SPs at SC

[WhatARide 282]

Over the pas year or so I've noticed that some SPs are also performing at the various SCs in town. I've enjoyed going out once in awhile to watch them perform on stage - they are very sexy women.

 

What I've also noticed while attending the SCs is I have now seen another 5-6 SPs who are CERB members in the crowd with both male and female friends. I think its great and was trying to understand why SPs are finding their ways into the SCs.

 

But what I really want to ask is if I should approach the SPs who are not dancing at the club and introduce myself, tell them I'm a a CERB member and maybe get to know them a little.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I believe that if you notice a lady in public (strip club or elsewhere) you should not introduce yourself. Privacy and discretion is imperative. What if she's at the club with a boyfriend who doesn't know she escorts? What if she's with her girlfriends who don't know? Play it safe and respect her privacy. The same goes for SP's who meet clients in public.

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[Kubrickfan 12836]

Agree with Megan. She is probably there with another male and that is definitely not good form. I seem to recall at Barb's that ladies are usually not allowed in unless they are accompanied by a male (reason ... enraged wives barging in? ;>) ). And I really, really doubt the Clubs in Ottawa would allow SPs in to solicit customers; that would likely be illegal and that would REALLY annoy the dancers.

 

So, some of our cerb ladies definitely visit the club, but there's a high probability they are there "on business" or otherwise engaged with friends. On the other hand, there's no need to be rude. If, in the unlikely situation that there is a SP that I have seen at the club, if eye contact is made, a subtle but deliberate 2-3 inch bow of the head would be perfectly appropriate.

 

I'm sure the ladies here, including the dancers, can chime in with some good thoughts.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I go to SC's socially with friends and never "on business" and therefore, as stated above, a nod of the head is ok but nothing more as no one is aware of what I do! I guess, just treat it as you would if you saw me at the grocery store :)

[jafo105 39057]

But what I really want to ask is if I should approach the SPs who are not dancing at the club and introduce myself, tell them I'm a a CERB member and maybe get to know them a little.

 

This is a similar question I wanted to ask but was unsure of how to approach it. "If I see a SP in public, should I acknowledge her or ignore her".

After reading the responses by the ladies, I think I will leave it up to the lady, if she approaches fine. Other wise just acknowledge her with a nod or wink from across the room.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

Meg -- Fair point ... thanks. I tweaked my initial post a bit.

 

I actually had the opportunity, after a visit with a very popular visiting SP here on cerb, to take her over to Barb's after a visit. Actually it was entirely her idea as she was done for the evening and didn't just want to be in her hotel room all evening alone. It was an outcall, so we walked back to her hotel and I waited in the lobby until she changed into more casual attire. Then we went over to Barbs together just for fun.

 

Thinking about that, I would have been pretty uncomfortable if another guy walked over.

[maverick67 175]

If she says hi to you just politely say hi back.I've seen some girls come in to where I work some have said hello to me.But I never go over to them. I let them come to me and say hello if they feel the need to.Most of them do't approach me when they see at work.

[WhatARide 282]

I also agree that I would never approach nor even try to acknowledge an SP with male or femlae friends. I actually would not even acknowledge any male friends who may be with a female unless they first acknowledged me.

 

I will take this another step further only because it recently happened to me. On the very odd occassion I do drop into a SC and a couple of weeks ago after a long day at work I went to a SC with my business suit and all and noticed an SP from this board who was with another business looking gentleman. As mentioned I did not approach and except for the odd look her way (what can I say she was beautiful) tried to simply relax, have a drink and watch the show.

 

Well I'm not sure if I'm just that obvious but she suddenly came to the bar where I was sitting and stood beside me ordering a couple of drinks for I guess her and her friend and while waiting for the drinks started making chit chat. It did not take long before she asked me what I was doing later and if I wanted to maybe get together. I was totally shocked and confused and did not know how to take this. Anyways I basically said I had no plans, she gave me her cell number and told me to call her after she left the club.

 

As beautiful as she was I never did call her because was not really sure what was going on here and I just was getting the wrong vibes. Based on her approach my gut feel is to not call her - I know I cannot talk to here because her handle is now inactive.

 

Just wondering what others think was going on here.

[Guest f***2f***]

She was with a client whose time was coming to an end at some point and she was looking for another client to finish off the evening perhaps.

[Two Thirty 1422]

I also agree that I would never approach nor even try to acknowledge an SP with male or femlae friends. I actually would not even acknowledge any male friends who may be with a female unless they first acknowledged me.

 

I will take this another step further only because it recently happened to me. On the very odd occassion I do drop into a SC and a couple of weeks ago after a long day at work I went to a SC with my business suit and all and noticed an SP from this board who was with another business looking gentleman. As mentioned I did not approach and except for the odd look her way (what can I say she was beautiful) tried to simply relax, have a drink and watch the show.

 

Well I'm not sure if I'm just that obvious but she suddenly came to the bar where I was sitting and stood beside me ordering a couple of drinks for I guess her and her friend and while waiting for the drinks started making chit chat. It did not take long before she asked me what I was doing later and if I wanted to maybe get together. I was totally shocked and confused and did not know how to take this. Anyways I basically said I had no plans, she gave me her cell number and told me to call her after she left the club.

 

As beautiful as she was I never did call her because was not really sure what was going on here and I just was getting the wrong vibes. Based on her approach my gut feel is to not call her - I know I cannot talk to here because her handle is now inactive.

 

Just wondering what others think was going on here.

 

I think you acted with common sense in your own best interest. Try not to concern yourself further, no one would ever likely hold doing what you did for yourself against you.

[Miss Scarlett 25073]

I have a rule about "NOT" approaching me in public! Just for that reason. I had a client approach me in a local Tim Horton's, wanting to know if he could book an appointment. I was there with my mother and I told him I did not know who he was and to leave me alone. So needless to say he is no longer welcome to see me.

 

I do however accept a smile and nod for recognition.

 

I to frequent the local SC, and usually with friends, but still would not appreciate someone from my work life approaching me. My time, is my time, and my work time is my work time. It would be no different if I approached a client at Tim Horton's who was there with his SO. He would longer wish to see me.

 

I like to keep my work life and my personal life separate!

[April Dawn 12207]

I have a client I see on a semi regular basis out and about town, we have never approached each other and I would not be impressed if he did. We have shared a smile and a nod each time though. On the flip side someone soliciting in public is completely innapropriate and would make me feel very akward to be on the receiving end.

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[Winnipegcub 21293]

I would not necessarily over think it. If I was interested in her and available later I probably would have called her. I think in a SC or any place we need to respect each others privacy. But if the surrounding was private enough that would allow the 2 parties to enter the conversation about a possible encounter I would be OK with that. A similar situation happened to me in a SC and a discrete conversation led to a great meeting later on in the night. I think discretion, respect, and common sense go a long way. However, I would never be the one to place another person in a difficult situation.

Cub

I also agree that I would never approach nor even try to acknowledge an SP with male or femlae friends. I actually would not even acknowledge any male friends who may be with a female unless they first acknowledged me.

 

I will take this another step further only because it recently happened to me. On the very odd occassion I do drop into a SC and a couple of weeks ago after a long day at work I went to a SC with my business suit and all and noticed an SP from this board who was with another business looking gentleman. As mentioned I did not approach and except for the odd look her way (what can I say she was beautiful) tried to simply relax, have a drink and watch the show.

 

Well I'm not sure if I'm just that obvious but she suddenly came to the bar where I was sitting and stood beside me ordering a couple of drinks for I guess her and her friend and while waiting for the drinks started making chit chat. It did not take long before she asked me what I was doing later and if I wanted to maybe get together. I was totally shocked and confused and did not know how to take this. Anyways I basically said I had no plans, she gave me her cell number and told me to call her after she left the club.

 

As beautiful as she was I never did call her because was not really sure what was going on here and I just was getting the wrong vibes. Based on her approach my gut feel is to not call her - I know I cannot talk to here because her handle is now inactive.

 

Just wondering what others think was going on here.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

I also agree that I would never approach nor even try to acknowledge an SP with male or femlae friends. I actually would not even acknowledge any male friends who may be with a female unless they first acknowledged me.

 

I will take this another step further only because it recently happened to me. On the very odd occassion I do drop into a SC and a couple of weeks ago after a long day at work I went to a SC with my business suit and all and noticed an SP from this board who was with another business looking gentleman. As mentioned I did not approach and except for the odd look her way (what can I say she was beautiful) tried to simply relax, have a drink and watch the show.

 

Well I'm not sure if I'm just that obvious but she suddenly came to the bar where I was sitting and stood beside me ordering a couple of drinks for I guess her and her friend and while waiting for the drinks started making chit chat. It did not take long before she asked me what I was doing later and if I wanted to maybe get together. I was totally shocked and confused and did not know how to take this. Anyways I basically said I had no plans, she gave me her cell number and told me to call her after she left the club.

 

As beautiful as she was I never did call her because was not really sure what was going on here and I just was getting the wrong vibes. Based on her approach my gut feel is to not call her - I know I cannot talk to here because her handle is now inactive.

 

Just wondering what others think was going on here.

 

Based on your description, I dont think anything was going on other than she noticed your interest and gave you her number. Its arguably solicitation, but if its done discretely, why not? But I'm a little confused ... how did you know she was a cerb member?

[WhatARide 282]

Kubrickfan, I recognized her by her pictures she has in her profile on CERB. Please do not ask me PM me who she is because that is not appropriate. The only other thing I can say is that her CERB account is no longer active and her pictures are now gone which is another reason I will not contact her - for all I know she may have retired or moved or whatever.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I have a rule about "NOT" approaching me in public! Just for that reason. I had a client approach me in a local Tim Horton's, wanting to know if he could book an appointment. I was there with my mother and I told him I did not know who he was and to leave me alone. So needless to say he is no longer welcome to see me.

 

I do however accept a smile and nod for recognition.

 

I to frequent the local SC, and usually with friends, but still would not appreciate someone from my work life approaching me. My time, is my time, and my work time is my work time. It would be no different if I approached a client at Tim Horton's who was there with his SO. He would longer wish to see me.

 

I like to keep my work life and my personal life separate!

 

On your first point I think that the guy was very wrong (idiot is a better word) in approaching you in a public place trying to book. Not only solicitation in public is illegal (and he put you in a difficult position) but also and especially when you were with another person (your mother).

 

On your second point I can relate to that. Something similar happened to me some years ago that I was not amuzed at all (and likely changed my career). I was a recent graduate and assistance prof (at 29 years of age so I was likely as young as my students and entitled to fun too). One night I was in a strip bar and sitting next to stage and drinking my wine and quietly enjoying the ladies on stage. Suddenly I realized that a group of people sitting on the other side of stage are pointing at me and laughing loud!!!!. They were my students!!!!. Needless to say that afterwards (they likely spread the word in the department). I had a hard time teaching and even controlling my class (like I committed a crime or something in their eyes....). I quit end of the year.... My point, indiscretion does not only happen to SPs. It can happen to hobbyists too but not necessarily by SPs who we see but work-related, similar to SPs (I wasn't even a hobbyist then. I was just in a strip bar enjoying my time and it wasn't even contact dancing then just stage view and table dances).

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

On your second point I can relate to that. Something similar happened to me some years ago that I was not amuzed at all (and likely changed my career). I was a recent graduate and assistance prof (at 29 years of age so I was likely as young as my students and entitled to fun too). One night I was in a strip bar and sitting next to stage and drinking my wine and quietly enjoying the ladies on stage. Suddenly I realized a group of people sitting on the other side of stage are pointing at me and laughing. They were my students!!!!. Needless to say that afterwards (they likely spread the word in the department). I had a hard time teaching and even controlling my class (like I committed a crime or something in their eyes....). I quit end of the year.... My point, indiscretion does not only happen to SPs. It can happen to hobbyists too but not necessarily by SPs who we see but work-related, similar to SPs (I wasn't even a hobbyist then. I was just in a strip bar enjoying my time and it wasn't even contact dancing then just stage view and table dances).

YIKES! I wonder if something like that would happen today, or if society has become accepting enough of strip clubs that it wouldn't be a big deal.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

YIKES! I wonder if something like that would happen today' date=' or if society has become accepting enough of strip clubs that it wouldn't be a big deal.[/quote']

 

Likely it will. I don't think that society has changed that much. It was only 12-13 years ago.

[Cleo Catra 178382]

Unfortunately there will always be those idiots, both hobbiests and SPs, who don't see the discretion line. So sorry to hear about it happening every time it does though :(

 

As far as being at an SC, for me, if I was there it would either be with a group of friends, and even though they all know what I do, I wouldn't want our night out to become all about me. The other situation I may find myself in at an SC is that I'm there on a 'date'. And nothing can ruin a GFE than another hobbiest approaching the lady - it could seriously kill the mood for both parties.

 

I think, as a few people have stated, a small smile and nod, then move on. Unless you find yourself standing next to each other at the bar, then purrhaps some polite conversation, but leave the 'business' talk to another time.

[Cowboy kenny 50799]

It's odd that this thread comes up at this time as just this past week I came across two sps out in public. In one case a simple nod of the head and wink of the eye confirmed the acquaintance of a long lost friend who I haven't connected with in some time, followed by email later that day to say hello.

 

The other instance I didn't even know our paths had crossed, until I got a funny stalker like text. I was with some friends checking out electronics and TVs and got a text "that tv is too small for your place, get the next model up" the number was not in my contact list and I did not recognize it this led to a fun game of catch me if you can, until we met up later at the food court.

 

In both instances the providers in question were discrete but also comfortable within reason about making their presence known. Gentlemen shouldn't expect the same familiarity when they happen upon known SPs in public places, even strip clubs. Everything about what we do as hobbiests and providers is based on discretion, always keep that in mind before approaching some one in public.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

On your first point I think that the guy was very wrong (idiot is a better word) in approaching you in a public place trying to book. Not only solicitation in public is illegal (and he put you in a difficult position) but also and especially when you were with another person (your mother).

 

On your second point I can relate to that. Something similar happened to me some years ago that I was not amuzed at all (and likely changed my career). I was a recent graduate and assistance prof (at 29 years of age so I was likely as young as my students and entitled to fun too). One night I was in a strip bar and sitting next to stage and drinking my wine and quietly enjoying the ladies on stage. Suddenly I realized that a group of people sitting on the other side of stage are pointing at me and laughing loud!!!!. They were my students!!!!. Needless to say that afterwards (they likely spread the word in the department). I had a hard time teaching and even controlling my class (like I committed a crime or something in their eyes....). I quit end of the year.... My point, indiscretion does not only happen to SPs. It can happen to hobbyists too but not necessarily by SPs who we see but work-related, similar to SPs (I wasn't even a hobbyist then. I was just in a strip bar enjoying my time and it wasn't even contact dancing then just stage view and table dances).

 

That's why I only visit Barb's when I'm over a thousand miles from most of my colleagues. On the other hand, if I do run into anyone that I know there, I figure its mutually assured destruction for both of us (smile)

[Capital Hunter 18263]

That's why I only visit Barb's when I'm over a thousand miles from most of my colleagues. On the other hand, if I do run into anyone that I know there, I figure its mutually assured destruction for both of us (smile)

 

In my case the assured destruction was solely on my side lol as they were my students not colleagues. It appears that it was totally acceptable for them to be in a place that in their eyes was totally unacceptable for me to be in the exact same place. Not to mention that at 10:00 pm it was well outside my 9 to 5 working hours and that at that time I was younger than some of my (graduate) students..... I too however, started driving to Montreal for a few months to visit SCs after what happened that night so that I could be far away from work until I quit that job at end of the academic year (a few months later).

[ottawaadventurer 5114]

I had the exact thing happen to me; I was teaching a graduate course and bumped into a table of my students. I thought nothing of it, since we were all adults, but it did cause some tension, particularly since it was obvious to them that several of the ladies knew me.

 

As for the OPs point, I would never acknowledge an SP in public, both for my protection and hers. It's easy for guys to take it personally, but it's not personal. All of our encounters happen in a sort of suspended reality.