SexyLacy 8537 Report post Posted June 28, 2016 Sometimes we make decisions that feel right at the time and it isn't until after the decision is made that we realize it was a huge mistake. Often times we get into this mentality of "I made my bed I might as well layin it" and it takes a whirlwind of incidents to happen until you are forced to walk away and start your life over again Am I making any sense? lol I really truly did think I found love. I really truly did believe he loved me.. I gave him my everything in hopes for something in return.. I wore my heart on my sleeve and made myself vulnerable I know there is life after love and I won't give up because I would like to believe that there are still good guys out there who don't have a mission to destroy someone However, what I don't think he realized is that this destruction is only temporary because I know that I am a strong independent woman who will come out of this happy and satisfied because I know that I am a good person who hasn't ever done anything to anyone.. and I also know that sometimes bad things happen to good people but karma always prevails. Starting your life over in your mid 30's has got to change a person for sure. So I have chosen to embrace this time in my life for all that it is. I am going to grow from this and I will walk away much wiser, much more loving and much more humble for it. sorry for the rambling blog.. I don't have much support in my personal life and I guess I just feel the need to talk about this Thanks for reading Lacy xoxo 13 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Seaniew3 340 Report post Posted June 28, 2016 Kudos to you for being brave and for facing your realities and making a determination. Heart break, loss and betrayal are hard to deal with. That's for certain. But often times, the feelings of loss and despair are so strong that one tends to forget that you have so much more in life than a relationship, a person, belongings, etc. I commend and applaud your strength. You may not be starting over though. Take stock of what you have, and I bet you'll end up with more than you think you have. Your strength, good intentions, kind heart, and hope are just some of the many. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Prufrock Cummings Report post Posted June 29, 2016 You sound strong and in control of your life Lacy, with a positive healthy outlook for your future. Stay strong like you are and positive too. As for "Starting your life over in your mid 30's has got to change a person for sure", the age is of no matter, we can start over after a divorce at 50 or 60, or the death of a partner at any age. Mid 30's is still very young (in the grand scheme), either way, embrace that change! Good luck and thank you for sharing your story! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted June 29, 2016 When I was a kid I used to think that once you grow up you set your life up the way you want it to be and then it stays that way. The longer we live, the more clearly we see how UNtrue that is. Life is a metamorphosis and we actually live several lives in one lifetime. So don't let change scare you too much, and certainly don't see it as a failure. That's the way life is! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Grass_Hopper 18263 Report post Posted June 29, 2016 Ouf, been there... Being ''awaken'' enough to see reality as it is is a quality I truly appreciate, and I can see eventhough you are perfectly aware of your situation, you're looking forward, and on a positive note. I don't know about you (we are about the same age), but I believe a woman is truly in her prime in her thirdies. Not only beatiful, sexy, and raced, but also strong, almost powerful, determined, but most of all, really getting to know what are needs really are. I may not yet know what I want in life, but I sure do know what I don't... Anyways, what I try to say is you may have the impression of starting over, but you don't. It hurts, but it will heal. And bring you a whole lots of new opportunities... *Hugs* 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest *Ste***cque** Report post Posted June 29, 2016 Sometimes we make decisions that feel right at the time and it isn't until after the decision is made that we realize it was a huge mistake. Often times we get into this mentality of "I made my bed I might as well layin it" and it takes a whirlwind of incidents to happen until you are forced to walk away and start your life over again Am I making any sense? lol I really truly did think I found love. I really truly did believe he loved me.. I gave him my everything in hopes for something in return.. I wore my heart on my sleeve and made myself vulnerable I know there is life after love and I won't give up because I would like to believe that there are still good guys out there who don't have a mission to destroy someone However, what I don't think he realized is that this destruction is only temporary because I know that I am a strong independent woman who will come out of this happy and satisfied because I know that I am a good person who hasn't ever done anything to anyone.. and I also know that sometimes bad things happen to good people but karma always prevails. Starting your life over in your mid 30's has got to change a person for sure. So I have chosen to embrace this time in my life for all that it is. I am going to grow from this and I will walk away much wiser, much more loving and much more humble for it. sorry for the rambling blog.. I don't have much support in my personal life and I guess I just feel the need to talk about this Thanks for reading Lacy xoxo Just to be clear, Lacy, you're not euphemistically speaking about Brexit are you?:) I'm kidding. Sometimes humor helps... sometimes not so much. Love is a risk. When it works it's great and when it doesn't, it sucks. Never stop taking calculated risks though. That's what life is about. I wish you well and remember , you're not alone out there. Steve Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SexyLacy 8537 Report post Posted June 29, 2016 thank you everyone for your kind words of encouragement and for believing in me .. it really does make me feel stronger so thank you you are all correct, I will be ok.. it's just a very scary time. I'm not a fan of the unknown and that is what this feels like to me. I've always been someone who has had control over her life Now I am trying to figure out how to sell a house so I can start over ... I know when this time in my life is all over and I am settled into a new home I will be ok .. it's everything leading up to that point that has me scared.. how hard is it to sell a house? In Windsor it is a sellers market right now so i can't imagine it being to hard .. but I am worried. This is an old house. once the house is sold do I get the cheque on sale day or do i have to wait until i actually move out? Once I sell this house I am not buying another one.. home ownership while a great feeling to have and it looks great on paper but at the end of the day .. it's just a house that constantly needs something.. so my plan is to pay 1 yr of rent in advance on a house and use that year to build my life again Thanks again and take care xoxo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piano8950 32577 Report post Posted June 29, 2016 I really truly did think I found love. I really truly did believe he loved me.. I gave him my everything in hopes for something in return.. I wore my heart on my sleeve and made myself vulnerable I know there is life after love and I won't give up because I would like to believe that there are still good guys out there who don't have a mission to destroy someone Well, this sounds really familiar, just replace he/him with she/her. I spent way too long on my disaster, and it sucked when I finally left. But it got better slowly, I gained more respect for myself, more confidence then I ever had, loved my family and friends (my true family and friends) more for being there when I needed it. I now look back at it all as something that made me stronger. It will be a lot better I promise. once the house is sold do I get the cheque on sale day or do i have to wait until i actually move out? You get the cheque the day you hand over the keys, and give up possession of the house itself. Good luck with your future endeavours. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
