort for a few months now. I had even made initial contact with a lady through CERB to try and set something up for a business trip I had planned. We had a done a fair amount of e-mailing. I wanted to know as much about he likes and dislikes as I could, so that I could make our time together as enjoyable for her as possible. Kinda backwards as to how hiring someone to make YOU feel good is supposed to go, but it was important to me.

 

The business trip kept getting postponed, so I was never able to set a firm date with the lady I had been communicating with. But that might be for the best.

 

I'm not good with women. I mean, I don't read the signs of interest well, I can't tell if someone is into me or not. If feelings I have for her are reciprocal or not. Throughout most of my life I've been someone who has had a lot of female friends, but they never saw me as more than that, or if they did, I was completely oblivious to it.

 

I've been with only 1 woman prior to last night, and didn't lose my virginity until I was 26.

 

I wanted to make up for all the lost opportunities, and start making some memories.

 

I figured an escort would be the best idea. They would be a professional, no strings attached, no games, no guessing. A great way to build my confidence and spend some time with a woman I would never have the courage to even talk to under other circumstances.

 

Flash forward to yesterday. I'm on another business trip, different province from where the lady I had been previously in touch with lives, and I'm browsing the CERB forum for the city where I am. I see some agency ads and follow some links, and I find the page for this woman who just jumps out of the screen at me. I do a little searching, and she has very positive reviews. I can't stop myself, I call the agency and see if she is still available that night. I make an appointment.

 

When she arrives, I'm so nervous my hands shake. I don't know what to say, how to sit, what to do.

 

She is wonderful. She is kind, patient, understanding, makes me feel much more relaxed very quickly. We talk, and I find we share are lot more interests than I would have thought possible. We talk so much that at one point she just leans in and starts to kiss me, because she can tell I'm not capable of making the first move, and we are running out of time.

 

Of the 2 hours I had booked, we spent about an hour and a half just talking, fully dressed.

 

When our time was up, and she left, almost immediately I started to get depressed. Here was a woman, who surpassed even my dreams of what I was looking for, and I would probably never see her again.

 

I don't know if it was a fluke, of just having accidentally picked someone I could easily fall in love with, or if it is me. If maybe I'm incapable of just a casual no strings sex.

 

I was thinking I should maybe try again with someone who I wouldn't normally think of as my type, and see if I have the same reaction, but I'm having a hard time not just calling to see if Caitlyn is available again before I leave for home, to see if maybe talking to her about it might help, but then, it might just make me feel worse when she leaves again.

[E.D. man 691]

The fact she left when , jer time was up should tell you something. i would try with a different SP, first as it was your 1st time with one. Because you may have been caught up in the moment with excitement and emotion. Yes, you did connect with the SP, but it is part of her job to help you feel connected.

You will find many SP's like this, but you'll find SP's that you wont't be interested in either that you have been with.

The SP's are regular people just like you and me and treat them with respect and you'll do okay.

[Reddog01 30280]

It will become easier...by this I mean that you will become more comfortable and self confident when meeting someone new for the first time. It is indeed normal to feel nervous and excited with anticipation about a rendez-vous with a beautiful SP you have specially chosen based on your own tastes and desires. This is part of the thrill and experience.

 

I am with you, I am still new to this hobby and I understand the enthusiasm to want to make the experience pleasant for both partners. Again it is normal to want to connect with the SP when looking for a “true” GFE. The SP is hoping to enjoy herself as well. She is also full of anticipation for some of the same reasons. (Ladies feel free to comment).

 

How do I prepare myself? I prefer outcalls to an upscale hotel, that way I can create an atmosphere that is I hope, safe, pleasant and erotic at the same time. I try and find out her likes and dislikes; a favourite drink and maybe provide a little chocolate if we have Champaign for example. It is a good way to break the ice before and after activities. Candle lighting is also a favourite of mine - candles, and lots of them if time and space permits.

 

I think the “let down” or feelings of depression you talk about after she leaves can also be “normal”. After all you just spent a couple of hours with a beautiful woman who was (I expect) really personally engaged with you on an intimate level. Also, I bet the work up to the meeting was likely an intense experience as well (research, planning, earmarking funds, contact, prep time, anticipation, risk, adrenaline high, expectations and euphoria or a version of it if you are lucky........ We can react differently depending upon our moods - hopefully the experience will add a smile and a spring to your step.

 

Good luck with your next rendez-vous; I will be interested to hear how it goes.

[roamingguy 300292]

Congragulations on your first time, I'm coming up to seeing my fifth lady

I'm glad to find out that I'm not the only one who thinks the experience is more than sex. I like a couple hours with the lady, time to sit and talk, get to know one another. Thus far I've met two ladies who I would like to see again, one no chemistry (no put down on anyone, just no chemistry) and one from CL, nuff said. But no regrets about any of the ladies I met, IMHO I'm just taking away each "date" if thats the right word, as an experience, one which I'll repeat depending on the lady.

My only regret about hobbying, I didn't start sooner

RG

[PistolPete 61421]

I'm glad you enjoyed yourself for the first time. I really don't want say how many times I have seen a lady or ladies:shock:.

 

The experience is fantastic both physically and emotionally.I have met soooooo many great lady friends through my time.

 

I thoroughly have not ONE regret through my time as the friendship and the sexual encounters are always so pleasurable.

 

May your encounters ahead be just as pleasant as your first one was gobofraggle, but ensure that you clearly understand the playing field in this hobby.

 

These ladies are for our pleasure and companionship, we don't and never have any control of a lady once our good-byes are said to each other.

 

It just makes it so much more exciting seeing her again.;-)

[Lowdark 5613]

I think the best piece of advice you should always remember is to treat the ladies with respect, courtesy and dignity because it's a safe bet that any lady you meet through CERB is going to treat you well. The only other thing I can add is that if you find a lady you really, really connect with, you may find it a more rewarding experience to spend as much of your time with her, especially for someone who may not have that much experience with women socially.

[Cato 160314]

Great thread, and good comments from everyone here.

Thanks for posting so honestly about your first experience, Gobofraggle. May there be many more.

[Guest G***f******]

I want to thank everyone for their comments and the PMs I've received.

 

Intillectually, I thought I was prepared. I know it's what I paid for. Someone who I could share an evening with, who would make me feel good about myself, like I was someone they enjoy spending time with.

 

But the emotions are confusing.

 

I'm wondering how some of the SPs deal with clients who they feel, or who tell them they have feelings that the lady doesn't share. Do they get better results by talking it through with the client, or is it best to make a clean break?

 

I've been thinking I might be better off making an appointment with someone else soon so I have less time to dwell on her, someone more PSE than GFE who'll just take charge and make me forget about everything for a couple of hours.

[Guest G***f******]

I'm continuing here instead of starting a new thread, but my 2nd experience with an escort was on Thursday.

 

After thinking about my first a great deal, I believe I had such a strong reaction to her because she reminded me a lotl of a girl who broke my heart a long time ago. Not physically. She looks nothing like her, but her personality, interests, outlook on life. So I decided I would be better off being with someone else.

 

I saw an add on an agency site for a beautiful young woman and went looking for reviews. I didn't find any, but many of the other reviews for girls at this agency were very positive, so I decided to book her anyway.

 

I believe I have learned a lot from these two evenings, and this was lesson number 1. I don't think I will make any appointments with people I cannot find reviews for. I'm not cheap. I have no trouble spending a lot of money if I think I will enjoy what I am buying, but I also cannot afford to TOFTT. It takes me a while to save for things I want.

 

My second evening with a service provider was almost the exact opposite of my first, without actually being unpleasant.

 

The lady who arrived at my door was very pretty. Very personable, and easy to talk to, but I found we had almost nothing in common. There was no connection, no spark, a physicals attraction to her, but nothing beyond that.

 

 

So the good news is, I found I can have a one time thing with someone, and not fall in love with every naked woman in front of me.

 

The bad news is, it cost me to learn it. Since this is a recommendation board, and not a review board, I won't go into details. There was nothing really bad about our time together, there were just lot of little things that added up to me feeling, not dissapointed, that's too harsh a word, but definitely feeling like I didn't get the experience I was hopping for.

 

On the positive side, I think these experiences are teaching me a lot more about myself than I thought they would. What I want from a relationship, what I like, what attracts me to another person.

 

So, the first made me feel too strongly for her. The second not enough. I'm hopping the third will be just right. The third will have to wait a while though, as I have exhausted my funds for these adventures and I have also found that two hours is not enough for me. My first time with an SP, I spent the first hour and a half of our two hours talking. The second time we got naked earlier, but still spent almost the entire second hour talking. I'm not sure if there is something about me, or if it was just the two ladies I've seen, but I found they opened up a lot more of their personal lives to me than I thought an SP would, and I wasn't even asking them anything personal. Contiously stayed away from doing so as a matter of fact, after reading posts on this board.

 

So. Things I've learned.

 

1). Recommendations/reviews are important when dealing with agency ladies. I think some of the independents who have their own websites do a good job of describing themselves and their personalities, so I am a little less concerned about taking a chance with them.

 

2) Two hours is not enough for me. I will in the future save more, and book at least 3-4 hours, because I just talk too damn much.

 

3) I need to find a lady who I click with and likes to be kissed and caressed a lot. Not DFK, but someone who just likes having their whole body enjoyed.

 

4). I prefer women who are more assertive. Not a dominatrix, but someone who will lead in the dance.

 

5). Your upper lip can really get irritated anger DATY, if the lady shaves but hasn't done so in a day or so.

 

I think that's a lot to learn in just two encounters.

[BarrhavenWoody 10776]

 

On the positive side, I think these experiences are teaching me a lot more about myself than I thought they would. What I want from a relationship, what I like, what attracts me to another person.

 

 

That's so true, Gobo. There's a lot to be learned from these experiences, if you choose to open your mind.

 

I've learned a lot from my encounters and also from a number of SC dancers that I have befriended over the years. And also made some great memories.

[Summer Meadows 1676]

I've almost fallen for a client in the past. I'd think, god if we had met under different circumstances we'd be perfect together. It's just the endorphines! Gotta keep it in check for both parties. :) And I agree it does definitly get better the more you get to know a client. You really get to explore each other the more time you spend together. :69:

[E.D. man 691]

Be careful with emotions. There are many you will connect with and many you won't.

I have connected well with 3 women on here, but 2 are currently not working.

I do not love any of them. But i have had 2 SP's who thought they conecyed with me cold call me. I could neve go back to one of them as she looked way too much like my 1st and I want to forget her, not the SP's fault.

The 2nd I felt our personalities did not match.

I like reading the advertising area for SP's and the recco section to see what they offer. And if I can get to their websiye I raed it carefully and see what they have to offer.

Just be mindful it is their job to please you and when they do they are hoping for a return time.