Pros and cons of bringing ladies home

[bangminton 145]

Good day folks, i did a search on this and didn't find anything so here goes...

 

Guys: what do you think about bringing ladies home (escorts, streetwalkers etc)? I guess the pros would be the cost and convenience but one of the cons is your peace of mind?

 

Ladies: Are you comfortable going to a client's home or do you prefer to check in a hotel/motel ? Again safety and convenience are 2 factors to consider here I guess

 

Reason I am asking is I have relocated to Barrhaven for almost 1 year now and there is not a whole lot of hotels out here for this hobby. I've been thinking about getting services at my own place, in my own comfort zone but I would like to hear some feedback...

 

Thanks

 

P.S: I posted this question on another board and have been getting a couple of good replies. Looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I have started the hobby only a few months ago but I always invite ladies home (outcalls). I do however pay a price for this outcall-only policy (no I am not referring to higher donations) and that is many SP's are doing incalls only (especially independents and some of them I really like to have, but can't). Here by outcalls I mean escorts only (note that bringing streetwalkers home can be illegal as solicitation in public is illegal).

 

However, If you really prefer outcalls (at your home), it is still possible (out of my own personal experience). PK (Pink Kitty) still provides some outcalls. There are a number of very good SP's at PK still doing outcalls as well as incalls. There are also other agencies still offerring outcalls (Extreme pleasure and Jet set, although I have not experienced them myself, but refer to recent thread entitled "New Agencies" to read about them) There is one other agency who provides outcalls only, but, I personaly don't recommend this agency. There are also still a few independents (check Escorts Canada) who are still doing outcalls (either outcalls only or both). I hope this helps.

[bangminton 145]

Thanks for the feedback LH, i guess the point that I am trying to make across is how comfortable are you in inviting ladies into your place? knowing that people know where you live...

 

How do you deal with girls who show up unexpectedly after? What about *drivers* who may *case* your place? Perhaps I am just a tad paranoid but do you share similar concerns?

 

But on the other hand, it'd be great to do this in your own comfort zone and save the hotel money as well. I guess you can't have it both ways!

[xxxAxxx 21016]

my advice - choose an SP who is well reviewed.

someone who has a reputation for NOT being shady.

hi, im one of them... there are a few other ladies on the board here who are jst as well reviewed....others who aren't on the board as well...agencies OR indys...

don't go TOFTT at your residence if you don't feel comfortable about it.

 

as far as my preference, i couldn't care less if it's a house or hotel, each can be equally dangerous....all i care is that i enter a safe environment. I also make sure to use a driving agency who is discreet and not associated with me or my business whatsoever.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Thanks for the feedback LH, i guess the point that I am trying to make across is how comfortable are you in inviting ladies into your place? knowing that people know where you live...

 

How do you deal with girls who show up unexpectedly after? What about *drivers* who may *case* your place? Perhaps I am just a tad paranoid but do you share similar concerns?

 

But on the other hand, it'd be great to do this in your own comfort zone and save the hotel money as well. I guess you can't have it both ways!

 

 

I am new to escort scene but have been inviting ladies (nude dancers) home for private dancing for years and seldom (only on one occassion when she was stalking me and asking for more (to borrow) money and a second case she was persistence in a relationship), It has almost never happened to me. The trick is to know the dancer well before inviting and in case of escort the risk is much lower when calling a reputatable agency (i.e. PK) rather than new or unknown independents. To be honest with you I am also concerned about the point you are making (especially the independents when the driver is their boyfriend), but since I learned that outcalls are legal (on this board) I am much more comfortable (since there is nothing to be blackmailed for, unless you are married or you are very rich). Use the board to choose reputable and well-reviewed ones and I never tell them about the details of my life initially (status, job, family, home or work phone number, even email). I always use my cell phone to contact them. As I begin to know the girl more, I gradually open up about my life details. I know and you are right it is still risky but life is full of risks. I think that even incalls can be risky too especially if the girl leaves with her boyfriend.

[jughead 45]

Like anything else it is a relationship that has to be developed, once trust and respect are developed between two people anything is possible, but until it is all about initial comfort level for both involved.

 

If your neighbors are busy bodies that cannot keep there nose out of your personal and private life then be careful. If they seem friendly and talk in passing and go about there lives than who is visiting you on your personal private property in none of anyones business.

[Guest Stiletto Kyss]

In more than 40 years of play time, I have never had an escort visit me in my home whether I was unattached/single or attached/married. I have preferred to maintain discretion in all my encounters and I have opted for incalls occasionally (at a hotel room provided by a touring escort), but I have for the most part entertained my friends at a hotel either locally or while out of town. I regard this is neutral territory where we could both enjoy the moment without the apprehension of my S.O. coming home to surprise me. I only endulge myself in play time on an increasingly infrequent basis so I plan for the hotel cost (I pay in cash only) as an incidental expense. Call me overly cautious perhaps, but that's just my preference.

 

s-k

[loneskater 25635]

One important thing in this business is privacy for both the SP and the client. Although your life is your own business you can not avoid neighbours looking out the window unless you live in the middle of nowhere. I have used outcalls before mostly from agencies. Some are really great and the driver will not stop right in front of your house so it doesn't attract much attention. However I have seen other cases where the driver parks in your driveway and waits there for the hour. Not very good for privacy. I even seen a case where the driver came back 10 minutes before the hour nad parked in the driveway waiting for the SP. The only problem is he had the wrong street corner and was in the wrong driveway.

 

I also saw this lady for quite sometime, she was not an SP but we saw each other for mutual benifits. She use to come over on the same day, around the same time for a few hours. After this had been going on for a while I was asked by a neighbour how I like having a cleaning lady. His wife and him both work long hours and they were looking into having a cleaning service. Just shows that privacy and neighbours don't go together. So if privacy is a concern for you, you may want to stick to going to hotels. There is a wide choice of IND and agencies who do incalls from hotels around the city, mostly downtown. If you choose outcall you may want to ask about the driver's whereabouts while the SP is at your place.

 

By the way, that cleaning service was poor. The bed was always a mess after she left but I did not tell my neighbour.

[Joyful_Jillian 102]

One important thing in this business is privacy for both the SP and the client.

 

Absolutely. As an independent doing in-call, for the most part, location is everything. I blend two occupations that involve gentlemen callers, one as an escort, the other as a technical recruiter.

My neighbours know I'm a technical recruiter with a homebased office, and that I interview people in my home -- mostly guys, hey ... it's just the way that business works - I don't make up the rules.

Interviews generally take two hours. So do my "other" appointments. It doesn't look fishy at all. I also have a very private parking area and entrance to my home, which was chosen carefully when I shopped for this location.

Privacy from a client's perspective has to be balanced and risk managed.

I'll weigh in on the issue of having an SP come to your residence, from the perspective of how it looks to the neighbours...

As an SP, which can be a risky occupation, I try and eliminate, mitigate, or build contingency plans around the risks involved in the business. It is afterall a business. I mitigate by not appearing too hot and sexy when I show up at a client's residence. I'm a mid-40s mature woman, so I could always just as easily be a visiting relative...what I have on UNDER my tweed jacket and conservative skirt, on the other hand, is a completely different matter! ;) I sometimes carry a brief case or a lap top - I could be a financial or other type of advisor coming for a home appointment or series of appointments. I have even gone to meet a regular client carrying a musican instrument, because he was a musician and it didn't seem suspicious in the least. SPs will work with you, gentlemen.

From a personal security perspective, my advice when considering an outcall at your own residence, which incidentally does hold a lot of appeal for a number of clients, is this -- know the SP, feel comfortable with the way she presents herself, screen for the right candidate -- you'll know when you find her.

I have no experience being an agency worker, however, as an independent professional who blends two types of work she loves, I can say with confidence that I wouldn't be in either for long if I compromised the privacy of my clients or gave them cause for concern when they enlisted my services, incall or out. ;)

Excellent question! Great to hear your concerns expressed so coherently.

Jillian

 

By the way, that cleaning service was poor. The bed was always a mess after she left but I did not tell my neighbour.

 

So I guess you won't be recommending her to the neighbours....