Curious as to how common this is with those who have regulars.

[WhereIRoam 21825]

I'm well aware those of us who have regulars sometimes gift and may take them out to show our gratitude but I'm thinking more along the lines of something like this type of gift.

 

This weekend I visited a regular and informed her this visit would be 'Just For Her'. Yesterday afternoon I picked up a bottle of red wine, a six pack of her favorite apple cider, foot lotion along with some fresh fruit.

 

When I arrived we started by drinking wine and eating fruit. We then moved to the bedroom where I proceeded to a 20-25 min foot massage. When she asked when I wanted to 'be treated' I informed her it was not in the plans. Then it was time for a half hour deep tissue body massage and I used a coconut scented oil. My clothes stayed on the entire time, this was time just for her.

 

Personally, I felt and still feel good about myself. She has always been more than just amazing to me and there have been times when we have gone over the allotted time. I also believe that even though this is an industry relationship we more often than not get back what we put into it.

[UnderAverage 1348]

Do you still have to pay for the alotted time even tho you didnt get in her words "Treated"?

[WhereIRoam 21825]

This visit was arranged that way so yes.

[Phaedrus 209521]

Do you still have to pay for the alotted time even tho you didnt get in her words "Treated"?

 

Yes. Always. You're paying for her time. What you do with it is up to you.

[KarissaTsevia 1304]

I have regulars, people who respect me and are respected by me for mutually beneficially fun.

[Jasmine Rain 23126]

I have regulars where we will flip sometimes. It will be all about me, or all about him and then we have plenty of mutual sessions.

 

What you did for her was awesome. It is sometimes better then physical gift being given. Good on you.

[AddilynCastle 1118]

This kind of date is a fairly common (and treasured!) occurrence for me. It makes me feel pampered, cherished, sexy and totally spoiled by the gentleman if I'm being completely honest - so I'm very happy for the special lady you've made to feel this way too!

 

Each of my lovers have different sensual interests, but in their own time they've voiced their appreciation for my petite fit figure, smooth caramel skin (tattoo-free), small feet, my body's responsiveness to various kinds of touch, ect.

I think in my case, because I do offer an Erotic Massage session and I also incorporate sensual massage into my companionship when possible, that that may inspire my lovers to want to provide me with a similar pleasure on a future date. But we still have plenty of amazing play dates in between where they are "treated" exceptionally well!!

[WhereIRoam 21825]

Received a couple PMs from a male member today about not being happy I pampered her and not get "treated". This was in no way an attempt to make anyone else, clients, look or feel like any less of a client than I am. I didn't feel like I had to , I wanted to do this to show appreciation and strengthen our client provider connection. I feel no need to apologize.

 

To each their own, as they say.

[WhereIRoam 21825]

You don't need to apologize. All I'm saying is, if you pay for a service, you should get a service. If I wanted someone to pamper I can do that for free at home, like I even have a choice. A husband is a 24/7 service provider after all, just not the fun kind of servicing ;)

I did ask you to stop messaging me but see you have come forth here. This will be the only time I will respond to you.

 

Correction: I did not pay for a service, I paid for her time. As Phaedrus stated above, "You're paying for her time. What you do with it is up to you." In this case, I booked a time and chose to pamper her. Not every client is a husband or has an SO.

 

Now I will make it public. Please do not message or address me in the future.

Cheers,

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

You made it public, you brought it here. You don't want to have a discussion? There's a very simple action you can take then, don't respond.

 

Now addressing your point which I completely disagree with. I don't pay for someone's time, I have friends and family for that. When I agree to pay for a service, I carefully define what I expect from the service provider, while respecting their consent and boundaries. If they agree to something, and then don't provide it, that's not acceptable to me. It would be like you coming to my shop to get a tire change and a tuneup, and me telling you that we only offer time here, after you've already paid me! Some providers make it clear that they guarantee nothing more than time, which saves me time. I appreciate their honesty, and I simply move onto to someone who is more willing to discuss terms of service.

 

In any case, I really don't care that much what you do to go above and beyond expectations, so long as it doesn't become a widespread expectation among service providers in the industry. I'm sure there will remain a market for guys who want to make it rain just as much as there will remain a market for guys who spend more conservatively. Perhaps I was a little too quick to judge your actions, you do you bro. Again though, if you don't want a friendly discussion to take place, don't engage in one. I won't be offended if you choose not to reply to my critique, just conduct yourself like an adult, take some responsibility for your own engagement in a discussion/debate.

 

I think you are missing the point. Long time regular relationships go beyond the "service me now" mentality. This is not a case of a provider promising something and not delivering. This is a case of a regular showing his appreciation for the many sessions he has had with his provider.

 

I understand your cave men mentality that as a "service provider" in a mechanic setting is the same as being an escort. As we both drain the pipes, I can see how you think you are the same. However, I doubt you truly understand what happens when 2 people who see each other for a length of time develop a deeper connection. This is what this discussion is about.

 

If you don't like it, I respectfully ask you stay out of the discussion, as that is not what the op was asking. Feel free to start your own discussion.

[Jasmine Rain 23126]

Some men will always view women in this industry as a live hole to fill. You know, the ones that can't justify using a fleshlite so they reduce escorts to basically a breathing version of the toy.

 

Then there are others who seeks and appreciate what exactly a true companion can and does give.

 

I am personally not a vagina for hiring. I come with a brain and mouth I use for communicating not just as an add on apparatus to my vagina rental.

 

I give specials, gifts, OTC time, care and detail to my clients. I exchange txts/emails/phone calls between sessions that are not simply confirming my vagina rental slot for the day.

 

With my clients it is very much and give and take relationship, not just merely a transactional one.

[TorontoMelanieJolliet 4458]

Whatever the motivation and whatever the preference no one should be on here judging what another individual has deemed something he/she finds enjoyable.

 

 

What if it was considered a fetish? Should anyone be here judging the person who enjoys that fetish? I say NO. If 2 consenting adults are willing to do things that please each other then no one else has a right to judge. Save that for the soccer mom forums or the RZA (religious zealots anonymous) meeting.

 

 

Enjoy your day (and your fetish) all you handsome men and sexy women! Ignore the naysayers and REBEL

 

 

 

LOL ;)

[Guest ***f*l**n**y]

So I need to do this too?

[Guest ***f*l**n**y]

I've gotta go and be bad now