Seeking Arrangement Site

[chechman 479]

Hi, did a quick search and could find a recent thread on this and was wondering if anyone has used this? I was looking at it and they want something like 80/month. If it was legit that would be ok but I would hate to spend that kind of money and find the girls are not real...

[giaebonyprincess 1182]

I never really did understand the whole difference between SA versus escorts. I think whether your seeing an escort or SA it would really need to boil down to chemistry along with a connection. On any site whether it be a dating one or escort webpage your bound to find at least one fake one.

 

 

Well I hope it works for you.

[chechman 479]

Ya good point but if the whole site is fake then that is not cool! And yes it totally boils down to that connection I am looking for which I am always trying new ways to find! :)

[WhereIRoam 21825]

I've been on SA and have been a SD since May of 2017. This site is legit, most of the women on there are real. All of the ladies I've communicated with do not want to be compared to, referred to or treated as escorts, nor are they seeking half hour or hour meets. Seeking Arrangement is for Sugar Dating or a paid ongoing relationship, it's not a sex workers site.

 

A one month full membership is about 120/month Canadian or about 100/month on a three months membership.

 

Please refrain from using SA as an escort type site and just as in this industry, always treat them with respect. Most are doing this as a temporary source of income to pay off school debts or other debts.

[giaebonyprincess 1182]

Most are doing this as a temporary source of income to pay off school debts or other debts.

 

Aren't we all....lol.

 

It is what it is

[Guest]

Aren't we all....lol.

 

It is what it is

 

The foundation is certainly similar but the execution is a bit different. Most of the ladies are only looking for one SD. And the meetings are more like normal dates with a gift exchange instead of feeling like business appointments. Each arrangements are different and with more room for flexibility. In the few I've been involved in, the donations were the same no matter if the date lasted a few hours or the entire weekend.

 

I'm pretty sure others lived something different. But that's the beauty of it.

 

Have a nice evening.

[giaebonyprincess 1182]

In the few I've been involved in, the donations were the same no matter if the date lasted a few hours or the entire weekend.

 

Have a nice evening.

 

Very true, a few hour date would never be the same rate as a entire weekend.

 

You have a great weekend as well.

[chechman 479]

thanks all, it sounds like it might be interesting and something very different. I think I will have to try!~

[Guest]

thanks all, it sounds like it might be interesting and something very different. I think I will have to try!~

 

Like some of us already said, it's quite different and you'll see it from the first meeting. Most of the time, it's like a blind date and a bit job interview as both are testing the chemistry and see if both are comfortable together. If it's positive, it can start immediately or at the next meeting depending on your plans.

 

Hope you'll find someone great.

[Johnny Canuck 5347]

I've always been curious of thhis sort of arrangement myself, but judging from the responses so far in this thread, it is certainly something quite different indeed.

[WhereIRoam 21825]

8 hours ago, Johnny Canuck said:

I've always been curious of thhis sort of arrangement myself, but judging from the responses so far in this thread, it is certainly something quite different indeed.

Think of it like having a regular companion but with a few differences. 

As mentioned by Greenteal, the first meet is to gauge chemistry. If both wish to continue the meet at that moment or at a later time it can, if one (or both) wish not to see each other again it ends there. If you both wish to continue or see each other again than an agreement/arrangement is made and like a regular companion one might have in this industry, you see each other a few times a month but for a few hours at a time, or more, and every lady has a different allowance they require for every meet or it can be based on a monthly allowance. Whatever both feel comfortable with.

 

Cheers,  

[EmilieSpade 1010]

On 7/10/2018 at 7:21 PM, WhereIRoam said:

I've been on SA and have been a SD since May of 2017. This site is legit, most of the women on there are real. All of the ladies I've communicated with do not want to be compared to, referred to or treated as escorts, nor are they seeking half hour or hour meets. Seeking Arrangement is for Sugar Dating or a paid ongoing relationship, it's not a sex workers site.

 

A one month full membership is about 120/month Canadian or about 100/month on a three months membership.

 

Please refrain from using SA as an escort type site and just as in this industry, always treat them with respect. Most are doing this as a temporary source of income to pay off school debts or other debts.

I actually get treated like an escort 90% of the time on that site and that is what lead me to retiring from sugaring... For example this one dude tried to haggle me into spending an hour with him before even meeting him saying i would be well paid for my time and when I told him "no offence but you're looking for an escort" he got mad and i answered with "I actually think you're wrong. Saying you only want to see me for an hour and saying you'll compensate me for my time implies that you're looking for a quick fuck. Plus, most of the time the men on SA use it to underpay naive girls because you lie about wanting an arrangement. There's no shame in wanting an escort but don't try to trick innocent girls into your trap, it's gross and harmful to them. I've been on this site for over two years, I know the whole setup, don't test me. If you want to find a girl who's job it is to be compensated for their time there's cheaper websites than SA btw." So yeah, I was not happy. I am an escort AND a SB but it is against the site rules to advertise services, plus I don't want to ruin it for other girls who are uniquely SBs. 

[Guest]

8 hours ago, EmilieSpade said:

I actually get treated like an escort 90% of the time on that site and that is what lead me to retiring from sugaring... For example this one dude tried to haggle me into spending an hour with him before even meeting him saying i would be well paid for my time and when I told him "no offence but you're looking for an escort" he got mad and i answered with "I actually think you're wrong. Saying you only want to see me for an hour and saying you'll compensate me for my time implies that you're looking for a quick fuck. Plus, most of the time the men on SA use it to underpay naive girls because you lie about wanting an arrangement. There's no shame in wanting an escort but don't try to trick innocent girls into your trap, it's gross and harmful to them. I've been on this site for over two years, I know the whole setup, don't test me. If you want to find a girl who's job it is to be compensated for their time there's cheaper websites than SA btw." So yeah, I was not happy. I am an escort AND a SB but it is against the site rules to advertise services, plus I don't want to ruin it for other girls who are uniquely SBs. 

 

   I personally hate those websites. Those attract the wrong type of men and women and commercialize things that shouldn't be. The point is supposed to simplify communications, but in real life had more success on free dating sites and apps. No two arrangements should be the same as needs are different. The whole point is the flexibility depending on the needs, attraction and chemistry. Abuse and exploitation can happen(on both side). But if both parties are honest about their needs and what they can contribute, problems should be minimized if not inexistant.

   As for your situation with a man wanting to see you for an hour, I can see side of the argument. I understand his motive of seeing you for an hour as a kind of job interview in order to gauge the chemistry and attraction before making it a relationship. But if all of it is in the bedroom, I certainly see your point. 

 

 Have a nice day and welcome to lyla.

[jfbmtl 110]

I have used the site and had two great SBs. Most girls on the site are legit but I have recently abandoned using the site because I did encounter my share of crazy/flaky girls and I found that peofessional SPs provide a consideranly better overall experience.

[WhereIRoam 21825]

I'm aware some men use Sugar Dating sites for escort purposes. My experience has been good overall. I enjoy sugar dating and see my SB most weekends. When I'm seeking an SP session I book with an SP. I enjoy both experiences.

[Guest]

Last time I used this kind of website I only received replies from SP's and the occasional "gold digger". 

I found more efficient ways to find what I need.

[EmilieSpade 1010]

On 8/1/2018 at 7:43 AM, Greenteal said:

 

   I personally hate those websites. Those attract the wrong type of men and women and commercialize things that shouldn't be. The point is supposed to simplify communications, but in real life had more success on free dating sites and apps. No two arrangements should be the same as needs are different. The whole point is the flexibility depending on the needs, attraction and chemistry. Abuse and exploitation can happen(on both side). But if both parties are honest about their needs and what they can contribute, problems should be minimized if not inexistant.

   As for your situation with a man wanting to see you for an hour, I can see side of the argument. I understand his motive of seeing you for an hour as a kind of job interview in order to gauge the chemistry and attraction before making it a relationship. But if all of it is in the bedroom, I certainly see your point. 

 

 Have a nice day and welcome to lyla.

He wanted to see me for an hour in his hotel, so I knew what he was talking about 

[Guest]

On ‎8‎/‎4‎/‎2018 at 9:32 AM, EmilieSpade said:

He wanted to see me for an hour in his hotel, so I knew what he was talking about 

Seen that way, I get your point.

Have a nice long weekend.

[Dox 2]

On 7/9/2018 at 1:22 PM, chechman said:

Hi, did a quick search and could find a recent thread on this and was wondering if anyone has used this? I was looking at it and they want something like 80/month. If it was legit that would be ok but I would hate to spend that kind of money and find the girls are not real...

its legit but its pretty expensive for everything

[marchtame 106]

I've recently signed up for this site and have started a couple conversations to arrange a face-to-face meeting over coffee to see if there is any chemistry/mutual interest.  Perhaps I'm being paranoid,  but do I need to be worried about any legal issues?  If we discuss arrangements in person involving possible intimate dates and ongoing "rent help", am I doing anything that could get me into trouble legally?  I'm concerned because one woman eventually told me via message that she was "not quite 18" and I quickly said "not interested", blocked her etc.  Not sure if this was a sting but looked like it.  So I'll certainly confirm that the potential SB is 18+ but are there any other issues beyond this I should be careful of?  I'd appreciate any advice.                         

[Genevieve Marceau 68000]

On 12/31/2018 at 3:43 PM, marchtame said:

I've recently signed up for this site and have started a couple conversations to arrange a face-to-face meeting over coffee to see if there is any chemistry/mutual interest.  Perhaps I'm being paranoid,  but do I need to be worried about any legal issues?  If we discuss arrangements in person involving possible intimate dates and ongoing "rent help", am I doing anything that could get me into trouble legally?  I'm concerned because one woman eventually told me via message that she was "not quite 18" and I quickly said "not interested", blocked her etc.  Not sure if this was a sting but looked like it.  So I'll certainly confirm that the potential SB is 18+ but are there any other issues beyond this I should be careful of?  I'd appreciate any advice.                         

In sugar dating, which is sex work btw, the very last thing that you should worry about are cops, especially if you are married. Babies get mad when they don't get their due amount of sugar, or simply just catch feelings. The next thing you know is that an anonymous call is sent to the wife, with screenshots and everything. Keep in mind that you are not dealing with professionals, and you get what you pay for. 

[Guest]

12 minutes ago, Genevieve Marceau said:

 Keep in mind that you are not dealing with professionals, and you get what you pay for. 

   Without disrespecting you and most providers on LYLA, I think the term "professionals" should be taken with a grain of salt. With standards, rules and conflict resolution protocols being very loose or inexistant, I don't see how sex work can fit that description.

   I agree many like yourself have solid reputations and work ethics. But it's sadly not quite the same for sex work in general. Explaining why there so many message boards and forums to try making sense of it.

   An arrangements is more about forging a friendship while helping each other. It's not something that can be done in a few minutes. If rushed and transactional, someone's doing it wrong. Reason why I hate SA websites. The best arrangements I had were with women I met on free dating websites. Always started with friendships and worked on what we needed and what we could give. Some may try to take advantage of a situation, but this sadly happens everywhere including highly regulated environment.

   No matter if dealing with a SB or a SP, it's all about knowing who you're dealing with. Message boards like LYLA makes it easier to find serious providers. But finding a serious arrangement is also possible if both parties prioritise friendship and safety instead of immediate needs.

    Have a nice day.

[galaxy 1032]

I know it's totally variable, but what is the donation per month or week look like in average?

[Guest]

2 minutes ago, galaxy said:

I know it's totally variable, but what is the donation per month or week look like in average?

    It's an arrangement between two people and there no such thing as an average. What they need and can offer in return is discussed in private. 

   The key for a good arrangement is to know who you're dealing with. If the first topic of conversation is the "donation", don't waste your time and just run.

[Ice4fun 78407]

I have used the "Seeking Arrangements" site and met a few ladies and had very enjoyable interactions with them in the situations I was involved in it was relatively the same cost as seeing and SP if you averaged it out.

I think SA is a way for the members both male and female to rationalize to themselves that while they are bartering or paying for/ providing sex it's not prostitution...  it's friends with benefits and they see it as more morally right... bottom line it's the same thing just less professionally done.

it is also interesting to note that if you go on these sites you will see SP's using a different profile name.

If you want a recommendation I would suggest sticking with an SP 

Just my Opinion