Lexi/deepika

[stinkfist66 264]

I have seen my share of SP's and in that time I've had my share of regrettable experiences, but nothing has ever compared to this. I have seen this SP before and never had any complaints. She's alright, not great, nothing to write home about. Maybe, maybe not worth a repeat. This time however was different. In recent history I saw she had an ad up, and decided to indulge for ONE HOUR. When I showed up on location she was straight up riding a rail, indulging in street pharmaceutical. After being paid, in full, for the ONE HOUR of service the odor of alcohol on her breath was noted.

 

Half way into the session she notified me that if we were to continue it would cost an additional $40. She then told me that she had another client on they're way up and that I needed to go. Before I could protest she promised me she would get in touch with me later which of course never occurred. Like I've said I've seen my share of sp's and had my share of bad experiences but this kind of behavior and outright lack of professionalism, not to mention BLATANT disrespect of her clients is completely inexcusable and should not be tolerated by anyone. Most certainly will NOT REPEAT, take your business elsewhere.

 

Additional Comments:

http://halifax.backpage.ca/FemaleEscorts/lexi-outcall-only-best-kept-secret/2771908

[Rbus310 100]

Thanks for the info. I was actually debating on taking an appointment. Happy I didn't.

 

Cheers

[splaton008 1568]

You showed up for your appointment and she's under the influence of some type of drugs ? And you stayed ? Sorry, I would have walked out with money in hand.

[Guest Prufrock Cummings]

You showed up for your appointment and she's under the influence of some type of drugs ? And you stayed ? Sorry, I would have walked out with money in hand.

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He said that he repeated with her so maybe he wasn't noticing things due to familiarity

[Leviathan31 8387]

I gave Lexi a good revue recently.

 

I know her a bit and can say she usually is pretty good, but has run into some family/money problems. May be why she is in panic mode. These girls tend to get crafty/thrifty when they are in extra need.

 

As mentioned, she is not usually like this; but this profession is manic - these times come and go, sadly.

[stinkfist66 264]

I understand what you're saying. I don't agree, but I'm not here to argue. What I think we can all agree on is that if an sp expects mature, respectful, safe clientele, then a certain degree of conduct should be expected. A client assumes a risk when he meets with an sp. Some would say ALLOT of risk. We don't need additional threats.

[phenom13 552]

I was contemplating a visit too but "party favours" in any ad gives me pause.

Glad I didn't take the plunge after hearing this.

[wsazili 131]

I agree with stinkfist66 fully. Most all SP ads mention the requirement for clients to be respectful. Shouldn't that apply both ways? If she's having problems then perhaps she should take some time off to settle things instead of stiffing loyal clients.

[Leviathan31 8387]

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[Barney 2550]

Who are we talking about here

[MelanieBunny 13390]

I really feel genuinely uncomfortable with your post, stating that a large majority of us SP's are drug users and addicts. Being someone who just doesn't feel comfortable working a vanilla job and thoroughly enjoys sex, I am really offended.

 

You may have had some bad experiences in the past but to lump all of us together as users and abusers just doesn't seem fair.

 

I have student loans to pay off, not drug debts. I was in school to be a veterinary technician. Not a drug user.

 

Additional Comments:

I'm commenting again because I'm actually having a really hard time letting go of this horrible accusation. I do this line of work so that I can spend time with myself, my family and my dog. So that I can pay rent to live in a downtown apartment and pay off my student loans.

 

I post on Lyla, and backpage multiple times a day, every day. That doesn't mean that I receive clients all the time. I've don't usually take more than a handful of them a week. If I'm lucky to even receive that many who are actually interested in seeing me without lowballing.

 

I'm sorry that someone hurt you, I wish that I could fix it for you but you don't need to take it out on the rest of the girls who are just trying to make a living.

[Guest st*****ens**ors]

Thank you for your response, Melanie. I wasn't comfortable with the generalization either; it certainly doesn't match my experience.

 

I'd also note that the thread has drifted a long way from the op, and probably doesn't need much more commentary. Leviathan's comments could be the basis for a general discussion thread, and there I am guessing it will prove controversial at best, and deeply offensive to many.

 

To the best of my knowledge, none of the providers I have met have been addicts. They advertise as drug free, non "party friendly" and nothing I have seen would lead me to doubt them.

[Guest Prufrock Cummings]

The Leviathan story is just about one person; he is generalizing that one person's experiences and projecting them onto all SP's, and we all know what that word is called.

 

I'm not sure what the purpose of the rant stating that almost all SP's are addicts is all about, and I won't speculate, I will say that my "six seconds" have included many overnight bookings and the only "drugs" involved in those weekend bookings were the wine I supplied at meals. I would never welcome someone into my home who uses drugs, and have never been with an SP who was a user.

 

I've met many who thrive from athletic prowess (one a kick-boxer), educational achievement (one working on a Masters, and another who was so proud to finish her adult high school education in her twenties), and many other success stories.

 

Leviathan, I wish your friend well, but your generalization of others is hurtful because you don't know any of the individuals that you are insulting.

[WhereIRoam 21825]

@ Leviathon31:

 

I think you need to read this. Sadly, your misconception of workers in the industry stems from your bad experiences and is so far from the truth. (The saddest part is that I even truly believe you may not actually know this!) Please read this...

 

http://news.nationalpost.com/news/canada/some-sex-workers-enter-the-industry-because-its-more-lucrative-than-low-paying-service-jobs-b-c-study-finds

 

Honestly, I am sorry for the experiences you have dealt with, sincerely. I really wish you would of had more pleasant ones. There is nothing I or anyone can do about that.

 

Stating that every SP that advertises more than 3 or 4 times a week is a drug addict, "Pardon the **** me but you're out of your mind!" For you to think that most SPs are not professional and are indebted due to drug or alcohol issues concludes that you have only experienced the worst kinds of experiences to post such a false field-study report. I almost could not believe what I was reading...

 

For every SP that read this... I'm sorry you had to read a post from someone with such a negative perspective.

 

Leviathon31, you obviously do but I have no shame with any of my 6 seconds of fame! Don't ever pretend that you know how I feel or what I have experienced with SPs!!!

 

I hope Mod deletes that post so no one can ever read it that hasn't already.

[Leviathan31 8387]

I really feel genuinely uncomfortable with your post, stating that a large majority of us SP's are drug users and addicts. Being someone who just doesn't feel comfortable working a vanilla job and thoroughly enjoys sex, I am really offended.

 

Well, that is probably the right reaction then. I would be offended too if someone called me a drug addict, but here is the thing - I didn't call you a drug addict. :) There is a part of my post that starts with ..."now, on the other side", where I mention the providers, like yourself, who are not addicted to drugs and work to pay for school, etc. You are obviously in that group. I didn't lump EVERYONE into the "they are drug addicts" pile. Just to be fair.

 

I have student loans to pay off, not drug debts. I was in school to be a veterinary technician. Not a drug user.

 

That is awesome!! ....and, as I mentioned above, that puts you in the non-drug addict category.

 

Now, at this point I want to point out that my experiences have shown me that *some*, not all of these girls (and when I say "these girls", I don't mean "all escorts" - I am referring to the ones who aren't working to pay for school), will say the EXACT thing you just said above. A lot of them "are going to school" or were going to school - think about it, if you were NOT actually going to school and were working for drug money, would you just say that? Or would you lie and say you are doing something more acceptable with your money? See what I'm saying here? :)

 

Let me ask you this, and I"m not trying to be fatuous.....because you are not into drugs, I suspect you don't have a lot of friends who would fall into the drug-addict category of escorts, yes? Now, following that logic, I'm going to assume you don't text a lot of other escorts on a daily basis either? Have you hung around a large number of escorts? Basically, what is your sample group that you are basing your opinion that not a lot of escorts are addicted to drugs? If any of my above assumptions are wayyy off, please correct me.

 

Like I mentioned in my post - my assumptions are based on hanging out with/talking on a daily basis/living with escorts. Not one or two or three - a large enough size that I can pick up patterns. Again, like I said, I have met a few girls who are not working for drugs and take what they do more seriously....they (you) are out there.

 

I post on Lyla, and backpage multiple times a day, every day. That doesn't mean that I receive clients all the time. I've don't usually take more than a handful of them a week. If I'm lucky to even receive that many who are actually interested in seeing me without lowballing.

 

Now, when you say post multiple times a day on Backpage, are you paying for the gallery view and bumps or are you using the free ad feature? A bit of a difference.

 

I'm sorry that someone hurt you, I wish that I could fix it for you but you don't need to take it out on the rest of the girls who are just trying to make a living.

 

Thanks for your concern....I haven't been hurt by anyone (and I edited my original post to exclude the last part about my living with an escort - it's not really my right to tell her story like that - I apologize for that).

 

My thinking behind my post was not to alienate anyone or point any specific fingers - it's just this thread is about an escort who wasn't as "professional" as they should be....and I was trying to point out the struggles/obstacles some of these girls face.

 

Now, mind you, this is Lyla and I believe their goals is to cater to the more professional side of the business. They are not interested in members bashing escorts or the likes - they want positive, helpful reviews and I can respect that. This is the more "Sunny" side of the business. Go read reviews on other boards and you will quickly see the horror stories. I'm not talking out of my ass here. lol Lyla does a good job keeping things civil/informative, without the nitty gritty.

 

I was just trying to show the other side of the business that exists out there. :)

 

Again, my experiences have not all been bad - I've only really had maybe 4 or 5 times I drove home and said, "well, that sucked big time!!". ....and the girls I know are not all drug addicts. One girl I know actually pulled herself out of that world (such strength). She still does drugs the odd time, but she really just likes her weed and weed isn't cheap either....plus she has an apartment/bills, etc. This is the one of the reasons I was drawn to her so much....she is different and strong - but not all girls in her situation have that strength.

 

I guess my goal in blabbing off was to shine some light. The original goal of this thread was to mention a girl because she didn't return texts/was a no-show. Until you walk in someones shoes for a day, I think it's unfair to have ultimate expectations. Sure escorts *should* be as courteous to the client as much as they expect the client to be courteous to them....but this is the escort business - it's not the dentists office - to think these ladies can be professional all the time is not a reality....I know a lot of guys on here who have dealt with what I am talking about and approach this hobby with limited expectations - I just think there is a middle ground somewhere. Sure there are girls who are on the up and up and treat what they do with respect, but there are also clients being robbed (or worse) out there.

 

Again, I apologize if I offended anyone; I knew (on this site especially) I would get flack. I expected many responses from girls who don't fall into the category of which I speak because there are a lot of them here.....but outside the wonderful ladies who use this site, there is an obvious less professional underbelly.

 

I've been to that underbelly....seen how it works....just sharing the other side. :)

[Lexy Grace 103697]

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Never mind....Not even worth it....SMH

[WhereIRoam 21825]

@Leviathan31 - You are a glass half empty type.

 

I'm sorry your experiences haven't been like mine. I don't know you but I do wish they would have been better for you.

 

I refuse to comment on this issue anymore.

[Mikeyboy 27133]

This is a difficult topic as there are good points on both sides. I can see how it escalated so quickly though. I saw it coming with a cringe when I read the original post. That is why I avoided weighing in at first. Sadly, that isn't in my nature. ;)

 

I always disagree with any perspective that tries to paint whole groups with the same brush based on a small sample. It's not only discriminatory, but it is simply bad science. Also, the 'if she does this, she is likely that' approach can only be opinion and are likely to be just wrong. It is also easily disproved by pointing out the many times it is incorrect, as we have seen already.

 

But........ (and I always get myself in hot water when I add that word to a post ;) )

 

There is a serious topic that he has brought up, that should be acknowledged by anyone involved in this industry here. I don't know the statistics on how common drug abuse and exploitation is, and the incomplete article that was posted here is the closest I've seen to anyone even attempting to find out. I will say that it seems as if there is a greater than average problem with it here in HRM, and particularly lately. (And I could go on for hours on how this can all be traced back to Harper and MacKay's quest to legislate their religious morals and drive the industry underground, but that is a topic for another post.) On bp, there seem to be an increasing number of young girls who pop up for short periods and then disappear, often posted from accounts that post multiple different yet similar listings. They normally advertise being 18-20 years old (real ages often exaggerated from both directions, which is another reason for great concern). Drugs are often a means for their 'managers' to both lure and control these young ladies. It is a real issue and likely more common in this city than many realize. I do believe Leviathan when he states that this has been his personal experience.

 

That said, assuming that the whole group can be painted with the same brush based on this experience is wrong, particularly when stating that opinion here on this site, where the majority of ladies do not fit that profile. I say that not to imply that this is a superior site and that we are above that sort of thing. It is simply the nature of this type of site. Short term ads for quick payoff are much more effective and lucrative in places like bp. Ladies that are attracted to this site (at least the ones that stay) typically are interested in building a business based on establishing a reputation and a presence. It's a slow approach that takes time and dedication. The ones who need a quick payoff and don't care about reputation often move along from this site quickly. (Again, a generalization of my own for which I apologize, but this has been my observation.)

 

I really don't know how prevalent this sort of thing is, but it is definitely there. We should all acknowledge that and do our best not to knowingly support any type of exploitation. It's easy to do if you are paying attention. There are so many great ladies around that are obviously not in that category.

 

Just some food for thought.

[Leviathan31 8387]

Again, sorry for painting with such a huge brush.

 

I am obviously preaching to the wrong choir here. I will delete my post.

 

I'm off to the Hot Dog Lovers Review Board where I will post recipes and video of how Hot Dogs are made.

 

....I suspect I will get similar reactions. :p

 

Have good day everyone - be careful out there. :) :)

[fortunateone 156618]

i think he makes the common error of taking something from the sp world and assuming that the general public world is significantly different or not comparable.

 

Some sps may be addicts or drug users, which are not the same thing at all. But then, what is left out of the discussion is that some non sps are also addicts and drug users, so why arent we comparing the number of the general population who use drugs with sps, and see is the percentage that different from the non sp world? because unless you assume, and stereotype, there is no evidence to support the accusation against even 'some' sps. And it is the same thing when we discuss the prevalence of stds, or even the number of trafficking victims. the general public is trying to claim that all sps are trafficked, and that sex work is all sex trafficking, and we know that is also not true.

 

so why would we believe a guy who has seen a couple of dozen different sps, out of thousands, and 4 of them were unfortunate experiences, is the resident expert on drug using sps lol.

 

 

Number of ad postings in a week is not a red flag or a sign of drug abuse. It should be a signal that the sp is a professional running her business. In this day post CL manic postings, most sps know that if they want to show their availability, they had better have an ad up every day they are either taking calls or wanting to be contacted. if they don't the assumption is they are not working that day, even if they are. bp especially have very little room to explain your work schedule, plus many clients are not always looking for right now, so an ad up even if you aren't available that day still reaches potential future appts, but of course most of us know that the lack of a current ad seems to indicate to regulars a lack of availability. so you either post daily, or run the risk someone will be making another assumption about you as an sp, in this case, not working that day.

 

fwiw, gallery view is not a separate paid feature, only the ads on the side of the page are. viewers simply can choose how they view the ads, gallery or listed

[WhereIRoam 21825]

No need to discuss this matter any further.