Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 I've been asking for references for about 6 months now. Although it's not a requirement to see me, it sure helps to speed up the process and make me comfortable. Something that comes up a lot is "I don't want my Miss SP to know that I am seeing another lady as I don't want to offend her." I understand this is a delicate issue and I wanted to put myself out there to say that I've been a reference several times and would be happy to be a reference for you if I have seen you. I completely understand that one of the beauties of this hobby (and life in general) is variety! I will not be offended if you want to see another lady. I'm certainly not monogamous with you, and it would be unfair of me to expect that of you. I'm sure there are other ladies out there who would be happy giving a reference and I would like to invite ladies to post here to let cerbites know they are reference-friendly. A special thank you to the ladies of CERB who overwhelmingly take time out of their busy schedules to respond promptly to my inquiry. Thank you for helping me keep safe and sane! :) Keep it safe, Megan Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cleo Catra 178382 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 Good thread Megan! I always provide a reference when asked, and rather than be offended that a gentleman is seeing another lady i'm more flattered that my opinion is requested. Posted via Mobile Device 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 I am surprised a guy would consider it offensive to a lady to ask her to provide a reference. My opinion, any SP expecting a one way monogomous relationship from a hobbiest has some issues...frankly I'd be scared if that was expected of me. This is supposed to be about variety, fun, maybe experimenting and trying new things. And with the question of references, something to keep in mind for everyone. The ladies can get reviews and recommendations, and the guys, if they pass muster, can get a reference for future encounters. Guess the point I'm trying awkwardly to make is we are not all have anonymous encounters, our character and reputations mean something, and this is a community Some probably convoluted ramblings RG 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Scarlett 25073 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 Even though I am in a small area, I would have no issues if one of my clients asked to use me as a reference! I realize in this line of work, that people do travel and as RG said like to try different things! I refer to this as "the spice of life!" Imagine eating the same food everyday for the rest of your life! It would not make your tummy very happy! Now don't get me wrong I am not against monogamy, but this is our work not our lives! Just my 2 cents! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 I often recommend other SP's, when I am not able to accommodate them for whatever reason. I think this is good PR. I never understand the " he's my client" attitude, because let's face it, we all will run into each other at some time or another in this community. I also like to refer to another SP, because I do want the gentlemen to be looked after by someone that will treat them right. Although, some say it is risky to "give away" clients, but I am confident that they will come back to see me for the quality of service I provide. Thanks for this thread! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Carley Chase 18985 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 References are great. I as well don't require them. However as you said Megan, it does help put me at ease when meeting someone for the first time. I don't think anyone should be offended, if anything us girls have to stick together and look out for each others saftey :) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 Ah...Gotta luv the Cerb community! So many great gals and guys looking out for each other! References in many cases aren't required but when they are....it is for a good reason so buck up and provide a reference. If you can't or won't well then I guess you are most likely gonna miss out on a very memorable experience! Keep these ladies safe...they will keep us guys smiling and hopefully enjoy themselves along the way too! :-D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest C*****tte Report post Posted February 27, 2011 I am also reference friendly though it is helpful for you to let me know in advance that you would like to use me as a reference. This way I can anticipate the request. Please do not share my phone number though with the new lady. Just my website and email is enough. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 Diddo for me as well! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 Though, I do not require references myself, I am happy being a reference if someone asks. I also recommend other escorts if I am unable to accommodate you and can say that clients appreciate this and will come back to see you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 I always ask the lady if I can use her as a reference. In fact the lady I used contacted the ladies requesting a reference directly And all I provide is name and email RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MiaBella 10988 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 I'm always happy to provide a reference for another SP, and also recommend another lady if I'm not available for a certain service or date. We, as a community, should always want to look out for each other, Sp or Client. This is a great thread, and I think we should try to use this as a list for reference friendly sp's. Great Idea Megan! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Carrie Moon 68826 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 I'm reference friendly.. but please make sure I remember you before using me as a reference. If you're a good regular of course I will remember you.. but sometimes guys use me as a reference and I met you once briefly a year or more ago.. uh.. sorry nope.. don't remember you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BarrhavenWoody 10776 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 This is a great thread. I've always been a little uncomfortable "admitting" that I have visited other ladies. I have had several experiences in SC's where the dancers have been VERY possessive and don't like to share. In some cases I had to go to other clubs if I wanted some variety. This always seemed blow up in my face when the ladies changed clubs and I was confronted by 2 of my regulars at the same time. :-? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted February 27, 2011 This is a great thread. I've always been a little uncomfortable "admitting" that I have visited other ladies. I have had several experiences in SC's where the dancers have been VERY possessive and don't like to share. In some cases I had to go to other clubs if I wanted some variety. This always seemed blow up in my face when the ladies changed clubs and I was confronted by 2 of my regulars at the same time. :-? The way to handle that, ask the dancer if your the only guy she dances for Monogomy is a two way street RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
