Tempted Monk 5057 Report post Posted January 14, 2017 I was introduced to this term "sapiosexual" by one Lady on this board (thank you, Talia). The meaning of it: " finding intelligence sexually attractive or arousing" or in more remarkable words "seduce my mind and you can have my body" Does this type of attraction play any significant role in escort business on both sides? Can "sapiosexual" attractiveness prevail over the physical one? Does it work for the short escort session or it works in the long run only? Is it one of the factors which makes regular client? What is your opinion? 9 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BrettonWoods 4365 Report post Posted January 14, 2017 This is indeed a tendency for some and I include myself. Frankly we all know how to self pleasure but seek more. So for me it is an interaction with a whole woman that is of interest. Intelligent conversation and intelectual curiosity in a woman makes me feel more comfortable and compatible; like we are jointly exploring rather than me simply self-indulging. That offers a much more satisfying experience. I am also more comfortable with the ethics and discretion of intelligent women, although I may to be justified in that. I highly recommend the memoirs of Casanova which are available in English translations on the internet. Women liked and bedded him because he loved and respected the company of women. I believe he was sapiosexual. These quotes may explain: Henriette could not open her lips without my discovering some fresh perfection, for her wit delighted me even more than her beauty. .. The happiness which filled me, if I can express it in that manner, was much greater when I conversed with her even than when I held her in my arms. She had read much, she had great tact, and her taste was naturally excellent; her judgment was sane, and, without being learned, she could argue like a mathematician, easily and without pretension, and in everything she had that natural grace which is so charming. She never tried to be witty when she said something of importance, but accompanied her words with a smile which imparted to them an appearance of trifling, and brought them within the understanding of all. In that way she would give intelligence even to those who had none, and she won every heart. Beauty without wit offers love nothing but the material enjoyment of its physical charms, whilst witty ugliness captivates by the charms of the mind, and at last fulfils all the desires of the man it has captivated. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cato 160314 Report post Posted January 14, 2017 I love the term, and find it, and the woman it's applied to, very appealing! :) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jafo105 39057 Report post Posted January 14, 2017 Works for me :icon_biggrin: "Give me a deep conversation or a passionate debate over brainless beauty any day. Someone who makes me reconsider my long-held beliefs and challenges my mind is a person I can easily fall for. There is no doubt that I'm a sapiosexual." 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Prufrock Cummings Report post Posted January 14, 2017 Intelligence is a great turn on for me. I love when you can connect intellectually, it makes an encounter more exciting! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Parker 19761 Report post Posted January 14, 2017 Can "sapiosexual" attractiveness prevail over the physical one? Most definitely! I've been with those who, at first glance, are a 10.. just stunningly attractive- and then they start talking and it all disappears, (almost as if their lack of inner beauty shows through.) And the opposite is true.. I've been with those who wouldn't be considered 'hot', just to find them become so as they talk. While intelligence certainly plays a role, I think how it's presented (attitude) has a lot more to do with how well it's perceived. ;) 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alisonxox 9221 Report post Posted January 14, 2017 I am definately a sapiosexual.. I truly think that attraction is not something only physical, but also intellectual .. Someone that stimulates my brains will also stimulates my libido .. Intelligent people are also very curious by nature and curiosity leads to many possibilities in bed so of course it will be better in every ways possible .. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tempted Monk 5057 Report post Posted January 14, 2017 ... Making a long story less long, it allows me the free time to bridge the experiential gap between these passionate, accomplished, and multi talented people and myself- ... To answer your question, Monk, it plays a significant role, will usually prevail over the physical one, plays an important role in short sessions but a far, far greater one in the long term scheme of things. An man with interesting stories is attractive, and making a gift of your body to him is done in recognition of his achievement- but an interesting, introspective man arouses the sort of passion that makes you want to take his body or let him take yours, and the second of those things can only be proven with time. The whole post is very impressive declaration of intelligence attractiveness! And I am afraid the bridge should be constructed from the other side in the most cases :-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuxeMulvari 65764 Report post Posted January 14, 2017 In my opinion, in this business I find it very applicable... I am, and I find most women in this business are; highly intelligent and don't fit into the proverbial "box" societal norms have laid out for us, thats why we became ladies of leisure to begin with. This business comes with very unique challenges in both professional and civilian life, and over the years i've come to find that the majority of established ladies in this lifestyle are above average intelligence, witty, fun and outgoing...all skills you need to be successful. From my own experience and observations, intelligent people like to spend time with other intelligent people, and they like to be stimulated mentally ( being able to converse at their own level, not having to dumb down coversations or get blank stares when they bring up a topic other than current events) and its a real turn off when your sexual partner won't or can't meet you on that level intellectually. Although we've evolved tremendously as a species, many human primal instincts remain including the fact that men are aroused visually, while women are more cerebral , i.e. talking and non verbal communications such as gestures to show interest and affection... if you are a sapiosexual and in this business, it can be difficult at times to find genuine connections as many potential clients simply don't understand this... (That is why you see a plethora of ladies complaining about short,curt or explicit communication... they aren't trying to be difficult, its simply a turn off... ) For myself, I've found that my best frolics are with those I've built real connections with; the gents who have taken the time to converse with me and are genuinely interested in spending quality time with me...those who actually want to get to know me as a person, and this is because I want to know them... Theres nothing I enjoy more then spending a few hours naked chatting about someones hopes,dreams, fears, family, pets, vacations, shows, songs, theories about whatever, problems and joys... Thats why I love this industry so much... it allows me to connect with people at a level that is hidden from most around them, a side they genuinely want to show however cannot due family and societal expectations and the roles that men especially must play. Actually communicating ( not just listening, but really hearing and engaging ) has enabled me to not only build lasting relationships that I value but also to learn from all these different experiences and outlooks which has given me such a widened perspective on life. As a sapiosexual , the knowledge and wisdom I've gained as a result are my most valued possessions, gems of insight if you will..in my eyes it is truly priceless and except for a select chosen few is virtually unattainable... I love that I'm an entrusted friend and confidant, and that my career is making people happy and fulfilled...the physical is just the icing on the cake compared to how I can literally blow your mind... I satisfy, mentally AND physically, which is what it's all about... "Great minds fuck each other"- "Sapiosexual" by ABSOUL 8 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CheekyCutie 410 Report post Posted January 17, 2017 The answer is so obvious, it begets the question: Why wouldn't it apply? While lusting for passionate bodily interactions (moreso than just pure recreational sex), it still continues to be the brain, which is (by far) the biggest sex organ out there imho. However, like the variety of heavenly bodies on earth - so are there beautiful minds. ...and, in my experience, whatever floats one boat varies from moment to moment and person to person. But generally speaking - I relate High IQ with Low EQ, and that for me has been the hardest combo of lightning to catch in a bottle, as usually the later alludes me. In other words - what makes me hardest is those whom are Honest and Witty, which usually leads to Trust and Laughter. Liars are just ugly, inside and out. Et voila! One sapiophile please :-P Now of course - attractiveness, mental or physical, is subjectively relative, so what a kitchen sink is to you - is not a kitchen sink to me. ...and that's a good thing ;-) ...as in the end, as long as that mind gets blo-own - who cares how stupid our org-asm faces look LOLSave</span>Save</span> 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Florence Champagne 1130 Report post Posted March 4, 2017 I am convinced that a sapiosexual can find his happiness through this hobby. Personally I have many clients who satisfy me at this level. We exchange books and talk about the news constantly. This is great and only makes the playtime afterwards better because the connection is so much present. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ManofFewWords 1471 Report post Posted March 6, 2017 My whole life the types of women I've been most attracted to are those with high intelligence, or the courageous rebel who won't be confined by convention. When a lady is both it can't get any better in my opinion so a sapiosexual attraction is key for me. A sexy woman will capture my attention, but one who captivates the mind will keep it. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tempted Monk 5057 Report post Posted March 7, 2017 ....A sexy woman will capture my attention, but one who captivates the mind will keep it. Very well said! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
