Do sugar daddy - baby arrangements actually exist?

[katyinvancity 100]

Title says it all. Interested in hearing from people who have actually done this. I won't be coy, I'm asking for myself ;) I have worked in the biz once before briefly but am interested in exploring other options. You can PM me if you don't want to make public comments. I'm interested mostly in knowing what is a typical compensation and amount of time spent together.

 

btw, I did post this on .... for those seeing double. I wanted to post on the big one but I don't know how long it takes for the account to become activated...

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

No first-hand testimony here -- but while waiting for some, you could take a look at this brief thread:

 

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=26777

[Amanda Bella 421]

Yes! They do exist however a sugar daddy it is someone who will give you huges amounts of cash and then become very pocessive about you and your time and your availlability.

He will call you all the time. Expect you to be availlable all the time.

Very annoying!

 

 

 

Title says it all. Interested in hearing from people who have actually done this. I won't be coy, I'm asking for myself ;) I have worked in the biz once before briefly but am interested in exploring other options. You can PM me if you don't want to make public comments. I'm interested mostly in knowing what is a typical compensation and amount of time spent together.

 

btw, I did post this on .... for those seeing double. I wanted to post on the big one but I don't know how long it takes for the account to become activated...

[Guest f***2f***]

I guess that comes with the territory when you're throwing out large amounts of cash.:mrgreen:

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Yes and speaking from personal experience, it was an extremely lucrative arrangement and I did not see other clients for almost a year. However, it was not worth the headache. Too much BS, insecurities with the client thinking they own you and are always suspicious that you're seeing other clients. Why would I see other clients if I'm in good arrangement like this? I called it off and swore I would never get that involved in an arrangement like that again. Not worth it imo.

 

I find it better to have a client who you genuinely enjoy spending time with and agree to see them a few times each month and give them a bit of a discount in exchange. While this isn't completely secure as things can change, at least you know you have a good regular with no strings attached and both parties can walk away free and clear without the bs.

[Guest s******ecan****]

Seems like a lot of potential downside for both parties, especially the SP as it seems to me it would blur the line between seeing an SP professionally and having an affair/personal relationship.

[katyinvancity 100]

Thanks for the replies. Amanda and Nicolette, thank you especially for the first hand comments. If one is to try this, how do you go about finding someone? I registered on seekingarrangement .com. I looked at CL but the want SB ads but they are very vague and don't seem serious at all.

[E.D. man 691]

yes it does exist and in some countries it can be done contractually by a lawyer.

But the farther usually takes custody and the woman gets visiting writes.

I know of one arrangement from the 90's where the guy bought a semidetached house and put the mom next door.

He went to work she had him for the day and he had him nights and weekends.

[cat 262460]

sugardaddy.com I believe. Not worth the hassle unless you have the patience of a saint.

 

cat

[katyinvancity 100]

yes it does exist and in some countries it can be done contractually by a lawyer.

But the farther usually takes custody and the woman gets visiting writes.

I know of one arrangement from the 90's where the guy bought a semidetached house and put the mom next door.

He went to work she had him for the day and he had him nights and weekends.

 

oh no no nonono, NOT looking for a marriage thing. I am talking about the helping a girl through college type of SD/SB.

[Kaylee Kisses 1526]

i Have had this type of relationship before but it but it went a lil sour once he was requesting too much of my time and was asking for keys to my condo ! might do it again under the right circumstances...

just my 2cents

[Goldenboy 237]

Yes I tried this arrangement and the most important thing is communication communication, communication. Both parties must agree too how many times a month, availability and so forth. Men have been burned as well. Keep it simple talk and make no demands after the agreement, unless you both discuss and agree. Personally I think its better to visit a few times a month. cheers and good luck:grin:

[roamingguy 300292]

I read from these posts about how much (too much???) time is expected from the ladies. Just a question, how much money were the ladies receiving in exchange for their time?

BTW not being critical, just asking a question

RG

[fortunateone 156618]

Thanks for the replies. Amanda and Nicolette, thank you especially for the first hand comments. If one is to try this, how do you go about finding someone? I registered on seekingarrangement .com. I looked at CL but the want SB ads but they are very vague and don't seem serious at all.

 

 

Whatever you do, do NOT agree to a meeting with someone advertising for this on Vancouver's CL. Altho I am sure there is a sincere ad or two, this is where a couple of predators advertise for newbie sps/sbs. If you do get some replies, or have already replied to an ad, for gawdsake, google the information you receive.

 

You should be patient, use the appropriate site, seeking arrangement. That is more of a site for serious ds and bs, imo. Don't just set up a profile, do your research. Look at the information that is there. Read up on the experiences, and tips and so on that is on these sites.

 

Get serious about what exactly you need, and what exactly you are willing to provide. At no time, does being or seeking a sugarbaby imply or require unprotected sexual activities. At no time does being a sb require you to be "on call" 24/7. You set the conditions.

 

You do set up a coffee/lunch meeting before anything else. See if you are both clear about expectattions, and if your expectations are realistic. An experienced or serious sd knows that the arrangement will run him into the thousands. Be realistic about what your real expenses are, if the idea is that you do not have to work at all, you will have to include extra expenses such as shopping, transit, food, entertainment.

 

But make no mistake. Being a sb does not make you better than being an escort. You are still getting paid for your companionship and sexual favours. You would be no different than an sp, excepting the number of different people seen. He is, at the end of the day, a client, even if he is your only client, and you need to have a professional approach to the entire situation.

 

The reason many sps do not like the arrangement is often because being an sp means choosing who you see when you want to see them. Also, if the arrangement ends, whch it will, they are without any regs, without any income, starting all over. They will have lost their regular clients by becoming exclusive. Another thing is that the sd is just as likely as anyone else to have financial dificulties, fail to make the monthly payment, and leaves her without anything to cover her expenses.

 

I sometimes think that the # 1 reason a client wants this arrangement is to isolate the sp from others, to make her financially dependent upon just him, then pull out when she least expects it leaving her even more vulnerable.

 

Which is a great reason to stay independent, see multiple clients, and do not rely on one person to pay your way. You could find the same success by setting up 5 or 6 regular weekly clients, get the amounts you need, spend less time with each individual, and if one backs out, you still have the others as backup. Then you would only need to replace one.

[777flyer 1612]

Katy,

 

I found that a variation of the SD/SB works well for me, and may be something you might consider....

 

As most state, a pure SD/SB approach may lead to some complications, possessiveness, drama, and so on.......as if we need our hobby to complicate life right ?

 

I have been engaged in a long term arrangement with an SP, and it is essentially based on a regular visit schedule ( usually once every 4-6 weeks, more often if schedules allow) with a preset amount ( based on per visit ) and allows us to have longer dates, dinner, always over night, etc., and just makes for a much better arrangement, and a lot more enjoyment when we are together......

 

In speaking with another lady that I had seen recently, it seems this type of arrangement, 'ie : a regular encounter', is preferred by her as well, and most ladies will accomodate this type of arrangement......

 

Not sure if this works for everyone, but it is something to consider

 

[VedaSloan 119179]

I've thought about this type of arrangement myself, but every time it comes up, there is always this notion of exclusivity; "I'll provide for you so that you don't have to see anyone else."

 

That absolutely won't work for me, not just professionally, but personally. So I've always avoided SD/SB relationships.

 

They really seem like a lot more work than they're worth.

[Guest s******ecan****]

I sometimes think that the # 1 reason a client wants this arrangement is to isolate the sp from others......

 

 

I would think this would be true in the majority of cases.

[katyinvancity 100]

Thank you EVERYONE for all of your really great replies. I am a very upfront person so I would have made expectations clear from the start, but after all these great replies I will be almost rudely upfront about it lol

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Another thing is some of these guys who go into these arrangements get comfortable thinking you are now their girlfriend and become lax on the payments. As awkward as it is, you have to consistently remind that that this is an arrangement. They don't like to hear this and there is always the conflict of "pretending" to be their girlfriend and then reminding them about the financial aspect. Too many contradictions imo and feelings often get in the way.

 

At least when you're SP, both parties know what they are there for, have a good time, you get paid and both of you go home satisfied. This doesn't happen in these arrangements. You will be left physically and mentally tired because of the many insecurities of some of these men. Believe it or not, for some of them it is about control. I hate to sound jaded but being in that situation for almost a year made me rethink a lot of things and I also stayed away from the SP business too because I felt so mentally exhausted. Being an SP is so much satisfying for me and I appreciate all my regulars and new people who visit me.

 

Just take some time to think about the decision you will be making. It sounds lucrative and sometimes even fun but there are many roadblocks along the way. Many of these guys are looking for a relationship and eventually don't want to pay. I firmly believe that these setups don't exisit with no strings attached. You will pay in one way or another.

[katyinvancity 100]

Nicolette, thank you for your comments. It's really great to know about possible bad situations so that one can try to avoid them!

 

I spoke with one SD from the site I registered on, and when I started talking about expectations he told me I sounded like a pro and wasn't interested. lol