etasman2000 15994 Report post Posted June 12, 2012 [quote] To use a tennis analogy, I played all four corners in an attempt to interview clients. I hit up escort friends of mine with long-terms regulars, old clients who were articulate and thoughtful and guys Iâ??d never met who had contacted me with sex work-related questions. I figured the client viewpointâ??the missing piece, would be easy to obtain. After all, Iâ??d had many a deep and intimate conversation with clients about sex workers and the negative way that clients were viewed in our culture. They openly shared their feelings about paying for itâ??what it meant culturally and what it felt like in the context of their lives. Men who thought of themselves as powerful came to me stripped of their routine status and its burdensome accessories. They wanted to tell their secrets. Theyâ??d crawled up my stairs in marabou slippers and a pink spandex thong, glided around my pole in the living room. They wanted to share their innermost desires and act them out. But, when I sent along my questions, I was met with silence. I guess I was supposed to disappear in a puff of stripper-smoke. I guess they were put off by my confrontational, searing inquiries. It was one thing to tell me stories about their cancer-stricken wives and college-bound daughters while I listened in a fishnet bra by the paid hour. It was another to type their story in print. I was told my questions were too â??hard.â? The irony is not lost on me. Iâ??d nearly given up when Max finally responded. He agreed to do the interview if it were 100% anonymous. I thought of the NY broker wearing my dress in my living room, red-faced and trembling with terror at the thought of giving up control. I remembered telling him â??Stand up.â? I held his damp chin in my gloved hand and said to him, â??Youâ??re safe here.â? This was one of those moments. Maxâ??s gentle courage was by turns surprising and tender as he flipped from sex worker to client. I was inspired by his vulnerability. I hope you are too. [/quote][URL="http://therumpus.net/2012/06/paying-to-play-interview-with-a-john/"]Read the rest of the article[/URL]. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
