Am I wrong?

[Caterina 2255]

Him: Hi Caterina

You look playful and cute in an altgirl sort of way.

Like my first wife but way younger

Can we meet

 

Me : Thank you... lol

Yes but I require 2 hours notice

 

Him: Back in the 80s we called it new wave

2 hours is just enough for my blue pill to activate my ...

Eggplant emoji

 

Me: So 830 or 9?

**************

 

Him: 9***************

 

Me: Ok

Text when here for Buzz and unit #s

See u at 9!

 

Me: Just confirming you are coming, you didn't respond to my last texts to say ok. Let me know hun.

 

Me an hour later than the time booked:

There is a cancellation/no show fee of $60, I like to call it a gentleman's fee because only gentlemen pay it. If it isn't paid I will not book with you again and you will be posted online as a no show for escorts to see.

I will be treating your life and livelihood with disrespect and disregard as you've treated mine. Have a great night.

 

Him 3 hours later:

Often, a gentleman will apologize when circumstances prevent him from attending an appointment.

In the case of our appointment, discretion was needed until I could find an opportunity to do so.

I'm sorry but also grateful this happened this way. I was able to see you for what you are.

If I weren't a gentleman I'd declare it in a review. Instead I'll consider this a misunderstanding. In other words, you just don't understand how this hobby works for us. Things happen. You are neither my girlfriend nor my friend. Do not take it personally.

 

Me: See me for what I am? Keep your money. Post a review. I'll post you being a no show. And not even letting me know. I'm a reliable girl, every one knows it. Keep your money. Can't believe you are threatening me with a review after you screwed ME over

It's a hobby exactly, you don't care about the repercussions for us when you book, don't show and don't even have enough respect to text.

You shouldn't prebook if you dont know if you can make it

I don't rip men off, I'm punctual and I don't doublebook, so what do you mean WHAT I REALLY AM? Guess I should just start double booking and making guys wait because of ppl like u

It's guys like YOU that force girls to do that shit

So see me for what I am? A great escort, one of the genuine ones left? Who's tired of men like you?

Would you rather me double book, make men wait in the parking lot, ghost men, be late, etc...? This is how we make our living, so should I do those things to prevent losing money because of men like you?

 

Him : This is the nature of your profession. No call no show happens. I don't do it often. When I do I take the first opportunity to apologize and I pay for the booking in full.

What you really are is unprofessional volatile and a blackmailer. I did not destroy your business. That was not my intention. I inconveniencd you and would have gladly owned up. You offered to treat my life and livelihood with disrespect, with consequences more severe... Outing me to family, friends, and work. That's what you are? Glad we didn't meet up.

This is an alias name and number. Triple Portaled. I can switch to a new number and book you. You would never know it was me. But I won't. You turn me off. You really do resemble my first wife.

 

Me: Bye

 

 

 

 

I'm a blackmailer because I expect a gentleman's fee? And I post no shows? I told him to keep his $60 because of his veiled threats to review me and book me from multiple numbers.... I guess, according to him, this is a hobby and I don't understand how it works, doesn't matter that I lost a hh call while waiting for him. I will be posting him in SP section and including this link.

 

This whole situation made me sick to my stomach and gave me a new understanding for those who double book. It isn't JUST A HOBBY FOR YOU GUYS. It's our livelihood and how most of us make a living. The amount of men like him that I deal with is forcing me to create more strict screening procedures.

 

Maybe I was wrong? I just get so frustrated with no shows who can't even text to cancel. I don't know, I'm questioning myself. Should I continue this way or start implementing stringent screening procedures?

 

And who thinks he would've paid the booking in full, as he said, if I'd never texted asking for the cancellation fee?

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Sorry this happened. From what I see, he did not confirm, so it's not a no show. It's someone who seems to enjoy dangling a possible appointment in front of you, but as he didn't confirm, he's not a cancellation.

 

I see you use exclusively text. I use a 2 step process. They must call to verify their intention. I need to hear them say to me, "yes, I would like to see you at 9". This puts it back on them. I don't chase them, just tell them the process, if they follow, then I move forward. If they don't follow, I move on and book someone else.

 

However, I think it's also important to point out, I never get into an argument with these idiots either. Your tone when you stated he owes you $60 was angry, and a thinly veiled treat to out him. It doesn't get you anywhere, and puts you at a disadvantage. I NEVER tell them I will blacklist them. The word is too close to blackmail and that's all they see. Their safety is now in danger they feel as you are going to do something bad if they don't payyou the "extortion" fee. That's how they see it. It's not reality, but that's all they see and will proceed this way.

 

So, yes, make sure you are using proper screening, verify confirmations to prevent tire kickers, and idiots. Some will still slip through, but it will greatly reduce the volume of time wasters. If you want clarification on screening methods that work, feel free to ask.

 

Xo

[Jasmine Rain 23126]

I see it as a confirmed appointment, and based on his reply, he did too.

 

You did nothing wrong. Except maybe waste more time trying to explain to someone something that they will never understand. His mentality is clear.

 

You are a hooker. You don't deserve his respect. You don't deserve the same respect as a wife, or GF, or any other business entity.

 

Hookers are meant to be there when requested and required and if he can't make it, well too bad, so sad. That is the business. That is your whoring business that you choose. Not his fault.

 

Fucking ass, is my opinion.

 

The passive aggressive way he was writing. The bigging up of himself while trying to put you down, the deflection, the protection. It is all a recipe for disaster. The threat to book you another way, the BS about his phone and anonymous nature of it. Triple Portaled??? Give me a fucking break. I bet he just googled that to say it in text.

 

My advice, list him in the BCL and move on. I have 3 other sites I list on other this board. If you want to PM, I can share.

 

Also, as most people know by now since I have just a loud mouth about it, screen. Screen, screen, screen.

 

I know screening is scary. Women are afraid they will not get business, and I will admit, there may be a bit of slow period in the beginning when you make your adjustments. But it is soooooooooo worth it in the end.

 

Men can't even talk to me without going through my site first. I list no email addressed, phone numbers, etc. The one email address I have listed for BP ads has an auto-responder that gives men directions on how to communicate with me since they clearly didn't read the ad. By the time the person gets to me, actually talking to me, I have weeded out 80% of the time wasters, non-compatible clients, etc. 80% of my work is done and I haven't done a thing.

 

It takes away the frustration that builds over time with dealing all that BS. That in itself is worth screening. In my opinion. I don't text with anyone other than established regulars.

 

Also, I find that because I screen, I take up to a week or two, to screen. I can take that time to get to know likes and dislikes with the client. Makes 95% of my appointment to never feel like "work".

 

Sorry, this happened to you. In my opinion, you were not wrong at all.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I echo Meghan, I never consider it a confirmed appointment until I can hear your voice and see your number. Its a 2 way confirm

A. It confirms your sincer about booking. That your not a joker just waisting time.

B. Voice confirms feel safer when disclosing my location. I find it nerve wreaking to give my adress to someone I have not verbally spoken too. Are they speaking clearly and not slurred? Do they sound the age they say they are? What if a wife found your txting and ts to get back at you?

 

I dont really push cancelation fees anymore. Its not worth the headache. I do simply say " it would be prudent and proper for you to e transfer me a small donation as your appt time was reserved just for you. If you wish to stay on my client list please email *******. " I dont even demand an amount. A gentlemen doesnt need to ask how much he will know 50-80 is acceptable.

[Caterina 2255]

It was a confirmed appointment, that isn't the issue. He knew, I knew it. I don't require a voice call. From his responses he knew it was a confirmed appointment as well. I was just wondering if I was wrong or a blackmailer as he called it for mentioning my no show/cancellation fee. I did not say he OWED me, I stated that I have a gentleman's fee. I guess I'm just tired of trying to spare their feelings and try to not make them feel threatened w blacklisting when they have no consideration for me. I don't think he was planning on showing at all. His passive aggressive threats to review me or book from different numbers were what really bothered me. In Kingston it's difficult to have stringent screening processes and still gain business. Thanks for the input ladies. I will PM you later Jessica for that info.

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Him: Hi Caterina

You look playful and cute in an altgirl sort of way.

Like my first wife but way younger

Can we meet

 

Me : Thank you... lol

Yes but I require 2 hours notice

 

Him: Back in the 80s we called it new wave

2 hours is just enough for my blue pill to activate my ...

Eggplant emoji

 

Me: So 830 or 9?

**************

 

Him: 9***************

 

Me: Ok

Text when here for Buzz and unit #s

See u at 9!

 

Me: Just confirming you are coming, you didn't respond to my last texts to say ok. Let me know hun.

 

Unless I'm missing something, this is why I would not consider it confirmed. Don't know what the *****s mean, so that's why I'm not sure if I'm missing something.

[Caterina 2255]

The ******* include him repeating my address and rate to confirm. I didn't want to post that for obvious reasons. I'm not sure why the confirmation is the argument here. He admitted to booking and not showing. I tried to leave out my personal information and when I asked him if he was coming because he did not respond to my last texts, it was him inquiring about directions. I just didn't put HIM:********* ME:********. I didn't think this would turn into my booking procedures being questioned and judged. And Aficionado I completely agree, that is the feedback I was looking for. Next time I will not let my anger get the best of me. I felt as though he was treating me that way by not showing after asking my rates, booking a time, being given an address then asking for directions. It was unprofessional of me, but the client pool in Kingston has been really testing my patience lately.

 

"In the case of our appointment, discretion was needed until I could find an opportunity to do so." Him referring to our APPOINTMENT and not texting me until hours after he didn't show.

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Ok, now I understand.