Rough Sex

[bwmm 153]

Hi everyone,

 

Do any SP provide and enjoy rough sex? E.g. light choking, slapping, etc.

[Rambler1980 1359]

My experience is that many/most that have been in the business will allow some of that (fake choking, pushing their head in a pillow, pulling on hair, bending them over a table, etc).

 

If you want a provider that provides truly rough sex (firm slaps, spankings, restraints, gagging, real breath play) that's harder to find and very very much YMMV in my experience. I've lucked out and sometimes found people (no longer working) who really were into it and we had a lot of fun. For myself if I'm with someone who likes it rough I get into it, but I don't look for it in a provider.

[Gregsand 6116]

There plenty of SP's specialized in BDSM, it's a question of finding one who knows what she's doing. Trust and good communication is essential to avoid dangerous or/and expensive legal consequences.

[Rambler1980 1359]

Most who advertise BDSM seem to be geared towards the woman being the dominant person, I think bwmm is looking to be the dominate partner. You are right about being careful though I've enjoyed experiences with a person who wanted to be choked with hands or a rope to the point of blacking out. It was loads of fun but something we worked up to and had some tricks to make sure I didn't mis-read her state, not something I would recommend trying day 1. Easy to go to far and hurt someone unless you have trust and experience.

[harboursmoke 3087]

Shot in the dark here but it would take allot of trust for an SP to engage in this. They are very vulnerable meeting us and the introduction of rougher play would only be entertained after a level of trust has been established.

 

I just cant imagine and SP offering it on a first meeting. Just my thoughts and fully admit i mihht be wrong.

[Gregsand 6116]

When you thread the limits of serious physical violence, it would be a situation where having a third person in the room can be useful to monitor the activity and intervene if needed. And mostly when both sides are exploring their physical limits.

[Rambler1980 1359]

Shot in the dark here but it would take allot of trust for an SP to engage in this. They are very vulnerable meeting us and the introduction of rougher play would only be entertained after a level of trust has been established.

 

I just cant imagine and SP offering it on a first meeting. Just my thoughts and fully admit i mihht be wrong.

 

Agreed. I think that applies with any partners SP or not. For the truly rough stuff I've done, it was with people:

• I'd developed trust with
  
• We shared a mutual desire for it
  
• We discussed limits, safety and intent before hand
  

 

Certainly not a first meeting scenario.

 

That said, I think bwnn is looking for the light weight stuff that many providers offer. Holding their neck, some playful slapping, pulling some hair. I haven't met a provider yet that wouldn't allow some slapping of their bottoms (I still ask first)

[fortunateone 156618]

When you thread the limits of serious physical violence, it would be a situation where having a third person in the room can be useful to monitor the activity and intervene if needed. And mostly when both sides are exploring their physical limits.

 

 

i have noticed reviews/ads/posts by maybe 2 or 3 over the years (and by 'years' i mean over 10 years, and still only a total of 2 or 3) who have provided sub services, and they were always with a 3rd person monitoring the encounters.;

 

this is safest for you as a client, and the provider, imo. It is also my personal opinion that no sp should ever provides these services, because it would attract a violent predatory and incompetent dominant-curious person who is clueless about consent, boundaries and limits

 

everything you see in porn is not necessarily something that should be acted upon in real life, and to me the absolute last thing any sp should be doing is offering it, advertising it, or going thru with it, unless they were the sub of a BDSM couple and the M part is there every step of the way.