Newbie looking for advice on incalls vs out

[x6663 100]

As a 1st timer...I am a little nervous to go see a SP at their location. Really just the fear of the unknown...but would love to here any words of wisdom on this. Thanks in advance

[FunElement12 974]

I can totally relate! I decided to book a hotel for my first visit. I am a woman seeing a female escort. My first time with an escort was also my first time with a woman which was stressful enough for me that I felt that going to a hotel was better than adding the stress of going to her incall. The 2nd time I saw her was at her incall but I was far less nervous so it was fine. Now I always go to the incall.

[blacklabdog 3049]

be guided by the reviews which often describe location. VAST majority of SPs on Lyla (as opposed t Backpage) are safe

 

Really your biggest problem is choosing from all the great ladies here

[Guest Prufrock Cummings]

It can always be a little nerve-wracking meeting someone new, especially in a location/part of town that you are maybe not familiar with. Blacklabdog had a good suggestion that you should check the reviews about locations on Lyla ladies.

 

You can also look into hotels that are in your/hers area and have the rendezvous there; a location convenient to you both.

[Honey Man 12759]

if you choose incall and when you arrive at your destination and feel uncomfortable for any reason you can leave. If you heaven forbid, choose an outcall and find yourself in a situation you do not want to be in you then have to somehow get that person to leave. However if you know the lady an incall can be nice because you do not have to travel and can relax after.I had a lady visit me once and she showed up highly intoxicated and was very loud. The entire visit was extremely uncomfortable and I was very happy when she left.

[Blonde Doll 1511]

I am an SP that provides more outcall than in.

I feel the people i go visit are more comfortable because its their own environnement and also feels more relax and can enjoy more (since they dont have to drive before or after).

I am not the type to arrive loud and/or intoxicated but it can happen with some ladies (usually if you speak with them on the phone you can right away see if she is or not).

Even if i provide outcall i make sure im going to a discreet and clean place(clean sheets and room most of possible).

And also if you have roomates or other people at the location let the girl know its always less sketchy ;)

If you not sure for either outcall or incall, you can always rent a hotel room and meet in a neutral place.

Hope this helps xoxox

[bobbi 1388]

Do you research, ask help on here, and going to their hotel I consider safe, but going to their personal residence could be a little more worrisome.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Worrisome if you don't do your research!

[ElissaMarie 4310]

He could but as a provider I don't think it would be the appropriate thing to do, if someone does research on the lady they would like to visit and read about her and her incall then the possibility of them feeling uncomfortable would be very slight, if by uncomfortable they mean nervous then it wouldn't be right to leave without first compensating the lady for having reserved that time for them. I once had someone texting me to let me know that he had arrived but he didn't feel comfortable staying and I was not happy, he emailed me later explaining that he saw a 'suspicious' vehicle close to where he parked which made him decide to leave, us providers have no control over this and my area is very safe and discreet so from a provider's perspective, I think to leave or cancel last minute isn't the best advice to the OP.

 

if you choose incall and when you arrive at your destination and feel uncomfortable for any reason you can leave.

[FunElement12 974]

 

Going to an incall for the first time can certainly add to the nervousness but leaving or cancelling is not the way to go about. Do your research, many very reputable women work in Ottawa. I've only being to one incall but I'm sure that women who take their work seriously ensure that their incall is safe and discreet. The key is research and communication!

[nntsci 11076]

I usually book with agencies that have a good reputation and provide incalls as an option. I was very nervous the first few times.