Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted February 14, 2011 I was always under the impression that you never mention you have seen a gent, unless you're sure he's okay with it. The only gentlemen I would mention having seen are those who have written a recommendation for me, or otherwise mentioned they have seen me. Am I wrong in thinking this? I've noticed quite a bit in chat that providers will proclaim to the room "Hey Hobbiest246, it was great meeting you yesterday!" I can think of quite a few reasons why a gent may not appreciate this: -He may have inquired with a few different ladies, and booked with the one he preferred. The other ladies may be annoyed/offended when they realize he didn't choose to see them after inquiring and booked with another lady. -He may have a regular provider (or two) and want to keep who else he sees private. -Some people prefer to keep their activities private (even if it's just attached to their CERB handle). Anyway, just some thoughts! I'd be curious to know what others think because I realize I by no means dictate CERB etiquette. Megan 10 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cleo Catra 178382 Report post Posted February 14, 2011 I agree with you 100%. Unless a gentlemen has written a rec for me, OR he has commented on my page/somewhere else on cerb indicating that he's seen me, I keep it between me and him. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sensual Erin 33928 Report post Posted February 14, 2011 I agree 100% as well. Discretion is difficult at times and unless it is written in a reco it is inappropriate to mention a name. There are members that speak to several providers and that is their right. It need not be publicized. There's a lot to be worked out on Chat and it must be a difficult environment for the MOD to monitor. I haven't really explored the chat rules, but my common sense has kept me out of trouble. Perhaps there should be more stringent rules on this kind of activity as well as others. It's up to us as members to report or discuss these things that need to be addressed to keep the chat room happy. MOD cannot take care of everything. Thanks for starting the thread Megan! : ) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jafo105 39057 Report post Posted February 14, 2011 I agree with you Megan. I would not wish to have that kind of attention. The only time I want an SP talking about me is if I have asked to use her as a reference. Even then, I would give her a heads up that another SP will be contacting her to inquire about me. I would appreciate that this information be handled discreetly via pm, e-mail or phone. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted February 14, 2011 Thank you for this thread Megan! I leave it up to them. If they mention something I will acknowledge it otherwise, it belongs in a whisper or a private chat! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Winnipegcub 21293 Report post Posted February 14, 2011 Megan, I hadn't really thought about it much but I think I prefer to be acknowledged the way you describe - privately and with discretion. I've been fortunate that the ladies I've seen have all been extremely classy and discrete. The chat room certainly wouldn't be the case to publicly discuss past meetings. Cub Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest W***ledi*Time Report post Posted February 14, 2011 Common sense should always rule. This business is built on discretion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted February 14, 2011 My thoughts, it's ok as long as the lady asks first In much the same way as (at least I do) ask a lady if it's ok if I post a recommendation (and I let her read it first) RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest G***f****** Report post Posted February 14, 2011 It's easy to get carried away in chat. Sometimes the conversation flows well and people are just in a good mood, it's easy to accidentally say something you might not have intended to. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Carrie Moon 68826 Report post Posted February 14, 2011 just a thought.. but perhaps the sp(s) in question was/were referring to meeting the hobbiest(s) at the recent social? I haven't participated in the chat room.. but I'm guilty of doing this on both the gents and ladies walls as of this past week.. but with the caveat that I mention great meeting you at the social! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Two Thirty 1422 Report post Posted February 14, 2011 It's a bit sad that this thread is needed. Indeed, what of common sense? But for the record: Megan, I think your view of the matter is spot on! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166766 Report post Posted February 15, 2011 I completely agree. My clients know that their identities are sacrosanct with me as long as my safety isn't compromised. One of the biggest reasons that our business thrives is that we maintain this kind of confidentiality! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futileresistenz 28253 Report post Posted August 20, 2011 Excellent points, Megan. I agree with your opening paragraph, indeed with your entire post. Posting information on clients' liaisons publicly without checking with them is not wise for the reasons you mentioned. I for one would expect this discretion, and I would think this true for most people. I thank you for making this point on SP etiquette, it can't hurt to restate it here. It's very reassuring to see that so far all the SPs and others seem to agree wholeheartedly with you in this regard. FR Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
