What I really wanted to say was THANK YOU MOD!

[JessyCeleste 14078]

Hey fellow ummm Lyla-ers? Lyla-ites? What are we called? LylaLovers! there we go! As some of you know, I rarely venture into the general threads here and did today because I wanted to post a thank you to MOD for getting lyla back up & running with a renewed security certificate in no time. Many of us, myself included, were not comfortable coming here without it. I often do for other sites when I see that but given the nature of this site and the potential for what could go wrong, I didn't want to take any risks. Lyla is the only site that I advertise on. Its a fantastic community and the only place I feel represents me in the way I want to market myself, to find the type of hobbyist I like to spend time with. Not that I ever take lyla for granted but visiting Ottawa without it was rather disconcerting. On twitter, many were worried how long it would take for lyla to be safe again. I assured everyone that mod is hardcore and is surely all over addressing it, he hasn't failed us yet and sure enough, my faith was proven er... whats the word... well you know, I was right to have ffaith lol. ( I'm afraid I may have left all my wit in my last post, which is why I entitled this one, 'what I really wanted to say was...' I ventured to the General Discussion to thank mod but unfortunately checked out a thread I should not have and broke my all-too-often-broken-rule on remaining apolitical and non-controversial. Sigh. Anyway, thank you mod for your swift action! You rock!!!!

 

Jessy

xoxo xxx

[80watts 130]

Security is good. For the escort and to the john. Before the infamous bill from parliament, this place here was a great open learning tool about sexuality and the escort business. When that bill happened, this place dried up, and was heavily edited. The commentaries warned that it would drive the sex trade underground. What I have noticed is the comments that there are more fake advertisements (other webpages), more people getting ripped off from crooks trying to take advantage that johns wont complain to police. I can only hope that this board will one day go back to the openess of infomation that it once had, instead of being shoved underground through the use of PM and such, but such is the way of the land for now.

[Manluvsex 13731]

I feel that while Lyla was affected by legal changes, it has successfully adapted and continues to thrive despite those changes, as it continues to meet the needs of the vast majority of its members. Yes there were some inevitable growing pains for the board when the new and faulty legislation was introduced to control sex work. New rules were quickly introduced on the board, restricting the use of certain vocabulary and postings explicitly referring to sexual acts. Yes, we lost a few members along the way. And yes a number of other members became more circumspect or reticent to post their recommendations and other views.

 

Initially the pendulum had a negative effect on the board as it swung towards caution and less openness between members, but as in other life situations when major change occurs quickly, the pendulum has begun to swing back gradually towards renewed openness and sharing between members. The one exception might be, that it is only a minority of members who now share recommendations about their experiences with SPs and MPs they have visited. That is an unfortunate and worrying trend for Lyla's future growth potential; as recommendations are perhaps one of the key elements drawing new members to the board for the first time.

 

But, Lyla has survived and found new strength thanks to the common sense leadership at the top by our tireless and infinitely patient Mod and by the hundreds of its members who support him/or her and his advisors. Growing pains do not happen without, well ''pain'', disagreements and frustration along the way; but these things gradually have a way of working themselves out, as they have done amazingly well on our board.

 

Client members continue to realize that Lyla is the only place on the internet where they can easily find many many beautiful and reputable SPs, MPs and dancers of all shapes and sizes; offering services just about any man could dream of. Most of these providers have positive recommendations under their belts (on in their sexy panties) and provide a wealth of information about themselves, their services and their personalities. You can also get to know them by reading their useful threads and postings on Lyla.

 

Other sites, which I will leave unnamed, are expanding minefields of frauds, misrepresentation, B&S, money down the drain, mountains of regrets and seas of frustration for their many clients, known for their incessant whining and gnashing of teeth about how they were deceived and robbed of their hard earned income. It's like the guy, stumbling down the steps of a seedy bar in the wrong side of town, at 3 in the morning, who decides to take a leisurely shortcut down the darkest alley around; who when he is mugged and has his wallet stolen complains bitterly to his buddies tear drops spoiling his full mug of cheap beer. Boo hoo!

 

And all the queries and discussion about such disreputable sites on our board is largely negative and unfortunately takes away the well-deserved and more logically attention, which we should be investing towards the legitimate and reputable providers who are members of Lyla. Not just our attention and interest, but our ongoing patronage too! In the past I have also contributed to the discussion about those other sites on Lyla, but I will cease to do so now!

 

Lyla is also unique and irreplaceable for its members for another important reason. It is the last bastion of respectful, frank and civil communications and information sharing between sex workers and their clients that I know of in Canada. While discussions get out of line once in awhile on Lyla, I have found that to be the rare exception and not the rule. When things get a little too personal or out of whack; invariably a member will step in diplomatically to call for a truce and a return to harmonious and friendly relations. And mysteriously and magically -- poof, the tiff is over.

 

Lyla is a recommendation board and not a review board as we all know, which sets it apart from all of its other review based competitors. While some members would prefer the green light to speak up about negative and/or disappointing experiences; a view I first held when I joined the board; after a few years of observation, participation and reflection about the day to day and long-term of goings-on of the board; I am now convinced it was a very wise decision by the founders of board to discourage negative content and commentary. This simple and yet radical decision has ensured that the board and its content did not degenerate into the cesspool other sites have become with their constant backbiting, personal attacks, open hostility, disrespect and extreme misogyny towards sex workers.

 

Lyla is the only such board I have found on the net, which while not perfect by any means; collectively strives for a higher level of civility and camaraderie that is sadly in decline in almost every corner of our society!

 

It is also a wonderful and diverse resource of helpful information for clients and providers alike, about sexuality, humour, real life experiences; as well as advice on movies, food, accommodation, travel, technology...and on and on. Every day I go on the board, I am gobsmacked by the intelligent, thoughtful, informative and altruistic commentary by many senior members and by others doing their small part in making this a better, safer and informative place for all than it already is. I have learned tremendously from you all and from your generous contributions, and I thank you all sincerely for this gift!

 

Long live Lyla I say! Don't focus on its few and insignificant defects and instead celebrate the overwhelmingly positive and progressive influence it continues to have in improving the understanding, respect and common interests between our many beautiful and amazing SPs, MPs and dancers; and the majority of us extremely handsome, charming and irresistible creatures of the male species! Nor do I wish to ignore by the preceding comment, the many other permutations and combinations of sexual and/or sensual intercourse and expression, nor the equally charming, intelligent and exceptional human beings involved in such pleasant advanced mathematics!

 

''Vive Lyla....Vive Lyla Libre!''...as Charlie DeGal once declared from a Quebec city balcony in the 1960ies....or something to that effect!