How To Have Sex With Escorts: A Primer

[jafo105 39057]

Honestly, I won't head for penetration-town unless a client makes a move in that direction, or if we've reached the point where we're just so turned on it seems the only logical next step. I've found if I don't make the moves for penetration, most clients are quite happy to stay in the land of foreplay.

 

 

I always try to make a two or three hour booking so things can go slow and workup to the passion. I am quite happy staying on the couch engaged in foreplay. I usually wait for the lady to decide when it is time to move it to the bedroom. If I am really arroused I will try to hold back and determin by the way the lady is moving her hips, and by her wetnesss, not to forget her passionate kisses.Then I will ask if she would like a condom. (This seems to work well for me).

 

Back to the original thread, I have never been the type to engage in aggressive intercourse. Leave that for the porn movies.

[Guest m**l]

OMG you are reading my mind! GREAT ARTICLE!!!! Well thought out and well versed!

[S**********o 258]

I'm curious why these obviously important desires of the SP community aren't advertised in the same fashion as appointment protocols, rates, schedules, etc...

 

Wouldn't it help everyone have a better experience?

[drm 100]

I find this sort of conversation enlightening if I am normal which I hope I am I think we are all a bit nevous and could take the time to enjoy the entire visit

R

[roamingguy 300292]

I find this sort of conversation enlightening if I am normal which I hope I am I think we are all a bit nevous and could take the time to enjoy the entire visit

R

 

That nervousness and excitement in anticipation of meeting the lady is all part of the enjoyment of the experience...if I don't have any nervousness/excitement anymore, call the paramedics, because I'm dead (or very close too it)

RG

[Dukie 100]

I agree 100% with you on the subject of pleasing the service provider. It has been my experience, in a lot of cases, where the SP is not interested in kissing and touching. In cases where there is a level of intimacy, the experience is great for me, and hopefully for the lady. I guess the only way is to ascertain what the expectations are before you start.

 

 

Dukie

[S**********o 258]

That nervousness and excitement in anticipation of meeting the lady is all part of the enjoyment of the experience...if I don't have any nervousness/excitement anymore, call the paramedics, because I'm dead (or very close too it)

RG

 

agreed!

 

that feeling is why I love it :biggrin:

[Guest T**E******s]

That means bring tools, because she's got the honeydo list, and will nag till you finish those odd jobs around the house, then maybe...isn't that the real gfe LOL

(btw definite tongue in cheek in this post)

RG

 

Lmfao.. If you have the money to poon then you should have the cash to call the some one to fix those issues.. I mean this in the sense that as a woman I would rather spend my time with my BF playing out the fantasy's we don't get around to because real life gets in the way..

 

If you have the cash to take care of those problems by paying other people to do it you would have an amazing relationship becuase the everyday crap wouldn't be bringing it down... :)

 

Just my 2cents of thinking of issues I've had in a past relationship..

 

And for the record a honey do list of any kind can kill an arousal from either side a mile away!!!

[biff-2010 100]

It is always a good idea to make ones expectations known in an e-mail or phone call before the date. If both people are open and frank then there should be no surprises. Reconfirming things at the very beginning of the date also lets both people have an option to modify the events. If your expectation is jack hammering then say so, so the lady can prepare accorrdingly or pass on the date. Just remember when a lady says enough is enough then that is enough!

[nachosanchez 205]

Thank you everyone for their input. This thread has definitely given me a wealth of knowledge for when I have my first encounter with a companion. But this leads me to another question. How should I present myself? Of course it goes without saying that being clean shaven, hygienic, having fresh breath and smelling good is paramount, but how should I dress?

 

The reason why I tussle with this is to reciprocate the amount of attention and courtesy, an SP has put into to look good and attractive for her guest (potentially me in the future). I may be full of cheese for saying this, but I'll say it anyways, we all have sex with our eyes first before we have sex with our bodies. Therefore, should I present myself in formal attire - suite and tie, or just suite, less the tie - or some thing more casual, like jeans and a polo?

 

 

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

Nachosanchez, if you're going out with your chosen companion, then dress in a manner appropriate to your destination, as you would with any date. If you're staying in with her, the most important thing is to be freshly-showered, clean shaven and tooth-brushed. Wear clean, comfortable clothing. If you're a smoker, I'd suggest you wear something fresh from the laundry that you haven't worn while smoking. Go easy on the cologne and aftershave, too.

 

And plan to have fun!

[Guest **cely***r***ne]

May I suggest that you dress in whatever makes you feel most comfortable!?

It is said that when you are feeling good about yourself, and the way you look, other people will take notice! So if you are already perhaps nervous about the date, then you need not worry about what your dressed in!

 

However, a man in a suit with the shirt unbuttoned under the jacket....revealing just a little hint of chest is always super hot to me ;)

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

mmmm, Angel Starr.....you took the words right out of my mouth!

 

And just a reminder to some Gents.....we are not sex-machine's. I have some people come for 3-4 hour visit, and they think the whole time should be spent in bed! I do need to come for air too! LOL.

[mm99 285]

This is a good thread. Having had just one sp encounter I was wondering what was expected. I guess it comes down to making my likes/dislikes known before the encounter as no one is a mind reader.

[Guest submissivegem]

This is an excellent point. I can't count the number of guys I have done calls with that do not know how to have sex. Then, it looks like I don't know what I'm doing. I do have skills, but it's impossible to use them when you're just required to lay on your back and get pounded for an hour. Ugh.

[da2root 871]

Thank you to everyone for this. I'm new to the world of the GFE and still pondering how to go about arranging my first encounter with a SP; I'm a little shy about the whole idea so reading threads like this is helpful.

[timid 100]

thankyou for initiating a very good discussion. An old adage states "it takes two to tango". This echos that discussion well.There are two sides to every coin.Both parties should enjoy the encounter.Thanks again. timid.

[IslandIndependent 521]

Ok seriously men are paying to have sex with you its not about us they just want to get off, if you are looking for romance and for you to be pleased then maybe you need to get a boyfriend. If a man is paying for an hr or whatever its up to him what he wants to do and its your job to let him do what he wants and for you to do what he wants to do and if he just wants to fuck and leave well he paid for it. I really dont get why he should worry about what you want because to most men you are just something they use to obtain a goal. And i know some men will pay so they can get right down to what they want otherwise they wouldnt come to an escort they would do their wives,gf's or go to a bar and pick up.

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[roamingguy 300292]

Ok seriously men are paying to have sex with you its not about us they just want to get off, if you are looking for romance and for you to be pleased then maybe you need to get a boyfriend. If a man is paying for an hr or whatever its up to him what he wants to do and its your job to let him do what he wants and for you to do what he wants to do and if he just wants to fuck and leave well he paid for it. I really dont get why he should worry about what you want because to most men you are just something they use to obtain a goal. And i know some men will pay so they can get right down to what they want otherwise they wouldnt come to an escort they would do their wives,gf's or go to a bar and pick up.

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OK Seriously, like Emily commented, there is more, much more to seeing escorts than just sex. It's about a mutually beneficialencounter in it's entirety. Yes sex is part of the encounter, but not the whole encounter, and NO, it's not just up to the man to do what he wants and it's NOT the ladies job to let the man do what he wants

I don't think you have the right attitude to see escorts quite frankly

You might consider treating them like ladies

RG

[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

OK Seriously, like Emily commented, there is more, much more to seeing escorts than just sex. It's about a mutually beneficial encounter in it's entirety. Yes sex is part of the encounter, but not the whole encounter, and NO, it's not just up to the man to do what he wants and it's NOT the ladies job to let the man do what he wants

I don't think you have the right attitude to see escorts quite frankly

You might consider treating them like ladies

RG

 

The person you responded to is actually a woman... A PEI SP...

[tepic 91]

I'm about half-way between IslandIndependent and roamingguy on this.

 

It is indeed a mutually beneficial encounter, but the core of that benefit is the woman is getting money and the guy is getting sex. Like it or not, It is what it is.

 

Does that mean the women should just be 'a means to get off'? Not necessarily. I know for me personally i wouldn't enjoy myself unless the women is enjoying herself (in fact i might even be more concerned of her happiness than mine, but that's just my personality). Some ppl may pay the premium to see an SP (as opposed to 'getting it for free' at home/the bar) to have it their way, and i cant fault them for that (though it should NEVER be 100% about the guy). I see it more as watching an NHL game (getting an SP) vs watching your local peewee team (picking up). You pay for quality.

 

The market will dictate this. Those hobbyists who are just 'looking to get off' (excuse my vulgarity) will find either a dwindling market or will pay a premium (as fewer SPs will go into that sorta thing) for it, and those SPs who want a mutually satisfying experience will have plenty of clientele for that too. That's part fo the beauty of this industry...since hobbyists can pick their SP AND SPs can pick their hobbyists, its fair for everyone

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

Escorting is often a very tough job - mentally and otherwise. Different ladies have different approaches to deal with it, and have differing capacities or inclinations for making an emotional investment in an encounter.

 

Clients' desires and approaches also widely vary, as we all know. There's room in this pastime for many types of clients (as long as they are respectful of the providers and don't cross boundaries, of course).

 

And there's also room in this business, and on Cerb, for many styles of providers, too. GFE in all its varieties; PSE in all its varieties; simple menu-driven FS; massage, dancing, etc etc etc.

 

Every lady is unique and special; how much or how little of herself she wishes to allow her clients to share is up to her. No approach is wrong, no one should be judged for not fitting into one particular style.

 

Finding a good match between client and provider requires open communication about expectations - from both parties. As long as these expectations and preferences match, there's room for all styles.

[roamingguy 300292]

The person you responded to is actually a woman... A PEI SP...

 

This is what I get for posting early without having a first cup of coffee LOL

But I do stand by my sentiments

At least I'm sure I gave you Gabriella and Emily a smile...I hope

RG

[LeeRichards 177238]

This is what I get for posting early without having a first cup of coffee LOL

But I do stand by my sentiments

At least I'm sure I gave you Gabriella and Emily a smile...I hope

RG

 

Stick this note on your computer RG......"Note to self....Put basket in coffemaker, then coffee, then water and turn on. Then drink one cup of coffee, then pour another one, THEN turn on the computer" ;)

[Phaedrus 209521]

A fisking seems to be in order:

 

Ok seriously men are paying to have sex with you its not about us they just want to get off

 

That may be true for some guys, but not for all. And certainly not for the smart ones, I think. It seems to me that a lady who's having fun herself is more likely to want to make sure that I'm also having a good time, if only to make sure I come back in the future.

 

if you are looking for romance and for you to be pleased then maybe you need to get a boyfriend.

 

Yes, there are some things you can expect from a boyfriend that you can't expect from a client. But I've read quite a few recos here that described situations that sounded quite romantic to me (although to put that in context, I'm crap at romantic stuff, so my judgement of this probably isn't worth much). And trust me, we *like* it if we manage to reduce the lady we're with to a quivering pile of orgasmic awesomeness, if only because it strokes our egos and makes us feel like newly-incarnated sex gods. We don't always manage it, alas, but...

 

If a man is paying for an hr or whatever its up to him what he wants to do and its your job to let him do what he wants and for you to do what he wants to do

 

No. Absolutely not. Everyone has limits, however tightly or liberally they may choose to draw them, and there is absolutely no requirement for anyone to go beyond those limits just because an envelope with cash in it may have been placed somewhere earlier. It is not up to you to do what anyone wants you to do if you're not happy doing it, or if you just don't feel like it right now, or for any other reason. Or for no reason at all, if that's what you decide.

 

and if he just wants to fuck and leave well he paid for it.

 

Well, you probably can't stop him. And I suspect that you probably shouldn't, either. After all, if he wants to treat you like a piece of meat, why on earth would you want him around for a second longer?

 

I really dont get why he should worry about what you want

 

Because he wants to have a good time too. And because, believe it or not, some of us are actually just nice people.

 

because to most men you are just something they use to obtain a goal.

 

No, you're a person I'd like to have the privilege of meeting, and I'd hope we would have fun together, and that you'd enjoy it as much as I would. Note the important word there: WE. I obviously can't speak for anyone else on this, but I think (and hope) that most of the guys here would agree with me on this.

 

And i know some men will pay so they can get right down to what they want otherwise they wouldnt come to an escort they would do their wives,gf's or go to a bar and pick up.

 

This may be true of some. It isn't true of all. There are as many reasons for seeing SPs as there are people who go to see them. And FWIW, hanging around in bars hoping to get lucky and getting increasingly desperate as closing-time approaches is a really sucky way to spend an evening.

 

On a lighter note...

 

Stick this note on your computer RG......"Note to self....Put basket in coffemaker, then coffee, then water and turn on. Then drink one cup of coffee, then pour another one, THEN turn on the computer" ;)

 

So when did "How To Have Sex With Escorts" become "How To Make Coffee"? Does supplying good coffee to your chosen SP get you better sex, or something? :)