Guest S****r Report post Posted February 21, 2016 The Honour of COF I am sure Schahrzad's video lists has spiked in the last week or two since her rant on guys who cum too fast. I had never heard her myself before that, but....I guess she accomplished her purpose by increasing her hits and visibility. See what you think about this one. I do not allow COF myself because I have always felt it was disrespectful, too, but.....she explains it differently. What do YOU think? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rollhay 1215 Report post Posted February 23, 2016 The only place I have experienced COF is in porn. In that milieu it always seems aggressive or degrading which is Not my cup of tea. If a partner enjoyed it however, I think that could be very hot. When I think about it , that goes for pretty much any thing sexual 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Grass_Hopper 18263 Report post Posted February 23, 2016 I do not see COF as direspectful at all. This being said, I think it always depends on your level of play. You may feel comfortable with something I don't, who knows, but we all have a different way to play, and this is actually a huge turn-on for me. This being said, this is not an ad, and shouldn't be taken for granted, as I do not offer specific services. Sensorship and respect of the ladies and MODs are preventing me from adding the cherry on top, and please, do not contact me expecting such. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted February 23, 2016 Like many sexual activities the decision on how respectful it is comes down to the actual individuals involved... I personally don't try to project my personal choices on others so if my partner does not wish to partake in any particular activity for whatever reason I just accept that as her right to choose just like it is my right to choose. If both find giving and receiving F*acials as acceptable and exciting then there is certainly nothing disrespectful about it in my opinion. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TorontoMelanieJolliet 4458 Report post Posted February 23, 2016 But how do (some) men factor into her conclusion about "a part of him" and it makes him feel good to give a piece of himself. And that it represents certain aspects of himself? Do you think that might be a truth? Or is it just an advertisement for herself? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ice4fun 78407 Report post Posted February 24, 2016 But how do (some) men factor into her conclusion about "a part of him" and it makes him feel good to give a piece of himself. And that it represents certain aspects of himself? Do you think that might be a truth? Or is it just an advertisement for herself? Unfortunately trying to figure out what men think is kinda like figuring out women think...each person is unique.. I am sure some guys see the facial as a control or dominance thing... some my even agree that it is giving a woman a piece of himself and some like myself might just enjoy looking into the eyes of a lady as he orgasms and seeing how much she is also enjoying making him feel so good. For me personally I enjoy giving oral to a lady and if she soaks my face as I do I have never seen it as disrespectful or dominant...I have only seen it as a very physical demonstration of my success in giving her pleasure... making a lady cum gives me extreme pleasure. But I think we are all different... as long as we keep it safe activities between consenting adults I don't think it wrong. Just my Opinion Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Grass_Hopper 18263 Report post Posted February 24, 2016 That sounds like cannibalism. No offense, but it does... Would she be French? Because it could make sense... ''Donne-toi à moi'' type of thing... But how do (some) men factor into her conclusion about "a part of him" and it makes him feel good to give a piece of himself. And that it represents certain aspects of himself? Do you think that might be a truth? Or is it just an advertisement for herself? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ninaamour 451 Report post Posted February 25, 2016 lol everyone is different.... I like the porn stuff ..I dont feel it is disrespectful.. ITS all in the providers feelings... if you cant laugh and say HA! I was here!!!... I think your doing it wrong.. I am not here to make love...do that to your wife...LOL btw you can buy whale sperm facial cream for .. or get the HIGH protein male hobbyist cream lol... pulled from google ... How much is whale sperm worth? Ken only realised its potential value after an online search revealed the substance was ambergris, an ingredient used in the manufacture of perfume. A French dealer has offered £43,000 but experts say the lump of hardened intestinal slurry from a sperm whale could be worth twice as much. Grandmother claims sperm facials are her anti-ageing ... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/.../Youthful-grandmother-67-claims-sperm-facials-... Mar 19, 2014 - Stella Ralfini says that her key to eternal youth is semen facials ... Skincare secret: She advises people to 'scoop this amazing sperm . lol 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
castle 38816 Report post Posted February 28, 2016 COF is something I VERY much enjoy doing....and I'd be lying if I said there wasn't a certain "dominance" factor that goes into the appeal of it. It's not the entire appeal but it is a part of it. However I personally don't feel that "dominant" should automatically imply "disrespect". Not in the least. I think that's where some people may get that distinction confused which leads to the mistaken impression that it is disrespectful. I have never once felt disrespect for any of the ladies I have partaken this with. I have developed friendships with many of the ladies I have performed COF with, whether it be in my civilian life or as part of this lifestyle, and have even remained friends with a few ladies after they have left the lifestyle. I have nothing BUT respect for them. Certain sexual positions (K9, CG, etc) can also be seen as being dominant as it puts the doer in control...it puts either the lady or gentleman both figuratively and literally "on top". Does that automatically make those positions disrespectful? Or even dirty talking can sometimes take a dominant turn...if agreed upon and enjoyed by both, is it disrespectful? I don't partake in full on BDSM so I can't say for certain but I'm pretty sure a good Dom doesn't feel disrespect towards their Sub. That may be implied throughout their acts/playtime but that is part of the fantasy. Just another example of how dominant does not automatically mean disrespectful. And I can't speak for why some ladies enjoy COF, but as Ice4Fun stated, I love getting my face soaked while pleasuring a lady. Mostly because it is an indication to me that she is enjoying herself. but it also fills me with a sense of accomplishment and "Wow! Look what I can do!". Or it could be as simple as this. COF is a rather naughty act and some people just like feeling naughty. I think the only time it becomes disrespectful is if it is not previously discussed and agreed upon. Whether it be discussed beforehand or something that is requested by the gent (or even the lady!) in the heat of the moment, you need permission. The "surprise facial" (if done on purpose) is VERY disrespectful...I would even go so far as to consider it assault. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted February 28, 2016 It's all fun and games until it gets into the eyes. lol I won't comment much because it's not my thing but I think the person should ask if it's okay first. I'm all for anti aging.. where can I get this whale sperm? Haha 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crankF 12893 Report post Posted February 28, 2016 Apparently the cream facial is not so beneficial for under eye bags as evident from the video. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Grass_Hopper 18263 Report post Posted February 29, 2016 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
igab 5629 Report post Posted February 29, 2016 As a long time hobbiest I'm not a big fan of COF. I've never done it and really don't see the point of it. It seems to be something that got introduced into porn and then people thought they'd act it out for real with an SP or a willing partner. For me cumming in her mouth, pussy or ass holds way more appeal as it's really about the feeling as opposed to the visual. IMHO it seems somewhat disrespectful and that's probably because I'm old school. I don't like to do things that might degrade a woman; instead I like to have mutual pleasure. That's why I tend to go with a favorite and stick with her as the sex gets better and better. I guess you'd say I'm a big fan of GFE and I just can't see myself enjoying COF or her enjoying it either for that matter. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Prufrock Cummings Report post Posted March 20, 2016 Thank you for sharing the video link Summer, I rather enjoyed it. Here is why: In Schahrzad's video she said that at one time she was grossed out by COF but now loves it. I think we all change in various degrees over our lives with things pertaining to sex/acts and even embrace things that we once thought as gross to be a sexy turn on. I personally have a really huge redhead/ginger fetish, but in my youth I was almost as turned-off as I am turned-on today. I also once upon-a-time may have been a little turned-off by squirting but in my later years have had a few experiences that are so erotically pleasing I was literally shaking after the experience. And there have also been some really funny experiences too, after all, squirting isn't all that controllable! In the video she appeared turned on and loving it, so for her and her partner that would be an awesome moment that they can share and relish in. While I have no overwhelming desire to COF with anyone today, maybe I will at some point later in my life. Or maybe never. Long live diversity! ee Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
