Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted November 14, 2010 I've been reflecting what I've learned being in the sex industry for 3 years now. I thought it would be interesting to share my insight, and encourage others to do the same, both from the provider and hobbiest point of views. -Men do not expect women to be perfect like an airbrushed magazine model. Men love real women. -Despite what the media tells us, men do are not looking for stick-thin women with huge breasts. Men, as a whole, love larger women and love women with small breasts. -Touch is a basic human need, almost as basic as the need to eat and breathe. -It's not true that all men just want to fuck and then leave/fall asleep. Men also love to cuddle, converse, and be intimate. -Confidence is sexy! 13 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted November 14, 2010 (edited) The most attractive asset a woman has is her personality. Physical attributes are icing on the cake, but a good personality (friendly, intelligence etc) goes alot further, at least for me And open communication, between sp/hobbiest, really good Good thread Megan RG Edited November 14, 2010 by r__m__g_uy typo 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Winnipegcub 21293 Report post Posted November 14, 2010 What I've learned; - ladies in this business and at this level truly have great insights and are very creative and articulate. - its hard to keep the business angle of this in perspective and not get too friendly/attached. I need to remind myself that although these beautiful women (in many ways) can draw me in and I have a huge attraction - I am for the most part, just a client. - how much I love the smell, taste, and touch of a woman. The skin is a pretty sensitive organ. - not all cities are alike in what they offer. - a ladies class and confidence is what really brings me to my knees. WC 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest G***f****** Report post Posted November 14, 2010 I've learned more about myself in just the past two months than I ever thought possible. I thought what I wanted was sex, but I learned it really was the companionship I craved. I discovered that I was so much lonelier and unhappy than I knew. But with the encouragement and support of a new friend I met right here, I have found the courage to make the big changes in my life that are necessary. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest al****s Report post Posted November 14, 2010 I have learned that the people in this business/hobby are outstanding people (for the most part). They are respectful and positive members of society. Before becoming a SP, I had no idea that such a community existed. I am so very impressed with the people on this Board. I have learned that my imperfect body can still be "loved" by the right person. I have learned that I am beautiful inside which goes a long way on the outside. I have learned that everyone has their own reason(s) for doing what they do and this doesn't make them wrong or a bad person. I have learned that friendships are just as important to the hobbiest's as they are to me. I have learned that my creative mind being placed on threads are appreciated and welcomed. I have learned that people from all walks of life crave the companionship that I can offer. I have learned that I tend to babble and I should likely stop before people say "does this girl ever shut up!"....haha:shock: Great thread! alexis...xoxo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted November 15, 2010 A lot of the male population see escorts. lol. As cliche as it sounds, be yourself. Just enough of your real personality ( without giving too much away of course) and people will view you as being more genuine than having a completely different "working personna". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
72Nova 116 Report post Posted November 15, 2010 Manners, politeness, punctuality, and thoughtful gestures matter. It doesn't kill me to smile ;) People sharing a bit of themselves is not weakness, and intimacy is a necessity. I have a "type". It has very little to do with a woman's physical measurements. Life is to be lived. Good experiences are savoured, not-so-good ones become lessons about yourself, even if it takes you decades to really learn them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted November 15, 2010 What I've learned: -people's individual taste in beauty is highly variable and extremely personal -not everyone is cut out for this gig... sp's and clients alike -most people involved in the hobby are by and large just people and run the gamut of personalities and types and just like every day life and some you'll like and some you won't -expectations can be set unrealistically high...just because some one has chosen to be a sex industry worker doesn't always mean they'll be "good" at it -one needs to be vigilant to ensure that the business/peronal lines don't get too confused because in the end it is what it is.....pay for play -good manners and respect is a two way street Peace MG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blue_eyes56 2010 Report post Posted November 15, 2010 What I've learned: - a better understanding of my own sexuality - the most erogenous part of a person is their mind - unexpected moments of shared honesty and intimacy are both priceless and wholly unpredictable Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cato 160314 Report post Posted November 15, 2010 I think that my meetings with sp's bring out the best in me, parts of myself that I really like and that are often suppressed in my serious working life. I've found that I'm actually a better and more attentive lover than I've often been in my regular life, and I certainly didn't expect that. The ease of conversation and camaraderie, the intimacy, the correspondence I carry on, before and after, with women I've seen, in short, the new friendships. Great interactions with interesting people on cerb. I love getting pm's asking my opinion, and telling me of others' experiences. All excellent. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Accelerate 105 Report post Posted November 15, 2010 Excellent posts everyone, what can I add!? I completely feel Roamingguy's post, and agree with everyone elses posts. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spfan69 105 Report post Posted November 23, 2010 Amen to all the above observations with one more - if the SP doesn't really enjoy the work the experience is ruined for both parties. Only rarely have I run into an SP who didn't really like people and just wanted to get it over with - total waste of time. I treat every SP like a respected lady that I enjoy being with and usually they respond with smiles that make my day, even before they MAKE MY DAYY!:) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted November 23, 2010 Spfan69 - I agree with you. Another thing I've learned is that no matter how hard you try to hide it, the guys will sense if you're having a bad day or just not into it. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S**a*Q Report post Posted November 23, 2010 I've learned a lot of things but the most recent was that I can be attracted to different age categories of men. Not just the ones nearest my own... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Apex2006 1071 Report post Posted November 23, 2010 I find that sometimes it is just easer to talk to a complete stranger than someone you have known for years! I found out that I am not as flexible is I should be! :p Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted November 23, 2010 And I also learned that I'm better looking, funnier, sexier, taller, much more interesting and a better lover than I ever thought I was... ;) Peace MG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma Alexandra 123367 Report post Posted November 23, 2010 (edited) That you can find love in the most unexpected places...{during a 3some}lol that men need much more than sex to be happy that people care about how others feel that escorts can work together and not against each other That a smile goes along way kisses, Emma A Edited November 23, 2010 by Emma Alexandra 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Apex2006 1071 Report post Posted November 23, 2010 That you can find love in the most unexpected places...{during a 3some}lolthat men need much more then sex to be happy Emma A Well I know I need much more sex! Is there any bad side to a threesome? Really! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Leber 1328 Report post Posted November 23, 2010 It's just to confirm that men are human too. Naturally, we like varieties and we want more than just basics. Yes, we are greedy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest **cely***r***ne Report post Posted November 23, 2010 Since joining this site and meeting people on here I have learned so many things, not only about myself, but about life in general. The biggest thing that sticks out to me about what Ive learned is how to be happy with me. I'm not going to give you my biography...that book comes later, but I will say that all my life I have had little, to no self esteem. I've always thought the typical "playboy" image was what every guy looked for. Was I wrong! This has turned my life totally around! Ive discovered my inner sex goddess and Im loving it! Theres nothing like feeling sensual, and my new found confidance shows in everything I do! Even walking down the street I can hold my head high and be happy with who I am, and what I look like! Thank you! xoxo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stevecurious 42059 Report post Posted November 23, 2010 (edited) One thing that I have learned since I started meeting the ladies of Cerb is that I didn't know what I thought I knew. When I first started in this hobby my opinions, beliefs and general thoughts were very different than they are now. One might say my eyes, ears and mind were not completely open to the way the world of respectable hobbying goes. I am somewhat embarrassed to say that my beliefs at the time were very stereotypical of the world of prostitution. Being educated, thoughtful and therefore knowledgeable I very much believed the media when it reported on my soon to be hobby of choice...boy was I wrong. Thankfully I am a quick learner and after a very short period of time, and some pointers by a local lady, I refined my approach and beliefs. My eyes, ears and mind are now very much open to the different aspects of the hobby! Edited November 23, 2010 by S***ec*****s Spelling Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rounding Third 9568 Report post Posted November 23, 2010 Wow! Great question and great responses. Allow me to humbly tell a bit of my story. First - I meant a SP a few years ago that was terrific. We had wonderful numerous encounters. I thought I was just lucky that I meant her and that she was one of a kind. Now, what I am learning from CERB is that it was not luck. Rather, there is a whole community of ladies offering wonderful services, with pride and high standards. Second - Granted the premise of a SP/Hobbyist encounter is a commercial transaction. Be that as it may there can still be, and most often is, high levels of intimacy, passion, romance and fun. Third - I am allowed to be myself - a hopeless romantic. She is not going to laugh at me!! She will even cuddle with me. Fourth - We can be safe when we have fun. Fifth - I thought I was unusual for seeking out Escorts. I do not think that anymore. Six - It has become an industry standard that respect, courtesy, politeness and consideration are critical to any worthwhile encounter 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JoyfulC 132299 Report post Posted November 23, 2010 Not just since joining this site, but over the years in this business, one thing I've learned is that most of us have a fairly narrow window of others that we will exalt in and feel comfortable with. Trying to meet with anyone outside that is generally tedious to uncomfortable ... maybe even counterproductive. It's really best when we have the patience and discipline to hold out for someone who is right for each of us. But of course, to do that, we must first know and understand ourselves as best we can. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Victoria Banks 21899 Report post Posted November 23, 2010 I really like MEN 35+ :oops: 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted November 24, 2010 I really like MEN 35+ :oops: :)) Peace MG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites