How To Have Sex With Escorts: A Primer

[VedaSloan 119179]

Disclaimer: I realize that the majority of you are paying for a sexual service and that your needs should be met within the boundaries of the escort in question. That is the service I am providing.

 

However, that being said, I would like to call attention to what I like to refer to as "jack-hammering." This is basically extended penetrative sex and nothing else. You may be convinced that good sex requires only penetration and stamina--as well all know, women want a man who can last (I hope you can sense the sarcasm there), or perhaps it is purely selfish on your part, you do want to get your money's worth after all. So you pound your paid sex partner, over and over, squeezing in every possible available second. In which case, I am not a blow-up doll. I am not an object solely for your use.

 

Keep in mind, I do not think it is a problem, for example, if you would like to simply pay to receive a blowjob, provided you realize the skill and time involved in administering a good blowjob. And I do not think penetrative sex itself is bad. But if you are interested in engaging in a full range of sexual behaviour, please realize that "sex" does not simply equal penetration for as long as humanly possible. After awhile it is painful, un-stimulating and rather boring. If a woman is not turned on, she doesn't create those delicious lubricating fluids that can make penetrative sex so wonderful. So take the time to pay attention to things like kissing and groping and licking and nibbling and so on. If the first thing you're going for is penetration, you have skipped so many amazing, naughty fun things to do to one another.

 

While we are providing a very intimate service, aimed at generating your pleasure and satisfaction, we have emotions, and physical limits. So keep that in mind the next time you're with your favourite lady.

 

Happy pooning!

[Guest f***2f***]

so true!! I've sometimes spent an entire session just on oral and touching...hot hot hot!

[Amanda Bella 421]

I am so happy beautiful Berlin is discussing this issue!

 

I wish some of you knew this: The female body it is made for multiple orgasmic experiences thus if you care to make us come and have

an eletric session with you.

 

All you have to do is ask us: How do you prefer?

 

Where and how can i pleasure your body, breasts, thights?

 

How can i perform date on you, to arouse you?

 

We are in the age of the Godess, thus most sexually confident female knows what she likes and dislikes in bed.

 

Some of you even get mad at me when i try to give you tips on my sexual likes and dislikes.

 

And some of you are all about been generous and sensual according to my personal sexual preferences in order to make the best of our encounter

and the result it is hot sex mmmmmmmmmmmmmm!

 

Some guy even told me it is "natural to penetrate a lady hard".

 

I would say the word natural it is a dangerous word to use in

sexuality and aesthetics.

 

It is natural to allow gas to flow freely, should i fart on your face during sex because it is natural? No right?

 

I prefer gentle and slow sex, but once i am more warm up

i will ask for more action.

 

I think desire and lust should lead in bed, not the strength of your male hips.

 

I would prefer that you touch my arms, my legs and my back and my waist

and my back before you touch any sexual part of my body, and please be gentle and please warm up your hands before touching us.

 

The beauty is: Some of you already aim to please, but you are

rare and you know who you are;).

 

When you penetrate us hard without any care to increase our pleasure

we just want to make you come asap, because it hurts.

[PistolPete 61421]

I always like to pleasure my lady first,by sensual kissing,erotic touching,exploring her body from head to yes toes too!, giving her long lasting oral (which I thoroughly enjoy and getting most excellent at with age and experience ;) )

 

In a particular hour appointment I like to explore her first so she can orgasm and enjoy herself. It actually really turns me on when she grabs my hair on my head,and pulls or pushes my head deeper between her legs.

 

It is a known fact is most men really don't last a real long time penetrating, therefore personally I like mutual satisfaction. I normally enjoy the ride at the end of the date, and stop and use multiple positions.

 

Eroticism and sensuality go hand in hand, pleasure each other and it will leave you breathless and sore muscles after,if done correctly by both parties.Both of you will enjoy it more,at least that is what I find.

[Bendex 653]

What a great topic Berlin,

 

I believe one of the misconceptions about how a woman wants to be pleased by a man comes from some of the porn industry. I think most lads have seen those films where the guy pounds as hard and long as he can on a sex Goddess for 30 to 60 minutes or more( and maybe that's a reality for some men and women) but I'm assuming there is a great deal of editing or the guy has used some type of injection to numb his johnson. ....convincing myself this is fact is what makes me feel better as a strong breeze on my trouser trout will make me cum in a nano second...:razz:..anyway....as far back as I can remember, I've always made pleasing a woman my number one priority. I may not have always succeeded, and definitely made some stupid errors in judgment after getting too over confident that I had found the magic key to sexually satisfying every female on the planet, but I have learned that asking what turns her on, can never be a bad thing. I've also learned that a woman's "sexual regions".....( sorry for the goofy description)... are not the only part of her body that gives her sexual pleasure....a few of my favorite places to concentrate on are the back of her neck, her hands and forearms, her inner thighs, gently kissing and nibbling on her neck and ears.....umm...I'll be right back:jackoff:....sorry....just thinking of being with a woman is always too much for me...the best part of being a man, is making love to a woman...or two...or three...or.....Women are the most beautiful creation on this planet and should be adored and cherished by men....a tad melodramatic perhaps...but that's the passion in my heart and is exactly how I feel. The guys that do the "slam bam" thing just to satisfy the urge to release are missing 99% of what sexual pleasure is all about( in my opinion). Taking your time to show the lady that you are willing to open your heart and show true appreciation of her beauty, will potentially take her to a level of excitement that will only go to enhance the entire experience.

 

anyway....thanks for letting me add my two cents....and thank you Berlin for bringing up this topic. I always enjoy reading your posts....and looking at your amazing beauty...;-)

[tater 267]

Well now that you've revived this ancient thread, i figured i'd add my two cents...

 

While I largely agree with the comments above, I'd like to illuminate the flip side of this issue. This may get me in trouble, but for many escorts, their goal is to finish the encounter asap to minimize time spent with the client while still reaping the rewards. More often then not, even with some of the best, the clothes are thrown at the drop of a hat and there is little to no foreplay (even in 2hr+ arrangements). I don't speak for all men, but many of us enjoy some of the hottest moments with an escort partially clothed.

 

It is tremendously anti-climatic to greet your host, only to find her instantly drop all the clothes and be ready to roll (even if this happens in the first 5-10min, i still think it's too fast). This could mean that the client may not be as turned on and may require a lot more 'jack-hammering' to reach climax. Sure, the escort might tire or not enjoy this, but it was her actions that contributed to the time spent endlessly :bddog: .

 

I guess all I'm saying is that these poor sexual experiences should not be blamed exclusively on the client, the escort plays a significant role as well. (Taking the time to get a client 'super' hot may in fact lead to a shorter overall time spent together.)

[Andee 220524]

Well now that you've revived this ancient thread, i figured i'd add my two cents...

 

While I largely agree with the comments above, I'd like to illuminate the flip side of this issue. This may get me in trouble, but for many escorts, their goal is to finish the encounter asap to minimize time spent with the client while still reaping the rewards. More often then not, even with some of the best, the clothes are thrown at the drop of a hat and there is little to no foreplay (even in 2hr+ arrangements). I don't speak for all men, but many of us enjoy some of the hottest moments with an escort partially clothed.

 

It is tremendously anti-climatic to greet your host, only to find her instantly drop all the clothes and be ready to roll (even if this happens in the first 5-10min, i still think it's too fast). This could mean that the client may not be as turned on and may require a lot more 'jack-hammering' to reach climax. Sure, the escort might tire or not enjoy this, but it was her actions that contributed to the time spent endlessly :bddog: .

 

I guess all I'm saying is that these poor sexual experiences should not be blamed exclusively on the client, the escort plays a significant role as well. (Taking the time to get a client 'super' hot may in fact lead to a shorter overall time spent together.)

 

Which is why you need to be as careful selecting your SP as we have to be in choosing which clients to see. It's not always possible to tell what someone is going to be like beforehand. Luckily though we always have the option of not repeating.

 

The SPs I know who offer longer appointments, do not wish to get at it right away. In fact, they like to start out with a drink, conversation, etc. To want to get at it right away is encouraging the very thing that Berlin is talking about. But then there are those that will do everything in their power to delay getting down to it.

 

And there are those who offer 15 minute appointments because they just want to accommodate the "get 'em in, get 'em off and get 'em out" mentality.

 

There is nothing wrong with some good hard pounding, but within a reasonable time limit. As Berlin pointed out, we're not blow up dolls.

 

It just comes down to finding the right "fit" (no pun intended).

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

Berlin, thank you for starting this conversation with your clear, sensitive and accurate opening post!

 

I rarely offer one-hour appointments, and never to new clients. Instead, I give a bit of a discount for a first-time meeting so that we can spend a relaxed hour and a half, or more, together. A drink, a glass of wine or a cup of tea and some relaxed conversation smooth the way to a very good erotic encounter. Engage me, turn me on, help me reach high arousal and you're welcome to pound away as much as you like. I'll be with you, and I can be as demanding, responsive and energetic as you can, if not more!

 

And if things come to an end sooner than you'd hoped or expected, that's not a problem. I'm happy to cuddle and engage in lots of sensual after-play. In fact, this is often a bonding experience that may increase my eagerness for round two or for your next visit!

 

I do want to say that the jackhammer enthusiast is, thankfully, rare, perhaps because I learned early on, after someone expected a solid half hour of Greek penetration, not to make half-hour appointments with anyone I don't know quite well.

 

Most of my clients are sensitive and attentive lovers, which makes everything better for both of us.

[roamingguy 300292]

I know I'm no marathoner LOL.

I like the date to start off with a glass of wine (water in my case, I don't drink) and either sit on the couch (or jacuzzi, even better) and talk, get to know one another, or if a your seeing the lady again for a second, third, forth...well you get the idea, talk like old friends catching up

Then let nature take its course

It should be mutually enjoyable, (and thus far, throw in a massage, the ladies seem to love that) and listen to what the lady likes (she'll like you for listening and responding)...yesterday the lady requested something I didn't expect, but I was very happy to oblige.

And good advice P Pete about head to toe, ladies seem to like their feet pampered too

RG

[rickoshadows 937]

While I'm not opposed to, and actually enjoy some extended foreplay, at the end of the day (or hour), I'm all about an unrestrained, full out sprint to the finish. I find that getting a girl warmed up usually contributes to a satisfying ending. If I have to treat my partner as a delicate flower from start to end, there will not be a repeat. I have always selected partners based on the fitness and athleticism, as I find such women to be able to participate and much more likley to enjoy some no holds barred sex. Admittedly, my range of potential partners has expanded as I no longer have the core strength I used to have due to some lower back issues plaguing me recently, however I still come across some who whine about going to deep or thrusting too hard. Duration is usually not an issue as I don't last very long once I go for it.

[Winnipegcub 21293]

Berlin, good thread and nice reminder. The sad part is though that guys who should likely 'get this' - won't. Now another consideration is that I expect everyone's sexual game play is different. That is likely also true between some men and women. Some like certain things, different techniques, and varying pace. I know even myself I know generally what I like but in the moment, variation can be great if the situation calls for it. I am with Pete and Bendex and think they raise an interesting point. Although for ones self the physical sexual feelings can be pretty overwhelming - STOP FOR ONE MOMENT AND THINK ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON. I think that is when many possibilities are presented. Like some have said though I have had experiences where I felt the woman didn't really want to be attended to and just wanted to do me and get the session completed. Rare but has happened. That is partly why I try and build up a rapport before, book minimum 2 hr sessions, and generally stick with regulars. Have even had a night where I wasn't completed at all - it was all her. Now we had a second night booked so I knew what I was in for in round 2.

Sorry for the blabbing and again Berlin thanks for the reminder that there is someone else with us when we're being so satisfied.

WC

[Jenni 162]

I can see where both sides are coming from here and I have also been a victim of endless penetrative sex. Don't get me wrong I enjoy it but to a point. I get very frustrated when a client wants nothing other then to get inside of me, just to pound away as hard as they can for the remainder of the hour doing nothing to switch it up or keep me involved. It then seems that they themselves become clock watchers waiting and making sure they get that last thrust and then finishing with not even a minute to spare. There isn't a climax or anything just the same thing over and over and it does get very painful. I never want to sound like the person who wants to leave early or just get it done. It gets to the point though when it becomes very obvious that this person is simply pounding away on you and intentionally taking forever just to get their moneys worth, with no intention of making sure you are turned on in the slightest way. Those are the calls that I do not return.

[Genwar 101]

I'm going with P Pete on this as well! I have met several SP's here and I would say it is safe to say they enjoyed our experience together as much as I did. It is important to spend some of that time cuddling, fondling, touching, kissing. It elevates the experience to the true GFE level. I have met SP's that don't Kiss, barely touch, just adopt the postion and get it done. I have not repeated to say the least. I also avoid any adds not offering cuddling, fondling, touching and kissing as I know my experience will not be satisfactory! If I don't feel my partner is enjoying our experience together then I don't enjoy the experience either.

 

I might add that I think maturity has alot to do with an improved experience between SP and client!

[Amanda Bella 421]

Jenni!

 

Thank you so muck for describing the torture that we sometimes have to put up with!

 

I wonder if some guys think that having sex and doing rough sports it is the same thing.

 

The sophisticated lover usually ask me about my sexual likes and dislikes because he wants the best of the situation for mutual pleasure.

 

Whereas the zero lover guys think it is "natural" to penetrate as

hard and as fast as possible which is painfuly torturous and then all i want to do is stop the whole thing and give the guy a good old hand job!

 

Sex without knowing the individual likes and dislikes

of the person in front of you

is like this:

You are very tired thus you

need to get to the Marriot Hotel in Ottawa because you would love to get a good nite of sleep but you dont know the location and you want to get there no matter what, and really fast!

 

I can see where both sides are coming from here and I have also been a victim of endless penetrative sex. Don't get me wrong I enjoy it but to a point. I get very frustrated when a client wants nothing other then to get inside of me, just to pound away as hard as they can for the remainder of the hour doing nothing to switch it up or keep me involved. It then seems that they themselves become clock watchers waiting and making sure they get that last thrust and then finishing with not even a minute to spare. There isn't a climax or anything just the same thing over and over and it does get very painful. I never want to sound like the person who wants to leave early or just get it done. It gets to the point though when it becomes very obvious that this person is simply pounding away on you and intentionally taking forever just to get their moneys worth, with no intention of making sure you are turned on in the slightest way. Those are the calls that I do not return.

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

Such an informative thread, thank you very much!

 

When I am engaged by a gentleman for extended hours I am always very frank and explain if this is what he has on his mind I am not the lady for him. You will get your money's worth and more from me, yes I am a paid companion and providing sex is my job. I will not however tolerate being treated as an object without feelings, we all deserve more than this, ladies and gentlemen alike.

 

Thankfully these situations are few and far between. There are more gentlemen in the world than not.:)

[Genwar 101]

Berlin, I'm glad you started this thread! I like to hear how service providers feel about these things. It helps us understand how to improve both our experience and the experience of the SP.

 

Granted we are paying for a service but if the experience isn't pleasureable then, at least for me, I feel I didn't spend my time well. For an SP, I can imagine that they feel similarly! Among other things I'm sure.

 

So far I think this is one of the better threads I have seen on CERB. We should have more similar topic threads.

 

LOL! gonna have to give that some thought.

 

Thanks again Berlin.

[Guest **cely***r***ne]

Very good thread indeed! There is never anything wrong with learning new things about sex and how to make it the most pleasurable experience possible! That is what we look for am I right?

I for one like a gentle starter leading to rough hard sex, but if it starts rough and we are not properly lubricated the walls in our vaginas can tear. This can lead to infection! OUCH!

 

We are real women with real feelings and emotions, and your tender touch means alot to us as it does to you! And as Cathy somewhat mentioned, we do get paid for sexual services as humans not pleasure-bots! I am very fortunate that I havent experienced this painful side of sexy sex, but please next time you see your lady of choice focus on her well being and her moaning! You can tell the difference between a OMG this feel amazing moan and a OMG get this over with moan!

 

Thank you Berlin for this thread! It has given me lots of ideas!

[VedaSloan 119179]

I'm so glad that everyone is finding this thread useful.

 

Also, "pleasure-bot" really made me laugh, Angel.

[Guest i***k***]

Sex is passion...

 

I definitely agree that guys purely in it for a long hard fuck are not necessarily creating the proper environment to escalate enjoyment. On the flip side I've been with escorts that do exactly the same thing in exactly the opposite way.

 

There is a middle ground that we need to find for mutual satisfaction.

 

Ina

 

p.s. I'm back bitches!

[mrgreen760 37785]

One of the advantages of getting older.....no need for speed :)

 

Peace

MG

[Hornee69 4851]

I very seldom get around to penetration, there are just too many other erotic, fun things to do rather than "banging"!

[Loralee Reach 245]

I am delighted reading the answers to it.....great community at Cerb we have !!!

let me ad that the pre-sex part is the most delightful of all the sessions....our gentlemen here are good at it!!!!Most of them understand that "one does not bang over and over and as a consequence hurts the provider.."

Just banging is boring!!!

Thanks guys!

loralee

[zinga 133]

I think communication is the most important thing because everyone's likes and dislikes can be different.

 

I like kissing the back of a lady's neck, just behind the ear, as I gently cup her breasts from behind. Some may not like that. I also like lightly tickling her body by gently running my fingers up and down her sides, stomach, back. Some may not like that either.

 

You might be afraid to tell a client something you think he may not want to hear, but perhaps he'll like you more if you tell him exactly what you like.

[harboursmoke 3087]

Now just so you know I have 7 years of American Football (Linebacker) and coming on 20 years of rugby (Tighthead prop) down range and although my chosen sports are rough to say the least I can defiantly differentiate between a scrum and a sexy scrum under the covers... :bddog:

 

hahahaha Anyone wanna pack down with a tighthead ?

 

I wonder if some guys think that having sex and doing rough sports it is the same thing.

[canuckhooker 19203]

Well you can tell by my nick where I played, but I am also a loosehead. ( I need someone to tighten the bolts on my neck) I don't think I want to pack down against you though. Maybe we could find an all female front row, or perhaps some locks who need a good place to bind. :P