Married Hobbyists and/or SPs

[Happyman8 250]

I'm curious, I didn't see a thread here like this, but maybe I didn't look hard enough. Closest I found was the double life thread.

 

What I'd like to know is of the married Hobbyists and SP's how many of you wear wedding rings to rendezvous? If so, why? If not, why not?

 

Again to the same audience, do you mind, or more so do it like it, when an sp or a hobbyist meets you with a ring?

 

I for one am not comfortable wearing mine. That might change in the future.

 

What about you?

 

*also please remove if not allowed, duplicate, or not in taste*

[fortunateone 156618]

My advice is leave it on.

 

what if it falls out of your pocket, gets lost, left behind? How to explain that ?

[LookingForFun666 230]

I agree, leave it on. The mark where your ring was, will show even more. You're only fooling yourself.

 

I knew someone who gave his wedding ring to a stripper, while at the club for a stag. That was a short wedding!

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

I think it would be very rare to find an SP who would be bothered by a ring. I do know a few gentlemen who prefer to take it off during time together. It could be stepping into a fantasy, remnants of guilt, respect for the lady or any number of other things. It would be a very personal choice to the person only.

 

If you are not comfortable having it on, then by all means don't but as pointed out, make sure you have it securely tucked away so it doesn't get lost or misplaced. Most SP's only care about your level of comfort and do not get concerned over whether you wear a ring or not.

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

Most married guests who visit me wear their rings and why not? I always take mine off only because my diamonds are large and I do not wish to scratch anyone.

 

Generally I wear a small pair of earrings for a date, everything else is a hazard.

[Athos 108589]

never taken it off for an encounter, it has never been commented upon. I wouldn't expect it to be either. simply not an issue in my opinion. If it bothers you to leave it on, take it off. As for the lady, I'm generally far too preoccupied to notice, or care about, a ring.

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

Leave it on. Believe me we wouldn't be judging you. Most of us probably don't even notice.

[Regent 35404]

My concerns about a client wearing jewellery are entirely practical - is it going to get in the way, get damaged, or injure one of us when we're playing? If not, it's a complete non-issue for me.

 

I'm not married, but if i were I likely would not wear my rings, again for practical reasons. Many of the things I enjoy are better and safer without jewellery on.

[Bully 383]

I don't wear mine for other reasons however, the ladies I visited before never were concerned and as mentioned earlier the mark remains anyway. Any SP I visited it was a positive experience . Rings, worn or not were never a concern.

[NotchJohnson 214129]

My work won't allow me to wear my ring because of danger to myself. I only wear it on weekends or special occasions and my wife is fine with that. I might have had it on once or twice during an encounter but it was because of a weekend thing and I forgot to take it off, the lady never noticed it.

[jnhfxboy 590]

I also because of work do not wear rings.

[GHT 798]

I find I get better service/experience with the ring on. Maybe married men make the best clients.

[AmiAndrews 290]

I agree, leave it on. The mark where your ring was, will show even more. You're only fooling yourself.

 

I knew someone who gave his wedding ring to a stripper, while at the club for a stag. That was a short wedding!

 

Back when I was a dancer, I learned quick to look for the ring indentation and/or tan line. I never understood why men would come in and lie about their status. Personally, I don't care at all if you're wearing a ring or not, as a dancer back then, or an escort now, as long as, like others mentioned, it doesn't get in the way.

 

If it were me in that situation, I'd be so scared of losing it, I'd be paying more attention to it's safety in my pocket versus if it were on my hand as usual where I wouldn't think twice about it.

[marriedbutnotdead 3844]

I keep mine on and I find I get more respect from the ladies because if the fact I am married. I find that the ladies who do notice feel more at ease, not sure why but it works for me.

[johnybird 4391]

After my wife passed I still wore my ring up until a year later.

 

Not that any of the ladies cared if I was married or not, but I always felt the need to explain it.

 

I don't judge men that are married and see escorts but I just wanted the women to know I wasn't cheating on my wife, for some reason that was important to me.

[Kathryn Bardot 99339]

I'm not married, but I sometimes wear a ring on that finger, because I like that ring and it's the finger that it fits best on. Go figure.

 

It doesn't bother me if someone has a wedding ring. It's also none of my business, unless they want to share that information (and often, it isn't my business even then).

[Aellyn Rose 350]

I always take mine off only because my diamonds are large and I do not wish to scratch anyone.

 

 

 

I like it... What a great problem to have :)

[Guest p**sg**d]

This thread reminded me of an occurrence a number of years ago when I checked into a hotel room south of the border. The message light on the phone was lit up so I checked it out. The message was actually for the previous occupant and I can vividly recall the sobbing female voice asking if her diamond ring had turned up in the room. Yikes!

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

I'm married but I haven't worn a ring since the wedding. I can't stand one on my finger. My wife understands and doesn't push it. Still, I would not bother hiding that fact from any lady I see. I tell them upfront that I am married when they ask for some personal details. I would be shocked if any had a concern. If they do they are in the wrong business, imo.

 

I'd be more surprised if a women kept a ring on during an encounter since that would be giving away an important part of their private life. It wouldn't bother me but it may also ruin the fantasy for some guys possibly?

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

 

I'd be more surprised if a women kept a ring on during an encounter since that would be giving away an important part of their private life. It wouldn't bother me but it may also ruin the fantasy for some guys possibly?

 

Yes I've heard that as well. Some men have mentioned to me that they will not see an SP who is married. However, it's only the SP's business if she decides to disclose this to a client.

 

I leave my personal life out of it because I'm providing a fantasy and it's really no one's business but my own. I have a couple of clients who tell me they want to marry me.. lol but it's a running joke and they are only basing it one thing and we all know what that is. lol.

 

Although this is a subject that could go in a completely different direction and don't want to hijack this thread but If anyone asks if I have a boyfriend, I respond with "Yes I have many boyfriends." NOT looking for boyfriend! LOL.

[Happyman8 250]

Wow, lots of opinions here. Thanks everyone! Like some who posted I don't wear my ring at work, only at home and on weekends, but as some posted they need to ensure its secure, I always keep mine in my change box in the car if I'm seeing someone. I am interested to see if I do get better service, as some claim, with it on I think I may bite the bullet next time and go with it on.

[Guest discr33t]

I don't wear a ring, and have no finger tanlines.

 

Yet at the beginning of encounters I have been asked if I was married, or had a girlfriend, or gay - trying to work it out of my system! More often than not I am also asked if I am from the town.

 

I am not sure, but I think first impressions are made on your collective presence, long before a ring would be noticed.

[Parker 19761]

Again to the same audience, do you mind, or more so do it like it, when an sp or a hobbyist meets you with a ring?

 

I don't mind..

But I don't look for them and rarely notice if someone is wearing one.

 

I would think that most professional ladies don't really care if you're attached, I personally care more that my clients are punctual, clean and respectful.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I forgot to mention in my last post that it doesn't bother me that a client wears a ring. Most men I see are attached and I like it that way. As long as they are clean, polite and respectful like other ladies have mentioned, who am I to judge?

[DalePet 100]

I have a very understanding partner, I have already had one finger lost in an industrial accident, it was cut off eight times, so my fingers have gotten a little closter phobic when it comes to gloves and rings. So I choose when I wear it and she is great with that, the only time I do make a point of wearing it is for family photos. Cheers