NotchJohnson 214123 Report post Posted March 22, 2018 When you decide to do BDSM you should always come up with a safe word to use in case you feel that it's not safe. One thing I found out is to not use the word "Again" for a safe word. What safe words are good to use and which ones are not good? Please post them here to see them. In the mean time see this guy use pineapple juice. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gregsand 6116 Report post Posted March 22, 2018 As sometimes talking is either difficult or impossible, "tapping out" does the job. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AdorablePinUpAriaNicole 1819 Report post Posted March 22, 2018 My safe word is Pie. Because if I ever wanted to stop. It should be easy as pie. :) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nora Brighton 9410 Report post Posted March 23, 2018 I think it's important for both parties to come up with a safe strategy together. Sometimes talking isn't possible for whatever reason, so an action is needed. Sometimes not even that is possible, so boundaries need to be heavily discussed beforehand. It's important for doms/dommes to be in tune with their submissive's body language too. Personally, I like to check in often. Unless we have a strict scene in place, I always ask before starting any action. I pay attention to queues and comfort levels throughout a session. If you want to use a safe word, use something that's easy to say and understand, and make sure everyone involved is aware of the word. Happy playing! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted March 23, 2018 Safe, sane, consensual is key. Like KarmaKiss, I use the traffic light method. If they are gagged, I have a small nerf ball that they hold. If they drop the ball, I stop... smiles, cat 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites