Pretalk. What Happens Before The Dates...?

[Guest S**a*Q]

I was just chatting with a member on here, and I was talking about how much I prefer getting to know someone beforehand, either through texts, emails or on the chat thingee...

 

However, I don't talk to everyone like this, it's not just people that I hope to see or that want to see me. I think the person has to have something of interest for me, I love chatty people... People with stories, people that can make me laugh, or stoke my ego... I don't mean to sound rude about that, ummm let me rephrase that in better terms for this industry, I guess my chatting is YMMV...

 

However, I do find that the appointments that are booked in advance, and we have time to chat or banter back and forth beforehand, I find are more stimulating, and well the ones that I remember most, or the people that tend to repeat with me.

 

I know that this is one of the reasons that I prefer advance bookings, (that's mostly how I started though) as most of my appointments in Thunder Bay were booked in advance. As most people came into visit, we'd have a few weeks or days to plan the visit... Now some do chat and some don't... Everyone's different.

 

I think that for me this isn't just a job, but a lifestyle...

 

I think that's why I like the people on here (cerb) it seems like more often than not, this isn't just a hobby for them, but again a lifestyle, where they take time out of their "real" day to talk to me!

 

That's my rant on chattiness.

 

Maybe it's just me being chatty... but if someone has something to add, please do!!!

[Guest al****s]

I completely agree with you. I too like to chat a bit via email or text before an encounter. I find that doing so makes the entire experience so much more pleasurable for all involved. For me, it's more like meeting a friend rather than some random stranger (which I won't do).

 

I think it's important to have some conversation before hand, even if it's just to plan the date and discuss wants, needs, limitation/boundaries, etc.

 

Men that can take a bit of time out of their day to say hi to me are the ones that I want to know and see.

 

Good thread Sara!!

 

alexis...xoxo

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I agree. I've gotten a lot of requests from new clients this month, October seems to have been popular for massage lol, and I always choose the ones who open up and bit and tell me about themselves.

 

The guys I tend not to meet at "Joe Blow 52-year-old white male disease and drug free" LOL. Not a very interesting description and doesn't make me feel compelled to meet them.

[Guest S**a*Q]

I agree. I've gotten a lot of requests from new clients this month' date=' October seems to have been popular for massage lol, and I always choose the ones who open up and bit and tell me about themselves.

 

The guys I tend not to meet at "Joe Blow 52-year-old white male disease and drug free" LOL. Not a very interesting description and doesn't make me feel compelled to meet them.[/quote']

 

Totally agree on that.. I love an email that shows that he or she put some time into it... I normally do as well, that is put time into ads, emails and messaging.

 

I also love proper vocabulary and stuff, I understand that spelling mistakes happen, but I really hate when there's too much "online lingo"...

 

Ooh and no sex talk... I like flirty stuff in emails and chat, but I"m not into "cybersex" hahaha do people still do that???

[Frenchie71 141]

Totally agreed. The best times are when people are connected. A little chat has never hurt this.

[NotchJohnson 214123]

I am in agreement with you Sara, all of the ladies that I have met through CERB and had a previous conversation turned out to be the best encounter ever. Although it is not always easy to start chatting with a stranger when you know nothing about the person beforehand and this is why it is nice to see the girls here posting their pictures and start post about them and what they like or not, or simply reply to something someone said.

As said before it is not always simple to book ahead of time(over a day).

[Guest f***2f***]

yeah it's good for us guys too. I remember how long Sara and I did a little virtual dance with chat and emails etc and then a trip came up to Thunder Bay. Who do you think was first on my list for a real dance?:bddog: It was really an enhanced meeting when we finally got together cause we had talked about a lot of stuff and had a good feel for how each other thought and reacted to certain things. Totally agree with you Sara.

[roamingguy 300292]

I am in agreement with the getting to know you. My initial email will be more asking general questions. But if the lady responds asking questions, more of an email dialogue I respond in turn. But some people are not good at writing, and email dialogue of an interpersonal nature can be hard to do.

I have also found that some ladies on emails do like to keep it more business, and by that arrange the appointment, location etc etc etc.

Some others, even with an email, prefer talking on the phone to email

For me, what I do, is schedule a 2 hour appointment, and at my age, it's not because I have 2 hours stamina LOL. It's time to meet the lady, sit down, chat, get to know them...for me it's all part of the encounter.

If it was strictly just services, why not go to a streetcorner

My 2 cents

RG

[Guest ***nsut***jr]

I think it's essential.

It fun and purposeful.

The pre talk or banter is a great way to understand each other as well as build up some excitement before a date.

Teasing and open ended suggestions can drive you crazy until the date making it a much longer process than just 1 or 2 hours. Kind of like a mental warm up.

 

J

[VedaSloan 119179]

I much prefer to have appointments with clients where there was a few emails back and forth prior. Not only does it allow me to get a feel for what your wants and needs are, but I am able to determine if you're going to be problematic for me.

 

Plus, going into an appointment cold makes it that much more difficult to assess whether you're satisfied, think I talk too much, etc.

[BarrhavenWoody 10776]

Great thread Sara. I agree that getting to know the lady is very important to the whole experience.

 

Although we haven't met yet, I have really enjoyed joking around with you in the chat room. The more I get to know you, the more I want to book an appointment with you. mmmm....soon...

[PistolPete 61421]

The conversation back and forth also really heightens the encounter and the first hello when you walk in the door :) It can be very exhilarating for both involved. It is so important to find out about each other first, it can be so erotic as well.

Great thread Sara.

 

I completely agree with you. I too like to chat a bit via email or text before an encounter. I find that doing so makes the entire experience so much more pleasurable for all involved. For me, it's more like meeting a friend rather than some random stranger (which I won't do).

 

I think it's important to have some conversation before hand, even if it's just to plan the date and discuss wants, needs, limitation/boundaries, etc.

 

Men that can take a bit of time out of their day to say hi to me are the ones that I want to know and see.

 

Good thread Sara!!

 

alexis...xoxo

[serenitynow 120]

I agree with getting to know you in advnace - never sure what the sp wants - sometimes I err on the side of caution

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

We hit the sheets and talk dirty later.lol.

[serenitynow 120]

Nicolette - great response!

[Birdboy 10482]

Sara, I'm 100% agreed with you on this. My best times ever in this hobby are when we've chatted and corresponded a little beforehand. It breaks the ice and makes things just a little more comfortable for everyone.

 

When I am interested in someone, I introduce myself in an email, say a little about myself, sometimes even send a link to one of my stories. If there is a terse reply, I might still see the lady but it reduces my expectations about the potential session considerably. My mind has to be tickled as well as my body, I guess.

 

Conversely, there have been a very few ladies for whom I had chatted with or corresponded with extensively before we finally met. I am very conscious of not creating a burden of unwanted chatter, but if there is mutual interest and chemistry I'll indulge. And when we have finally met.. wow. Fireworks on both sides! Like everything else in life, you get more out of it when you put in more effort.

[Guest S**a*Q]

We hit the sheets and talk dirty later.lol.

 

It's not about the dirty talk for me, that actually turns me off in emails if it's not expected.

 

I think being pansexual makes me want to know more about them before I meet them. I like to know little things, like what music they like or what they're all about... Who they are as a person. It's all about chemistry for me, and knowing how someone thinks or what they like to think of, lets me build greater chemistry for the appointment. Getting to know others, also let's me build a better understanding of who I am.

 

Now, I also have a lot of time to spare for chatting with others, I would consider chatting with new people one of my hobbies. I think that that would be a hurdle for someone who was busier than me and then can understand how less talk would work better for someone. :)

 

Everyone's different though and that's what makes us all interesting! :D

[Guest s******ecan****]

This is an interesting thread. I tend to follow the Lady's lead in this regard. To be honest many of the SP's I have seen tend to send the message that the initial conversation whether by email or PM is all business. This is not to say they are being unfriendly, just business like. I have found it to be the exception rather than the rule that SP's encourage more of a "build up" or "develop chemistry" through pre-meeting conversation. I have definitely enjoyed that when it has happened, and I have to say it does tend to make the overall experience much more satisfying.

 

It could be perhaps that the vast majority of the SP's I see are touring and so have a lot more correspondence and details to deal with and so don't have the time to devote to this concept.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

It's not about the dirty talk for me, that actually turns me off in emails if it's not expected.

 

I think being pansexual makes me want to know more about them before I meet them. I like to know little things, like what music they like or what they're all about... Who they are as a person. It's all about chemistry for me, and knowing how someone thinks or what they like to think of, lets me build greater chemistry for the appointment. Getting to know others, also let's me build a better understanding of who I am.

 

Now, I also have a lot of time to spare for chatting with others, I would consider chatting with new people one of my hobbies. I think that that would be a hurdle for someone who was busier than me and then can understand how less talk would work better for someone. :)

 

Everyone's different though and that's what makes us all interesting! :D

 

I see what you're saying as I used to do this myself but my market has changed and most of the people I see want immediate gratification with a quick phone call. In some ways I wish I had the time to engage with clients over emails as I have done in the past but I have noticed that the business has changed in some ways particularily in that area in the last few years and have just decided to roll with it. I usually attempt to create the chemistry with a nice kiss at the door and that usually breaks the ice while setting things in motion from there on out.

[Guest S**a*Q]

I see what you're saying as I used to do this myself but my market has changed and most of the people I see want immediate gratification with a quick phone call. In some ways I wish I had the time to engage with clients over emails as I have done in the past but I have noticed that the business has changed in some ways particularily in that area in the last few years and have just decided to roll with it. I usually attempt to create the chemistry with a nice kiss at the door and that usually breaks the ice while setting things in motion from there on out.

 

*Nod*

Ottawa's a different market than the slow little Thunder Bay, that's something that I've seen in the past 2 months.

[Guest G***f******]

My first time with an escort, I spent an hour and a half of our two hours together just talking and afterwards I had a really hard time separating my feelings for her from fact that this was just a job for her.

 

When I decided to try again during my vacation, I spent a while choosing the right person, spent some time talking to her by e-mail and had a wonderful time with her.

 

But afterwards I had the same problem. I liked her a heck of a lot more than she liked me, and this time, I had her e-mail address, and CERB handle and am afraid I've made kind of a PITA out of myself.

 

What's my point? I've come to realize that while I THOUGHT I just wanted a fantasy, I discovered that I was a much lonelier person than I imagined, and that for somoeone like me, a little attention can go a long way.

[Reddog01 30280]

The CERB community is great. I feel I have been chatting with many of you, although most very indirectly, for some time. I think one can start to see personalities coming out from responses to threads and posts. Personal emails back and forth take it to the next level. I also think, a well designed web space is important as well as impressions are gauged from the content and approach to service and life in general.

 

I must admit I value email conversation and banter before meeting. As mentioned by others, it starts to form a relationship before you get to open the door for the first time. If things go well I would hope to keep the line of communication open, perhaps keeping the relationship alive in anticipation of another visit or just saying ?Hello how is it going?? I find I look forward to opening my account everyday with the hope that a pm or an email might be waiting for me.

 

However, I did have one bad experience with an Agency. I had been dealing with a very beautiful SP, or so I thought, for about three weeks before a trip. We engaged in playful wordplay and I really looked forward to our meeting. When it finally happened she reveled that she had only been forwarded two or three emails sometimes "paraphrased? from me. Her manager had been responding to me the majority of the time posing as the SP. I was a bit upset at the time and I felt somewhat betrayed. She wasn?t happy about it either and now plans to go Independent. I guess maybe more Independents are more likely to engage in playful repartee, which I for one applaud.

[fortunateone 156618]

The CERB community is great. I feel I have been chatting with many of you, although most very indirectly, for some time. I think one can start to see personalities coming out from responses to threads and posts. Personal emails back and forth take it to the next level. I also think, a well designed web space is important as well as impressions are gauged from the content and approach to service and life in general.

 

I must admit I value email conversation and banter before meeting. As mentioned by others, it starts to form a relationship before you get to open the door for the first time. If things go well I would hope to keep the line of communication open, perhaps keeping the relationship alive in anticipation of another visit or just saying ?Hello how is it going?? I find I look forward to opening my account everyday with the hope that a pm or an email might be waiting for me.

 

However, I did have one bad experience with an Agency. I had been dealing with a very beautiful SP, or so I thought, for about three weeks before a trip. We engaged in playful wordplay and I really looked forward to our meeting. When it finally happened she reveled that she had only been forwarded two or three emails sometimes "paraphrased? from me. Her manager had been responding to me the majority of the time posing as the SP. I was a bit upset at the time and I felt somewhat betrayed. She wasn?t happy about it either and now plans to go Independent. I guess maybe more Independents are more likely to engage in playful repartee, which I for one applaud.

 

 

Nice of her to let you know. I would never assume that going thru an agency will at any time actually connect you one to one with the sp. One prime reason for sps to use agencies is to not deal with the day to day interaction, or even the booking process, but allow someone else to do it all for them. Maybe a time issue, may simply that they don't like that level of interaction. It sounds, because she was forwarded emails, and has an opinion about it, that she is one who does like the interaction, hence her decision to go indy.