rumours hurt

[E.D. man 691]

most rumours are usually bad, and can hurt.

people who accuse people without proof, are usually starting rumours.

people have lost, jobs, partners, friends over rumours and even their lives.

and i am sure that many people on cerb have been effected by rumours in thier lives, who are members on cerb.

and when a person reacts to a rumour in anger, it is generally the normal reaction.

so i myself would like the people in the world today to stop making accussations without proof. HOPEFULLY

[Annessa 22743]

Thank you for posting this ED, it is a true step towards positivity. Having heard of many rumors about myself brought on by Gents and SPs no longer on this site I can attest that rumors are indeed poisonous. And in many cases slander towards a business some of us have worked hard on keeping drama-free.

 

I am also very straight-up in defending any gent improperly convicted that one bad word against him due to something minor or gossip-worthy is something that shouldnt define them for future reference.

 

I encourage anyone who has a backbone to ASK before ASSUMING. you dont have to say where you heard the gossip from...but inevitably its the people who ask before making up their own minds due to rumors who are the real adults in any scene....and will be rewarded as such.

 

I am tempted to say more of my involvements with people spreading rumors about myself, as many have come to light recently....but all one can do is "suck it up" and feel sad for anyone believing rumors.... in the end it doesn't matter who believes what (as those are the people you dont need to worry about if they decide based on following the clan)....all anyone can do is keep being themselves. The rest are missing out.

 

I had a couple clients I used to see and stopped seeing because half the session was spent gossiping about cerb drama or another SP who was my friend...very uncomfortable. On the same note i know several SPs who have bashed me to clients that have bashed them to me in private.....why do people do this? All I can do is question people's motives when I hear about their "inside scoop"...Why cant we all exist in this amazing community without putting ourselves above others?

 

for those who hear something and believe it despite knowing someone....Lets all take a moment to second-guess whether the "juicy gossip" is worth passing on and ruining a person's business as an escort or a gents life as a hobbiest.

[777flyer 1612]

AGREED !

 

We are a unique community on CERB, like minded people who partake in a hobby that, if handled in a MATURE way, can be one of life's more gratifying experience...

 

The reason I hobby, is to AVOID DRAMA, RUMORS, INUENDO and childish demands that CAN often prop up in a relationship.

 

As stated earlier, we owe it to each other, to give the person the benefit of the doubt.......

 

Let's do that...

 

In the meantime, lets tone down the drama, rhetoric......save that for our day to day lives.....

 

End Rant........

[Guest s******ecan****]

Rarely are we presented with a truly objective version of any event. This becomes more problematic when you are hearing things 2nd and 3rd hand.

 

We all have a responsibility to be judicious and apply critical thinking to such information when it comes our way. We should always avoid passing on information we can't confirm ourselves unless it comes from an unimpeachable or a source of high crdibility (ie you see on the news that their is an earthquake somewhere).

 

Ask yourself, does this make sense? Does it seem to fit with my knowledge of the situation? Is it possible the source of this information may have motivation to alter the facts or spin the story a certain way?

[PistolPete 61421]

Rumors- To be quite frank they have been around for quite sometime, asking people to stop spreading rumors just will never happen.

 

I can remember years ago, a very excellent service provider that all men were lining up to see her, 1- because of her beauty and service and 2- because her rates were much lower then others in Ottawa! She quickly had disappeared.

 

Why you ask? Well rumor has it SP's decided it would be great to get her out of the way by spreading shit on her, that she was diseased of course red flags went off, and well she was quite hurt, decided to pack it in for a while.

 

The problem more recently between a SP and a hobbiest that was so well discussed about an apparent relationship, and brought forward to MOD was done again to simply disgrace her, because she was BUSIER then the others (my formed opinion and some others state the same).

 

Good for her, she is stronger then the idiot that started this crap on her, they were friends and well now she started the rumor shit, she lost a friendship.

 

So it goes without saying that rumors are simply spread here or in bedrooms out of pure jealousy or a dislike may it be about an SP or a hobbiest.

 

 

Sometimes SP's may do it just out of spite, and being hurtful, I have heard before and sure will hear it again, "It is a cut throat business" and sometimes you just gotta put up with shit like this.

 

 

For those that did spread the rumors or gossip keep doing it! You will only hurt yourself, (and you are quite aware who you are)your business will end up suffering.

 

Drama,hearsay,and rumors will always be around, you just have to learn and understand where the shit came from and simply pay no attention to it.

[Guest f***2f***]

Well said Pete. I don't repeat with sps who want to talk shit and drama. It says a lot about their character. I too have seen this happen because a certain individual or individuals are jealous of another's success and it is nauseating.

:ablow:

Gossip will always be with us. It is up to the hearer to try to understand where the source of this really lies.

[E.D. man 691]

of course i know rumours will never stop. it is part of life. but reducing and not reacting to them on cerb would be high benificial to everyone. hopefully people will have to provide evidence to back up rumours in the future.

[Lowdark 5613]

Everyone is programmed from a very early age to rumour-monger. Words are the best weapon of choice against rivals and sometimes of defense against bullies. In fact, rumours are one the biggest ways teenage girls bully each in school (men as well, but not quite as much). And it simply moves on from there. Look at all the "dramas" aimed at the teenage TV viewer, like One Tree Hill and Jersey Shore. But then ask yourself, is Sex and the City any better? Or the nightly news for that matter (which has become more hearsay, opinion and in some cases naked fear and hate mongering). To ask that people stop rumour mongering would be like asking bullies to becme florists or politicians to become trustworthy; it will never happen. But we can be adults and assign rumours sufficient value when we hear them, considering them as important as garbage. There's a reason rumours aren't permitted to be heard in court. Until you get solid, hard evidence, rumours are just hot air designed to hurt someone (just another form of bullying, one that has resulted in some tragic and high profile suicides of late). Remember, we're all suppossed to be grown ups here, and while everyone may not always act like it, we should at least behave with common sense when suspiicous hearsay comes our way.

[Boomer 33202]

I think this is one of the occuptional hazards for ladies in this business. One good thing about this board is the Mod is very diligent about disallowing negative commentary. This however is not the case on many other boards, and should a malicious rumour start it is almost like waving a red flag for the victim to respond, and because it brings out the crazies and the thread continues longer than it should.

 

It is really incumbent on the guys to take up a defence for those that are bashed if the tread doesn't die a quickly death.

[moonshadow 369]

Rumours suck! Mis-information tends to snowball and hurt others.

We are all adults here. Why not get over the high-school antics and

get back to having fun. Having fun and meeting wonderful CERB womenn is why

I'm here. Let's leave the rumours and the trash talk and the stupidy out!

 

Sorry if I'm coming across as blunt...but I just got home from

Visiting a wonderful CerB woman(reco coming soon) so I'm flyimg kind of high.

I also happen to be painting my garage at the moment and drinking Stellas.Maybe

the paint fumes and the beers are getting to me. LoL

 

Anyhow....let's stop the rumours and immature behavior and get back to

having fun. Gotta go...my Stella needs to be refreshed.

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[mod 135639]

This is all stemming off the issue with loralee that EDMAN felt the need to get involved in earlier today claiming that we accused her of being tracie. That is not the case, she just posted it in public to appear that way. It was brought to my attention that a few members here thought that this could be Tracie gold trying to get back into cerb so I asked her point blank "Are you tracie gold" and told her a few members thought she may be the same person and waited for a reply. Instead of replying in private (as I asked her in private) she got defensive and posted stuff in public foolishly (A lot like Tracie gold would do). EDman decided that we all were accusing her of something and had the need to rehash some crap I had to deal with about him in the past (OHH POOR ME)... Whatever!!

 

You want proof on everything?? That is ridiculous!

 

In that case how about everyone send me a copy of their ID, all personal contact information and phone number and an address where we can collect information about you to search out truths? Also while your at it send me some money to pay for the expenses we would need to hire a P.I. and track down all your proof. (That is JUST insane to make a comment like this!)

 

It's Not going to happen right? That is because we are in a VIRTUAL environment. You all use FAKE names and the truth is very easy to hide and very hard to come by.

 

Instead what we have here is our reputation. Post history and how much credibility you have. Here we do not have the luxury of proof so when someone has a concern they bring it to me and I deal with it with the best of my ability.

 

Rumors and accusations will happen (it's part of the business unfortunately and part of the anonymous virtual environment you are in) get some thicker skin and deal with it as nothing you say or do will make that go away it's a uphill battle and your "Proof" in most cases is NOT possible to find out so please be a little more realistic!

 

Now stop whining and use the site for what it is intended for and stop causing drama...