How long do you wait....

[LookingForFun666 230]

I arrived early, texted at the appointed time of 2 pm. Re-texted 5 minutes later. Got a response at 2:10 saying: just got out of shower, wait 2 secs. I immediately replied: ok. At 2:20 I texted again. At 2:23 texted a polite "good bye" and left the parking lot. The next time I checked my phone, I had gotten a reply a minute later.

 

Was I being unreasonable?

[roger dodger 2160]

Well, i would have 2 questions: 1- did the lady have ur number, if yes then she should have let u know before taking shower she was running few minutes late. 2- was this first time u saw this lady? It also depends on how rushed you are. Sometimes things happen, and maybe she got in late because of bad traffic, or maybe client before was late, or ran a bit longer. It depends how much of a time constraint you were in, but if not in hurry, maybe it would be worth the wait. I have waited before, and it was made up to me as the lady spent more time with me way past our alloted time, at no extra charge. You must also remember that if she did see a client before you, which would be normal, you should be happy she was taking shower before you came up. And when a woman says wait few secs, it means 15=20 minutes lol. I do understand that everyone's time is precious, but these ladie's schedule can sometimes be complicated or altered by many factors, including some clients altering the time. I would not personaly have sent her text " goodbye", but may have explained that had to get back to work, or u would call another time.

[LookingForFun666 230]

Yes, she had my number, and yes, it was the first time. I was parked in front of her motel so traffic wasn't an issue. I did wonder about the other issues you mentioned, while waiting.

 

Thanks

[Phaedrus 209521]

I'd give it 15-20 minutes, in the absence of her telling you anything else. I don't think it's reasonable to expect someone to wait much longer than that; we all have lives to be getting on with.

 

FWIW, many ladies have a policy about late arrivals, which is usually on their website; 15 minutes' grace (provided you let them know you're running late) seems to be about standard on their side, too.

[Guest Prufrock Cummings]

It's a tough call to have the perfect answer to "how long do you wait". If I was rushed, then yes, I think that the 25 minutes you waited was far too long. It if was a day off, and I had all the time in the world, I personally wouldn't be bothered by the wait. 25 minutes is no biggie in the Grand Scheme.

 

I've had pre-planned encounters before (like a week or two in advance), and even with such notice, things never went as planned time-wise; but I was always warned in advance by a text with ample notice (hours) saying, "can we meet 30 minutes later than planned".

 

I can understand your frustration though. I don't know her point of view or what may have caused her from being so late, but I am sure that you were counting the minutes/seconds waiting to see her and the disappointment from the wait and not seeing her must have been a let-down.

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

Well strong opinions on this one. Best wait till tomorrow and get on to the 3 word story game to avoid trouble .

 

Comments tomorrow... :biggrin:

[Aellyn Rose 350]

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you...

 

Unfortunately just like in any industry there are less-than professional people on both sides of the game, so for a first-time encounter I believe 20 minutes is fair. For someone you have met before you can legitimately believe that they are running late and will eventually let you in... And somehow make up for lost time :)

[damatt 340]

I agree couldn't have said it better.

[Peachka 4334]

23+ minutes late for a pre-booked appointment is not acceptable.

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

Well strong opinions on this one. Best wait till tomorrow and get on to the 3 word story game to avoid trouble .

 

Comments tomorrow... :biggrin:

 

 

I think 20 minutes is way to long to wait for a lady. If a gentleman is taking time out of his day to make a quick lunch time frame making him wait 20 minutes takes about half of his appointment time. He may have booked in advance and is expecting his full time . If I make him wait he has to go back to work with half the time promised.

 

I don't think that is cool or respectful, if you book a firm time it should be just that .

 

Even emergencies such as illness can usually be texted in advance.

[SexxxyRebecca 57989]

I feel so bad if I have to make wait someone 5minutes lol. If for any reasons Im running late (like 20minutes) I will let you know and ask if its still ok with the gentlemen. Its common courtesy. I expect the same from my clients. I wont have a heart attack if you are 5minutes late but of you are more than that, its appreciate to let me know.

 

I dont think you did nothing wrong by leaving after 20 minutes especially she went radio silent.

 

Hope you will get some answers today..

[Highsexdrivebabe 11800]

Hi darling,

 

I am sorry this happened to you. Personally I don't find this lady's behavior professional at all. She should have let you know in advance she just needed way more time. Then again that was a planned appt. so she knew better.

 

Myself I am, most of the times, ready at least 15 minutes before the appt. because I just need to sit back and relax a little after I get ready so I don't feel rushed or won't rush you when you come in. It is just pure respect to be ON time.

 

Bisous

 

Barbara

xxoo

[Mulletman 694]

Not to mention it ''ruins the moment''

 

Some people get stressed out over it so hard to get back into the ''grove''

 

A polite full disclosure at the beginning would have solved everything.

[newbie09876 795]

15-20 seems about right...

 

 

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[maleguy2015 513]

i think 20 is more than enough....i have waited 30 minutes before but i wasnt thinking clearly....

[Amanda-Lee 11094]

I had a client booked at lets say noon (for a 45min) and a client who scheduled for 2pm. This gave me enough time to clean up, change the sheets, shower, etc., and get things ready for the said 2pm client. What happened to me was the noon client was 30 minutes late. I explained that he needs to be here very soon because I have another client booked. He got all pissy and said I shouldn't double book and rush. Of course, I like to screw them jump off and screw again without cleaning everything?

 

This happens to us. I never double book and I at least have an hour between bookings or more so new sheets are on the bed, garbage can is empty, I shower, and if any smells in the room I air out. This way I am not running around like a mad-human and being hot and stressed.

 

You could always confirm an hour before, sometimes clients will say, "Is it okay if I arrive early?" or, "I might be a bit late cause of the traffic, is this okay?" Usually I say it's fine. Maybe saying this to them you get a response and that they are aware you are coming. You can always text them updates on how close you are, etc., this gives them a time frame when you would arrive if they know the area well and traffic times.

 

Everyone is different in how they confirm and communicate, so keep this in mind. Not every lady does the same confirming, communicating like other ladies.

[Honey Man 12759]

If my appt is made in advance I text to confirm it early in the day. Then arrive on time and text 5 minutes to the agreed time. If I hear nothing back I wait 15 minutes and txt again. If no response within 5 minutes from that txt I leave. If I am getting a response from my txt I play it by ear.

[clearlycanadian7583 1199]

For me it all depends on a few things, have I seen her before, what is her reputation like, is she from outta town, and how long is the appointment. If I have seen her before and we really got along and I had some place to go (like a tims) I would be willing to wait up 45 min. If she has a great reputation with a large online presents pretty much the same as before no more then 45 mins. If she from outta town has very little rep and i've never seen her before no more then 20 mins. If it's a shorter appointment like 30 mins I won't wait longer then 20 min.

Unfortunately some people out there are unprofessional and in my personal opinion 20 to 45 min is more then fair.

 

Repeat offenders for not being ready with 20 minutes of the scheduled time, I won't see again.

 

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[LadyMichelle 730]

I think it comes down to having respect for others time. I don't like being 5 min late client but if I am I would defiantly let the gentlemen know. I expect the same in return. I don't mind if some one is running a bit late as long as they tell me. Some times I have other appointment. I do leave time I between but it take from cleaning up in between. I think everyone's time should be respected.

[Guest ATasteOfEve]

To Clearly Canadian: Honey, if she has a "great reputation" you should NOT be ok with her being 45 mins late!

[clearlycanadian7583 1199]

To Clearly Canadian: Honey, if she has a "great reputation" you should NOT be ok with her being 45 mins late!

 

I disaggree, sometimes things just happen, and if she has a great reputation I think it's safe to assume that her being late is an isolated incident. Now if she is know for being a time waster or it happens a seconded time to me personally that's different.

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[Philmore 149]

Sometimes it does take patience. Time management is not their strong suit.

[Phaedrus 209521]

Sometimes it does take patience. Time management is not their strong suit.

 

I disagree. Almost everyone I've ever seen has been pretty good on that front.

[Guest Prufrock Cummings]

Sometimes it does take patience. Time management is not their strong suit.

 

Time management is not whose strong suit; the escort or the client? I'm unclear which one you are making generalized statements about.