Service providers and mental health.

[WhereIRoam 21825]

The ladies will have more to help you here. I feel for you and can only imagine. All the best to you!

 

As for a relationship:

I have dated and even lived with an escort for a short time. It isn't easy for either party. It takes someone special to do what you do plus seek or have a RLBF or RLGF as well. Although maybe harder for the escort, it isn't all that much easier for their SO.

 

In the end, we are all human. We all have feelings and desires of wanting to love and to be loved as well as being appreciated by a SO. I don't see that being any different for anyone, no matter what it is you do. As I said, it takes a special someone. Someone special who is the escort and someone special to be able to accept them just the way they are.

 

I hope you find that someone. This would maybe help you during some times of difficulty with what you do.

 

WIR

[Guest st*****ens**ors]

I'm really sorry you have been subjected to unkind, intrusive questions like these, and that they've hurt you.

 

Your body belongs to you. How you choose to use it and enjoy it shouldn't be subject to anyone else's arbitrary judgements. Ironically enough, most subscribers to any philosophy will impose one set of strictures upon your behavior, even when your behavior concerns only you, regardless of whether their philosophy is religious or atheist, Marxist, post modernist or feminist.

 

You have no control over what others will think or say. You only get to choose how it affects you, and how you react, and even then your control is limited.

 

I am not at peace with my own seeking contact and comfort with providers. I'm not just a thrill-seeker. My personal life has a hole of loneliness and unhappiness in it that I decided I didn't want to live with anymore. I have been really grateful for the kindness of most of the women I have met-- their generosity and understanding has been almost overwhelming.

 

But I still feel guilty, and at times I wonder if having sips of water when I am desperately thirsty might not just make me more aware of how parched I am.

 

And a decades-long struggle with clinical depression is beneath it all, so I know how that complicates, well, pretty much everything.

 

However, I know this for certain: You have not made yourself unloveable.

 

That, for reasons that are entirely up to you, you have chosen to use your physical self and capacity for intimacy to make money, rather than, say, using them to sell life insurance, or graphic design, does not make you unloveable.

 

You are a bundle of thoughts and intentions and silliness and nobility that cannot be made intrinsically worth less by how you make a living.

 

I could go on here, like, a lot.

 

That said, if you are unhappy you also have the absolute right to decide to change directions st any time, with apologies to none.

 

I really wish you well. . You are a small brightness in a big world.

[timetourist 1317]

Unfortunately, society shapes peoples minds to think a certain way. Thankfully, we have overcome a lot of those ways of thinking, which is evidenced by the changes in perception towards various lifestyles and beliefs. We still have a long way to go. I will be happy when SPs are accepted as serving in a legitimate trade. Once those walls come down and acceptance becomes normal, then all the thoughts that come with it will normalize as well.

 

Rejection, or fear of rejection, is one of the most difficult and isolating forms of punishment, which leads to all sorts of depression issues. You have to be confident in who you are. It is hard sometimes when others are judging you in ways that aren't fair. You do need a good support system in place to get you through.

 

Relationships are hard in the SP type profession. People, especially those with low self esteem will harbor some jealousy because they will feel there is some intimacy that is given to someone else. To be honest, I'm not sure I would be immune to that either. I would like to think I could, but I have times where I need to be the center of someones world from an intimacy point of view. I know that its only a job, but the type of contact involved does require some intimacy, even if its just pretend in some cases. Hrmmm. That's just like marriage...LOL.

 

I like to think I treat everyone with respect no matter what. I try to be nonjudgmental. I have even stopped hanging around certain people that have a tendency to be judgmental because they aren't healthy for me or society.

 

Keep positive and surround yourself with other positive people. It's all you can do.

[Barney 2550]

This is very simple , its a tough world out there and only the strong survive. Be Strong Stay Strong, and follow your dreams, Life is complicated but also beautiful.

[leon1972 1196]

Firstly, yes you are loveable and lovely but some people are too narrow minded so try not to pay much attention to them! I have wondered how SPs deal with this sort of thing. We all have to deal with unpleasant things but I can see how tough it must be for you sometimes. Dealing with sex vs infatuation vs love are strong emotional issues so you are brave for sharing and you are not alone with the discouraging side of it and seek help if you think it's getting really 'dark' because the world would be darker with out you and you have the right to be happy. Great that you are supporter of LGBTQ issues and I really hope to meet you sometime :-)

[WhereIRoam 21825]

MelanieBunny I hope this helps, just a little bit at least.

 

You were created in

God's image. God makes

no mistakes.

To put yourself down

for the way you are is to

insult God's handiwork.

You are beautiful!

 

@MelanieBunny

Your time is too valuable to prove yourself to people.

Focus on your goals and the right people will come into your life.

 

WIR