Guest M***yB** Report post Posted March 24, 2013 Reading this thread was like a breath of fresh air and relief for me. I greatly appreciate reading the ladies comments here as they bring me a lot of reassurance and confidence. I'm 50 now and not a "Hot hunk" by any imagination. My biggest fear has been of having an encounter with a lady who was turned off by my looks or physical appearance (courtesy of the aging process) or who just wanted to "get this over with". I'll be scheduling an "orientation" session at a known PC in the west end. I have no idea what to expect. I'm really looking forward to it yet part of me is afraid of the encounter. I definitely prefer a slow, no rush approach. Sharing a drink and chatting, getting a "feel" for each other (couldn't resist the pun). :D All kidding aside, I think what I will be looking for more than anything else is someone with a warm, sincere and genuine caring personality. Someone who appreciates that she is a professional and offering much needed therapy and happiness. A few hours with that person is worth 1,000 trips to a shrink. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I am a romantic, I love the anticipation and build up, a sensuous approach from someone with a loving heart. From what I have read of the ladies posts here, it sounds like that is what you prefer also. I realize that it may be hit and miss, but, I'm hoping that if I state my preferences that way from the outset, then hopefully I will end up with the right hostess for my insecure needs. I'm happy to see so many ladies express a preference for this approach. Like any male, I watch porn on occasion and have to say I'm turned off by the "jack hammer", "rabbit on steroids" type of rough sex. (I sure hope most people don't compare themselves to these porn videos). For me, give me a woman in sexy lingerie and a classy, sensuous, come hither approach and I will become putty in her hands. (Very happy putty I might add). Thanks to all who posted and to Berlin for posting on this really important topic. Much appreciated. <3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ernie378 145 Report post Posted March 25, 2013 This has been an interesting and helpful thread. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hoffa68 939 Report post Posted March 25, 2013 Sweetie, some of us actually advertise on BP too.....You just need to do your research! Happy searching! Meaghan Hi Meaghan. I made sure to say Not All in my statment because I know that some of you adverstise on BP and was not refering to you. It would be more directed at those who are only on BP. You never seem to know who thye are and what kind of service you will get Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Friend***e Report post Posted March 27, 2013 Hmmmmmm. Thought I knew most acronyms. What's BP referred to a few threads below. "Advertise on BP .... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buddyaf 170 Report post Posted March 27, 2013 bp= -------- Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Operaguynb 370 Report post Posted April 15, 2013 So well said Berlin. thank you. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meaghan McLeod 179664 Report post Posted April 17, 2013 Sweetie, some of us actually advertise on BP too.....You just need to do your research! Happy searching! Meaghan Hi Meaghan. I made sure to say Not All in my statment because I know that some of you adverstise on BP and was not refering to you. It would be more directed at those who are only on BP. You never seem to know who thye are and what kind of service you will get Thanks Hoffa. What I really meant to say is that if you only rely on BP and don't utilize the reviews on CERB, you are really missing out on some great resources. Those of us that utilize other sites to advertise rely on CERB as an anchor to help those that would like to see us, to find out more about who we are and what we like. Thank you Hoffa! Meaghan xoxo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
newbieguy 274 Report post Posted April 17, 2013 This is really an interesting thread! While I am no longer a "newbieguy" (I was when I signed up), whenever I meet an sp, I always get nervous and feel like a newbieguy! I very much prefer the notion of making some sort of connection as opposed to the "whambam" experience. In the last few years, I've had some less than pleasant experiences but those were primarily as a result of me not doing enough research. CERB has been an invaluable tool in helping me educate myself! I've also had the pleasure of spending time with some sweet, friendly amazing ladies who made me feel special! To those of you who have expressed reluctance to go for it... I say do your research and jump in...the water's great! :icon_smile: 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Junkmail 110 Report post Posted April 28, 2013 so true!! I've sometimes spent an entire session just on oral and touching...hot hot hot! That's a tempting thought. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rlmt90 110 Report post Posted April 30, 2013 This helpful and insightful advice for all newbies. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Caps22 110 Report post Posted May 5, 2013 Good advice ill keep it in mind 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hollywood Thomson 553 Report post Posted May 7, 2013 I don't think that these generalizations apply to most of us, Harrywatch. Speaking for myself, as one who has had more than "many" partners, I have no difficulty whatever enjoying the sex. I often enjoy it a great deal. Perhaps this is because I take time to get to know the men who visit me and to create an atmosphere where we can be comfortable together and our mutual pleasure increased. In fact, I think that time and experience has enhanced my ability to enjoy everything that goes on between us. Awesome post Samantha, I wholeheartedly agree with this. As someone who was in the industry for several years I found that I got much more pleasure in the relationships that were built up through repeat clientelle, talking with them, helping them through difficult times and the good ones as well but that did not stop me from enjoying the times I was intimate with them or the providers I have been with, whether they were friends, first times or repeats. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pkr79 110 Report post Posted May 7, 2013 All the advice on here. Helpful information for me. I still get nervous when seeing a sp So thank you :) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
timid 100 Report post Posted May 10, 2013 Thank you I agree with you. It takes two to Tango, a mutual joint experience is much better than all alone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
belfastspider 240 Report post Posted May 10, 2013 (edited) I love to please women!!! I"m single and only see sp!!! Edited May 10, 2013 by belfastspider Spelling mistake Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dragonfire88 110 Report post Posted May 22, 2013 I have a question, what if a guy can't last that long? I have never used a service before so I wouldn't know but I am very much a one minute man. I do however like to go many times. The thing I'm worried about is if the woman can't be turned on because of the small time intervals in between and if oral pleasure would even help (If that's allowed, once again I wouldn't know) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Eric Northman 16522 Report post Posted May 22, 2013 I have a question, what if a guy can't last that long? I have never used a service before so I wouldn't know but I am very much a one minute man. I do however like to go many times. The thing I'm worried about is if the woman can't be turned on because of the small time intervals in between and if oral pleasure would even help (If that's allowed, once again I wouldn't know) I'm in the same boat too. I tend to be a little quick the first time around. I wouldn't worry about it. Most ladies are going to be thrilled if you turn the tables and go down on them. If you enjoy DATY, you'll be hard and ready for round two in no time at all. I always have a lot more stamina the second time around and never have any trouble finding fun things to do for an hour. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted May 22, 2013 I have a question, what if a guy can't last that long? I have never used a service before so I wouldn't know but I am very much a one minute man. I do however like to go many times. The thing I'm worried about is if the woman can't be turned on because of the small time intervals in between and if oral pleasure would even help (If that's allowed, once again I wouldn't know) Don't worry about it! I just cuddle/chat and then we go for round two. If you feel like it, as you mentioned, you can always use those breaks to pleasure your companion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rory 110 Report post Posted May 28, 2013 Hmm. Very interesting to read all these posts, and thank you to Berlin. I like to go at it hard sometimes, like most men, but not with an unwilling participant. If a woman says it hurts, it hurts--I wouldn't say that's whining. Doesn't it also depend on where women are in their cycle? I used to see a woman who said she was fine with harder sex after her period, but not before, when her whole body was more sensitive. That's just a reality that perhaps clients don't want to think about. And if we're complaining about women dropping their clothes too fast to get us in and out, well; we won't go back there will we? rory. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
steveyK 4311 Report post Posted June 13, 2013 For those of you who think you wont have fun if you can't last too long, you will get better with practice, and a lot of the time is spent enjoying the ladies' company. I started off popping orally in a few mins, then again near the end of the hour, but the in between was the most fun, I mean if u are just there to pop off then use your hand and save a few bucks.... 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OralBigGuy 1308 Report post Posted June 22, 2013 Some great advice in this thread and I was especially happy to see that Berlin is from Ottawa, where I'll be for 4 nights in July ... which is the whole reason for me joining this site. :D 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skeets 110 Report post Posted June 29, 2013 The value of a kissing session a personal choice. But, spending time doing a lot of kissing is much better than just "jackhammering" 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
snic95 491 Report post Posted July 1, 2013 WOW, this thread was so awesome and informative. I did find it nice to see that some guys are like me and want their SP-Companion to have just has much fun has I do. For me, when I meet a SP, I want to make it last and have fun with them for the allotted time that I've chosen, whether that be a little cuddling at first while we talk, kissing, foreplay (I love foreplay to the max), than moving on to penetration if needed (If the foreplay is good, I would totally bypass the penetration and play with my SP) Unfortunately, mostly all of the SP I've met there's been a little chit chat (mostly while she's getting undressed) and it's a massage, BJ then penetration. And lots of time, I pay for the hour, but after about 30 minutes all is over and they are not interested in going another round and it's like they rush you out of the door. For me, what really gets me hot and horny, is when you are kissing and you are exploring your partners body, feeling every inch of her body and wanting them to have just has much fun as I am. Undressing them slowly and kissing every inch of their body. This upcoming Friday, I've set up a GFE (Will be my first GFE, with a Service Provider) and from the reviews I've read on here from her, she's great so I'm so looking forward to it. Thank you all once again for this great thread and all the wonderful posts that were in here. Snic95 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
judo 894 Report post Posted July 3, 2013 I need to try to last longer as I enjoy all the pre games too much, and it brings me to the brink by the time we start. Is that worse that "jack hammering"? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meaghan McLeod 179664 Report post Posted July 3, 2013 Jack Hammering refers to someone who fucks crazy fast, with no change in tempo, no changes whatsoever then just fucking like a rabbit on steroids. I had a client that would fuck for 58 minutes - did not give me time to get cleaned up and he would have gone the full 60 minutes if he could. Change the tempo, change the depth, alternate anything but the same extended hard pounding. Enjoy the time together. Don't worry if the pre time together gets you going and you don't last during the fuck. Slow it down, take a break, get the juices going again and enjoy your time together. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites