Why are people not posting recommendations?

[WhereIRoam 21825]

Over the last few weeks I have noticed many threads by punters stating things like:

 

-Any info on ...? (OP)

Added posts contain: Saw her last week. Pics are real. She was great, will repeat.

 

-Original Post states: Saw this lady today. Nice location. She was really nice. Loved her ***. We had a great time. Will see her again.

 

Why are punters not filling out proper recommendations?

If you have visited someone who deserves a reco, why not fill one out about them? Certain cities are struggling to find recos in their area. Some of these discussion threads are from visiting providers and if you enjoyed seeing them they may not return because no one is aware they are worth seeing since there is no reco about them.

 

Besides sharing info about the industry recos is the main reason why this site was created in the first place, to share your positive experiences about providers.

 

Recos don't need to be a full page. (Unless you want to share more.) Make them just two or three sentences if you prefer. It just keeps record of worth-while providers.

 

Community!

[eagertopleaze 2366]

Honestly, what is a reco really worth?

Why does someone write a reco? To make the girl feel good? To gain brownie points with the girl? To hope it gets them a little extra mileage?

Or do they truly mean it?

On a site where negative feedback is not allowed, the value of recos loses a lot of meaning.

 

We have all read recos and gone and seen that girl and had a totally different experience!!!

[WhereIRoam 21825]

As stated above...

It keeps record of providers that are at least worth seeing.

 

No matter how you personally feel about them recos allow others to at least know they are real, not a scam and that it can be an enjoyable experience.

 

There would be a lot less threads with, "Any info on this one?" or such type.

 

Additional Comments:

We have all read recos and gone and seen that girl and had a totally different experience!!!

 

That can happen. Not all punters are the same. Some have different tastes and different expectations. Some providers can not be in the best of moods that day, it happens. There are a few different possibilities for this...

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31734]

I myself appreciate when someone leaves a reco especially if they enjoyed their time spent with me

Not only does it help me it also helps other gentlemen when seeking a legit lady

 

you don't have to get into every little explicit detail but ... your overall experience is enough!

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

A recco does help a lot especially if you are new.

 

Many years ago I was massage only and advertised in The Coast. One day some one asked me if it would be ok if he posted a Recco on Cerb. Not wanting to appear stupid I said , "sure". I had not idea what this was in the least.

 

Then the phone started ringing and I was so busy I though I would have to expand and hire staff. Very perplexed but happy I wondered where all the people were coming from?

 

The next time he visited he inquired if his recco helped . I then admitted I was very busy but had no idea what this Cerb was ? He explained and we laughed.

 

I joined here in 2009 and I still remind him once in awhile that he "discovered" me .

 

A recco is indeed subjective but can point the right people in the right direction.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

It also shows others that a provider has consistency in her standards. People always say to me " oh you have so many reco's already" but yes some are from long while ago and some new comers may think perhaps I have slipped in my caring ways.

I too tire of the endless threads of "info..." cause there never seems to be feedback afterwords.

[Mikeyboy 27134]

I read, use and highly appreciate recco's. Yes, of course YMMV. Not everyone is going to have the same experience. It does tell you that the girl is real, not a scammer, and gives some idea of the type of experience to expect.

 

I also have gotten to know some of the posters tastes which gives the recco from them more weight. There are a few members who I've learned to trust them when they give thumbs up, and that it's worth listening to. I have had many great experiences that I might not have if not for the recco of other members.

 

On a site where negative feedback is not allowed, the value of recos loses a lot of meaning.

 

I totally disagree with that statement. I'm here to find the good experiences. Not the bad ones. There are many sites that will help you find those. Not sure why you'd want to though.

 

Just my thoughts

[GoinDown 3669]

Other than as masturbation fodder I don't really see the point particularly after the lady's bona fides have been established.

[WhereIRoam 21825]

It also shows others that a provider has consistency in her standards. People always say to me " oh you have so many reco's already" but yes some are from long while ago and some new comers may think perhaps I have slipped in my caring ways.

 

Other than as masturbation fodder I don't really see the point particularly after the lady's bona fides have been established.

 

I think Lady Sophia feels differently.

 

As well, I know for one, if I want to masturbate there are far better things for me to masturbate to like porn movies or clips (free all over the internet), porn mags and even Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition is better. IMO, if you masturbate over recommendations you're missing out on much better things to masturbate to. But hey, who am I to judge... To each their own.

[GoinDown 3669]

my sense is a significant subset of recos appear to be motivated by a level of

self-gratification .. seeing ones own words in print .. quickest to 1000 posts etc lol. That's why I find them useless. But to each their own ;)

[someguy 67067]

Just to let you know that there is a similar thread to this.

 

http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=237469

 

But I use recommendations to pick the women that I choose. I want someone that is real and consistently have good recommendations.

 

For new girls that I have fun with, I generally write them a recommendation. If it is their first recommendation then it usually takes a bit longer to create the thread. But I have been told by the girls that it helps them a lot. Some of them are not making much money because they are not known. and a recommendation can generate new visitors for them.

 

Sometimes my recommendations help them so much, that I have a hard time booking with them when they become popular. But they appreciate the recommendation and try to fit me in when they can :)

 

Yes recommendations are important to the members here and the ones that get them. It's a win-win situation. If you had fun, please let us know.

[frednorth470 3830]

I write a decent amount of recos considering our small market here. When I write a reco, it is because the SP I spent time with is worth a reco. I don't write recos for everyone for the very reason that they would probably be quite the boring reco in some instances. Also, some SPs are not here very often or already have a tonne of recos already.

 

I think that I would rather not write a reco each time I spend time with a SP, if for anything, but for some 'attentive' people trying to figure out my pattern, budget or just me sharing too much info.

 

I have to say that even when I have written recos, there are still people asking about them or sending PMs asking about them.

 

Additional Comments:

Sometimes my recommendations help them so much, that I have a hard time booking with them when they become popular. But they appreciate the recommendation and try to fit me in when they can :)

 

I know the feeling.

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31734]

As you said to each their own...most guys like to know the lady they may meet is legit reliable and not a scam and us ladies appreciate the fact the the gentlemen we spent time with actually enjoyed it other than just a quick f session

 

Recos are good for everyone!

[Daisy Mae 2693]

One- I think some guys are nervous about posing reco's. Some have no idea what to write, no idea if they'll be taken seriously or accused of... shilling? Shillery? I don't know the verb for "shill" haha. But yes- I've asked a few gents, and the consensus seems to just be general nerves and/or guys only seeing already reviewed ladies, thinking she doesn't need any more.

 

Two- which, on that note, I have to agree that frequent reco's are helpful! Y'all wanna know that we're the same as we were X amount of time ago, right? It's not embarrassing to post an update on whether your reco still stands or if perhaps something has changed, for better or worse.

 

Informative reco's (does she look like her photos? nice location? nothing to be concerned about? same rates and services as stated?) are always, always helpful to both SP and client alike. We like getting the traffic, and y'all like the assurance that we are who we say we are. <3

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

I think I replied to a similar thread on this and my feelings haven't changed much. I rarely write a recommendation. I find they are very subjective and what one person likes, another doesn't.

When I used to book appointments in the past on Lyla I would look at her profile, read her posting history to get a feel for the person and maybe communicate with her a bit before booking if I was still unsure. I found that worked well for me. This industry requires a sense of adventure sometimes and I always enjoyed taking a leap without needing several reco's beforehand. If it didn't work out I just took it in stride and moved on. I don't think someone else's recommendation would have changed my experience.

It's fine if you like giving reco's. It's also OK if you don't.

[Dave in Phoenix 753]

to know some of the posters tastes which gives the recco from them more weight. There are a few members who I've learned to trust them when they give thumbs up, and that it's worth listening to. I have had many great experiences that I might not have if not for the recco of other members.

 

Since my interests are more sensual intimacy, and personality it is hard to find hints of that in most reviews. However, if I find a like minded guy from his review often I will check his reviews of others in a way of looking for more my type of companion.

 

Coming from the U.S. usually only about once a year for 10 days at a time, there are so many choices and so little time...and money... and I do other things with friends in Toronto not just meeting gals.

 

I do a great deal of pre-trip research as I am doing now. I am known on other boards for my spreadsheets - which makes it faster to match who is now available vs my A's on my spreadsheet!

[Lephturn 2649]

I find the recommendations are worthwhile and I write them when I have a great time with a lady. I write quite lengthy ones and try to convey how that lady made me feel.

 

Why do I do it? I want other gents to know this lady is worth seeing. I want the lady's business to increase - I want her to be successful so I can see her more in the future. If I don't have a good time... well I don't recommend that lady.

 

Now I'm strictly working with MAs so far in my career, but that may change. I do read recommendations and I can often find value in them. I too need intimacy foremost - so I'm looking for that in the reviews.

 

Why have I written several glowing recommendations? Because I've had wonderful amazing sessions with beautiful ladies that have far exceeded my expectations for intimacy, sensuality, and down right fun. I try to convey how they made me feel and why I think it was so good. I do note the things I can't speak to. For example some gents might want a really good massage and body slides - but I don't. I specifically note in my recos that it wasn't part of my session so I can't speak to it.

[GoinDown 3669]

personally I'm not interested in a one-size-fits-all experience. Getting the same level of service as every john that shows up at the door is a turnoff for me.

[WhereIRoam 21825]

Other than as masturbation fodder I don't really see the point particularly after the lady's bona fides have been established.

 

my sense is a significant subset of recos appear to be motivated by a level of

self-gratification .. seeing ones own words in print .. quickest to 1000 posts etc lol. That's why I find them useless. But to each their own ;)

 

personally I'm not interested in a one-size-fits-all experience. Getting the same level of service as every john that shows up at the door is a turnoff for me.

 

You're not a fan of recos?

[Amanda-Lee 11094]

If a gentleman enjoys his time with me (MA service, at the spa | or SP service outcall) I welcome a recommendation. It does help to be recogized and appreciated by gentleman.

 

I've had gentleman who visit me who their buddy gave my number to. I like that. That client recommended me and I am told that.

 

On the other hand. I have seen gentleman who said, "I want to write a recommendation but if I do you will be busy. I want you for myself." That is 1) A bit creepy as I am not available to anyone 24/7, other than my fur-son, 2) It is rude to say that because they know they enjoyed themselves and wants to keep me their "kept secret" (whatever that means).

 

I like positive things said/written about me here, if someone had any problem or issue I would rather them address it with me in person, over text, or in a phone call.

 

I welcome recommendations. They make me feel recongized as I enjoy my work a lot.

 

Gentleman shouldn't be scared to review anyone, whether if they are a different colour, size, shape, etc., we all need to embrace everyones beauty and not feel ashamed to say they visited someone they had a really amazing time with, that is different and unquie. Sometimes, I feel this is true for many of us ladies and the gentleman on this board.

[Lephturn 2649]

On the other hand. I have seen gentleman who said, "I want to write a recommendation but if I do you will be busy. I want you for myself." That is 1) A bit creepy as I am not available to anyone 24/7, other than my fur-son, 2) It is rude to say that because they know they enjoyed themselves and wants to keep me their "kept secret" (whatever that means).

 

I do understand the emotion behind that, but it's not realistic. I want the ladies I see who take me to heaven to do very well and stay in the business. I want them to make good money and see them succeed in their business and in life. The emotion that we all naturally feel is jealousy and Shakespeare said it best in Othello:

O, beware, my lord, of jealousy;

It is the green-ey'd monster, which doth mock

The meat it feeds on. That cuckold lives in bliss,

Who, certain of his fate, loves not his wronger:

But O, what damnèd minutes tells he o'er

Who dotes, yet doubts, suspects, yet strongly loves!

 

Jealousy is natural to feel yet irrational in this situation and destructive always. A gentleman must overrule this base instinct with higher reasoning and act accordingly, but not all clients have that level of self-awareness.

[Guest Prufrock Cummings]

I'm sure I will get skewered for saying this, but comparing one of Shakespeare's (lesser quality) plays, Othello, to "why are people not posting recommendations" is absolutely ludicrous.

 

Othello killed his wife Desdemona; he did this out of jealousy; he was a pawn of his enemy, Iago. For someone choosing to write or to not write a recommendation for an SP is his or her own personal choice. It is not murder or green eyed monster jealousy, it is just something that someone chooses to do or not to do. It is a choice, not murder or jealousy; the conveyed message is something entirely different.

 

Someone may write a very beautiful, honest and true recommendation, or they may write one but then slide in some nasty or mean things into a "recommendation" to be hurtful to try to get a point across about something that they didn't particularly like; not a recommendation, but a personal slam (hmm, I'm thinking Iago, maybe my initial thought in the first paragraph is wrong...).

 

A recommendation by any other name is a as believable as the mood of the poster at the time they make it.

 

I read a posting this week where the poster highly recommended the SP, then in a later post, said they take it back and cannot recommend the person any longer. Which posting is the reader to believe; the first or the second? Iago planted a seed in Othello, hmm, maybe I should take back my opening comment about how comparing Othello to recommendations is ludicrous...

[backrubman 64800]

The truth be told, under the new world order, you are basically posting an admission of guilt to a criminal act.

 

I see that as the main reason that recommendations have gone down.

[WhereIRoam 21825]

The truth be told, under the new world order, you are basically posting an admission of guilt to a criminal act.

 

I see that as the main reason that recommendations have gone down.

 

Sorry, no act is mentioned or at least shouldn't be according to Lyla guidelines.

Body rubs and slides as well as kissing are not sexual acts.

[GoinDown 3669]

Wink Wink Nudge Nudge ya right lol