exotic dance bars preferred

[Kilt Boy 29353]

I've been there, and there, and even in there. I've done that, and all of that, and even a little of that.

 

I'm in a relationship right now, but we're really just roommates at this point. We haven't had sex since 2004. I still really like the IDEA of sex, but I just have a hard time fitting it into my schedule.

 

It takes a really long time. Like, a REALLY long time. That sounds great. It's every guy's dream to be able to pleasure a woman for a long time. However, when that starts to become the new normal, it gets harder and harder to find the time. I don't mind not getting off. I've come to accept it. My girlfriend felt a bit discouraged as well, so we just put that all aside. Now it's just a wall between us and we never talk about it.

 

Getting it up isn't a problem. There are lots of dancers who will attest to that as a goddamn fact. There are a few who have even tried to topple the tower, but my defences are strong. I won't say no, but I will ask them to stop after a while.

[Kilt Boy 29353]

Massage or escorts are out of the question, because I can't afford to pay for that kind of time. That leaves strip clubs. I've come to realize that what I like the most about clubs is that I can get what I want, flip off a few 'dance coupons' and go have a beer. I can even spend more time with the girl afterward if I want. I like the variety, and I enjoy the visual aspect of it. Having sex is having sex, but those first few minutes when she is rubbing herself on you and teasing you before you get going, that's magic time for me.

[Kilt Boy 29353]

So, I walk into the club and take control. I puff up and throw off confidence. I order a beer and scan the room. If I see someone I like, just holding eye contact is enough to bring her to me. There are no complicated games, no texting tag to make contact. If we hit it off, I'll throw some money at her in the back. If not, maybe there is someone else. There are plenty of clubs and lots of lovely ladies out there. More every year. That's good, because I'm not stopping.

[Kilt Boy 29353]

I saw an ancient dude in the club today, and I thought, "He sure looks happy." He was with one of my regular girls and I surreptitiously watched them in the mirrors. He was just chatting. He bought her lunch. She seemed to bring a great deal of joy into his day just with her company. She wasn't chasing the dollars, she was being a good person. I've done the same thing. I've spent hours talking to bored housewives who were just glad to get out of the house for a while, have a drink, and maybe see a strange dick up close. Getting past the game is worth it, and that's what I try to do. I engage. I question. I push. Some girls aren't into that. I'm not going to be their friend, probably, but I think I'm worth getting to know a little bit. So are they.

[Kilt Boy 29353]

It may be easier for me because I've done it. I've taken my clothes off (and so much more) for money. I've helped girls pick out wardrobe. I've helped them with routines, walking, conversation, attitude, so I'm pretty good at seeing the whole picture. It means I can spot the bullshit a long way off and move on quickly. I think that makes the experience better for everyone.

 

So, yeah. I prefer strip clubs to other forms of adult entertainment. It's what works for me.

[NotchJohnson 214123]

I don't disagree with your philosophy Kilt Boy, I also enjoy the company of fine ladies at the strip bar but I do need more then just the tease and I have spent a fair share of money exchange for that experience. I prefer the 1 hour massage or SP with all the kissing and contacts 2 people can share then going to the bar and drink and try to get the sexy stripper that all the other guys want also.

I have met a girl at Pigale a few years ago and the was the perfect match for me and I did enjoy seeing her but we lost track of one another. I still have her email and I could catch up with lost time but I'm happy the way it is now.

[Kilt Boy 29353]

BTW, I really hate this 1000 character limit to posts. Sometimes I just have a lot to say.

[r__d 12698]

"...and I enjoy the visual aspect of it."

 

Very much agree with this viewpoint, Kilt Boy. Even though I'm often seeking a fave at the establishments I attend, the overall visual atmosphere is a big part of the allure to my mind.

[Reddog01 30280]

I agree with most of the above.

 

I also enjoy the atmosphere where I can converse with a beautiful young lady without judgement (or she can hide it well). She is a willing participant and there is usually no agenda - for the most part it is what it is I guess. If you can hit it off and enjoy each others company - it is the visual, cognitive and yes, sometimes (rarely) the physical gratification that keeps me coming back.

 

Years back this activity (attending exotic dance bars) actually led to a few dinner dates and enjoyable activities out side the club, but inevitably for lots of reasons, nothing could ever be sustained.